TheDoozer

@TheDoozer@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The type of southern hospitality you receive depends on your skin color.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  It was more of a more immediate example. You can not give a fuck about people’s gender, orientation, or whatever, but ignoring the government and people doing the equivalent of beating them in the streets (e.g. denying them access to medical services, sending them to torture conversion camps, cops beating and/or murdering them) is like walking by while they are getting beat up on the street because you don’t give a fuck and it’s not your fight.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The type of southern hospitality you receive depends on your skin color.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Hey, man, I agree on about 90% of that. I want to not give a shit about people’s genders, sexuality, race, whatever. And for the most part, I don’t.

  But if I saw someone I didn’t know getting the shit kicked out of them on the street, I don’t think I can say “I don’t give a fuck.” And in some form or another, the equivalent is happening to people of particular genders, sexuality, race, whatever. So I may not give a fuck about any individuals gender, sex, race, whatever, but I do care that those people are being shit on.

  So if you’re the type who walks by while somebody gets beat up, you may be able to tell youself you’re better than the people offering up a beating by not giving a fuck, but not the person who comes by afterward to try to stop it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is something you like to tell people?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I have never thought dropping a cast iron held concern for the skillet, but whatever inevitably stopped its fall.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  One side it trying to force them to choose a side. It is up to adults to say “this is between us, and our relationship doesn’t change your relationships.”

  OP could be very supportive of their mother and still not want to move out of the home they already lived in. But it doesn’t sound like the mom wants to let OP do that.

  Also, from their other comments, their father has been more supportive through their life while their mom has been cold and judgemental. Trying to force her child into a position whete they are expected to mete out judgement as well just emphasizes that they aren’t terribly concerned with the well-being of their child.

  And anyway, if you want support, you should give support. And OPs mom missed that boat, so it makes sense for OP to stay with the parent who supported them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Startup Hack!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  We do what we must

  Because… we can.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So close!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s not soup if they discard the water after cooking, leaving only the vegetables.

  So… boiled vegetables. That’s still already a thing. Not a particularly good thing (to my tastes), but been a thing for a long time.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Don't Look Up⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s fish.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I feel attacked⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t know, running for a lot of us is just having our bodies start breaking down and want to avert that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨IT’S THE FEDS!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  sllllurrrrrrrrrrrrrrpppp

  exaggerated: Aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'd choose 4 tbh⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  2 (as long as that means I can’t go past my current weight, not that every time I poop, sweat, or pee I lose weight I can never regain) 5… and I guess 9. I’m doing okay, and I’ve never had a strong need for “a lot of money.”

  5 isn’t even because I want to have super strength, it’s more to be able to compensate for my jacked up joints and being overweight.

  I would trade any of the three of these for “cure my sleep apnea” though.

  1 sounds tempting, as long as it’s just the insulation, you know? I don’t know a whole lot about biology, but I feel like if you immediately removed all fats from your body, your cells would just die (all the lipids disappearing). But if you could remove all the fat listed in the “body fat percentage” and made it so I could still get some fats quickly (for a healthy amount), I’d take that over 2. Once it’s there, it makes it so hard to get rid of, but I feel like if it was gone in one go, I could keep it off.

  Wow, my decisions for “magic pills” would be kind of depressing to 20-year-old me. At least with the exception of my health I’m reasonably content.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'd choose 4 tbh⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It says you can’t gain weight. I’m already overweight, and about max for what I can be to keep my job (military) and not totally break down. So if “can’t gain weight” means this is my max weight and no matter what I do I can’t go past it, that makes a comfortable hard stop for future efforts toward dieting.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A 19-year old cis lesbian woman was beaten unconscious and robbed after she tried to use the women's restroom at a McDonald's in Carpentersville, Illinois⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I thoight those types just move to South Africa?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So which one?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  C, I call it the Jethro Tull.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK that in 16 States in the USA has banned Ranked-Choice voting, including 5 that has just banned it in 2025, and 6 of those bans happened in 2024.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I feel like it can kind of be confusing to understand how the process works for it.

  But it is not even remotely confusing as to what you do. Choose, from most to least, who you want. It’s that simple. You want to get into how those votes are tallied, do a little dive, there’s plenty of videos very simply explaining it. If you don’t, and just want to be able to go vote? Just go vote. If even ranking them is too complicated because you have a worm in your brain, just choose one and ignore everything else.

  It might be complicated to tally, but it is not complicated to do. It’s just people being duped by the Big 2 parties to not want choices.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK that in 16 States in the USA has banned Ranked-Choice voting, including 5 that has just banned it in 2025, and 6 of those bans happened in 2024.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  There was a STRONG effort to ban (or at least end) RCV here in Alaska, and it failed, but barely. They even did the super misleading wording, too, in order to make it unclear if the measure banned RCV or supported it.

  I was always so confused by the adamant support that was being shown by general people, though. Like, I get why both Dems and Republicans would be against it: they want to be the only two players in the game. But why any general people would want less choice is beyond me. And it’s funny, because the staunchest proponents (at least where I am) were conservatives, when (again, where I live) RCV basically drove out the Democrats. There were Progressives, there were “centrists,” there were Libertarians, and then there was Republican/MAGA. Dems didn’t even get enough support to be on the ballot. So their hated Libs were wiped off the board entirely for being so ill-liked, but they want to get rid of that system? I just don’t get it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Don't ask for more pixels⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean, yeah, I can very competently clean out a shithouse as well as I can competently fix a helicopter. I probably won’t be exceptional at either one (though I absolutely kill it on written tests, I guess).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Don't ask for more pixels⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s similar with the ASVAB (multisection test for determing qualification for military service). I scored the highest score available, a 99, because it seemed in each section they moved on once they established competence.

  The few people who saw my score (I don’t go around telling people) have asked if I was super smart or something (the recruiter called me “professor” and asked if I had a Masters), and I said no, I am just competent at anything I could do in the military. I’m honestly not excellent at any particular thing, and in any given task I’m unlikely to be the best one there for it. But I’m capable of doing any task adequately. As my old trombone instructor used to say, I’m a “jack of all trades, master of none.”

  But the test doesn’t care if you’re amazing at anything. It just wants to see if you’re capable of doing anything.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The gender pay gap is at average 15% in North America. When shopping though, items that are marketed for Men or Women specifically seem to be on average priced the same.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve had this discussion quite a bit, and it’s tough to break the 77 cents on the dollar and whatnot rhetoric, because those people are convinced that a man and a woman doing the same job with equal experience, the woman just automatically makes on average 23% less than a man. And it’s easy to prove that wrong, and entirely misses the point.

  Two of the biggest factors in fixing the “gender pay gap” is longer maternity leave, similar lengths of paternity leave, and low-cost or free daycare. And then obviously, a cultural change for stay-at-home dads (though not exactly something you can legislate). I also read a study (I believe from Farleigh Dickinson University, in 2002, though I have had trouble finding it since) that the vast majority of men, after having a child, wanted to go back to full time work, and the majority (though not as large) if women wanted to either work part-time or stay at home. Now, I imagine a lot has changed in 23 years, so maybe that mentality has changed, but if all else is fixed and there is a “pay gap” based on choice like that… that’s not a problem that needs to be solved.

  So to recap, we need to stop talking about cents on the dollar and start talking about making rejoining the workforce more available and appealing after having babies, and giving dads more time with their kids to let their wives work.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i broke⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I had to self-teach myself that once I hit adulthood. Things like “if left to pay a bill at some specified time (not immediately), I will fail. So all bills go on autopay.” It’s burned me a few times, but not nearly as often as constantly being burned with late fees and such.

  Also, when my wife met me, she met someone who led a Spartan existence, with all my no-furniture belongings fitting in a piece of luggage. She thought it was preference, and completely blew off me constantly complaining about clutter and mess in the house. Once I explained (ten years in) that I can’t have many things without it becoming a huge unmitigated mess (like having “pathways” through the clutter), so having a whole lot of stuff is shitting on my coping mechanisms and stressing me out, making me constantly uncomfortable in my own home. She understood, and stopped giving me shit for it… not that it changed the clutter, but at least when i complain I don’t get hand-waved, I get an apology. Which is something, I guess (until I snap and the dumpster and donation center get a ton of bags).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨doctors⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve had almost exclusively military doctors for nearly two decades, and I can tell you they aren’t trying to respect your feelings (not that they’re dicks). If your tests come back with high cholesterol, they aren’t jumping to Lipitor or some shit, they’ll refer you to a nutritionist and tell you to exercise more. They have no problems telling you that your health troubles come from that weight crushing your organs and joints.

  And that’s as a person in the military, who has to maintain a certain level if fitness to keep my job.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do children address a non-binary parent?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Show some respect.

  It’s a convenience store/deli/sometimes gas station, and it has the best Thanksgiving sandwich you can order, pay for, and pick up without a single word to a human (and usually in less than 5 minutes).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Better have done his homework⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Seriously, a really popular show out now is Bob’s Burgers, about a family who owns a burger restaurant and he absolutely loves making great burgers. And they’re white.

  The idea is if it’s a small, family run restaurant, there’s a good chance those recipes are family recipes. So it’s gonna be good.

  Also, I understood the homework thing to be about his age , not about his race. I might be wrong, though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anting⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’d be sweeter if I had a house and could arrange a spot to do it reliably.

  My wife and I are buying a house, and one of the main things she’s planning is The Unkindness Sanctuary, since there are a ton of ravens in our area.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are some good examples of "Where the fuck do you go" kind of games?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is an extremely specific situation in a game, but…

  In World of Warcraft, back in the day, there was a dungeon in Outland, I believe it was Helfire Citadel. It wasn’t particularly hard, but if you died, you were screwed. The way dungeon deaths worked was your spirit would spawn in a graveyard out in the regular world, and you would have to run your spirit ass back to the dungeon entrance to respawn. But finding the entrance to Helfire Citadel was so difficult I told the group if they don’t rez me, they’d have to just kick me, because I’d never make it back in. It was awful.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If I snapped you back in time 650 years right this very second, how would you use your current knowledge to succeed?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, I’m in America, so…

  I guess I’d prep the natives to help put up a proper fight. Find a way to teach them that white people (like myself) carry diseases and to stay away and keep them away. If they land on your shores, drive them back. Never let them get a foothold. I’d try to convince them that I was a demon that got away from the other demons to warn of our coming.

  I’d do my best to make it so nobody remembered the name Christopher Columbus except as the idiot that died because he thought the world was much smaller than it is and never returned from his voyage.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm so vegan I could eat a burger and still be a vegan⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I am convinced that vegans today will be like we look at abolitionists like Alexander Hamilton back during the 18th century. People will be horrified that we treated animals so abysmally for convenience, and some will say it was a normal and accepted practice, and people didn’t realize how horrible it was, and others will point to the vegans of today.

  Thoughts like those make me a little more understanding of people like George Washington. He recognized it was bad, tried to mitigate it, but still perpetuated the practice. Just like I switched to Impossible Beef and chicken, do my best to buy local family eggs, but buy cheese and milk and ice cream from big name companies like Tillamook and Ben & Jerry’s.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is there steam coming out of the streets in New York⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  90s Dominos was trash. Even Dominos recognized old Dominos was trash.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are most people here left-wing?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you for this. It seems more in keeping with the original idea of the US, a federation of states.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are most people here left-wing?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Can you give some examples of how that works? Like, who pays for roads, who handles environmental regulations (or are there any), who establishes education standards (or are there any), etc. I’m not trying to argue, it just seems like on the internet people referring to “state authoritarianism” and “central government tyranny” ranges from “adults can’t be transgender” to “I have to pay taxes and the government won’t let me own slaves.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨frenly warnin⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This reminds me of an anecdote talking about language differences between the US armed services:

  If you told a Marine to secure a building, they would kick the door in and take control of the building.

  If you told a soldier in the Army to secure a building, they would set up a fence around it and establish a sentry.

  If you told a Navy sailor to secure a building, they’d turn off all the lights and close and lock the door on their way out.

  If you told an Airforce airman to secure a building, they would write up a purchasing contract.