RBWells

@RBWells@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Would I sound taller if I gave my height as 6'-4"?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Wait, are you a lady? Just say you are 5’10". I’m about your height and guys are always telling me I am at least 5’10".

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you remember a time when societies were so polarized and shifted so much to the right like today? How long did it last?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Not exactly. I am old enough to remember wondering why gay couples couldn’t get legal marriage, and when interracial couples were stared at, and the ozone layer had a hole, and the Satanic Panic, but it felt like we were in a shitty spot but moving in the right direction just painfully slowly. Lots more violence than now.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Sage advice?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  But does your sausage have sage in it?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is anyone NOT steaming their Music?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Huh. I get my money’s worth and more from streaming, have found so much music I like, and before streaming I listened to the radio (we have good community radio here, I still do listen to the radio and go to live shows) and went to concerts but didn’t buy music because I despaired of ever building or organizing the sort of collection that would contain even close to the amount of music I want to listen to.

  If streaming disappeared tomorrow, what I’d save wouldn’t pay for even one concert a month.

  I really, really use the heck out of it, my whole family does.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does being a ‘hero’ mean you are a perfect person?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Of course no person is perfect, and in literature a perfect person would be boring.

  In my view, anyone who does something selfless that really helps other people or person, because they see the need to help, is a hero. They don’t need to be good in every other way. Just that they use their powers for good.

  Villians can be nice, too. With some fatal flaw that causes great harm.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it true that the natural lifespan of humans is only 38 years old and we only live past that because of loads of modern medicines/technology?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  They don’t define “lifestyle” at all in that article. I imagine if I had to live in a cave and fight to get anything, I’d never reach whatever the natural max lifespan was, and would doubtless die in childbirth without skilled midwifery but it’s hard to imagine max being 38 when fertility for modern women lasts past 40, and we can live to 80 or 90. Are we not the same basic model?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The problem with overeating is that it feels really good⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Well thanks anxiety, I guess? When I eat like that I feel awful. As someone else noted though, fasting can feel good, too virtuous. Until the headache.

  Falling asleep at night empty but not hungry, that is the best feeling to me. Like eating enough in the day that my body understands it’s been fed but long enough before sleeping so I don’t feel full at all.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Being a dude sucks⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I love spiders, really like to see them; but they don’t have a chance against the cats. The cats play small creatures to death.

  Palmetto bugs though? I am so irrationally freaked out by them, I do ask the man, or my kids, to handle those. There was a next top model episode where the ladies walked with big hissing cockroaches, pet ones, and I would have been right out of there like a rocket.

  But ask me to hold your pet tarantula? Heck yes! Cute fuzzy spider.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I stop sleeping through everything?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Did 5 hours feel good? Everyone is different. I like 7 hours and cannot nap, it has to be all at once. If you keep waking up at night and feel tired in the day ask your doctor, there may be some cause, not just lifestyle.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I stop sleeping through everything?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Sleep until you wake up. See how many hours you need. Then adjust your schedule until you are getting enough sleep. And pay attention to the number of hours - for me 7 can be more refreshing than 8! You may need 9, you want to be waking up at the right point in your sleep cycle, not while you are so very asleep.

  I sleep pretty heavy, but when it’s time to get up I can. Do not go back to sleep, get up when you wake up. But really, try sleeping until you wake up.

  Putting your lights on a timer may work better than an alarm, more gentle so you have time to come to awakeness more naturally.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How long can someone physically walk for?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Ha! Nope, lady and I guess technically no, don’t need to stop but it would get very uncomfortable!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨should I apologize to this friendly manager I had an argument with?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  No. If you are still thinking about it, you know what the right answer is. Apologize, and yes explain your baggage if you want to but that is your own issue, I don’t think it’s a good idea to justify an apology. Just “Sorry about the argument, I didn’t mean to get so loud, I’ll try to explain my thoughts more calmly if you want, when you have time.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How long can someone physically walk for?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Without rest? I don’t know. I could walk a marathon distance with the right shoes but would need to stop to pee. Two marathons? Probably not without training some months, and where would I find the time? Also, if it was in the day here, risk of heat exhaustion is pretty high at midday & afternoon.

  300 miles? No.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which career to pursue?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  My mom always said "don’t try to decide what you are doing for your life, just decide what you are doing for the next 5 years and commit to doing it for 5 years, you can always change. "

  I do accounting, and some sysadmin stuff, I like accounting because you can do it at any company in any industry, or government, or whatever - nearly everyone deals with money. I do not try to go up a career ladder but it’s there if you want it and are good with people, as you move up that gets more important than the numbers!

  The kids, a mix of medical, science, military, and one who I think will become an electrician. The oldest who stayed in military and quickly rose through the ranks is rolling in cash, so if you literally have no ethical concerns, that is one way to really rake it in. Second highest earner (and balanced life) is a genetic counselor, so a medical specialist but not doctor.

  I think you are taking the right approach, mostly here to say that it’s really ok to just have a job that pays the bills, especially if you like writing, finding something that gives you enough money but also enough time to work on that might be a better life, and really what you are trying to do is build a good life, yes?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How could I order a package without my parents finding it?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Hiding the delivery of the equipment seems the least of your problems. Where are you planning on setting this up that you could hide it? Power consumption? Whatever this project is,nif you live at home and can’t tell your parents about it, how do you expect to hide it?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Should you copy a person's accent when pronouncing their name?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  This is my approach. You are gonna get a kind of Americanized version because I can’t help it, but:

  We have an Irinya in our department, soft r, I sounds like our long E - I am not gonna call her Irine! Soft R I am familiar with from Spanish, I’m sure it’s not spot on as she is Eastern European but close enough for her, she says it sounds right. One lady on our team can’t even hear what the R sounds like and can’t make the sound, she calls her eeReenya with the hard R. Still acceptable to Irinya, that’s what matters.

  If it’s some sounds I can’t pronounce, I’d ask what they want to be called if I can’t make those sounds but in general yes I try to pronounce people’s names as they do, to the extent I can.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you use non violent communication at the workplace?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  No, but we don’t use violent communication. We use direct communication, and unfortunately sometimes CYA communication, though I push back on that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Dinner is ready! ⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Ay I am torn between G and E, African food is incredible and I’d probably be ok, but G is where I live and my city has amazing food, including African cuisines so if you just mean what’s available in those regions, then G, absolutely.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Lies, all lies⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  We went to a concert of Tibetans doing the throat singing and it was cool as fuck.

  Introspective arythmic diddly jazz is my music kryptonite. Similarly, the taqsim that is the opening part of so much good Egyptian music. It sounds abusively selfish to me. I do like a diverse array of genres but picky about jazz, or anything without a rhythm.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I wish only for a few things that need a bigger base, sub for my city on Reddit was so helpful, and I miss Normal Nudes and Naked Progress, the NSFW stuff on Lemmy is more onlyfans girls & AI stuff, Reddit had such a massive reach they had everything, more people means more niche stuff.

  Overall though? So much nicer here. And I am not sure you can have both, it’s probably nicer because it’s smaller.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Clone Wars

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Education doesn't increase intelligence by making people memorize things, but by constantly reminding people that they might be wrong.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Memorization is such a strange thing to try to teach. I was never good at that in school but could sing any song on the radio after hearing it once. In school I was good enough at math up to a point because I was so bad at memorization got good at thinking my way through it. Was much better at word problems than equations in elementary school.

  I do agree with the premise of the shower thought - part of being educated is learning through mistakes. Making mistakes is one of the fastest ways to learn something, and is the main reason I’m good at my job. I am happy to work in accounting where mistakes don’t kill anyone.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How often do guys have a haircut?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My husband has straight hair he keeps in a tight fade, like nearly bald on the sides to very short at the top, and gets his hair cut every 2 weeks. I (lady, curly hair) can go a year between, just get it cut in short layers and let them grow out to long layers. The two of my kids who like theirs short but not crazy short go a month or two between.

  Basically the shorter it is, the more you have to cut it - hair grows, on average 1/2 inch (13mm) per month, so mine has a 6 inch tolerance but my husband, with such straight and short hair, has a quarter inch tolerance.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨arriving⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Rain here is a summer thing and that is wonderful, cools everything off, beautiful lightning and rainbows.

  Rain in the winter is nonsense. It is so cold and you get wet and even more cold. Although - winter rain is not windy or sideways like summer storms so an umbrella does avail. But yes. Cold rain sucks.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨arriving⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  85 is not bad at all unless you have to work in the sun.

  I am on a special interest forum, been a member for a long time and it’s got people around the world. A lady in Sweden said she was absolutely dying from the heat, could not sleep, because it was 23 degrees. Our AC is set to 78F most of the time and I am cool at that temp, but she would melt?

  It really has to be what you grew up with. A real winter would kill me, I don’t know how people deal with it. Putting on clothes, taking off clothes, never really being warm, short daylight, hot food immediately getting cold because the cold air steals its heat, car won’t start but standing at bus stop so freezing then the bus uncomfortable because you are bundled up, WTF Winter People? What is it you like, or do you just like winter like we have here, the Swedish summer weather?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what can I do at my workplace during downtime?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I do read, go for a Pokemon go walk, browse on my phone or listen to music when I get a break at work.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You can love someone romantically without wanting to share your life with them, or progress the relationship beyond casual.

  You can love someone sexually but not romantically, or vice versa. And sure, you can have romantic feelings for someone and not trust your feelings because of previous experience.

  Anything you can imagine, someone can feel.

  I would just take her at her word. And tell her what you want, without asking her for anything. If she is not open to the kind of relationship you want, does it matter what she is feeling? I think not.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you ever feel full and hungry simultaneously?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I agree with everyone saying its thirst. Drink a big glass of water.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Every time I make biscuits from a can⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It was not that lady, it’s happened more than once? That is crazy. Same lady had a cat that could open the door by swinging on the doorknob, and a terraced yard that bluejays controlled the upper levels of and terrorized said cat, AND an ex who was a source of many awful but interesting stories as well.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Marriage is FOMO⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I got married to my husband for two reasons. Mostly because his preference to be married was stronger than my preference to avoid it my whole life, but another big reason was that “stepfather” has more legal rights here than “mom’s boyfriend”. It was easier for him to pick my kids up from school or take them to the doctor, things like that. Same with me & his kids .