RBWells
@RBWells@lemmy.world
- Comment on Why dont more people live in smaller communities , appart from economic opportunity (WFH is making it possible if not prefferable too) 1 day ago:
If you measure your life only in dollars, maybe. Maybe.
- Comment on Why dont more people live in smaller communities , appart from economic opportunity (WFH is making it possible if not prefferable too) 1 day ago:
My mom came from a small town and said she’d never raise a kid in a small town - her cousins, all save one, were in jail or pregnant before they graduated high school. Because there was literally nothing to do.
I like having restaurants, a good library system, concerts, bars, not needing to drive to get anything. I like living in a mid-sized city, but if I couldn’t, would go bigger not smaller.
- Comment on Today's Survey. One point for everything that you have NEVER DONE 1 day ago:
- Never owned a whole encyclopedia.
But probably -1 for not only rotary phone but “party line”; sometimes you couldn’t use the phone because someone else, in another house, was using that line.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 days ago:
Jason Isbell 24 Frames.
You thought God was an architect, now you know. He’s something like a pipe bomb ready to blow. And everything you built goes up in flames in 24 frames.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 days ago:
Nah, more like prostitution. Y’all were providing something to them, like escorts. If you were of a legal age to do that it seems fine to me - dangerous sure (lucky you got the right crowd) but not trafficking, they didn’t trick you onto the boat or sell you.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 days ago:
We were settled by Puritans. I do not personally care, and my mom and dad didn’t either. It is not some sexual thing to stay naked while doing my hair and skincare, it’s practical because nothing gets on my clothes. We do have specific family friendly nudist resorts in the US but that’s countercultural, you are correct our culture is prudish.
- Comment on The other shoe drops, and this time it is covered in dog shit 1 week ago:
This is my life. A few years ago I decided to think about it differently - something happens, but I have the money to cover it. Gave up.
- Comment on Why do we even do mens vs womens sizes for clothes? 1 week ago:
The fuck is a “woman-shaped woman”?
- Comment on Why do we even do mens vs womens sizes for clothes? 1 week ago:
Shapes need to be different, as others have already said. So men’s and women’s clothes do need different construction. But sizes could be just measurements. Absolutely. Yes.
Shoes, no. They should all be length in cm and then a narrow, medium, wide, xwide.
- Comment on Was Donald Trump ever cool? 1 week ago:
Not as far as I can remember, first memory of him was some story about him stiffing vendors.
- Comment on is it likely that someone like this will change? what would be her possible mindset for doing all this? 1 week ago:
It sounds to me like she needs a scapegoat, for lack of a better word, and she’s chosen you to dump on. Do your best to ignore her and don’t feed it. Her opinion doesn’t determine your worth in any way, it’s irrelevant.
- Comment on Why am I like this? 1 week ago:
Oh I feel seen.
I was underweight a few years ago, and while it was not entirely healthy, I was indulging in the look and found some XXS Tall pants, in a beautiful blush color. Felt like a fucking supermodel on my way to work. Bought a chai latte, spilled it all over the pants before I ever got to work.
Also covered these white cropped pants. Got them, same sort of thing.
Decided I am not qualified for white pants.
- Comment on Be honest and tell us what you see 1 week ago:
I see I see I see DP!
- Comment on Hypothetically, if you are in prison and want to communicate with the outside world without being detected, what are some ways to hide a message within an innocuous letter? 1 week ago:
You’d need to arrange the code ahead of time with whoever you were communicating with. I can imagine a few ways to do it, the number of letters in the words, the arrangement of the spaces between words, first letter of first word, second letter of second word, up through five words and start over, prearranged code phrases of course but nothing that would work with an unwitting recipient.
- Comment on Am I a bad artist 😂? 3 weeks ago:
Any homemade card is more thoughtful than a purchased one. So I don’t think it matters if you are a good artist or not. It’s a thoughtful message and you created it yourself.
- Comment on You guys have to end it 3 weeks ago:
Well I’m certainly not having any more of them!
- Comment on You guys have to end it 3 weeks ago:
I dunno, it seems way more possible to set up some solar charging arrangement for an electric vehicle than to somehow find and pump gas into a gas powered car!
- Comment on You guys have to end it 4 weeks ago:
I always drive manual but my husband likes automatic. My kids learned on his car but my penultimate daughter drives mine to school now. I dunno, shifting seems easy to learn once you know how to drive in general - I learned it because everyone else was drink one night so I had to drive home, when I was a teenager, and the drunk kid’s car was manual.
- Comment on Owing your home today is nearly impossible, but even if you did the ever increasing property taxes will bury you 4 weeks ago:
Here the increases are capped at 3% per year if you live in the house. I lived in a shitty house we bought for 35k in the 1990s crash, and property taxes when we sold it in the breakup 20 years later were still under 1k a year, though insurance was crazy high. With husband we had to buy a much more expensive house, there are no shitty ones for sale anymore, all are snatched by corps to flip and rent. So now it’s high but in 20 years maybe it will seem low again. Especially if the market crashes and it’s re-assessed more reasonably.
It’s just inflation, I do think someone owning a home costs the city in roads, trash, transit, other services, Is not crazy to tax on property ownership.
- Comment on Why is there so much separation in the USA between people who identify as "black" or "white" compared to other regions like South America? 4 weeks ago:
This is sort of what I saw in California - where I’m from, Hispanic people were “the white people”, and people descended from Africans were “the black people” and I wasn’t aware of any sort of prejudice against Asians, they got lumped under the big umbrella of “white” . But when I was in California it was more like black and white guys considered themselves Americans, all one thing, and discriminated against Mexicans and Asians.
It’s all made up, to keep people divided. Not to say there are no historical reasons reverberating still - institutional wealth comes from the past and slavery, so descendents of slaves have legitimate grievance- but the categories/rules of in groups and out groups and who is discriminated against are not the same all over the US.
- Comment on Why are entertainers paid so much? 4 weeks ago:
For every one making millions, there are millions making near nothing.
People at the top of every industry DO make that much. Think about the UHC guy, you don’t think he was pulling that much?
Inequality is baked in.
- Comment on low iq in love with high iq person, is that bad?? 4 weeks ago:
I got some crazy genius IQ score when I was a kid because I was very good at taking tests and read a lot, good with language. Just happened to be good at what they were testing.
If you like to do programming, create things, are curious and interested in things, you ARE NOT STUPID. Not everyone’s intelligence runs to language or something tested by those tests. They are not really tests of potential, and the only reason my mom got us tested, the only reason I got two of my kids tested, was to get us into the better classes in school because they will only do it as an accommodation for a learning difference in.the public schools here. My other kids went to schools that promoted them based on their performance in class, which makes so much more sense.
Now - my friend had a legit genius boyfriend and he was a raging asshole, I think because he had nobody who thought like him, he was alienated. But the problem was that he was an asshole, not that he was a genius. So as long as your partner is nice and you can talk to each other, there is no problem, don’t borrow trouble and don’t think of yourself as stupid.
- Comment on conflicted about my coworkers' overpunctuality 4 weeks ago:
I agree with this. Don’t work off the clock, no. Absolutely no. But 5 minutes early with 5 minutes overtime is good not bad, (unless it really is impossible with your commute.) there is no way I would complain about that. Your coworkers are basically showing that the job costs more than management thinks it does, that they need the prep time to do the job.
- Comment on YSK: Gas stoves cause cancer 4 weeks ago:
A wood stove would be incredible if I lived in a colder climate. Here it would just be too much heat, they are used to both cook and warm the house, right?
But yeah. Throw another log on the fire. A couple of my friends moved to the countryside in Belize, and they built a big clay oven outside, but said because of the way it heated (so hot, close it up, let it slowly cool) they could only cook certain things in it.
- Comment on YSK: Gas stoves cause cancer 4 weeks ago:
I’ve always cooked on radiant electric (not induction) stoves, but gas stoves are amazing. Literal fire just works like nothing else. Faster cooking != Better cooking, why are you conflating them?
I’ve never lived in a closed up efficient new house either, those seem like anything you cook would be problematic. All cooking releases something.
Will almost certainly stick with electric personally (whole house is electric only) but if I had an unlimited budget it would be gas stove, big whomping vent fan, and ovens with both steam and fan.
Induction worries me because we had an induction plate and it made a terrifying shrill noise, I worry that the high end ones do the same but we can’t hear it. Which seems awful for the dogs and cats.
- Comment on Stop touching your stuff! 5 weeks ago:
Maybe not to heaven but you might get close?
- Comment on I love the future. 5 weeks ago:
I looked and it’s made of natto? And aspergillus? Isn’t that what ferments sake? Maybe just go out to a Japanese restaurant. And the advert then says the only proven blah blah blah get the spike protein out is autophagy, which would imply that simply fasting would work, so even if you believe it you could just buy nothing and not eat for a few days, save money instead of spending it.
- Comment on If you’re a tall and skinny woman, do sized up hold ups and pantyhose look good on you? 1 month ago:
I was quite skinny but 5’9" and not so leggy. If they are thigh highs I’d buy your regular size and just let them end a little lower, that looks good. 35" hips on 6’ sounds like you may want to exercise though?
I know that’s not what you are asking! But I bulked and went from 32-30-33 to 38-31-42, and my legs went from 18" to 23". So more conventionally ‘pretty’ proportions and people still seem to think I am lean and slender.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Oh the chubby cheeks to jowls slide is real, and I think that’s part of it. Also lower teeth showing more than upper.
- Comment on no title 1 month ago:
No car picture? There is always a picture of the guy sitting in his car. Always.