RBWells

@RBWells@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A real question about trans athletes and records⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  The National News Desk - Wikipedia share.google/bWMrVg9ftYvQVwbK6

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How did that 22-year-old get on in the date his dad set him up with?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I would like a follow up too!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would be ancient ways to properly store vitamin C?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, it was clear from your post. And sounds delicious.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would be ancient ways to properly store vitamin C?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  That sounds so good! Every time I get a Reuben sandwich at a restaurant it has way, way, too much meat for me - I guess they want to make it worth the price but it is unbalanced. I would make this at home though and perhaps will next week, making sourdough tomorrow, and have rye flour.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would be ancient ways to properly store vitamin C?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Just ate a kimchi grilled cheese, and yesterday had some with fried eggs. It is so delicious. I love sauerkraut too. Cabbage of any sort, cabbage is just an amazing food, good raw, burnt, and everything in between, delicious fermented, just good and ever so versatile.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Worst part about living in Europe⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Ha! I needed baguettes, got two and tossed them in the bike basket, feeling so European, until one loaf bounced out and was run over by a car, at which point I felt oh so American!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  No, no way should you be embarrassed. One of my kids asked if I would matchmaker her and I said no way, but it’s not that weird, if he knows someone he thinks you would like, to introduce you.

  I found “dates” intimidating like interviews, but really this is a night out on your dad’s money- think about it like if his friends kid was in town and he asked you to go show her the town while she was there, right?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How can it be crystal clear your president is a child rapist and every one just carries on? Scary stuff friends.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  There is a tacit assumption that all rich and/or powerful people are utterly corrupt and that it’s ever been so. To get someone not personally creepy and corrupt would be the unusual case. So as it works out, there are inexplicably some people who think he is doing an alright job and that anyone who replaced him would be as bad of a person so who cares.

  Personally - I think since its illegal, he should be arrested, and most of Congress should too, they are subject to the laws they make. New elections. Rinse and repeat until we get people who care about the country, not themselves.

  We are not the only nation with corrupt and irredeemably creepy and abusive politicians. Power corrupts.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what's the best material for wiping out a cast iron skillet?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If eggs don’t release well, it’s not seasoned well, most of mine are pretty nonstick but I struggle with the biggest one, the surface is not as good.

  I would say baby that one. Clean it immediately then dry, wipe some oil in, almost none, and heat it while wiping it. Or make pancakes, that seems to rehab them. Long slow cooking with fat in there and something that doesn’t want to stick, getting scraped often.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what's the best material for wiping out a cast iron skillet?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If I am babying them, kosher salt and oil once it’s cool enough, then rinse & dry. Otherwise I scrape at it with the metal spatula then wash with soap and a scratchy sponge, it’s fine as long as you don’t soak them, and do dry them well after.

  We do have a chainmail scrubber - my husband was soaking the skillets and killing the finish, he likes the chainmail scrubber.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Outsider art implies the existence of insider art⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  In music this tracks. There is the meta, the stadium shows and radio plays. Some good but I can’t tell how they are any better than other bands, some worse in some hard to define way, I think maybe in appealing to so many people, while it must have some quality, it also has to lack some quality though? Art shouldn’t be able to please everyone, I guess. If I can’t hate it while someone else loves it, is it art?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Replaced my electric resistance water heater with heat pump, dramatic reduction in energy usage⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I am very, very interested in these. We have many more days that the house needs cooled, rather than warmed, and heat pump AC has been the standard for 40 years - grabbing the heat being pulled out of the house and using it for hot water (or anything needing heat -clothes drying, maybe) is absolute genius tech and I want it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is kindness often viewed as a sign of naïveté?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t know but sorry this is happening to you. Do not give up. It is certainly not naive, you can be most kind and firm with people, you can be kind and competent. You don’t need to be an asshole to get things done (I’m sure you have figured that out already) and I find that seeing the best in people works out better more of the time, anyway.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Socially inept, introverted employees. How do you survive the workplace? Because I’m in dire need of some serious advice.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  “Fitting in” is not nothing, even if it seems like bullshit, you can train anybody to do a job but not to be part of a particular team. My old boss used to say he had trouble hiring accountants because so many were quiet and he needed someone who would stand up to him, he was sort of intense and could be intimidating. You do have to “fit” in some way to be a cohesive unit, and I imagine that’s a lot more important in an ER than a back office.

  Your post sounds like you are not aware of your own behavior as much as you are aware of everyone else’s. It’s entirely possible this is just a bad fit and you can find a job that suits better (I have always done better in the wild west environment of startup companies than anyplace with politics and bureaucracy) but if the same thing keeps happening, it’s you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If everyone spontaneously became the same race the world would realize that the rich are the real problem⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Bosnia would like to have a word.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mastercard release a statement about game stores, payment processors and adult content⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  By that standard, I ought not be able to use the card to buy booze (might give it to a minor or use for a Molotov Cocktail) a gun (obviously could use for crime) , and probably a million other things they let people buy with cards.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What companies manufacture ancient musical instruments?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Zildjian is such a an old company still making the same thing. I don’t think cymbals changed much. People sell lutes on Etsy, those are an old style stringed instrument and flutes are so old too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How did you decide what you generally wanted to do with your life?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My mom always said “you don’t need to know what you are doing for the rest of your life, just decide what you are doing for the next five years”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would happen to the US if it denaturalised and deported all non-whites?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Hispanic people were the “white people” where I grew up. It’s not really a racial category, there are black Hispanic people, white Hispanic people, here it just means your family came from some Spanish speaking place. So the rich Cubans who came here were absolutely the “white people” of my youth. And historically, it’s those Spanish Conquistadores who put the Hispanic into the Americas in the first place.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think it's an ok idea for me to get a cat in my scenario? (details inside)⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Cats are good pets for people who work, they sleep a lot in the day. I agree with zonetrooper that in this situation 2 cats would be better than one, though.

  Yes if you get the cats a water fountain and automatic feeder, and have plenty of litter box space, they can be left a couple of days, and they prefer that to traveling. (Unlike a dog, who would rather go with you).

  Talk to the shelter, they may know which individual cats in their care would be good for your situation.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Where are all the successful "red cities"?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Well yes, it has come a long way in the past few years. I used to get so mad because we are a better city to live in but St. Pete’s downtown knocked it out of the park, absolute gem of a downtown and ours sucked.

  But ours has gotten so much livelier, it’s not just the Tampa Theater and convention center and the Hub, there are a bunch of apartments downtown, the kids of the Columbia people opened a really good restaurant, the city built a much better Riverwalk, there are people out in the nights, concerts, events, it’s completely different.

  BTW, when I was growing up we would go downtown on the weekend and it was an absolute ghost town, we wandered the empty streets and made up stories about the buildings. And you could buy houses in Tampa Heights for almost nothing, now they are millions of dollars.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨‘If I switch it off, my girlfriend might think I’m cheating’: inside the rise of couples location sharing⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Not just couples. I was aghast to learn that my fellow parents at work track the location of their teenage kids. All of them, except me. What the fuck? If I want to know where they are I text and ask.

  What’s more - half of them also have it turned on in the other direction.

  This is crazy to me. I want my kids to grow into adults and I’m not going to surveil them all the time. I think a kid of teen age has some reasonable expectation of privacy. We are close, I have a good relationship with my kids but not THAT close, I don’t need to know if you stopped at Wawa on your way home.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Where are all the successful "red cities"?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Miami is purple at least. The old guard Cubans are Republicans, the last governor race not so representative. St. George in Utah is really nice, though maybe a town more than a city.

  Tampa is nice but all of our potentially fixable problems are from the conservative outlying areas, as so much of the government is county not city. it would be much nicer with more money going to transit in particular.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨They even got their own island⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I met a guy when I was that age, adult but not old. Friends, hung out with other people. The minute I turned 16 he asked me out. I declined and it was no big deal but who does that?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I turned 30 yesterday but I look 18. Nobody believes me when I tell them my age. What do I do? Do I date a 20 year old guy or a 35 year old guy who looks twice my age?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Why is it 20 or 35 if you are 30, and not, well, 30?

  Date someone you like! Just go out with some guys and figure out what you like.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨People who have been in meetings to determine back to in office policy. What was the discussion like?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  They let us know their thinking here. I don’t personally have a dog in this fight, live a few blocks from the office so either way is fine with me. They landed on “hybrid” but now I just work at the office and do not bring my laptop home.

  Their thinking:

  Collaboration really is better in the office, zoom does not replace the experience of just being here and aware of conversations around you (fair enough) we are already paying for the office (not a real reason, could sublease, we already did with half of it).

  My thinking (they don’t care but) working from home benefits the rest of my family more than it does me. I can bike to work and do. Reclaimed the space in my house that was office, and absolutely ignore work when I’m home. Certainly would not force anyone else to, like my job did, but glad to have a space to work outside my house.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We all sleep alone soundly; Maybe the key to a happy marriage is separate beds⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  When my kids were babies and slept in our bed, people would tell me “they need to learn to sleep alone” and I would laugh and tell them no, sleeping alone is so easy, you have to have practice to be able to sleep with someone else.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people hate coldplay?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t hate them, but we have a joke, “is that… Coldplay?” when we hear an unfamiliar song, because their music is sort of unremarkable.

  I don’t think they are alone in that, it’s just funny they got so famous with it. I’ve heard them in interviews and they sound like delightful people. Funny and self-aware.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We should be able to legally have a different name just for work for better work/life separation⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My mom had an uncle named J.M. It didn’t stand for anything, that’s what his momma named him. He went into the army and they were not having it. His paperwork read “Jayem”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it weird I don't typically answer how old I am anymore, because literally nobody besides my family believes me?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah my brother said you should always tell people you are older than you are, so that they think you look good for your age.