RBWells
@RBWells@lemmy.world
- Comment on The forbidden fourth leche 1 day ago:
Coquito I call Ron con 5 leches.
Leche evaporada, leche regular, leche condensada dulce (lechera), leche de coco, y crema.
Why have 3 or 4 when you can have 5 and rum?
- Comment on Does smelling your food while you cook it make it taste bland? 4 days ago:
That doesn’t happen to me, but I cook for my family every day, usually just once. (So not so infrequently It’s something unusual, but not so often it’s a drag). It’s more like an appetizer or something.
- Comment on Is there a science educator who shows in a video how they hand wash dishes? 4 days ago:
If you have enough sinks, or a big enough pot to soak them in, one soak in hot soapy water, wash them all in the next sink, do your scrub-scrub without rinsing then rinse them all in bulk, then final rinse by dipping them into a sink full of hot water with a little bleach.
Then dry them with a clean towel.
That’s how we hand wash when the dishwasher was broken and someone in the house was sick. Because otherwise my husband will wash them with the water running the whole time.
- Comment on I've never been in a situation where me having a gun would have made things bettter. 5 days ago:
Guy with knife in my face, I looked right at him and said what the fuck? He said he was trying to talk to me & I didn’t respond and I just said that a knife was NOT the way to get someone to talk to you and he put it away, walked me to my floor and said thanks & bye.
I don’t know, exactly, and just like a gun surely it wouldn’t work in every situation but de-escalation works more often than you might think.
Only once have I had to use violence, I kicked a guy off me (I am physically stronger than I look, not objectively strong but enough to surprise someone) kicked like a fucking kangaroo, so hard he hit the wall and believe it or not, it shocked him into stopping what he was doing and I left.
- Comment on I've never been in a situation where me having a gun would have made things bettter. 5 days ago:
Ha!
- Comment on I've never been in a situation where me having a gun would have made things bettter. 5 days ago:
Same here. I have had a knife pulled on me in a dark stairwell, have had several dangerous situations and at no point did I wish for a gun, it would have escalated those situations and made them worse. I have been able to deescalate, shock guys into being nice way more often than I would ever have imagined possible.
I’m not saying NO situation is better with a gun but not nearly as many as you think. Hopefully most people with guns never need to use them. People who sell guns sell fear, it’s becomes the “if all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail” problem.
Figure if I have made it half a century without needing one, it isn’t likely I will need one now.
- Comment on Mom with the real questions 5 days ago:
I like those big cabinets in place of kitchen cabinets. Glass front makes everything look better, I don’t put curios in them. Plates, glasses, bottles, booze, whatever goes in them ends up looking good.
- Comment on How much money should one person realistically make or have? 1 week ago:
A house, a car, and enough to pay all the bills and still have some lifestyle, without the terror of knowing you are one job loss away from homelessness and starvation. Able to retire for 25 years before dying.
I think for us (a family not a single person) that really is a million in the bank and 200k per year. We don’t have that, nor do many others.
As a cap? I think nobody needs to accumulate more than 5 million in cash and other assets. Less if you live somewhere with reasonable pension and healthcare.
- Comment on 1 week ago:
This looks like a style thing, not anything ugly about the person. Haircut, wardrobe. Not even wardrobe, never mind. Better haircut and glasses, maybe teeth? Guy has good bone structure in his face and looks built ok.
- Comment on How often do you change your towels? 1 week ago:
We do exactly the same as you, with one difference. For bath towels we have 2 sets and alternate them, so as we wash one set, we put out the others and put away the washed ones when done. Only replace if they fall apart, I don’t know how liking that takes, maybe 15-20 years? So maybe yes with one set 8-10 years sounds about right?
Kitchen towels wear out faster, harder use and hot water wash with bleach. Bath towels last a long time, cold water wash then dryer.
- Comment on Why aren't tall people also wider? 1 week ago:
I am bigger around than a short lady, but proportionally more taller than wider, elongated. I am not sure why it works that way.
What I wonder about more is fat people. My shape is defined by my skeleton, I’m not that skinny but like, my ribcage and hipbones, shoulders are my frame, the outer edges of my body shape. If someone is so fat, how does their body extend far past the bones, what holds it up? Or do they have a wider skeleton?
- Comment on Are we truely prisoners of our upbringing? 2 weeks ago:
I am never sure how time works at all. It’s possible that everything we experience is just rolling out from some original cause, everything happening is just an effect caused by what came before, essentially has already happened, in a way, you cannot change anything.
If that is true, then yes. You are an effect caused by your parents’ actions and they in turn were an effect of their own parents’ actions, on and on back to the origin of the universe.
If it works the way it feels to us, and we are choosing actions, then no. You can modify yourself and choose to do things not caused by your upbringing, there is not just one path already laid out before you. If that’s the case, I’d think just asking the question at all is a good start, deciding what you want to keep from your past and what you want to change, living intentionally, mindfully.
I do think upbringing plays a big part in shaping a person and have often said that if a baby was dropped on my doorstep I do think it would end up being like my other kids, more than different. Especially at this point when all those other kids are adults and would also be influential.
- Comment on Is there a real, actually working way to earn money online without having a job? 2 weeks ago:
Little bits of money, sure. Surveys, selling stuff on eBay or Etsy or whatever. I never found it worthwhile, can make so much more money working at a job. Most I ever made was $200, twice. Once for designing logic for a quiz to determine hair porosity, once for an interview when some medical product I got failed.
That is over the entire history of the Internet. Otherwise it’s just been a dollar or two once in a while.
- Comment on How do you "feel" gender? 3 weeks ago:
I don’t know if this helps but I do very much enjoy being female -bodied, like I loved being pregnant and nursing, love having sex, I enjoy the body I am in. I don’t think much about any mental or emotional aspect to being a woman, don’t feel particularly feminine or anything like that.
But I suspect if I had been born in a male body, I would feel “off” and wish for a female one.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
The fuck? Fishy smell is an infection, not a healthy vagina. You are usual, no worries.
- Comment on Why does everyone put celery in soup stock? 3 weeks ago:
I think you are an outlier in your palate for celery. Could you have an allergy or something? I like it fine, it tastes good and adds a really nice flavor to stock for soup. If you don’t like that flavor just leave it out when you make it, the rest of us might think your dish is missing something but who cares, if the something it’s missing is something you don’t like?
My penultimate child loves “cooked salted celery” as she puts it - she will rescue it from the stock pot, and likes stir fry of just celery and beef.
- Comment on Longing, Rusted, Seventeen, Daybreak, Furnace, Nine, Benign, Homecoming, One, Boxcar 3 weeks ago:
Ours is corre, corre, policia!
- Comment on why the heck do cockroaches fly 3 weeks ago:
Oh God they’ve weaponized them. Why am I consigned to this timeline?
- Comment on There exist people who will go through the effort of leaving their home, traveling to a movie theatre, paying for a ticket, and sitting for 2-3 hours for a movie they claim "nobody wants to see" 3 weeks ago:
I don’t hear that but do know plenty of people who think it’s sclock and ought not be made. I’m easy to entertain I guess - if something is beautifully filmed and there is action, explosions, space battles or monsters, that is the stuff I like to see at the theater.
Dramas, other stories, and horror, also musicals I prefer on a smaller screen at home.
My mom told me once “you have the same taste in movies as a teenage boy” and I guess she was right, but she didn’t like science fiction or comics, only serious real world stories. I live in this world. When I go to the movies I want to see another world.
- Comment on There exist people who will go through the effort of leaving their home, traveling to a movie theatre, paying for a ticket, and sitting for 2-3 hours for a movie they claim "nobody wants to see" 3 weeks ago:
We like it, now that you can buy seats and the theaters are smaller and steeper (no bad seats). Too expensive to do all the time but great for the Spectacular Movies with all the effects. Too loud usually, the sound is great and clear but too loud.
I don’t know anybody who says they are going to see something nobody wants to see, maybe those movies don’t make it down here.
- Comment on why the heck do cockroaches fly 3 weeks ago:
The insect apocalypse is by far the most ominous sign in my lifetime, but if I never again see a mating swarm of palmetto bugs, a cloud of them flying, it will be too soon.
Once we were at a Mexican restaurant and in the booth behind us were some students from somewhere else. They were talking about the palmetto bugs and one said, well at least they don’t fly. And I turned around and said, “oh no, I regret I have some very bad news for you.”
Those fuckers don’t even run or fly away, they come AT you. My mom said they like to try to squeeze into small spaces, don’t like being out in the open and see you as a safe place not a threat. I have a fear of them that is way beyond reason.
- Comment on The richest people in the world are morally bankrupt 4 weeks ago:
I don’t think you can get THAT rich without ripping off someone. Like, if I started a business and it was raking in the cash in some actual not harmful way, I would pay myself a healthy salary but raise everyone’s pay, why would I need more than I need? Nobody needs a billion dollars. Nobody.
The guy who said he doesn’t fear the cops anymore, I don’t feel that. But I do agree money insulates you from a lot of stresses.
I still think it’s akin to hoarding. Billionaires are like those people in the houses they can’t move around in because they can’t stop accumulating.
- Comment on How do you sleep at night? Please respond with a number 4 weeks ago:
Seems bad for circulation too.
- Comment on How do you sleep at night? Please respond with a number 4 weeks ago:
- Occasionally 9. I can’t imagine sleeping in a bra, that seems dreadfully uncomfortable.
- Comment on Trump wants the NFL to change its name so that soccer is the only sport called football: ‘We have to come up with another name for the NFL stuff’ 4 weeks ago:
Aqui en Español, es la piña, no es la anana.
- Comment on Trump wants the NFL to change its name so that soccer is the only sport called football: ‘We have to come up with another name for the NFL stuff’ 4 weeks ago:
I don’t disagree, it needs a different name, has not much to do with feet, but really? A trophy is enough of a bribe for him to upset his base of NFL fans? Can someone bribe him to get us on Metric system?
- Comment on Who shops at small businesses? 5 weeks ago:
Exactly like you - restaurants and grocery I can do local small business. Also services, haircut and such, I don’t use chain places. And I try to pay very local people for anything we get done to the house, the pets, the yard.
But the “corner convenience store” that has the household stuff is Walgreens, there isn’t a local equivalent nearby and yes buying stuff 'on the ground ’ sometimes costs so very much more than ordering online.
- Comment on We turn the HVAC "up" whether we want it colder or warmer. 5 weeks ago:
Same. My husband “tell the kids to stop turning down the thermostat” have never heard anyone say to turn the AC down meaning to make it warmer. I do agree that I would not infer that someone saying to turn down the AC wanted it colder, I would ask.
Heater yes. “Turn up the heat!” means make it warmer. Though I hate the heater as much as I hate the cold so never say that either.
- Comment on 5 weeks ago:
Oh, and speaking of Charley we were lucky enough to have the Charley Crockett/Leon Bridges show come through, holy crap, I’d seen both of them live before but getting TWO great performers in one night, wow. And that intersection between county and R&B is such pleasant music.
- Comment on 5 weeks ago:
I saw Joshua Ray Walker open for Marcus King and didn’t even like his show but looked him up and found his recorded work to be incredible, THEN he found out he had cancer and that was part of why the live show was weak, nothing to do with his music, and says he is recovering now, but I felt so uncharitable thinking the show sucked when he was dealing with something so awful.
But anyway - I do use streaming but like you find bands other ways, opening acts, radio, sometimes Brooklyn Vegan, that site posts about bands I’ve never heard of, I listen and find stuff I like (and a lot I don’t).