RBWells
@RBWells@lemmy.world
- Comment on Is there a real, actually working way to earn money online without having a job? 1 hour ago:
Little bits of money, sure. Surveys, selling stuff on eBay or Etsy or whatever. I never found it worthwhile, can make so much more money working at a job. Most I ever made was $200, twice. Once for designing logic for a quiz to determine hair porosity, once for an interview when some medical product I got failed.
That is over the entire history of the Internet. Otherwise it’s just been a dollar or two once in a while.
- Comment on How do you "feel" gender? 1 day ago:
I don’t know if this helps but I do very much enjoy being female -bodied, like I loved being pregnant and nursing, love having sex, I enjoy the body I am in. I don’t think much about any mental or emotional aspect to being a woman, don’t feel particularly feminine or anything like that.
But I suspect if I had been born in a male body, I would feel “off” and wish for a female one.
- Comment on Is it unusual if I am a woman but I do not smell "fishy" down there? 3 days ago:
The fuck? Fishy smell is an infection, not a healthy vagina. You are usual, no worries.
- Comment on Why does everyone put celery in soup stock? 3 days ago:
I think you are an outlier in your palate for celery. Could you have an allergy or something? I like it fine, it tastes good and adds a really nice flavor to stock for soup. If you don’t like that flavor just leave it out when you make it, the rest of us might think your dish is missing something but who cares, if the something it’s missing is something you don’t like?
My penultimate child loves “cooked salted celery” as she puts it - she will rescue it from the stock pot, and likes stir fry of just celery and beef.
- Comment on Longing, Rusted, Seventeen, Daybreak, Furnace, Nine, Benign, Homecoming, One, Boxcar 3 days ago:
Ours is corre, corre, policia!
- Comment on why the heck do cockroaches fly 5 days ago:
Oh God they’ve weaponized them. Why am I consigned to this timeline?
- Comment on There exist people who will go through the effort of leaving their home, traveling to a movie theatre, paying for a ticket, and sitting for 2-3 hours for a movie they claim "nobody wants to see" 6 days ago:
I don’t hear that but do know plenty of people who think it’s sclock and ought not be made. I’m easy to entertain I guess - if something is beautifully filmed and there is action, explosions, space battles or monsters, that is the stuff I like to see at the theater.
Dramas, other stories, and horror, also musicals I prefer on a smaller screen at home.
My mom told me once “you have the same taste in movies as a teenage boy” and I guess she was right, but she didn’t like science fiction or comics, only serious real world stories. I live in this world. When I go to the movies I want to see another world.
- Comment on There exist people who will go through the effort of leaving their home, traveling to a movie theatre, paying for a ticket, and sitting for 2-3 hours for a movie they claim "nobody wants to see" 6 days ago:
We like it, now that you can buy seats and the theaters are smaller and steeper (no bad seats). Too expensive to do all the time but great for the Spectacular Movies with all the effects. Too loud usually, the sound is great and clear but too loud.
I don’t know anybody who says they are going to see something nobody wants to see, maybe those movies don’t make it down here.
- Comment on why the heck do cockroaches fly 6 days ago:
The insect apocalypse is by far the most ominous sign in my lifetime, but if I never again see a mating swarm of palmetto bugs, a cloud of them flying, it will be too soon.
Once we were at a Mexican restaurant and in the booth behind us were some students from somewhere else. They were talking about the palmetto bugs and one said, well at least they don’t fly. And I turned around and said, “oh no, I regret I have some very bad news for you.”
Those fuckers don’t even run or fly away, they come AT you. My mom said they like to try to squeeze into small spaces, don’t like being out in the open and see you as a safe place not a threat. I have a fear of them that is way beyond reason.
- Comment on The richest people in the world are morally bankrupt 1 week ago:
I don’t think you can get THAT rich without ripping off someone. Like, if I started a business and it was raking in the cash in some actual not harmful way, I would pay myself a healthy salary but raise everyone’s pay, why would I need more than I need? Nobody needs a billion dollars. Nobody.
The guy who said he doesn’t fear the cops anymore, I don’t feel that. But I do agree money insulates you from a lot of stresses.
I still think it’s akin to hoarding. Billionaires are like those people in the houses they can’t move around in because they can’t stop accumulating.
- Comment on How do you sleep at night? Please respond with a number 1 week ago:
Seems bad for circulation too.
- Comment on How do you sleep at night? Please respond with a number 1 week ago:
- Occasionally 9. I can’t imagine sleeping in a bra, that seems dreadfully uncomfortable.
- Comment on Trump wants the NFL to change its name so that soccer is the only sport called football: ‘We have to come up with another name for the NFL stuff’ 1 week ago:
Aqui en Español, es la piña, no es la anana.
- Comment on Trump wants the NFL to change its name so that soccer is the only sport called football: ‘We have to come up with another name for the NFL stuff’ 2 weeks ago:
I don’t disagree, it needs a different name, has not much to do with feet, but really? A trophy is enough of a bribe for him to upset his base of NFL fans? Can someone bribe him to get us on Metric system?
- Comment on Who shops at small businesses? 2 weeks ago:
Exactly like you - restaurants and grocery I can do local small business. Also services, haircut and such, I don’t use chain places. And I try to pay very local people for anything we get done to the house, the pets, the yard.
But the “corner convenience store” that has the household stuff is Walgreens, there isn’t a local equivalent nearby and yes buying stuff 'on the ground ’ sometimes costs so very much more than ordering online.
- Comment on We turn the HVAC "up" whether we want it colder or warmer. 2 weeks ago:
Same. My husband “tell the kids to stop turning down the thermostat” have never heard anyone say to turn the AC down meaning to make it warmer. I do agree that I would not infer that someone saying to turn down the AC wanted it colder, I would ask.
Heater yes. “Turn up the heat!” means make it warmer. Though I hate the heater as much as I hate the cold so never say that either.
- Comment on 2 weeks ago:
Oh, and speaking of Charley we were lucky enough to have the Charley Crockett/Leon Bridges show come through, holy crap, I’d seen both of them live before but getting TWO great performers in one night, wow. And that intersection between county and R&B is such pleasant music.
- Comment on 2 weeks ago:
I saw Joshua Ray Walker open for Marcus King and didn’t even like his show but looked him up and found his recorded work to be incredible, THEN he found out he had cancer and that was part of why the live show was weak, nothing to do with his music, and says he is recovering now, but I felt so uncharitable thinking the show sucked when he was dealing with something so awful.
But anyway - I do use streaming but like you find bands other ways, opening acts, radio, sometimes Brooklyn Vegan, that site posts about bands I’ve never heard of, I listen and find stuff I like (and a lot I don’t).
- Comment on Is there an optimal home/apartment size that most people would be happy with? 3 weeks ago:
When we had 6 kids living with us, 2500 sq feet felt luxurious. Two kids in each bedroom upstairs, and we had a bedroom downstairs, there were 6 bathrooms in that house (5 full one just a toilet and sink) and it did feel big.
When we had 4 kids in a 1300 sq foot house, it was plenty enough room but there was only one bathroom and that made it more difficult.
We had 2 in a 1300 with 2 bathrooms AND a garage for storage and workout room, that worked fine, but the bedrooms were big and living room tiny, that is not ideal, it needed to be arranged differently.
Now we have 2 kids in an 1800 sq feet house and I would say this is ideal, it’s arranged so the kids have their own living room/gaming room outside of their small bedrooms, and we have a bedroom on the other side of the house where the kitchen and main living room are. Also a great big back deck that can be accessed from our bedroom and that main living room, which adds enough capacity we can have big parties. 2.5 bathrooms, 3.5 would be better. When these last 2 kids move out it will STILL be ideal, an office, a guest room or workout room, a den, we could even move the TV out of the living room then if we wanted.
So I think how it’s arranged makes a difference but family of 4 in 1800sq ft feels like we have a big house to me.
- Comment on Feeding my family alone is expensive. I can't afford to feed all of y'all. 3 weeks ago:
Yeah I cook for Easter and don’t expect anybody to bring anything but it’s not as big as Thanksgiving. We had an enormous Halloween party too, but that was more drinking than eating, we just got a nice veggie platter and fried chicken and some dips & chips (sourdough crackers, tortilla crisps) but good cocktails.
I do enjoy hosting in general, it’s satisfying and a party is more fun for me when I have something to do.
- Comment on Feeding my family alone is expensive. I can't afford to feed all of y'all. 3 weeks ago:
I do host thanksgiving for more than 20 usually, we do an all-comers meal, whoever wants to come to eat can. It’s fun and I enjoy it and yep everyone brings something but even so it is expensive for certain. Legitimately thankful that we can do this for everyone. But even when I was younger people coming to Thanksgiving brought something, is that not a usual expectation if you are going to a party? At least bring wine or ice or something.
- Comment on The ancient Greeks or Chinese should have already had words for this. 3 weeks ago:
I am good at design, can visualize how something will look when it’s done but no don’t SEE in my mind like that when I imagine how things look. It’s a different sort of knowing. Cannot hold an image and rotate it in my mind and absolutely can’t read a map that isn’t facing the right way, there is a blindness.
Surely not antphasic because I do see in dreams, same as through eyes. And I do KNOW how things look when they aren’t in front of me, and can know what imaginary things might look like too, but it doesn’t at all feel like seeing it with my eyes.
Love reading. Love love love it, learned when I was very young, same age I was learning to talk, actually, like a language not a skill. And I do have an internal ear, when I remember music I hear it in my mind and it is so much like hearing it in my ears. Imagining how something looks does not feel the same as seeing it.
- Comment on Racism restaurant 4 weeks ago:
It’s a good grilled cheese cheese, and the standard cheese on Cuban Cheese Toast here. Taste slightly sharper than the yellow one. Good also for queso dip in a pinch. There is also a Swiss flavor white American cheese, that also gets used because it melts better than real Swiss. Not good.
And no they aren’t cheese, though made of mostly cheese, they are “pasteurized processed cheese food”.
- Comment on My landlord partnered with a financing company - I can pay $15/month for the luxury of making weekly payments on my rent 4 weeks ago:
A check, that is petty revenge for sure. We had a portal when we were renting from a slumlord (though we were renting a ridiculously awesome house from them for a reasonable price, one they owned themselves, most of their portfolio was dumps owned by Chinese people who bought them unseen) and yeah it had a fee but $3/month was the fee. I still thought it was funny, paying online is cheaper for them than dealing with my paper check, but we have to cover the cost of online portal but not the check? I’d probably charge people for giving me a check and make online free, if anything.
We did pay pet deposit, not pet rent. Fair I think, pets do add liability, even rabbits might get stressed and piss in the corner or something.
- Comment on My landlord partnered with a financing company - I can pay $15/month for the luxury of making weekly payments on my rent 4 weeks ago:
14.99 plus payment fee of 1% of rent amount. So if your rent is 2k that’s another $20 per payment.
For what? Please tell me this is not the only payment option.
- Comment on Is it gay to have pleasurable sex with your wife? 4 weeks ago:
Competence and intelligence are attractive, you aren’t elitist, that is so reasonable. Not saying there’s nothing wrong with you, I don’t know you. But wanting someone competent that you can talk to, that is a normal thing to need.
- Comment on People who don't wear earphones outside - why, and what do you do instead? 4 weeks ago:
I bike to work and walk to anything close (have electric bike so that is my 1-6 mile ride usually, and under a mile I use my feet.). A Run though, that I only do for exercise, and not if I can avoid it.
Car, I have one but my kid takes it to university so I don’t usually get to drive it. And I do prefer moving at a human pace, and not having to park the car.
- Comment on What's the name of this 80s song sang by a solo female singer? I only remember her saying "nothing really maaaa-tters" or "nothing truly maaaatt-ers". Has a vibe like I Feel For You by Chaka Kahn 4 weeks ago:
Jump for my love by the Pointer sisters? That has the super high pitched yoo oo oo at the end (that honestly kind of ruins it) and bouncy dancy lady singing song
- Comment on People who don't wear earphones outside - why, and what do you do instead? 4 weeks ago:
I like music, love music, keep it on in the house and car but do not like headphones and wouldn’t dare use them on a walk or run because I’d get run over by a car.
I like the sound of the city, the birds singing, the crows cawing, kids yelling, even the distant sirens and LOVE the distant music of parties, so much. Cars going by with music. Incidental sound is engaging IMO not boring.
- Comment on Native Americans? 4 weeks ago:
Where I grew up, the Hispanic people were the white people, everyone had Spanish background of some sort, the mayor was Hispanic, I had no idea that was any sort of a difference. Until I visited California and saw the discrimination against Mexicans, because they LOOKED native, not European. Like, my maternal grandpa was probably part Mexican but pale as fuck, my paternal grandpa allegedly French & English but short stature and tan complexion. None of this registered as any sort of difference to me.
Latin American Hispanics are at least partly indigenous to the Americas, yes. So yes you can be Hispanic and of European heritage (España) or, more commonly, Hispanic of the Americas (because of the conquistadores). I don’t think straight indigenous not Spanish speaking and from the Americas is Hispanic.
So yes, to your question - a lot of people speak Spanish but their ancestors would have been Mayan or Zapotec, or something. Yes. Millions.