RBWells

@RBWells@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If everyone spontaneously became the same race the world would realize that the rich are the real problem⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Bosnia would like to have a word.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mastercard release a statement about game stores, payment processors and adult content⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  By that standard, I ought not be able to use the card to buy booze (might give it to a minor or use for a Molotov Cocktail) a gun (obviously could use for crime) , and probably a million other things they let people buy with cards.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What companies manufacture ancient musical instruments?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Zildjian is such a an old company still making the same thing. I don’t think cymbals changed much. People sell lutes on Etsy, those are an old style stringed instrument and flutes are so old too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How did you decide what you generally wanted to do with your life?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  My mom always said “you don’t need to know what you are doing for the rest of your life, just decide what you are doing for the next five years”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would happen to the US if it denaturalised and deported all non-whites?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Hispanic people were the “white people” where I grew up. It’s not really a racial category, there are black Hispanic people, white Hispanic people, here it just means your family came from some Spanish speaking place. So the rich Cubans who came here were absolutely the “white people” of my youth. And historically, it’s those Spanish Conquistadores who put the Hispanic into the Americas in the first place.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think it's an ok idea for me to get a cat in my scenario? (details inside)⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Cats are good pets for people who work, they sleep a lot in the day. I agree with zonetrooper that in this situation 2 cats would be better than one, though.

  Yes if you get the cats a water fountain and automatic feeder, and have plenty of litter box space, they can be left a couple of days, and they prefer that to traveling. (Unlike a dog, who would rather go with you).

  Talk to the shelter, they may know which individual cats in their care would be good for your situation.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Where are all the successful "red cities"?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Well yes, it has come a long way in the past few years. I used to get so mad because we are a better city to live in but St. Pete’s downtown knocked it out of the park, absolute gem of a downtown and ours sucked.

  But ours has gotten so much livelier, it’s not just the Tampa Theater and convention center and the Hub, there are a bunch of apartments downtown, the kids of the Columbia people opened a really good restaurant, the city built a much better Riverwalk, there are people out in the nights, concerts, events, it’s completely different.

  BTW, when I was growing up we would go downtown on the weekend and it was an absolute ghost town, we wandered the empty streets and made up stories about the buildings. And you could buy houses in Tampa Heights for almost nothing, now they are millions of dollars.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨‘If I switch it off, my girlfriend might think I’m cheating’: inside the rise of couples location sharing⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Not just couples. I was aghast to learn that my fellow parents at work track the location of their teenage kids. All of them, except me. What the fuck? If I want to know where they are I text and ask.

  What’s more - half of them also have it turned on in the other direction.

  This is crazy to me. I want my kids to grow into adults and I’m not going to surveil them all the time. I think a kid of teen age has some reasonable expectation of privacy. We are close, I have a good relationship with my kids but not THAT close, I don’t need to know if you stopped at Wawa on your way home.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Where are all the successful "red cities"?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Miami is purple at least. The old guard Cubans are Republicans, the last governor race not so representative. St. George in Utah is really nice, though maybe a town more than a city.

  Tampa is nice but all of our potentially fixable problems are from the conservative outlying areas, as so much of the government is county not city. it would be much nicer with more money going to transit in particular.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨They even got their own island⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I met a guy when I was that age, adult but not old. Friends, hung out with other people. The minute I turned 16 he asked me out. I declined and it was no big deal but who does that?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I turned 30 yesterday but I look 18. Nobody believes me when I tell them my age. What do I do? Do I date a 20 year old guy or a 35 year old guy who looks twice my age?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Why is it 20 or 35 if you are 30, and not, well, 30?

  Date someone you like! Just go out with some guys and figure out what you like.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨People who have been in meetings to determine back to in office policy. What was the discussion like?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  They let us know their thinking here. I don’t personally have a dog in this fight, live a few blocks from the office so either way is fine with me. They landed on “hybrid” but now I just work at the office and do not bring my laptop home.

  Their thinking:

  Collaboration really is better in the office, zoom does not replace the experience of just being here and aware of conversations around you (fair enough) we are already paying for the office (not a real reason, could sublease, we already did with half of it).

  My thinking (they don’t care but) working from home benefits the rest of my family more than it does me. I can bike to work and do. Reclaimed the space in my house that was office, and absolutely ignore work when I’m home. Certainly would not force anyone else to, like my job did, but glad to have a space to work outside my house.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We all sleep alone soundly; Maybe the key to a happy marriage is separate beds⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  When my kids were babies and slept in our bed, people would tell me “they need to learn to sleep alone” and I would laugh and tell them no, sleeping alone is so easy, you have to have practice to be able to sleep with someone else.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people hate coldplay?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t hate them, but we have a joke, “is that… Coldplay?” when we hear an unfamiliar song, because their music is sort of unremarkable.

  I don’t think they are alone in that, it’s just funny they got so famous with it. I’ve heard them in interviews and they sound like delightful people. Funny and self-aware.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We should be able to legally have a different name just for work for better work/life separation⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My mom had an uncle named J.M. It didn’t stand for anything, that’s what his momma named him. He went into the army and they were not having it. His paperwork read “Jayem”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it weird I don't typically answer how old I am anymore, because literally nobody besides my family believes me?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah my brother said you should always tell people you are older than you are, so that they think you look good for your age.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it weird I don't typically answer how old I am anymore, because literally nobody besides my family believes me?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I tell people when they ask, they gasp, but then they forget. It’s mostly people younger than me who do this, though. And when I was 12 people often perceived me as a grown woman (I was tall. Didn’t even have my period yet, just the height and my overall look and face I guess read ‘adult’) but just stayed the same for a long time. I am aging, I can see it. But nobody seems to think I look like their idea of my age.

  We have an intern at our work who does look like a 13 year old. I think he’s 21 or so but really does look like a child. I can imagine it’s annoying.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I deal with a very negative inner voice/second conscience that's constantly loud? It's like I have two different people in my head but they're both me, telling me opposite things endlessly.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Having an Inner Critic is normal, but you seem to have fed it, until you believe it is true. It’s not. I hope your therapy does help.

  You know what’s funny? I have the body dysmorphia, like still cannot see myself as having a good body, and usually mirror or photo just confirms this. But one time my husband took a picture when I was just in underwear, so nearly naked, and I looked so good, it’s like somehow he captured how he sees me. And we have one flattering mirror in the house, I thought it was like a fun house slimming mirror, asked my kids and they were like, no, that is how you look.

  So if you have someone you can trust to bounce things off, that can really help, occasionally others can see past your insecurities and give a clearer view.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do the needs of the many outweigh the whims of the few?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What sort of whims are we talking here? The way you word this it answers itself. The needs of everyone are equal, rights apply to all. If we can’t protect “the few” we are all at risk.

  But if you mean whims like every time I go to the beach someone doesn’t have food for a week, no, obviously I wouldn’t go to the beach until that was fixed.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨this 82 year old woman dressing like she was 40 or younger makes me think about how ridiculous I'll look like when and if I reach that age. Am I misguided?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What the heck? How did you jump from her dressing the way she wants, to wanting to have sex with someone 60 years younger?

  My sister in law said she tried to dress “appropriately for her age” and I don’t. I told her I try to dress appropriately for my body type and style.

  What’s the use of living 80 years if you can’t at least wear what you please? And BTW, how do you feel about Dolly Parton then?

  I hope you live to 100, OP.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can you see magic eye pictures?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Not usually, no.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is so hard for musicians to have a good living and be famous?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is the most recent data I can find.

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is so hard for musicians to have a good living and be famous?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Famous is different from working. I have known plenty of artists who just hustle and make a living - singing telegrams, weddings, bar gigs, teaching, they make enough to get by. They are working musicians.

  Then there are all those bands who plug on, famous but not wildly so, I think they are making enough to live on just their band earnings.

  Then a very few who get rich. Mostly those are kids of connected people, not always but often.

  It’s the same with any entertainment industry, right? Average earnings on onlyfans is something like $3 a month.

  And there is just So Much Talent in the world, and people have limited entertainment budgets.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is possible to learn to swim, just by reading a lot about it?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  When I was a dancer - if one of us was injured, they made us come & watch the practice because apparently your body does gain knowledge just by watching.

  But that was with a baseline knowledge already.

  I think it would help, learning about swimming before doing it. More so if you are already physically active in some other way though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  English to Vietnamese or Vietnamese to English is harder than, say English to Spanish or Arabic because the sounds are so very different - I am sure I simply can’t hear some of the different sounds in tonal languages, and had a friend who moved here from Taiwan when she was so young she learned better in English than Taiwanese but still she could not hear the difference between ear and year.

  I don’t think it’s impossible but do think it’s unusual. My dad was bilingual English and Spanish and I wish my parents had done the “one speaks English one speaks Spanish” language immersion but we only spoke English at home.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How can I improve this? It's my current living and bedroom.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Knee pads?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why does everyone hate Income tax ?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I looked at my paycheck (US) vs. one of our Danish colleagues when I was doing our payroll, and yes, the tax was about 45%, my federal withholding is much less but once you add in the deductions for 401k (unsecured pension scheme) and health insurance (that doesn’t cover anything except annual wellness until we pay in 8,000 USD) and social security (the fed pension being paid now to old people, and their healthcare) my deductions also leave about 55% of my pay for net pay.

  The part I object to most in terms of cost there is the healthcare - my deductions may mirror the Danes but I don’t think they also have to cover the first 8k of cost out of pocket.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why does everyone hate Income tax ?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t mind really, just wish it was used for more things that helped society. And it needs to be a little more progressive, though it is the most progressive of the taxes we have here.

  My ex MIL, who literally used WIC and welfare when she was a single mom, and leveraged that into a nursing degree, rails against welfare now and doesn’t want her taxes going to that, doesn’t want to pay. Not even in a pull the ladder up after herself way, she just refuses to admit she benefited from it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Look out its the D*tch⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, the height of black and white men averages close to 5’10" here, and the height of black and white women around 5’5" I think, we do just have a lot of everyone here, except apparently not Dutch?

  My husband & I are both about 5’9" and he says he feels dead average because sometimes he goes out and is taller than all the guys he passes, and sometimes goes out and is shorter than all the guys he passes, but usually doesn’t notice, I feel tall because I don’t notice if all the women I pass are shorter than me but really notice if many are taller than me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Wanna show me? Send a DM⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What a nice tail your cock has!