Well yeah, but bringing an extra for a dinner date is weird. I’ve brought extra people along to meet the person I’ll be eating with and confirm my location. Having an extra person suddenly in the date dynamic kills the dynamic.
Then just say no and don’t go in a date with her. If her safety is such a big inconvenience for you, it’s not a good match.
It’s ONE date. They are just trying to make sure you are not a rapist. I’d say they are likely to leave as soon as things look like they are going smoothly. Next date she shouldn’t be there. If she is invited again then don’t go. If on a second date she is still not sure if you are dangerous but wants to go out anyway, something might be wrong
ScientifficDoggo@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
I think the implied weirdness is that, if you’re scared, why even agree to the date in the first place?
notarobot@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
I do not know if you noticed, but people want to date. She probably want to go AND be safe.
ScientifficDoggo@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
Well yeah, but bringing an extra for a dinner date is weird. I’ve brought extra people along to meet the person I’ll be eating with and confirm my location. Having an extra person suddenly in the date dynamic kills the dynamic.
notarobot@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
Then just say no and don’t go in a date with her. If her safety is such a big inconvenience for you, it’s not a good match.
It’s ONE date. They are just trying to make sure you are not a rapist. I’d say they are likely to leave as soon as things look like they are going smoothly. Next date she shouldn’t be there. If she is invited again then don’t go. If on a second date she is still not sure if you are dangerous but wants to go out anyway, something might be wrong