TheDoozer
@TheDoozer@lemmy.world
- Comment on Hard choice to make 1 day ago:
I just bought a house with an attached 1-bedroom apartment (with its own address). My 11-year-old daughter has already laid claims to taking it when she graduates high school. So I don’t think she’s feeling stifled at all, lol.
Better be prepared to pay rent if she’s not in school come the fall after high school, though (I’ll give her the summer to get her plans worked out).
- Comment on What is wrong with being "Black Pilled"? 1 day ago:
To be clear, that list (aro and “black-pilled”) was not all-inclusive. There are plenty of people who just don’t want to date, for whatever positive reason (e.g. too busy, focusing on other things, not feeling like making the effort) or even some with negative reasons (e.g. not feeling like they are in good working order mentally, just got out of a relationship and want to spend some time on their own, trauma) that aren’t aro or “black-pilled.” THIS LIST IS ALSO NOT ALL-INCLUSIVE.
Also:
You’re a bigot.
Just… don’t. Stop throwing the word around so spuriously, or it could lose its meaning. It’s an important word, and using it like that leads to the kind of linguistic drift that takes the meaning out of the language.
- Comment on What is wrong with being "Black Pilled"? 1 day ago:
That is very obviously not what anyone is saying. Not dating because you are not interested in dating is different than not dating because you’re down on yourself and blame the world (and those of the gender you find attractive) for creating your situation.
- Comment on What is wrong with being "Black Pilled"? 1 day ago:
I think you know the answer to that.
- Comment on Oatmeal 4 days ago:
Butter croissant actually seems like a decent name for a guinea pig.
If we’re including drinking, coffee is a pretty good name, but not for such a light colored guinea pig.
- Comment on We live wasted lives 1 week ago:
So funny enough, as an American, I have the majority of that while being in the military. We even currently have three months of maternity and paternity leave, which can be used as the member sees fit through the first year after birth.
All except the privacy laws and employee protection laws, though it can often be exceptionally difficult to fire people for reasons that don’t involve the politics of the people in charge. And even then, lawsuits usually get those people backpay.
I’d be advocating for the US Coast Guard with this right now, but the current administration is shifting our focus from being a life-saving/preserving service to another border control agency, so… not a great time to be joining if it’s for moral reasons. sigh
- Comment on It used to be just weird Christians, but now everyone's pretty much on board with burning Harry Potter books. 1 week ago:
Yeah, you’re missing the point.
They (the mod who deleted it) mentioned “both sides.” I said that two groups, for that one particular thing, both arrived at the “J.K. Rowling is bad” conclusion, and those two groups are fairly diametrically opposed. Not two sides, two separate groups.
My commentary on their “both sides” was that it was a weird take, since it’s clear (if there were two sides) which “side” I was on.
The why, though, wasn’t the issue, and I was attaching no commentary on their motivations (with the exception of calling the Fundeamentalists crazy, because, like… “magic is real and evil and a made-up story about a magical school promotes magic” is preeettttty crazy). It was purely the irony of seeing that post and realizing crazy Fundamentalists also hate Rowling. It’s like that “two strong arms clasping together” meme, with two groups that have nothing (or worse) to do with each other having one particular thing in common.
And look, I get it. It is a touchy subject, and trans people have been getting shit on for too long (especially now) and assuming the worst intentions of comments made is probably correct way more often than it should be. But even the slightest read into anything I’ve said shows no ill-will against trans people and their allies (and lots against crazy Fundamentalists who believe in magic).
- Comment on It used to be just weird Christians, but now everyone's pretty much on board with burning Harry Potter books. 1 week ago:
I got threatened with a ban on Blahaj because I pointed out basically this when somebody posted a picture of a burning Harry Potter book. It wasn’t even a criticism, it was just pointing out how funny life is that, for completely opposing reasons, trans people (and allies) and crazy Fundamentalists would both support what was happening in the picture.
The author (who was apparently a mod) made some comment about “hurr durr, mah both sides” and deleted my comment. It was very confusing, as my comment showed I clearly supported one of those sides (since I even referred to the Fundamentalists as crazy).
- Comment on I'm very Jesus-like 1 week ago:
What is this supposed to mean? Is the implication that for the past ten thousand years, everyone should have lived in constant misery, thinking of nothing but the suffering of innocents, without a moment to spare for joy or silliness?
Or are you trying to twist their words to suggest that the suffering of innocents now isn’t important because it’s been happening for 10k years? Because that was clearly not the message being made. The closest I could imagine is they may be pointing out that some treat pointing out innocents suffering as a fad, where people all of a sudden care and can’t believe that anyone else can do or care about anything else (and will burn out and stop caring once the fad is done, whether the issue has been resolved or not).
Either way, if you spend your whole time doomscrolling and never leave yourself a space for moth memes (or whatever), you will be no help to anyone and live in impotent misery.
Basically, moth memes are self care.
- Comment on It's my cake day. 2 years of my life spent here. Unrelated pic 2 weeks ago:
I bet kids couldn’t pass a cognitive test designed for cephalopods.
- Comment on Shhhhh 2 weeks ago:
Our combination microwave/air fryer/oven has this cool function where after the timer hits 0 but before it beeps, it keeps turning until it is back in the original position (so if you have, for example, a coffee cup in there, the handle will face the same direction as it did when put in. That buffer to pull it out without beeping was kind of amazing.
- Comment on Why does Dairy Queen sell food? 3 weeks ago:
There is a whole section to each DQ for Regional Menu. Some places will have Steak Fries, or… I can’t remember what else. In the North West (US) we had Ultimates and Deluxe burgers, which were the smaller patties (want to say 1/6lb), american cheese, and thousand island dressing (Ultimates were doubles and had bacon as well).
When I was at DQ School in Minneapolis, i got to meet store managers and owners from all over, and it was really interesting to learn all the regional fare (and apparently South American DQs, at least then, were purely Treat Centers, which is what I imagine OP was assuming they’d all be).
- Comment on Why does Dairy Queen sell food? 3 weeks ago:
That is entirely different store to store. The one I managed and our sister store (owned by the same family) used a conveyer belt style flame broiler (automatic broiler). Far more consistent and less labor intensive.
- Comment on Why does Dairy Queen sell food? 3 weeks ago:
They’re certainly not ice cream/soft serve stores, but here we are.
- Comment on Why does Dairy Queen sell food? 3 weeks ago:
Funny enough, the milk they use (at least the supplier to the store I managed) is nonfat milk. So the first listed ingedient is nonfat milk, and the second is milk fat, lol.
- Comment on Interesting news 4 weeks ago:
immediately posts to !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com
- Comment on The type of southern hospitality you receive depends on your skin color. 4 weeks ago:
It was more of a more immediate example. You can not give a fuck about people’s gender, orientation, or whatever, but ignoring the government and people doing the equivalent of beating them in the streets (e.g. denying them access to medical services, sending them to
tortureconversion camps, cops beating and/or murdering them) is like walking by while they are getting beat up on the street because you don’t give a fuck and it’s not your fight. - Comment on The type of southern hospitality you receive depends on your skin color. 4 weeks ago:
Hey, man, I agree on about 90% of that. I want to not give a shit about people’s genders, sexuality, race, whatever. And for the most part, I don’t.
But if I saw someone I didn’t know getting the shit kicked out of them on the street, I don’t think I can say “I don’t give a fuck.” And in some form or another, the equivalent is happening to people of particular genders, sexuality, race, whatever. So I may not give a fuck about any individuals gender, sex, race, whatever, but I do care that those people are being shit on.
So if you’re the type who walks by while somebody gets beat up, you may be able to tell youself you’re better than the people offering up a beating by not giving a fuck, but not the person who comes by afterward to try to stop it.
- Comment on What is something you like to tell people? 5 weeks ago:
I have never thought dropping a cast iron held concern for the skillet, but whatever inevitably stopped its fall.
- Comment on My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so? 5 weeks ago:
One side it trying to force them to choose a side. It is up to adults to say “this is between us, and our relationship doesn’t change your relationships.”
OP could be very supportive of their mother and still not want to move out of the home they already lived in. But it doesn’t sound like the mom wants to let OP do that.
Also, from their other comments, their father has been more supportive through their life while their mom has been cold and judgemental. Trying to force her child into a position whete they are expected to mete out judgement as well just emphasizes that they aren’t terribly concerned with the well-being of their child.
And anyway, if you want support, you should give support. And OPs mom missed that boat, so it makes sense for OP to stay with the parent who supported them.
- Comment on Startup Hack! 5 weeks ago:
We do what we must
Because… we can.
- Comment on So close! 5 weeks ago:
It’s not soup if they discard the water after cooking, leaving only the vegetables.
So… boiled vegetables. That’s still already a thing. Not a particularly good thing (to my tastes), but been a thing for a long time.
- Comment on Don't Look Up 5 weeks ago:
That’s fish.
- Comment on I feel attacked 5 weeks ago:
I don’t know, running for a lot of us is just having our bodies start breaking down and want to avert that.
- Comment on IT’S THE FEDS! 1 month ago:
sllllurrrrrrrrrrrrrrpppp
exaggerated: Aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
- Comment on I'd choose 4 tbh 1 month ago:
2 (as long as that means I can’t go past my current weight, not that every time I poop, sweat, or pee I lose weight I can never regain) 5… and I guess 9. I’m doing okay, and I’ve never had a strong need for “a lot of money.”
5 isn’t even because I want to have super strength, it’s more to be able to compensate for my jacked up joints and being overweight.
I would trade any of the three of these for “cure my sleep apnea” though.
1 sounds tempting, as long as it’s just the insulation, you know? I don’t know a whole lot about biology, but I feel like if you immediately removed all fats from your body, your cells would just die (all the lipids disappearing). But if you could remove all the fat listed in the “body fat percentage” and made it so I could still get some fats quickly (for a healthy amount), I’d take that over 2. Once it’s there, it makes it so hard to get rid of, but I feel like if it was gone in one go, I could keep it off.
Wow, my decisions for “magic pills” would be kind of depressing to 20-year-old me. At least with the exception of my health I’m reasonably content.
- Comment on I'd choose 4 tbh 1 month ago:
It says you can’t gain weight. I’m already overweight, and about max for what I can be to keep my job (military) and not totally break down. So if “can’t gain weight” means this is my max weight and no matter what I do I can’t go past it, that makes a comfortable hard stop for future efforts toward dieting.
- Comment on A 19-year old cis lesbian woman was beaten unconscious and robbed after she tried to use the women's restroom at a McDonald's in Carpentersville, Illinois 1 month ago:
I thoight those types just move to South Africa?
- Comment on So which one? 1 month ago:
C, I call it the Jethro Tull.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
I feel like it can kind of be confusing to understand how the process works for it.
But it is not even remotely confusing as to what you do. Choose, from most to least, who you want. It’s that simple. You want to get into how those votes are tallied, do a little dive, there’s plenty of videos very simply explaining it. If you don’t, and just want to be able to go vote? Just go vote. If even ranking them is too complicated because you have a worm in your brain, just choose one and ignore everything else.
It might be complicated to tally, but it is not complicated to do. It’s just people being duped by the Big 2 parties to not want choices.