RBWells

@RBWells@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do some people say "I wouldn't want a government to dictate what I eat"? This would mean they'd be against food safety regulations, would it not?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I think it’s more like government can ban what can be sold as food and make advice. They can’t really stop you from drinking bleach or eating the grass in your yard or whatever. They can only prevent you from feeding it to someone else or selling it as food.

  Meat isn’t a food that could be banned in the same way as, say, Red Dye #4 or force-hydrogenated fats or high fructose corn syrup. They could make farmers cull whole herds of cows if mad cow broke out i guess, but there are wild hogs, backyard chickens and goats, it’s just not a controllable food.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Ah, I see, you want to be the pretty one in the relationship ;)

  Your dad needs to get over it, I can’t imagine saying anything like that to any of my kids.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I would personally be squicked out by that age gap because she’s young enough to be your kid. But I’m not you or her, it’s not my business, right? If your daughter thinks she’ll be good for you, the reverse matchmaking is funny, why not at least meet and see how you feel?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Amazing.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  They do not do deposit returns here anymore, but even so, most neighborhoods I’ve lived, people come look through the recycling for aluminum cans to scrap. So I would set them on the side in a tote instead, it was always such old people, moving slowly down the road with a rolling cart. This neighborhood is apparently too bougie for that, even though as far as I can tell we still are never more than 2 blocks from at least one homeless person.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how did you and your partner change after having a baby?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I run pretty hot usually, good sex drive, but nursing absolutely dampened that down to below zero. Plus sex is frightening after birth. Plus having kids hanging on you all the time can certainly make you long for some space with nobody touching you, and a guy asking for sex on top of that can feel like an obligation. Again - I am saying this as someone who literally has sex every day most of the time, and pregnancy made sex feel even better. Nursing killed my sex drive. YES it passes, assuming your kids are healthy, they are easier over time, and eventually even somewhat helpful. Once that babyhood was over, I’d say they were stressful in the way a second job is - it’s just more of everything.

  Overall I would say kids were good for the relationship, we stayed together and happier because of them. My ex was helpful as a dad, wanted kids, as I did. Kids are hands down the best work I’ve done in my life, nothing else comes close. But it is stressful as fuck, yes. Especially at the start.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Obese is just a medical term. BMI is a height to weight ratio so it’s accurate in that way. It does miss as a measure of over-fat vs. overweight, but more often in the other direction (fat people with normal BMI) but it can err in the other direction sometimes, sure.

  The easiest and most accurate way to tell if you are over-fat is waist to height ratio. Your waist circumference should be less than half your height. So if you are 180cm, waist needs to be less than 90cm. This is the only stat that’s been a reliable predictor for health problems from too much fat (because it’s the torso fat that’s more problematic health-wise)

  The other thing to remember is that the risk curve for underweight is steep but for overweight it’s shallow - a couple extra kg has almost no extra health risk.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I grew up with the kids of the original set of Cuban refugees and thought it was because they were the rich people fleeing Castro. So they were already aligned with the right here,they like the idea of being on the upper side of a class divide.

  The newer ones may just be anti -abortion, there are a lot of those “single issue voters” everywhere not just here.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Paneraverse⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Nah, it’s the fates. One to spin, one to measure, one to cut.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Pedestrians Walking on Right or Left?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Walk against the traffic, bike with the traffic.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I am a parent of adults and really just want them to meet their own standards for themselves. My mom was the same. Sure I’d like grandkids, but not to the point I would ask! Their lives are for them to live.

  If you are asking about little kids, it’s because they are exhausting. We went out to get tacos and there was the cutest little boy running around yelling “va! va!”. How delightful for us but I’m sure his mom was tired of it, it was 8pm. I am sure she would be happy if he would just st sit down and eat now.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Not if you already know how to drive, no. My kid who was motivated to use my car learned easily, and I learned it in a day when the rest of the people I was with were too drunk to drive.

  But learning to drive in a new country? And manual at the same time? That seems more difficult. Can you practice here first? Does anyone you know drive stick?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Oh god⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh no it’s my dog!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨quick health tip⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t know if you are joking but fresh orange juice, strong cold brew, and fizzy water is really good. I thought it would be awful but it’s delicious.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What was she thinking when she did this?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Mermaid hair! It’s awesome!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hot sauce is for Dad to protect his food from scavenging by lesser beings⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  At home if I make pizzas I make one for me with anchovy, onion, and hot pepper flakes or pickled spicy jalapenos and that does usually keep everyone off it, and I love it, my ideal pizza. Salty anchovy, sweet onion, punchy peppers, so good!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hot sauce is for Dad to protect his food from scavenging by lesser beings⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It was the inverse in my house, oldest daughter and I are chiliheads, ex was not, though he was ok with mildly spicy stuff, not oversensitive. So daughter and I go out for Thai food because if it’s just us we can get it so spicy. We bring some home and warn the dad don’t eat it, it’s spicy . He gets stoned and forgets, eats it and was literally traumatized; would not touch anything spicy for a couple of years.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it weird to juggle in the park?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Not at all weird where I live. Very good use of the park.

  If it’s weird where you are, even better. Go for it.

  We had a little used parking lot a couple blocks away from my old house and there was a guy who practiced the tall unicycle there. For 20 years, we would drive past that corner taking kids to/from school & us to/from work and it never failed to delight us when he was there.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨OMG no please don’t call me.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Chat > face to face > video call > call

  But the last two are a near tie. Both suck. Phone calls are the worst by a small margin though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A completely useful compulsion I have.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I do also balance the carton. Not always absolute symmetry but don’t want someone to drop them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If I snapped you back in time 650 years right this very second, how would you use your current knowledge to succeed?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  1375? Die from malaria, I guess? Be eaten by an alligator? Or oh no, hasten the demise of the Tocobaga with my exotic biology? Either they would kill me or get me sick, or vice versa. Also, fall on my ass when my house disappeared.

  I would follow the river to the bay, I guess, and see if I could find anyone, or anything I might be able to eat.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the point in getting married?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I didn’t ever marry my ex, was irritated at how discriminatory legal marriage was back then, and we had kids so were a family anyway.

  My husband now? He really wanted to be married, and “stepdad” is a different legal status than “mom’s boyfriend”, it smooths things when he had to do school pickup or doctor visit. So since he pushed and I did see an upside we did.

  Also you can’t foster or adopt here unless you are married - unmarried man in the household is a known risk to the kids he’s not related to. Statistically, it raises the risk of the kid getting hurt so single people can, or married couples but not unmarried hetero couples.

  I am with you logically, I don’t need it, and don’t feel different and it’s weird for the state to license families. I understand religious marriage but am not religious.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who's That Pokémon?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Caw! Caw!

  (Thank you! Thank you!)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who's That Pokémon?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Corviknight. A seven foot tall crow is terrifying!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Straight people, do you know what the Grindr notification sound is?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  No, I would have no idea. It’s a standard notification? You can’t choose the sound? If it was a ladies site I’d say “vibrate” would be the obvious choice, but for a gay men’s site, no idea.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do people develop feelings for someone?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  25 is so young. For me, I just had casual relationships until something “stuck”, for lack of a better word. Stayed with my ex for 25 years, with my husband now for 11, we are so happy together and the sex is still good. Husband said he knew at the start he would be serious about me, I didn’t know until it lasted and got better and I liked his family, and his kids liked me and all our kids got along (more complicated situation when older, obviously) AND the sex stayed good and we still felt affectionate and loving.

  I would say, at your age, it’s entirely possible you just haven’t met someone yet who you can feel that way about. You do have to be open to it if you want it, if that makes sense.

  And I need to add- it’s not a requirement for a full and happy life, if you don’t want to pair up you don’t have to.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's a sin in Christianity to consume media based on ancient mythology and folklore?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Not as far as I know. My mom was Christian and read plenty of mythology, visited Egypt and learned about their ancient gods, it’s my understanding that they just aren’t supposed to worship or believe in other gods. Not that they are supposed to be ignorant of the past or of other current religions either.

  I don’t know about more fundamentalist sects, but she was Christian her whole life, well read and into learning about history and religion in general.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people insist on not answering ALL the questions in an email or text message?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve been reading the responses and it reminded me of the class I took called Business Communications, where they emphasized that CYA style communication was absolute nonsense, your responsibility when communicating is to convey information in a way that can be received, and if that doesn’t happen it’s your fault, not the recipient’s, you can’t control them only you.

  So if this is just one person who misses all the questions, sure, it’s them, but you still need to figure out how to get your answers. If it’s everyone, it’s you. Maybe these questions aren’t amenable to email, maybe it’s your format, if you want answers (and not just to prove you asked in some sort of gotcha game) you need to ask the people who aren’t answering why they aren’t.

  Everywhere I’ve worked, people answer these by choosing a different font color and writing answers back in the email, but there are not a lot of questions by email. Maybe a note to “provide answers in BLUE” with the word blue in blue font would help?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨DIY Solar Dehydrator⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, our air holds so much water. Which is great for a lot of things, but everything mildews.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨DIY Solar Dehydrator⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Ha, I would not try this where I live, it would work in the desert but in a humid climate I can’t imagine it would be effective.

  Cool though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨From a purely political perspective, if you oppose the US tariffs as a US resident, should you buy or avoid buying products subject to tariffs?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t see how buying or not buying is going to hit the guy who is doing this.

  As long as you aren’t buying trump-coins or whatever they are called, or a Tesla.