Has this ever happened to you?

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• arin@lemmy.world ⁨58⁩ ⁨seconds⁩ ago

  I’m open to a threesome. Op failed

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• sundray@lemmus.org ⁨28⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

  “Can I bring a friend?”

  “Um, I’d rather they stayed home. And well, I didn’t want to say anything earlier, but I kind of wanted to stay home, too. You have fun though!”

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• uzay@infosec.pub ⁨24⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

  What an a🍑

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• Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  If you bring a friend, they better be down for a 3 way if things go well.

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  • Triumph@fedia.io ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    This tracks.

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• axexrx@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I get it, I absolutely respect someone wanting to be safe, but i think it would also absolutely ruin the date for me. I just can’t really interact the same way in a group as I do one on one. Either that, or I’d end upv mirroring both of them simultaneously and it would end up in a throuple.

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  • Beacon@fedia.io ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I respect it, but i don't get it, and it would be a complete deal breaker for me. What do you think a person on a date in a public place is gonna do to you? You're both in a room full of people.

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  • FelixCress@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    throuple

    Threesome. Corrected for you.

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• aeronmelon@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  This is very common in Asia. The first few (not) dates they bring friends and you can too. Eventually, she gives an indication that she wants to do something alone with you and that’s when the real dates begin.

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  • bizarroland@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    You make a good point, but considering that the conversation is in English I don’t think you’d be too far out of the pale to assume that this is not in Asia, and in most English-speaking countries it’s not common to go on group dates before going on individual dates.

    It does happen, and quite a bit, but not to the point where it’s common, I would say it’s at the very most uncommon.

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  • original_reader@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    This is the way.

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• ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com ⁨50⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

  I’d be up for a few dates where the girl brings her friends, as long as she makes it clear beforehand that they’re coming. But not a last minute “by the way, my friends are coming.”

  I don’t mind meeting more new people.

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• jumbodumbo@lemmynsfw.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  So much context missing to tell if the guy did good or not. He could be being a prick or just standing up for himself. In any case, this is definitely100% both fake but plus moreover besides also gay.

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• krooklochurm@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I’m cool with someone deciding to do this.

  I mean, I’ll decide not to go on the date, but that you do you.

  Your lack of ability to judge my character leading up to the date, and the general sense of paranoia leading to a decision like this, aren’t qualities I’m looking for in a partner.

  Neither is starting things from a place of outright suspicion. Like. I’m not judging. I just have zero interest.

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  • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Neither is starting things from a place of outright suspicion.

    I would understand it if they are going to someplace private, like the apartment or a dark alley at midnight, but who the hell goes to those places on a first date? I’m not freaking out about a guy asking me to a coffee date at 1000 hours in the middle of a city on a saturday.

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    • krooklochurm@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Amen

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• SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Hopefully that lady has enough self respect to tell that boy to go fuck himself.

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  • 50_centavos@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    They were trying to get free meals out of the guy. Fuck them, actually. Bums.

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    • Bahnd@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

      I dont mind that, so long as the food is cheap.

      My personal limit for that is ~20$, anything less than that and within reason, I wont question buying anyone food. Calories are important and im not going to judge people that quickly, have a pizza.

      I prefer to have that meal repaid in the future with an IOU or another meal rather dealing with money, also the social connections are more important.

      On the flip side, if I never see that person again. 20$ well spent.

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  • webghost0101@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Gendernormative assumption of gender?

    SatansMaggotyCumFart i have seen you before and i do expect better of you.

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    • balsoft@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I don’t think “safety friends” are typical in lesbian circles, because of the implication

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    • generichate1546@lemmynsfw.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Satansmaggotycumfart is correct…hopefully she sees that response as the red flag that it is.

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  • sexy_peach@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    They did nothing though?

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    • SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      They told the lady who they were with that last message now it's up to her to listen.

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• shalafi@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Fuck all that. If you’re too afraid to meet a strange man in a public place, that’s on you, and god only knows what other unreasonable fears you have.

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  • neatchee@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Tell me you have no concept of the day to day experience of women without telling me you have no concept of the day to day experience of women, speed run edition

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    • bizarroland@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      Women are not fragile helpless creatures.

      Going to a public place on a date is not something that you need to bring the whole crew for.

      The way that he, (I’m assuming he), stated his response is inflammatory, but I agree with the concept behind it.

      I cannot envision a path towards a healthy relationship that starts off with that much distrust, and if that were presented to me, I would assume that the two girls have conspired together to get free meals out of a simp rather than to actually start a relationship.

      So that would be why it’s a no-go for me.

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• Donkter@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Doubling down on not paying for her food when there was no indication that he was expected to was definitely strange. It’s a perfectly fine thing to be uncomfortable with, don’t try and force the fault on her.

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  • Fiivemacs@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    not paying for the random 3rd wheels food… yeah, triple down on it. make it VERY clear you aren’t paying for someone whom you aren’t wanting to actually meet or invited in the first place.

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• b_tr3e@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  As a guy, lyou’d be a total idiot to agree. Single guy on a date with two girls is definitely going to make a fool out of himself and have a terrible evening. Call me sexist, blame social whatnotever for it but it’s as sure as the night is dark. These two have known each other and longer than you so you’re the outsider and there’s that unspoken, inevirtable rivality between you and her best friend. No fucking change. BTW, I’d wonder what people might say if gender roles were reversed here. Lol… “I gotta bring my buddy. For safety.”

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• fartographer@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  apeach

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• Sanctus@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  If you think this is weird you probably shouldn’t date. You’re gonna see their friends at some point and it might as well be before you give too many fucks.

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• Sibshops@lemmy.myserv.one ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I’d agree easily. I’d even pay. Especially if her friend is single too. Doubles the odds and probably more fun conversation.

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