Why are you approaching other people’s kids and take away their ipads?
And they even get a seizure when you take their ipads away
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AeonFelis@lemmy.world 6 months ago
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 months ago
I’ve recently gotten a hold of an older ipad. I’ve been installing apps and stuff on it and playing with all the things.
And godDAMN that os has problems. I’m back on my android phone and it’s so much smaller, but Jesus Christ having a back button and responsive apps and ui and os feels like coming home.
Android isn’t without its problems though. The apps are all definitely aimed at a poorer/cheaper demographic, the audio drivers suck big fat rectum, and the hamburger-scrolly-floating-button design philosophy is straight up garbage.
But there are so many missing QOL and presumably standard features on Android. On iOS, I get so lost in the loose ux standards that often end up bewildering me. I used procreate for like 8 hours today, and by the end, I had memorized a ton of really really bad designs. They work, and within the app, they’re… Mostly consistent. But I have this deep down rage for whoever made some of these decisions.
It’s entertaining, at the bare minimum, to see UX and UI slowly develop over the years, and neither OS (or Samsung’s OneUI) are perfect. It’s fascinating to see what the other camp is doing.
But yeah… Kids crying over having their ipad taken away? Shame.
Get them something better.
Like a desktop computer.
Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world 6 months ago
People when kids screech at a restaurant: ‘Must be shitty parents.’
People when kids run around at a restaurant: ‘Must be shitty parents.’
People when kids use an ipad at a restaurant: ‘Must be shitty parents.’
There’s no winning here. Children just aren’t allowed to exist.
We are the exception because we most definitely weren’t like that at all as a kid. /s
handsoffmydata@lemmy.zip 6 months ago
It’s when it’s A, B, then C with subway surfers on full blast for the rest of the meal then yeah the vibe sucks and I wish I wasn’t sitting near your kid.
ninjakttty@lemmy.world 6 months ago
I’m guessing it’s because the perception of people who don’t have kids have the thought “every time I’m in a restaurant I see kids on their parents phone/ipad so that must be what they do 24/7”, and I’m totally guilty of that too. Once I had a kid, I think me and my partner had a pretty good no screen time rule but when we wanted to go out to eat at a restaurant that rule was relaxed not just for us but for everyone else as well.
BCsven@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
#2 is shitty parenting. Kids running around a restaurant puts them and staff in dangerous situations with hot food and steak knives etc
Blackmist@feddit.uk 6 months ago
Baby shark do do dooodododoododo
Randomgal@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
Well chosen character, sorry if that’s you.
pjwestin@lemmy.world 6 months ago
App suggestions make it so hard to keep kids away from slop. I started out only letting my toddler watch PBS Kids programs and a few other educational programs, but then your kids start seeing suggestions for all sorts of shlock, and they want to see the show with the superhero kitties is (it’s called Super Kitties and it is garbage). God help you if you try to watch something on YouTube; every suggested video is either low-quality home movies of people playing with toys (which is like crack to toddlers or weird shit like this that absolutely shouldn’t be on YouTube Kids but often is anyway.
BackgrndNoize@lemmy.world 6 months ago
So them put some effort into acquiring good health media for your kid to watch and put that into the tablet and remove all other apps so they can only engage with content that has been pre veted by you, parenting takes effort
pjwestin@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Yeah, thanks, I’m not looking for notes.
Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 6 months ago
So don’t give a tablet then. Or if you do, don’t have Apps like that. Get an wifi only android tablet, install VLC and specific shows and games. Real games and real shows. Not short form shit or bs mobile “games”.
pjwestin@lemmy.world 6 months ago
I don’t give him a tablet, he only watches at home on TV (or a phone on very long car trips). I don’t know a toddler parent that has the time to download a curated media library for their kids, and even if you do have the time, things like that fall apart eventually. My wife and I managed to avoid most crap TV until we wound up in a hotel room with two dead phones and a fussy toddler, and that’s when we finally caved and put on Nick Jr. For a while, we managed to convince him that Paw Patrol was only available in hotels, but eventually he saw the thumbnail for it when we were trying to show him Dora the Explorer, and that beautiful lie finally died.
Knoxvomica@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
Set YouTube kid to only show selected channels. My kid is actually bored of youtube now.
pjwestin@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Holy shit, I did not know you could do that. That is going to be life changing.
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
Ted Ed, Vsauce, CGP Grey.
edgyspazkid@lemmy.wtf 6 months ago
zarathustra0@lemmy.world 6 months ago
You’re on lemmy. Such hypocrisy.
TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 months ago
Our future. Get used to it.
PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
It’s easy to judge from like 30 minutes in public, until you have an autistic kid and no support network.
I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Yes, before the existence of iPads, autistic children could do nothing except scream and seize on the floor. Yep. Thank God we have iPads now, there is literally no other way to handle autistic children.
PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
No, keep proudly displaying your ignorance. We’ve got time.
TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
Jesus Christ…
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
Before modern era, they used to do lobotomies and lock up kids that are neurodivergent
PiousAgnostic@lemmy.world 6 months ago
I mean, you’re kinda being a dick… it’s a better than my generations response to being autistic. Jesus lol, trust me.
RacerX@lemmy.zip 6 months ago
Thank you for saying this. I used to judge parents of kids on screens until I had my own. You never know what’s going on and there’s a chance that the 30 minutes of quiet that family is getting from the iPad is the only peace they’ve had all day.
socsa@piefed.social 6 months ago
I mean there's other things besides brain rot. Also people did raise kids prior to iPads.
Serpent@feddit.uk 6 months ago
Or it’s the only meal they’ve had out in a month and it coincided with a sleep regression or something.
I have friends without kids tell me how they would parent and what they don’t think is “good parenting” all the time. They have no clue…
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Me when a friend of mine who’s an engineer who sometimes works for the CERN unironically watches Mr. Beast and listens to Papa-a-pate (?, this nonsense k-pop song, it was popular some months ago…).
Like, yeah, you have the hardware, why fill your brain with malware! ;-;
SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Is he in the spectrum perhaps?
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Lol, no, he’s just a classic “work hard party hard” engineer lad! If any ladies here live in Barcelona and want a kind hearted, hardworking man to mould a bit, shoot me a DM. 😅
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 6 months ago
10/10 reference!
RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Malware for the brain. Best description of brainrot I’ve heard yet.
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
You watch skibidi toilet on a corporate-controlled spyware machine known as the “iPad”
I read the anarchist cookbook on my RISC-V PineTab
We are not the same.
SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world 6 months ago
And do you trust the people that fabricated your RISC-V cpu?
utopiah@lemmy.world 6 months ago
read … on my RISC-V PineTab
Because it’s not powerful enough to play a video. /s (sorry, just teasing)
PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
But you also watched new grounds and shit like goatse
WanderWisley@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Somewhere right now there is a iPad kid watching skibidi toilet that will one day be president.
SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
Somewhere right now there is a President watching skibidi toilet that will one day be dead.
GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 6 months ago
you jest. fox news would never stoop so low to play that garbage.
they stoop lower by playing fucker carlson, or other fascist talking heads.
Vespair@lemmy.zip 6 months ago
Bro I watch Loiter Squad by choice, who the fuck am I to judge?
laranis@lemmy.zip 6 months ago
And their parents allow them to blast the sound in public with no headphones. I can’t fathom the lack of give-a-fucks for their fellow humans (to include their own children).
krawutzikaputzi@slrpnk.net 6 months ago
Yes that’s kind of a pet peeve of mine. I understand that sleep deprived parents sometimes need to put their kids in front of their phones. But in recent years I have noticed that they just blast the sound really loud and don’t care about any other human being. I’m really shy but after almost freaking out on a train ride because of two different kids just watching something full volume I have asked parents to tone it down. They were even kind of embarrassed and nice about it. I have no idea how you can be so disconnected to your surrounding… The worst were grandparents with a 2 year old kid during a kids theater and they just let the kid watch a show with the volume up. I mean what about all the other kids who are performing and you sit in the middle with a phone just blasting full volume. They wanted to stop him and then he started throwing a tantrum. They just laughed and were like oh he’s so cute and we can’t to anything about it. Fuck that’s not cute, if you want to watch a tv show with volume, just sit outside of theater with your little brat!
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 6 months ago
i mean, if they were wearing headphones the kid’d still be blasting it. it saves the kid’s hearing at a minor social cost. tinnitus really sucks and if the parents have to take measures to prevent it, i’ll take being annoyed for a few minutes to keep someone else from getting tinnitus. it’s beyond a fair trade.
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
Set volume limit then? Lol
CaJoasca_Baloon@lemmy.zip 6 months ago
I find myself in awe on how this much of brainrot can be watched by a little kid every time I encounter that…
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
The fun thing is you pull even worse faces when the brainrot is taken away from them and now youre stuck in an enclosed space with a screaming toddler running away getting wrestled back, jostling against your chair while youre trying to eat.
Rooskie91@discuss.online 6 months ago
This is actually me when I’m in public and see someone judging a family based on exactly one frame of their lives.
I know a family with small kids who watch stuff like this on an iPad. One kid figured out how to get onto regular YouTube, and now watches tutorials to bypass parental controls. A true hacker in the making.
It’s been a nightmare for the parents tho, the kid figured out how to turn on all the game systems and plays stuff they’re not supposed to now lol.
Also, for anyone feeling high and mighty about the content from their childhood: youtu.be/EIyixC9NsLI
ebolapie@lemmy.world 6 months ago
I think the problem people generally have with cocomelon or w/e is that it’s hours and hours of content that is replacing stuff like Mr. Rogers and Sesame Street. It’s okay to watch trash and it’s okay to let your kids watch trash but there’s a responsible way to do it.
ArchmageAzor@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Don’t judge the kid, judge the parents. Parents who should not be parents prefer to make their kids less of a burden to them by handing them over to the overstimulation square
Raiderkev@lemmy.world 6 months ago
100% My kids have tablets. The only time they get them is on road trips and plane rides. Some parents we know bring them to restaurants, family gatherings, you name it. It’s fucking annoying. Make your kid socialize or they’re going to grow up weird AF.
PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
My child is autistic.
The only way to get him to be calm in a restaurant was to give him earphones and play something comfortingly familiar.Now that hes a bit older, it’s a bit better. But he still frequently needs something similar in those kinds of situations.
grrgyle@slrpnk.net 6 months ago
Yeah or they’re really introverted they’ll at least use their imagination to disassociate.
Like I used to look around and imagine little beings making their way around objects and walls. Or looking into the distance and imagining things farther away were right in front of me, but the same size — so now you’ve got a miniature waiter running around the table, trying to catch the little beings.
My ability to zone out probably masked a lot of brain problems, but it did also make me a champ at sitting in waiting rooms while having the time of my life.
Dozzi92@lemmy.world 6 months ago
When I was a kid, we’d get together with family and do our thing. Then we’d all eat a meal, and usually after the meal it was all right, everyone go do whatever you want, and the kids would usually go down the basement and play toys or video games, and adults sit around digesting, having some drinks, etc.
Fast forward to now, I’ll bring my kids tablets or whatever, and when the party is entering the food coma stage, I say do whatever you want, you’ve spent the last couple hours talking to people, or just existing around people who are 30-60 years older than you.
I feel like it always comes to this, but everything in moderation. I played a lot of Nintendo as a kid, and I grew up well adjusted (enough), and I don’t doubt my kids can do the same. For me, the whole tablet thing just stretches out the amount of time I get to hang. Kids get antsy. Shit, I get antsy and I’m an adult, but if letting them do whatever for 30-60m at the end of a party let’s me unwind with my family and friends, it’s fine.
MirthfulAlembic@lemmy.world 6 months ago
I was at a friends and family barbecue recently, and it just so happened none of the parents there brought tablets for their kids. It was just kids running around the backyard being kids. The parents generally let them do whatever but were attentive enough to prevent them climbing on the shed and stuff.
I can’t remember the last time there wasn’t some kid glued to a screen at that type of party. It was a joy to see.
salty_chief@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Parents use to say leave your toys at home. I guess parents need the virtual babysitter with them at all times.
python@lemmy.world 6 months ago
I’m not having kids, but this always feels like such a missed opportunity to let kids do something more mentally stimulating on that tablet.
Drawing apps and eBooks are right there! Hell, set up Termux and Acode up for them and let them program a bit (or like, I bet there’s a mobile version of Scratch they could use if they can’t read yet). Let them take photos and make little collages. Get them some music Synthesizer App so that they can tinker on their own little beats. Literally just show them that they have the tools to make something great instead of just shoveling in mindless content all day…CatLikeLemming@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 months ago
Those are harder than the dopamine of brainrot content though. I struggle with it myself. I know programming is far more rewarding in the long-term, yet I often end up browsing lemmy instead due to the immediate dopamine hit compared to the delayed one.
These kids won’t have any sense of self-control or understand why one is better for them than the other and the kind of parent that gives a child a tablet and just turns on YouTube does so because they don’t want to actually parent. So while this is decent advice for proper parents, these kinds of parents aren’t gonna do that, because it requires more work for them.
SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 months ago
If you block any of the unproductive apps, and allow only the productive ones, and give the kid “free” access to what they have on the iPad, they will tinker with what’s available
They might fuss around for a bit if they know there’s other stuff, but ultimately they can’t force your hand, and it should still be plenty fun to do the harder things
Jankatarch@lemmy.world 6 months ago
If I had termux with ghc as a child I would NOT stop studying math.
Jankatarch@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Turns out it holds for adulthood.
KSPAtlas@sopuli.xyz 6 months ago
“just one more monad, dad”
turtlesareneat@discuss.online 6 months ago
I am the donor for a lesbian couple. I’m pretty involved in my son’s life. I took him for his third haircut. Midway through, he was bored, and shooting me one of the angriest looks I’ve ever gotten from him. I took a pic and sent it to his mom.
“Oh god look how mad he is, give him your phone!”
What? He’s being quiet and learning how to be patient while a haircut happens. Some parents think reality is a BAD substitute for devices, it seems.
At least one night a week, he comes to my house and plays without any screens. We talk and explore the world.
mitch@piefed.mitch.science 6 months ago
Makes sense when even adults use phones as a means to escape even a moment of boredom. How many adults use their phones while driving? That's one of the most mentally stimulating things I can think of, and people get BORED.
Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 6 months ago
bet there’s a mobile version of Scratch they could use if they can’t read yet
And for older kids apple made a scratch-like game for teaching their Swift programming language!
Scratch also works entirely in the web browser
benjaminb@discuss.tchncs.de 6 months ago
Totally agree!
I see the problem more in the parents. First, that these kids can use the iPad so much and second, that they can just consume on it. Like you said: Create, build and explore. Use the iPad, not get used by the iPad.
SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 months ago
The thing that would scare me the most is that the parents don’t even know that such things are possible on their devices
Maybe my opinion of others is low, but I find it highly unbelievable most would even realize that something like programming is understandable, or tinkering around with music, or other stuff along those veins. Maybe drawing is still realistic them
But that would just go to show that there’s a lack of all of this in the first place, even for parents
But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Sometimes that iPad is there for you not the kids, try raising an autistic kid with unlimited energy, when you get them in a restaurant or bus, if the iPad is gonna keep him quiet and occupied, that means you don’t have to hear him complain. Kids aren’t robots, they’re people, and some have special needs and get overwhelmed in the fucked up world we made. If super kitties is gonna keep him relaxed for a bit so be it.
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 6 months ago
Hey, super kitties is quality content compared to YouTube. We have a YouTube ban in my house - the only exception is if it’s an actual show that can’t be found on streaming services.
The rest of this is spot on. We use iPads to keep our kids quiet in public places that are boring to them, like restaurants or planes.
We’ve all experienced an annoying kid in a restaurant, or a crying baby on the plane. It sucks, but usually that’s short lived. This post just seems like child-free snark/elitism signaling to me.
HybridSarcasm@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Thanks for this thoughtful and considerate response. As a parent myself, your kindness is so appreciated!
DmMacniel@feddit.org 6 months ago
Most often the iPad is not for the kids but for inattentive Parents that just want to doomscroll in peace and not deal with their offspring.
moakley@lemmy.world 6 months ago
You don’t know that it’s “most often”.
That’s just how you feel about it. You’re being judgmental but don’t have any idea.
Korne127@lemmy.world 6 months ago
I used to think exactly that and judge that heavily, but after my sister became a mother, we talked about this and she said essentially, that you don’t know them, you don’t know the day they’ve had and what they have done all day and what happened before. And that having a child is so hard that sometimes you just need to do things that are maybe not optimal, like giving them coke or letting them be on an iPad in public to avoid another hour of screaming, but that doesn’t mean they are not doing super much before. Because everybody has a breaking point and you cannot be perfect, but you don’t know the arguments or deals or time spent earlier, and sometimes it’s necessary to also keep care of yourself and relax a bit when you’re done.
buzz86us@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Parking them in front of YouTube kids isn’t the right idea though… The content they show is just ridiculous.
TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world 6 months ago
My colleague is real nice and all, but exactly why she gives iPad/phone to her toddler is exactly for the reason you mentioned. A lot of parents are lazy. And we wonder why the younger generation is turning right, because techno-fascists know how glued we are now to digital devices.
nevemsenki@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Meh, back in the days we’d watch youtubepoop videos and whatnot. Nonsense you like os funny, nonsense you don’t is brainrot.
kameecoding@lemmy.world 6 months ago
back in the day
Mofo how old are you, I am 33 and back in the day we didn’t have youtube, we went out and played football.
krawutzikaputzi@slrpnk.net 6 months ago
Am about your age and was thinking the same! I was an adult when YouTube was widely known.
nevemsenki@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Old enough to know I’m way into the B side of my cassette,sadly.
Eq0@literature.cafe 6 months ago
Quantity is an important factor. A half hour a day of brainrot isn’t a big problem, constant brainrot during all your free time is going to impact your concentration abilities, your mental image of the world, your ability to build meaningful logical connections and so many other mental development elements.
slaacaa@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Exactly. We gathered together around my friend’s monitor, and laughed at FreddyW videos for 10 minutes, the continued our board game / rpg session.
Compare this to how some kids are watching mind numbing shit whole day on their personal screens. Very diffrent effect
ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
Good god this hits home
Months ago I was visited by a relative who brought their eight year old. She’s single and her boy is ever so slightly mentally not there. He’s smart enough but just not there with everything. Plus the mother is not capable of looking after him. So many wrong things and I hate to judge anything about it … both mother and son are having and will continue to have a hard life.
As we talked, the son spent the entire time with their device looking at YouTube videos.
At one point I wanted to try to make friends and asked him what he was watching … he mumbled and ignored me. I looked over at his video and it was just a completely nonsensical animation of characters running around like in a video game … I couldn’t understand what was happening or why, the cartoon animals were just mumbling nonsense, laughing, running and flashing lights and constant cuts to new scene after new scene. I looked at the kid and he was two steps away from just drooling.
I couldn’t believe it and it scared me. This device was melting any amount of brain power the kid had.
It made me think about myself and what the hell I was doing with my time.
It made me think that the world is all doing the same thing to one degree or another. Some are better, since are terribly worse.
It made me think that humanity is doomed.
kruhmaster@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
three@lemmy.zip 6 months ago
This look is solely for the parents.
roguetrick@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Learn to shitpost kid.
hzl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 months ago
Imagine portraying Homelander judging anything as an argument for agreeing with him.
DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 6 months ago
Have you considered that that self awareness might be a level to the meme you didn’t recognize?
No. You didn’t. Because you’re the REAL Homelander! /S