When I was 14 I got turned down by a friend who proceeded to date a 27 year old man.
They even got their own island
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zakobjoa@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 3 weeks ago
Gross.
SeductiveTortoise@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
Be a little nicer to them, they got rejected for some old dude!
bytesonbike@discuss.online 3 weeks ago
My wife’s sister dated a guy in his 30s when she was 19.
So much trauma for a decade.
DeviantOvary@reddthat.com 2 weeks ago
I was groomed by a guy in his 40s when I was 16 to 18. He was also suspected to have sexually abused younger kids. I’ve been in a relationship with my current partner who’s my age for over a decade now. The abuser knew very well how to take advantage of vulnerable girls. And yes. That trauma will stay with me. I still have nightmares. For the first year with my partner I would frequently wake up from these nightmares and be so relieved to be next to my partner to comfort me. I found out very recently that the asshole is still out and about, but got cancer, so there’s some karma there.
I’m sure that if I had better friends and wasn’t so lonely and had a better situation at home I wouldn’t have fallen for this. These abuser really know how to pick their victims.
ramenbelly@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
Well now , it’ll be like throwing a hotdog down the hallway
Taldan@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Are you seriously slut shaming a 14-year-old who was groomed by a 27-year-old? Using a sexist misconception no less?
That’s fucked up
Snowclone@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
15 years of marriage and four kids later, there’s no noticeable difference in vagina clearance. Please stop saying this shit.
redwattlebird@lemmings.world 3 weeks ago
FYI - real vaginas don’t stretch like flesh lights.
kdcd@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
That’s not how it works.
carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
being a girl is scary cuz the moment you turn 13, creepy men are ogling at you
AlexLost@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Oh honey, the creeps are sadly ogling you well before 13… Learn to stab.
A7thStone@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
ksigley@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I learned a lot about women wearing ice pick-sized hair pins in their hats during the early 20th century for this very purpose.
faythofdragons@slrpnk.net 3 weeks ago
Can confirm, had my first sexual encounter when I was 5 and he was 18.
Honytawk@feddit.nl 3 weeks ago
It isn’t the age, it is when they start developing breasts
carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
yea, i said 13 to mirror the post, but you’re right
betterdeadthanreddit@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yeah but they’ve got the market cornered on Catholic priests, that’s gotta count for something.
FenrirIII@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
We can’t count it because they don’t report it.
Mediocre_Bard@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
This is actually a destabilizing piece of society. Younger men become disaffected when older men, who are better partners, pick up much younger women (I am talking only about adults.). Younger women are then competing with older women for more established men, which can destroy families.
Largely, we have fetishized youth so much that this isn’t something that will correct itself. I suppose the standards of beauty can change again, as they always do, but for now we are stuck with a real problem.
ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
This is what wars are for. Young men slaughter each other while old men bang the young women.
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
You’re not wrong, but I would call out a point of clarity, that youth is far more fetishized for women.
I’m a dude, but as far as I can tell, guys need a bit of luck in the looks category (not the most important thing, but not looking disfigured generally helps), ambition, and success (mainly money). I had terrible luck with women. I’m not the best looking guy out there but I’m certainly not the worst either… And I could find relationships, but it always quickly fell apart. Once I decided to improve upon myself, and go to college in the pursuit of a well paying job, I found that my ambition was generally enough to keep people’s attention, romantically.
Pumafred9@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
[deleted]kingpepe8006@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Bruh wtf💀
Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
That was in impressively poor taste.
Pumafred9@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I saw the joke on Sickipedia.net circa 2010, maybe it should have stayed there.
mrgoosmoos@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
why? it’s obviously a dark humour joke, because it’s an absurd statement
kids obviously cannot be sexy. that you interpret it as anything other than an absurd statement reflects on yourself
you do realize that you’re in shitposts, right?
frezik@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
Sometimes, there are downsides to being on an instance that disables downvotes.
clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I’ve seen that joke in somebody’s stand up somewhere. Can’t recall where.
Doesn’t seem to have landed well with the audience here, lol!
Pumafred9@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I think it was in a Jimmy Carr special?
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Lmao
OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 3 weeks ago
Oh what the fuck
Banana@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
That thought could’ve stayed inside your head bud
Sibbo@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
[deleted]Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Charitably: This is the kind of joke that only lands if your audience knows you’re 100% not a pedo.
Visstix@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Reporting a shitpost on shitpost lol.
mrgoosmoos@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
jesus christ go back to reddit
peacepath@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Children are responsible for the crimes comited by adults?
Victims are responsible of the crimes?
Azteh@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
We are on lemmy shitpost, so I wouldn’t take it seriously
mrgoosmoos@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
you guys are really proving that It’s not any better around here than on reddit on something, still plenty of dumb people
tane69@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Lemmy moment
beejboytyson@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Lefties, amirite?
StarryPhoenix97@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
[deleted]Asswardbackaddict@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I don’t know about you, but I always thought the 21 year old hanging around my big school dating a 16 year old was a fucking loser.
nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 3 weeks ago
Yeah. That was my experience as well. An adult dating a highschooler was a skeezy loser who peaked in middle school.
Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Was a loser, was fucking.
AugustWest@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
We
You mean “they,” right?
match@pawb.social 3 weeks ago
they not like us
Darth_Lemmy@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
ousted himself lol yikes
Snowclone@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I was hanging out with this girl my age in high school a lot, we were both 17, I thought it was going well, then some full grown adult said she was pretty at Walmart and I had to move on with my life.
thermal_shock@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
One thing I HATE about military bases. All the E1 soldiers wandering the local high schools looking for girls. Was really sickening
bytesonbike@discuss.online 3 weeks ago
Bro it was such a shit show when I was growing up.
Just military bros spending their entire military paycheck on a mustang and picking up high school girls.
Still remember my friend crying/begging for help because military bro didn’t get sex and wanted to beat her up. And this dirtbag was going to get shipped with a rifle to some brown country.
mojofrododojo@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
competing with grown men
competing with grown conservatives. the list is almost to 1500 examples.
bytesonbike@discuss.online 3 weeks ago
Question: Oh, you think conservatives are pedophiles? Give me 1,500 examples.
Answer: (your comment)
mojofrododojo@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
lukaro@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
Don’t hang around so many republicans and the competition would thin out.
Almacca@aussie.zone 3 weeks ago
It’s hard for 13 year olds to emigrate.
Banana@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
While rape culture is huge among Republicans and dating young women is more popular among them, this issue is far more vast and definitely involves men across the political spectrum.
Until this obsession with youth=beauty and women under 130lbs being the beauty standard changes, this will still be a problem.
andros_rex@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
My husband kicked me out once he realized flashing his money at 19 year olds worked. The teenagers didn’t ask him to stop playing FIFA and walk his dogs.
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
What an idiot.
Has he put himself on the poor house yet by spending all of his money to appease the young women he wanted a booty call from?
Because that kind of behavior seems to be rather expensive.
MTK@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I remember how creepy it was to see that once the girls in my class got boobs (around 8th grade, 13-14 yo) full on adults would start hitting on them. I recall seeing a few class mates in a local park, all 3 were 13 I think, they still looked like little girls, it’s just that now they had boobs and wore bras. So I see these 3 girls, each sitting in the lap of an 18-20 yo dude, and making out…
As a kid I recall seeing it and thinking “wtf is wrong with those guys?”
dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
As an adult I wonder wtf the fuck is wrong with those guys.
Blackmist@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
If “he’s got a car and he’s dead mature, like” is your main selling point, you need a better selling point. And to not be a fucking nonce.
In the 90s we didn’t even know what a paedophile was. I don’t recall even seeing that word before Sarah Payne was murdered.
It took a while for UK residents to get used to this new exciting word.
Hopefully today’s kids are a bit more aware…
markz@suppo.fi 2 weeks ago
jfc these people
ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I live in a country where the age of consent is 14, and this shit is still pretty common. I voted Fidesz because I thought they’d fix the situation, by rising it. They added a close-in-age exception, so if you’re 17, you can prey on 12 year olds.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Members of Congress, clergymen, the fucking PRESIDENT. What’s a boy to do!?
AnarchistArtificer@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
In school, when I was 13, one of my friends was “dating” a 19 year old. I vividly remember how cool we all thought this was. Reflecting on it makes me feel sick.
Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
At college, there were 16 and 17 year old girls with boyfriends in their twenties. Even at the time, I thought that was weird.
At least I never heard about anything younger than that.
m3t00@piefed.world 3 weeks ago
thought i needed a car to get a date. married a date with a car.
Beebabe@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Gross. Accurate. Took me way too long to understand why my friend’s dad was acting the way he was around 13-17. Decades later and it still sickens me.
turtlesareneat@discuss.online 3 weeks ago
One of the dudes in my gay group tonight:
“My momma cleaned hunter’s cabins and those hunters were real nice men if you know what I mean.”
He was talking about a time when he was early teens.
So it’s not just girls who get this treatment! If that makes you feel any more egalitarian.
Dorkyd68@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
When i was in grade 9 a girl in my class started dating a guy that just graduated. His family was Hella poor but this dude had the nicest of everything cars, clothes etc. He was very obviously a 19 y/o drug dealer dating a 14 y/o tgat couldn’t even qualify for a learning permit.
And everyone was just cool with it. This was in tulsa Oklahoma circa 1999/2000
UnhingedFridge@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Still remember my middle school girlfriend brag about cheating on me and fucking guys that were buying her beer. Would have been nice to get authorities involved if I had anyone to talk to and wasn’t being neglected and abused at home. Kind of wild to lose hope in people at the age of 12.
Bad times.
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
I accidentally ended up with a very young lady. I know how this will sound, and all I can do is assure everyone that, at least for my part, everything I say is the absolute truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
I went to college late, I was 23 by the time I applied to college, and turned 24 shortly after starting classes. My birthday is in the first quarter, or so, of the year.
Anyways. I think I was in my second year of college when I met this girl, I don’t even remember how I met her honestly; it wasn’t a dating app, those things barely existed at the time and I haven’t ever used one; I just haven’t seen the need… Anyways, everything seems cool, she’s telling me she’s 17 and has a bday coming up. At this point I’m 24/25, and I’m thinking that’s a bit young, but since she’s basically 18 at this point, I don’t really see a problem with it… Anyways, birthday happens, Yay, and life goes on. After a few months as things get more and more complicated, as happens in most relationships, I come to find out that her birthday, was her 17th birthday, she was 16 when we met. I’m suddenly very not ok with everything.
It didn’t last super long after that. She was also preggo with her exes kid and never told me. The relationship was only like 5-6 months long. She lost the kid, I believe it was a miscarriage, and I’m sad for her that happened, but too much weird bullshit and deception was happening so I called it off.
She wasn’t a good person. She’s on a short list of exes I don’t talk to anymore. Most of my exes I still consider good friends, even if I haven’t seen them in a long time. I’m in a stable, long term relationship with a more age appropriate partner, for… Gosh, it has to be 10 years now? Time flies. There’s… 6? ish years between our ages, and we met when I was 30-something… I’m much happier now. Heh.
Zozano@aussie.zone 3 weeks ago
Ah, yes… Pedos… Known for waiting until OP turns 13 so they can ethically swoop in and steal their girl.
MissJinx@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The thing about 13yo guys ia that you are on the beggining of your puberty process and most boys are ugly and awkward
BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Not really, because guys that age are 100% INVISIBLE to females. All you got is zits and a curfew, which you can’t even violate because neither you, nor any of your friends have a driver’s license.
RBWells@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I met a guy when I was that age, adult but not old. Friends, hung out with other people. The minute I turned 16 he asked me out. I declined and it was no big deal but who does that?
PixelPilgrim@lemmings.world 3 weeks ago
🤮
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_druid@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
When I was a kid, in 7th grade science, I overheard a boy asking a girl out. She rejected him, he wasn’t her type. He asked what her type was, she mentioned a guy she was seeing, and casually mentioned he was 22. At the time, I was thinking this poor kid was woefully outmatched and would never have a chance. A few years later, it dawned on me just how fucked up that whole situation was.
MNByChoice@midwest.social 3 weeks ago
I remember that sort of shit. The girl I knew got divorced so many times after that.
msprout@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yeah in my high school, a girl I knew got into serious trouble for trying to bring her 25 year old boyfriend to junior prom, when she was 16. 😩 For some reason, the district allowed it. 😭😭
OctopusNemeses@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I saw that kind of thing too. I figured those girls were probably dating the popular guys our age. A while later I found out that not even those guys were dating them. It was the 20 to 30 somethings.
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