RBWells

@RBWells@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How screwed would one be if their email provider shuts down?⁩ ⁨⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  I lost one, sent the emails I might need to another account. So that was ok but I forgot to change the email on every freaking service I use so it was very difficult to recover some accounts.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what can I use to cushion my knee when exercising with it on the floor so it doesn't hurt?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Hover your knee off the ground when you are in the all-fours helps. Like don’t put your whole weight on it. Do poses that don’t put as much weight on your knees. Look for better ground to practice, grassy areas.

  When I yoga outside, it’s the last suggestion I use the most. My knees are also sensitive, and finding a flat surface, then using my usual sorta thick yoga mat works well.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Has Fast Food Gotten Worse, or Am I Just Getting Old?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s still good where we are, is in a run down part of town, not generally even fast, technically, but still so good. Publix has good fried chicken too but the spicy Popeye’s, so good and the only ‘fast food’ I will eat. Even french fries I generally just make oven fries now, but I never even try to make fried chicken.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Has Fast Food Gotten Worse, or Am I Just Getting Old?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Doesn’t pot famously make food more enjoyable?

  I agree, fast food is not worth what it costs. The reasonably quick food landscape has expanded though, we can get different things, better Mexican food, a Chinese fast to go place with some really good tasting stuff, a restaurant that advertises “curry in a hurry” even.

  Popeyes is still good though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it okay to take drugs to make yourself a better person? Does it make a difference if "better" is mental or if it's physical?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think so, yes. Always OK. Is it always the best possible way to go? Probably not.

  And no, I don’t think it matters if it’s physical or mental, what matters is balancing the risk of the drug vs. the benefit. So for example my kid takes Adderall for ADD, I don’t, because I know how much I like speed and also have a (very far past) history of disordered eating and still occasional anxiety about eating - I judge the potential risk too high even if it would “fix” my mind in one way, and make me better in that way.

  But yeah, if it will improve you overall why wouldn’t it be ok?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the argument for making poor/working class folks shoulder the burden of taxes?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think it’s ok for everyone to pay something, and income tax is progressive.

  Social security tax is regressive, and sales tax is regressive. So I’d remove the cap on social security, tax unearned income more, and exempt more necessary items from sales tax, if looking to get more from the more wealthy, as income tax is the only one working right - when I was poor my federal income tax was 0, when I was poor with kids I got a little more back than I paid in, now we are doing well, paying lots because we make more at work.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨have you ever been given a warning or suspension for using profane language at work?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  At my job? No. That would not happen.

  And it’s funny you ask about outside the US because the way I learned this was our head of finance in Germany was visiting and as I passed the office where he was I heard him talking and it was just fucking this, fucking that, fuck so many times just in the time it took me to pass the office.

  Now should you be cussing out customers? No, of course not. But no pain my office bats an eye and we often hear “what the fuck, Microsoft?!” when something doesn’t work.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK that there's a better index than the BMI to measure obesity called the Body Roundness Index⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Waist to height is the only proven metric. And the problem with BMI is not that it is overestimating fat, it’s that it’s underestimating fat because it completely misses skinny-fat people, and the number of those is much higher than the number of jacked overweight not fat athletes.

  Add to this the complicating factor that it’s really torso fat that is metabolically active and dangerous to your health.

  Waist should be less than half your height, you don’t even need a measuring tape. Get someone to cut a string as long as you are tall, and see if it can go around your waist twice, with at least some extra length. If so, you are good, probably don’t have too much torso fat.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Inside the U.S. Government-Bought Tool That Can Track Phones at Abortion Clinics⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Better to leave your phone at home (or better, in the pocket of someone who lives in your house and takes the same daily path as you do) if you are doing something that’s currently illegal. Or in any situation where you are doing something legal that the cops are likely to break up.

  The juror going home thing is terrifying but I don’t think the government would be after you for fulfilling your civic duty.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨My parents never did any extravagant trips like to Disney world or Sea world. Knowing what I know now I'm kinda grateful for that.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  They are a 2 hour drive from us so not extravagant trips. But I am so grateful to my mom for taking my kids with her when she traveled to Europe. Even though she never did anything like that with us, she would invite her grandkids one or two at a time to wherever she was going and her rules were “one bag, you carry it, no whining”. They got to see places I haven’t yet. Very extravagant and I wish she’d taken her own kids on trips like that!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The ability to be spontaneous in life is directly proportion to the size of your bank account⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Time also plays a part.

  When I was staying at home with my kids and poor as fuck, 4 people living on $15k, if there was gas in the car I could just take us spontaneously to the park, and my city has free music performances on some Thursday nights, if I have free time I can just make a last minute decision and go.

  So now I have a good husband who earns $ and a good job, not rich but certainly more affluent than at any time in my life, but I am much less rich in time. Job takes a lot of it, more responsibility overall and less flexibility.

  I don’t think spontaneity scales with money, it scales with free time once you have enough money. And that “enough” is not a lot.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm as white as snow but I'm still not white enough to eat this.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I have a story about heat and flavor. Often the flavor and heat ARE intertwined, if you “cool” the pepper you mute the flavor.

  So I make lentil salad sometimes, it’s one of those dishes so much better than it should be - cooked al dente lentils, jalapeno, onion, carrot in a dressing of olive oil, mustard, lemon. My little kids loved it but would whine that it was too spicy. So my older daughter graciously de-seeded and took out the ribs of the jalapenos when helping make it one time and

  They whined because it didn’t taste as good. The flavor was contained in the spicier part of the pepper.

  Not everything should be spicy but it’s good to have a tolerance because some flavors are in those spicy foods that simply aren’t in the mild versions.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Should i be giving a shit about my posture?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Posture is so important for health, both as a practice and an indicator.

  As a practice, stacking your body up in a good position lets it work better and protects your joints.

  It is also an indication of strong enough muscles and bones, very weak people or those with osteoporosis often can’t achieve good posture.

  It’s also free, nothing to buy, a free intervention that can only benefit you, so why not practice it?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What can I do with US$10K that is a good investment?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m going to second (third, fourth, fifth) the Roth IRA recommendation. You can set it up with Schwab or whoever and can make recurring contributions too (set it and forget it) there are income limits so if you are really raking it in one year you can’t contribute that year but whatever you put in there is still (usually) going to grow in value. If you have an emergency situation and need the money you can withdraw contributions, not earnings, ahead of retirement, so it’s not lost to you, but working for you and much easier at tax time, no worries about how to report it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Music was better when ugly people were allowed to make it⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Marcus King ROCKS and he is not good looking. Charismatic as fuck on stage too.

  I think there is about the same proportion of good music to bad as there ever was, you just don’t hear the bad music of the past because it didn’t last l.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The Signal⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Neal Asher’s space operas are some of my favorite books. The Prador, the AI, Spatterjay, he even has a short story with terrifying carnivorous sheep in it!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Would it be weird if I took something my neighbor put out for trash?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I have no HOA, I need no HOA,and want no HOA. I do not care if my neighbor puts his car on blocks. City code enforcement will eventually move on any outrageous lack of upkeep.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Would it be weird if I took something my neighbor put out for trash?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  If I put something by the road, instead of in the bin, it is because I want someone to take it. Yes take it. If you are unsure, go up and let them know you want it,I can say with absolute confidence, they will say to take it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not cognitive behavioural therapy⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, where is the rest of his kicked up leg?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What should I consider before choosing the right tanga or string to work out with leggings?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Believe it or not, Merino wool thong is the best I’ve found for sweaty work and workouts. Hard disagree with the cotton recommendation, cotton holds so much moisture and keeps it next to you, worst fabric for workout thongs. The wool is somehow miraculously not itchy, antibacterial, wicks away moisture better, dries much faster and doesn’t feel nearly as gross when you have to pull it back up if you go to the restroom to pee.

  Second choice is a synthetic, but it’s a distant second. Cotton I never will again - it’s fine for work or relaxing at home but absolutely not for sweating.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨That explains it.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I have written this before, but I don’t think it actually stops. I do not think it’s even about looks really. Or at least I’m over 50 and still getting catcalled on my way to work. Fully expect to be 90 and have some kid yell “Lookin’ spry, grandma!” at me from a moving car.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is waking up when my alarm goes off so difficult and unpleasant yet "sleeping in" does feel good and isn't satisfying?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  As others have explained, waking up at the wrong point in a sleep cycle feels crappy. But also as the night turns to morning, your sleep cycles change and sleep becomes lighter - waking up is a process, not a moment. So get up when you wake up naturally and you should be good, but also keeping to a schedule helps, so if you are naturally waking up at 7am or whatever, going past that time can interfere with, well, falling awake.

  I get you though - so often I feel like sleep is so close by I just want to go back.

  My husband handles this with coffee, he gets up, makes coffee, drinks it in bed (while I sleep through all this) and then either feels awake, or, if he does go back to sleep the caffeine helps him wake back up, like a coffee nap. I can’t do that, prefer to wake up then coffee a few hours later, but it works for him.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you ask for a haircut?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I bring a picture of myself with the haircut I want.

  Husband says tight fade, zero to very short on top and that gets him what he wants, he goes to the same barber lady all the time, she doesn’t speak English and he doesn’t speak Spanish but they still manage to communicate the haircut information.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is "disk" just a different spelling of "disc" or are they actually different words?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I am not sure, but my oldest child was looking at an English brochure for a trip to France and a asked me "what the heck is a dis-coth-a-cue? Discotheque. A Disco, a dance club. And yes disco-tek is spelled Discotheque in English.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Horror Sign⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh I know exactly what caused this.

  The women who hover instead of sitting on the toilet, and leave their pee all over the seat because they are absolutely without empathy for anyone else on the face of the earth. If you are so OCD you cannot touch the seat, for fuck’s sake at least kick it up out of the way with your foot.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How the fuck do you meet new people?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Rural is difficult. Do you need to live out in the middle of nowhere? Work and kids activities (I have lots of kids) are the main ways I’ve met people but cities are full of many different people, in the outlying areas you may literally know everyone in town already, there aren’t new people to meet.

  If you are up for it, a whole new start might be good for you. Maybe apply for jobs in a nearby city?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Aaaaah⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I did try taking magnesium- a few times over the years, but it gives me migraines. Like if I take it I wake up the next morning with a migraine. Which is considerably more painful than a leg cramp. Could look for foods with more of it, though, I guess. Good idea anyway, that is plausible.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Aaaaah⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I eat a balanced diet with plenty of fruit and veg, don’t smoke, drink moderately (1 drink 3 days a week) work out regularly and still get these. The worst is in yoga, when my feet cramp and I can’t do something. Calves in bed close second.

  I thought it was from drinking or fasting but there seems no correlation. Age, maybe.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how does a tote bag work?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Wow. I guess either I am tall or the handles on my tote bags are shorter. They have short handles AND are scratching the ground? How big are these bags, or how short are you?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what should I write in a job application for an office job in healthcare away from the bedside that doesn't close the door completely to bedside?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m an accountant and like it. It’s funny, we have the most fun at work, the whole finance team is great.

  I think saying you want to move away from clinical and towards the business side is not at all silly, nor does it sound like you are a quitter. Moving from operations to administration is often viewed as moving up, maybe you can just say you want the job as a step in a different direction?