DeathByBigSad
@DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works
- Comment on I sometimes can't sleep at night. Perhaps my brain's "CMOS Chip" battery ran out and my circadian rhythm defaulted to my "factory settings" of Beijing Time (UTC +8), which would explain my insomnia. 4 days ago:
kinky 🤤
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- Comment on Do you ever feel like your life is "scripted"? Like everything is written by some entity controlling your life? Like you live in a fictional universe? Is this feeling normal/common? 4 days ago:
Shit… which telephone do I use to exit the simulation?
ALL THE PAYPHONES ARE GONE!
- Comment on How customer service jobs be 4 days ago:
isn’t that just 2 potatoes?
- Comment on If you are a refugee, you will be turned away by both close allies and the most hostile adversaries of your home country. 4 days ago:
Yeah that, imperialism
Although, in my case (China) it really more of the imperialism of the british and the japanese. WW2 japanese invasion really fucked up my homeland. Wonder how advanced and democraric China could be had that never happened. I mean we just overthrew the monarchy and was on the path of republicanism… them… you know… everything changed when the fire nation attacked
- Comment on Do you ever feel like your life is "scripted"? Like everything is written by some entity controlling your life? Like you live in a fictional universe? Is this feeling normal/common? 4 days ago:
something’s finally going right it immediately gets undercut and everything falls apart
This is so me 💀
Life is going a bit smoothly? Boom bullying, difficult assignment, test, shitty teacher, parents lash out, political problems, oops chemical spill leaked into your city’s water supply (actually happened), a FUCKING PLANE CRASHED within a 10 mile radius of me, fire on your street, random dude crashing into parked cars on your street (wtf), a fucking global pandemic, civil unrest, suppression of protests, insurrection/coup attempt… etc… etc…
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- Comment on Do you ever feel like your life is "scripted"? Like everything is written by some entity controlling your life? Like you live in a fictional universe? Is this feeling normal/common? 4 days ago:
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- Comment on Do you ever feel like your life is "scripted"? Like everything is written by some entity controlling your life? Like you live in a fictional universe? Is this feeling normal/common? 4 days ago:
I watch scenes in Movie/TV where a character has a traumatic childhood and memory/flacshback scene, then I realize I have the same feel, so I feel like someone staged it, like my older brother is actually an actor in this dark version of truman show purposfully giving me that traumatic memory.
- Comment on Do you ever feel like your life is "scripted"? Like everything is written by some entity controlling your life? Like you live in a fictional universe? Is this feeling normal/common? 4 days ago:
I predicted someone would make a brand new accoint after the timestamp of my original post just to comment on the thread lol 🤔
Universe, are you trolling me?
- Comment on 6🤷♀️7 4 days ago:
I vote for 碌柒 (67) Rule
- Comment on Do you ever feel like your life is "scripted"? Like everything is written by some entity controlling your life? Like you live in a fictional universe? Is this feeling normal/common? 4 days ago:
I thought it said Lotus of Control and I was 'bout to grab a flamethrower ready to burn some flower down.
- Comment on Do you ever feel like your life is "scripted"? Like everything is written by some entity controlling your life? Like you live in a fictional universe? Is this feeling normal/common? 4 days ago:
Part of it.
But even if they were good parents, I’d still feel like its scripted because of other factors.
Because my “backstory” (I mean might as well use this word since I’m talking as if this is a simulated world), in general, is so fucking bizzare it doesn’t feel real.
- Submitted 4 days ago to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world | 58 comments
- Comment on Big Brother Is Watching Your Online Criticism of ICE Crackdowns 4 days ago:
You have the same mindset of an average American. “Not my country, I don’t care if people die there”
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I get the feel that OP just spend time in social circles with a lot of racists.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 days ago:
Your average white dude got so used to rural alabama that suddenly seeing minorities being depicted on TV triggers their tribalistic mindset, especially if the setting is depicted as the United States.
- Comment on Trains cancelled over fake bridge collapse image 5 days ago:
How high is your proposed number?
Why is Big = Bad?
Proton have over 100 million users.
Do we fine Proton AG for a bunch of shitheads abusing their platform and sending malicious email? How do they detect it if its encrypted? Force them to backdoor the encryption?
- Comment on Are people with High functioning autism allowed to become police officers? 5 days ago:
Well-Regulated Militias under the supervision of the community
- Comment on Trains cancelled over fake bridge collapse image 5 days ago:
Disagree. Without Section 230 (or equivalent laws of their respective jurisdictions) your Fediverse instance would be forced to moderate even harder in fear of legal action.
It’s a threat to free speech.
- Comment on Why don't compasses have just two Cardinal directions (North, East, -North, -East)? 5 days ago:
On the other hand, 8000+ characters seems kinda fun…
握草泥马币
hint
The joke is “wo cao ni ma bi”, change the tones and you got 我操你妈逼 🤭
- Comment on Are people with High functioning autism allowed to become police officers? 6 days ago:
An undercover black cop got beaten by his fellow white cops…
I also remember a Chinese American cop in NYC who’s gun accidentally discharged and the bullet ricocheted off a wall and hit a suspect and the suspect died, and immediately, the department threw him under the bus to say “oh we hold our officers accountable”, while simultaneously defending white cops who murders with intent. They will use you as a scapegoat. They will blame you for every mistake. I still remember my parents talking about that. Like everyone was talking about it on WeChat.
People that are neurodivergent are gonna get discriminated by them, don’t do it.
- Comment on Why don't compasses have just two Cardinal directions (North, East, -North, -East)? 6 days ago:
Your new username is -South -East Wind lmao
- Comment on ICE 6 days ago:
I know these signs might not seems like a lot, but as a 1.5-Gen immigrant that have lived here for most of my life, seeing these “immigrants are welcome” signs in the streets is a huge relief… it reminds me that I still have allies, that not everyone here is that hateful… it gives me hope…
- Comment on AI Slop Is Ruining Reddit for Everyone 6 days ago:
Right now I don’t have a reddit account and I just lurk there, but if I really wanted to talk about, say, a specific TV show I like, or a Movie, or Anime, or a Book… that would not exist on the fediverse. It’s either just Reddit or maybe Discord.
If I wanna talk about stuff from a non-white perspective, the best place I’d really find my people outside the great firewall is Reddit.
I mean I the amount of Cantonese-speakers on Lemmy is like… single-digits
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- Comment on How much money's out there? 1 week ago:
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- Comment on Getting too expensive 1 week ago:
I mean, I’m not alone, I read a lot of users on reddit Asian communities that also said their parents “joked” about the same thing. I think its some weird cultural thing… Asians, I’m talking about Chinese specifically, tend to just be blunt about everything and joke about everything, like… if you watch enough media (which, I know, is not an accurate representation of life), you notice the differents in how people talk differently.
My extended family members (they’re from Hong Kong, we’re from Mainland) is also very blunt about things, so its not exactly unique to my parents. Like… I have no idea what a western family dynamic is really like… but from what I can gather on watching TV and movies, there’s like a different “vibe” to it.
It’s seen as toxic in a western family, but in a Chinese family, that’s just a harmless joke.
My mom also called me “肥仔“ (“fatty”?) which… by the tone of her voice, it’s supposed to be endearing in a way… like how you call a big/overweight cat a “chonker”, but its gets annoying after a while since that’s not exactly positive attribute since like she’s just say I’m fat and need to lose weight like every so often… apparantly this is a normal thing… in the Asian “overton window” of parenting.
My mom also joked and called me “二公子” (second son [of a noble]) as if we are nobility or something, like I think that’s implying that I’m too “needy” like a spoiled child or something… she said it with a positive tone as if its supposed to be endearing… but it feels kinda passive aggressive and sarcastic… like didn’t they give me a name (well actually I think that’s the paternal grandparents that had the most say in choosing our names), like I have a name, a legal name passed down by my ancestors… that just doesn’t exist? lmao… literally just one syllable (first character/syllable of the name can be omitted since my brother shame the same character), its literally easier to use my actual name than these weird joke nicknames that, I dont exactly hate per se, like I don’t feel offended or like sad, but its very annoying is what I mean.
I think sometime during my teenage years, I just started “rebeling” and called my parents by their real names… and that’s like a big no-no in Chinese culture, you are never supposed to use their real names, you are only supposed to call older relative by their relationship to you. So you can’t call an older brother by their name, but they can call you by your name…
I hated it.
So I just started using “死■” to refer to my older brother ([character for death] + [the last character of his given name, which I’ll redact for privacy reasons]). I did that ever since I was a kid and learned the death character. We fought a lot.
Wall of Text on Chinese names
For context: Chinese name are like (I’m gonna use English letters in place of the actual characters, like pretend this is algebra or soemthing): So, your name looks something like: Say: The letter F represents your family name, your brother would have ZA as their name, then you’d have ZB, both of you share the Z character, so you just refer to them by their other character that’s unique to yourself. Your father would have like XW for their name. So im summary, your father would have the characters FXW, your brother would have FZA, you’d have FZB, also the AB characters can actually form one word together. So using 死 and their Chinese character that is in this example represented by the letter A, is how my older brother and I just curse at each other, by insulting the name. Anyways, enough rambling about Chinese Names
As I got older, I even started calling my parents by their names, I mean… never use the death character on my parents, but I did just call them by their given names, sometimes their full names. At first, they got mad (they were also unhappy about me calling my older brother by his name, but this is next level of “crossing the line”), but then I just use the “This is 'Murica” excuse, and I read on the news that white kids call their parents on first name basis anyways, so I just kept doing that and they kinda just accepted it.
I don’t do that all the time, but when I really wanna piss them off, I’ll use their real names. xD, fuck tradition
