TheDoozer

@TheDoozer@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Don't ask for more pixels⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean, yeah, I can very competently clean out a shithouse as well as I can competently fix a helicopter. I probably won’t be exceptional at either one (though I absolutely kill it on written tests, I guess).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Don't ask for more pixels⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s similar with the ASVAB (multisection test for determing qualification for military service). I scored the highest score available, a 99, because it seemed in each section they moved on once they established competence.

  The few people who saw my score (I don’t go around telling people) have asked if I was super smart or something (the recruiter called me “professor” and asked if I had a Masters), and I said no, I am just competent at anything I could do in the military. I’m honestly not excellent at any particular thing, and in any given task I’m unlikely to be the best one there for it. But I’m capable of doing any task adequately. As my old trombone instructor used to say, I’m a “jack of all trades, master of none.”

  But the test doesn’t care if you’re amazing at anything. It just wants to see if you’re capable of doing anything.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The gender pay gap is at average 15% in North America. When shopping though, items that are marketed for Men or Women specifically seem to be on average priced the same.⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve had this discussion quite a bit, and it’s tough to break the 77 cents on the dollar and whatnot rhetoric, because those people are convinced that a man and a woman doing the same job with equal experience, the woman just automatically makes on average 23% less than a man. And it’s easy to prove that wrong, and entirely misses the point.

  Two of the biggest factors in fixing the “gender pay gap” is longer maternity leave, similar lengths of paternity leave, and low-cost or free daycare. And then obviously, a cultural change for stay-at-home dads (though not exactly something you can legislate). I also read a study (I believe from Farleigh Dickinson University, in 2002, though I have had trouble finding it since) that the vast majority of men, after having a child, wanted to go back to full time work, and the majority (though not as large) if women wanted to either work part-time or stay at home. Now, I imagine a lot has changed in 23 years, so maybe that mentality has changed, but if all else is fixed and there is a “pay gap” based on choice like that… that’s not a problem that needs to be solved.

  So to recap, we need to stop talking about cents on the dollar and start talking about making rejoining the workforce more available and appealing after having babies, and giving dads more time with their kids to let their wives work.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i broke⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I had to self-teach myself that once I hit adulthood. Things like “if left to pay a bill at some specified time (not immediately), I will fail. So all bills go on autopay.” It’s burned me a few times, but not nearly as often as constantly being burned with late fees and such.

  Also, when my wife met me, she met someone who led a Spartan existence, with all my no-furniture belongings fitting in a piece of luggage. She thought it was preference, and completely blew off me constantly complaining about clutter and mess in the house. Once I explained (ten years in) that I can’t have many things without it becoming a huge unmitigated mess (like having “pathways” through the clutter), so having a whole lot of stuff is shitting on my coping mechanisms and stressing me out, making me constantly uncomfortable in my own home. She understood, and stopped giving me shit for it… not that it changed the clutter, but at least when i complain I don’t get hand-waved, I get an apology. Which is something, I guess (until I snap and the dumpster and donation center get a ton of bags).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨doctors⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve had almost exclusively military doctors for nearly two decades, and I can tell you they aren’t trying to respect your feelings (not that they’re dicks). If your tests come back with high cholesterol, they aren’t jumping to Lipitor or some shit, they’ll refer you to a nutritionist and tell you to exercise more. They have no problems telling you that your health troubles come from that weight crushing your organs and joints.

  And that’s as a person in the military, who has to maintain a certain level if fitness to keep my job.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do children address a non-binary parent?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Show some respect.

  It’s a convenience store/deli/sometimes gas station, and it has the best Thanksgiving sandwich you can order, pay for, and pick up without a single word to a human (and usually in less than 5 minutes).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Better have done his homework⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Seriously, a really popular show out now is Bob’s Burgers, about a family who owns a burger restaurant and he absolutely loves making great burgers. And they’re white.

  The idea is if it’s a small, family run restaurant, there’s a good chance those recipes are family recipes. So it’s gonna be good.

  Also, I understood the homework thing to be about his age , not about his race. I might be wrong, though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anting⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’d be sweeter if I had a house and could arrange a spot to do it reliably.

  My wife and I are buying a house, and one of the main things she’s planning is The Unkindness Sanctuary, since there are a ton of ravens in our area.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are some good examples of "Where the fuck do you go" kind of games?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is an extremely specific situation in a game, but…

  In World of Warcraft, back in the day, there was a dungeon in Outland, I believe it was Helfire Citadel. It wasn’t particularly hard, but if you died, you were screwed. The way dungeon deaths worked was your spirit would spawn in a graveyard out in the regular world, and you would have to run your spirit ass back to the dungeon entrance to respawn. But finding the entrance to Helfire Citadel was so difficult I told the group if they don’t rez me, they’d have to just kick me, because I’d never make it back in. It was awful.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If I snapped you back in time 650 years right this very second, how would you use your current knowledge to succeed?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, I’m in America, so…

  I guess I’d prep the natives to help put up a proper fight. Find a way to teach them that white people (like myself) carry diseases and to stay away and keep them away. If they land on your shores, drive them back. Never let them get a foothold. I’d try to convince them that I was a demon that got away from the other demons to warn of our coming.

  I’d do my best to make it so nobody remembered the name Christopher Columbus except as the idiot that died because he thought the world was much smaller than it is and never returned from his voyage.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm so vegan I could eat a burger and still be a vegan⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I am convinced that vegans today will be like we look at abolitionists like Alexander Hamilton back during the 18th century. People will be horrified that we treated animals so abysmally for convenience, and some will say it was a normal and accepted practice, and people didn’t realize how horrible it was, and others will point to the vegans of today.

  Thoughts like those make me a little more understanding of people like George Washington. He recognized it was bad, tried to mitigate it, but still perpetuated the practice. Just like I switched to Impossible Beef and chicken, do my best to buy local family eggs, but buy cheese and milk and ice cream from big name companies like Tillamook and Ben & Jerry’s.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is there steam coming out of the streets in New York⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  90s Dominos was trash. Even Dominos recognized old Dominos was trash.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are most people here left-wing?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you for this. It seems more in keeping with the original idea of the US, a federation of states.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are most people here left-wing?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Can you give some examples of how that works? Like, who pays for roads, who handles environmental regulations (or are there any), who establishes education standards (or are there any), etc. I’m not trying to argue, it just seems like on the internet people referring to “state authoritarianism” and “central government tyranny” ranges from “adults can’t be transgender” to “I have to pay taxes and the government won’t let me own slaves.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨frenly warnin⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  This reminds me of an anecdote talking about language differences between the US armed services:

  If you told a Marine to secure a building, they would kick the door in and take control of the building.

  If you told a soldier in the Army to secure a building, they would set up a fence around it and establish a sentry.

  If you told a Navy sailor to secure a building, they’d turn off all the lights and close and lock the door on their way out.

  If you told an Airforce airman to secure a building, they would write up a purchasing contract.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is 33 cents a small amount of money?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  When you are talking large income to larger income, that makes total sense, but are there limits for access to things like child tax credits where if you go over you are no longer eligible, causing significant increase (I just looked, and it’s at $200k single of $400k jointly, so unless you have A LOT of children, I suppose there wouldn’t be a huge effect)? Similar to people on government assistance who go from getting full assistance to getting nothing at a certain income level?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Almost done⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Man, I do enjoy taking the wind out of the sails of presumptuous people knee-jerking a response without knowing any specifics.

  I spent most of my career flying in relatively dangerous conditions in helicopters (or on small boats, before I went into aviation) in order to save people from drowning in the ocean or freezing in the woods. I’ve had two coworkers who’ve crashed (in separate incidences), one of which was at the door sending a dewatering pump to a sinking boat. I specifically joined the service I did because, as I told the recruiter, I can choose to join, but I can’t choose where I’m sent after, and I’m still responsible for my actions because I chose to join in the first place. There’s nothing morally ambiguous about saving somebody whose boat is sinking.

  Now, don’t get me wrong, having more and more of our people being sent to “defend the border” definitely falls in the realm of “not what I signed up for,” but I haven’t personally been forced into that, and am extremely unlikely to.

  So I may have dealt with some brown kids whose lives were threatened, but certainly haven’t found any that were a threat themselves (except to themselves… boaters tend to be their own worst enemies).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Almost done⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I remember that time well. Mine are 5 and 10, so I’m moving out of the more intensive child-rearing time. When I retire, they should both be at or near the “too busy for Dad” time, so other than giving rides, my days should be free and clear. I’m really looking forward to it.

  Good luck with the little ones!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Almost done⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I retire (military) in 4 years, and my countdown feels like this, but more specific. I just had to re-enlist, and I was asking if I had to do full years, or if I could do 4.3 to line up with the anniversary of my enlistment (to retire THE DAY I am technically able to).

  Not that I don’t enjoy my job, because I do, but I’m excited to be able to do whatever I want with my time and let my wife be the primary support for us for awhile.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I think he’s saying seeing a therapist that doesn’t specialize in gender dysphoria (kind of the “to a hammer, everything is a nail” thought). So going in and talking about all their mental health issues, and seeing if gender dysphoria comes out with it.

  I don’t think it’s a terrible read, if it seems like gender dysphoria is coming out of nowhere. Very different if OP was showing signs of it most of their life, and their dad had just refused to acknowledge it. Tough to tell just from what’s written, but I think the dad is remarkably reasonable.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Even more, it’s the justifying it with the “I’m just trying to help them” and “tough love” bullshit. That’s not a mood problem, or anything like that. That is being an asshole (not that they are mutually exclusive).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Looks legit, but can it actually be a real thing?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you wish to see them, PetaQ?!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Speedometer, or Siegometer?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It goes from 0 to Seig-sty in 7.6 seconds.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why was Hitler so mean and hateful toward one group or another? I find it hard to believe he woke up one day and said you and you suck but these people over here are good. Taking it so far as killing?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Not exactly (from my reading). The Jewish communities tended to be fairly insular, and focused a lot of their business inward. They still dealt with outsiders, but money flow tended to move mostly in one direction, so it seemed like the Jewish people were much better off and “taking” from the rest, when the rest of the country struggled. It was really more that a marginalized community took care of their own. Shocking, right?

  Plenty of other communities do the same. It’s still a bunch of scapegoating.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Uncanny sandwich⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  But I like burgers.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The best “I told you so”s are the ones where you never have to say “I told you so” because the other person clearly knows you told them so⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  So, like, labor and delivery?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨No phones, no emails, just living in the moment⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Isn’t this a large part of the premise of the newer Disney Princess and the Frog movie?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨House Centipedes⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  but it also made me extremely nervous when I hadn’t been moments before.

  I imagine that’s the point of the hiss…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨No idea at all...⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, that asshole went from bad to worse. Every villain has some level of redemption, even if it’s just understanding them enough to jive with them (cough Zenos yae Galvus cough).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨U.S. Air Force Airman Develops 3D-Printed Insert to Solve Perennial 20 mm Ammunition Jams While Loading⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Should have had his wife “design and print” them, get a patent, and sell them to the air force instead.