TheDoozer

@TheDoozer@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Life of a therapist⁩ ⁨⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh, no, don’t. It wasn’t a serious thing, just pointing out the weird 5 to 1, 1 to 5 thing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Life of a therapist⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Makes sense. Just the:

  1: 5 things 2: 4 things 3: 3 things 4: 2 things 5: 1 thing

  Throws me off a bit.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Life of a therapist⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  It… kind of bothers me the order that is in. Is that on purpose?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Should I feel bad that my abuser is suffering?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Have empathy for the injustices others face. It helps you let go of hate

  This is a big one, though I have a more nuanced view.

  “That is a fucked up thing and shouldn’t happen to anyone. I couldn’t give two shits about that person in particular because they’re a piece of shit, but what is happening to them is unacceptable.”

  That’s how I feel about bad shit happening to horrible people in prison. A serial rapist gets raped in prison? Unacceptable. It shouldn’t be allowed, and everyone responsible should be held to account. However, I lack the necessary empathy to feel for that serial rapist. I try, but there’s a lot of people out there suffering more who did nothing or less that I should care about, and I have a limited amount of care. Doesn’t mean I’m okay woth prison rape, though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Expensive South Florida real estate. Most expensive houses are right on the rim⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I heard muthafucka had, like… thirty goddamn dicks.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Good news. :)⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Alaska was full of libertarian “I came out here so I can live as I please” types, but a lot of them have shifted over to the crazy.

  I think with the right-wing media being severed (with regulations around honesty in news and a more publicly funded system, not particularly with censorship), those types would go back to their “just leave me alone” ways.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Applies to many things. Not just religion⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve always wondered about this, because not only are they not mutually exclusive, they don’t really fight unless someone really wants to create an issue.

  “It turns out the Earth revolves around the Sun, which in turn rotates around a galactic center.”

  “But we’ve been teaching that the Earth is the center of the universe. What will we tell people?”

  “Well, we all thought it was the center, but it turns out it wasn’t. Does anything in your religion specifically say we’re the center?”

  “No…”

  “Then I guess we all found out together. Also, why are you even teaching stuff like that? The movement of celestial bodies seems a weird topic to be discussing in church.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Metal Genres (Accurate)⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  True art.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what does it mean being nice to your coworkers to you?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Family, Occupation, Relentless existential crisis, Dreams.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The devil made me do it⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  That angry/relieved/happy mix would make for an interesting evening for me. I’d eat the lot and feel I deserved it for how they done me dirty, even if I secretly was relieved not to have to go to a big social event.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who is the enemy?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I haven’t seen anything related to Biden, but I haven’t heard a single person, on any side if any aisle, defending Clinton. It’s always just seemed like a failed “gotcha” attempt on the right, because most everyone to the left of “I’ll vote for anything with an R next to their name” would have no issue throwing offenders from their own side in jail along with the others.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The people developing vegan meat alternatives must have eaten a lot of meat beforehand so they can replicate the taste and texture.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Are Impossible meats vegan? Because Impossible stuff (ground “beef,” “chicken,” whatever) are delicious. They definitely got me into eating far, far less meat.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hello girl!!⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s a village in Final Fantasy XIV that has that belief. That if a warrior is great enough, they are reborn into the next child born, and that child is raised with the understanding that that is who they are and continue to be. Gender is fairly meaningless to them, too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  But that one makes me sad.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why people say they have a "boy cat" or a "girl cat" but when the cat grows up, they don't call is a "man cat" or "woman cat"?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Same reason I refer to my 14-year-old dachshund as a puppy.

  Because he’s my puppy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Handling malicious coworker advice⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Seriously. This all sounds exhausting. It was probably a good move to loop in the manager. If it were me, I probably would have just stepped back from them and kept my distance, as I have little energy for drama, but taking a more proactive approach was probably smart.

  But yeah, you OP did the smart thing, now the next smart thing is just step away from all of it. Keep some distance and let the manager/director sort it out.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Vibe check!⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m disappointed the baseball cap and beer isn’t A so that there is a clear “Dada” option.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨W.a.m.d.i.i.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Like an elephant. Up the urethra, then squirted into the mouth.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A new database on police use of force and misconduct in California makes public 1.5 million pages of once-secret police records⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  BC seems like it has more in common with the rest of the west coast than Alberta.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  In college I had a guy friend (I’m a guy, both of us straight) who I’d regularly go to breakfast with, and he always paid because I was very poor, he made plenty, and he wanted company for breakfast. I regularly tried to pay and he waved me off. I think he knew that if we went back and forth, we’d go to breakfast a lot less because I wouldn’t be able to afford it.

  Maybe that’s what’s going on here.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨pragnent⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  In simple terms they understand.

  If they’ve baked cookies with you, you tell them the daddy gives some of the ingredients, the mommy gives some of the ingredients, and then the mommy is like the oven, and makes a baby over 9 months in her belly.

  There were no further questions for years, and my kids knew that they came from mommy and daddy, and that they grew in mommy’s belly. The older they get, the more specifics they get, and if they’re old enough to ask a specific question, they’re old enough to get a specific answer.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Men buy cars when all they would really need is cry⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I wonder if crying will pull a boat for me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You deserve better, honey bun.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I assumed it was a smoker

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨true friend⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ll be honest, it’s pretty hit and miss. You get someone just throwing diced avo on toast, and it’s pretty mid. But you go to a place that seasons it, includes grilled onion and peppers, uses high-quality sourdough bread, and covers it in bacon and a fried egg? One of the best things I’ve eaten. And one of the messier.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨:3‎ ‎⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, I’ve always thought trucks are dumb, but the bus and my bike can’t pull my boat, and I live on island, so…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Deserved honestly⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Even if they were trying to flirt, being told repeatedly not to do something that they keep doing anyway is not flirting.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨egg⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Diaphragms are a form of birth control. They are making a joke by deliberating misinterpreting the specific meaning of the word used in an absurdist way, in the Mad Hatter style.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hard choice to make⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I just bought a house with an attached 1-bedroom apartment (with its own address). My 11-year-old daughter has already laid claims to taking it when she graduates high school. So I don’t think she’s feeling stifled at all, lol.

  Better be prepared to pay rent if she’s not in school come the fall after high school, though (I’ll give her the summer to get her plans worked out).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is wrong with being "Black Pilled"?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  To be clear, that list (aro and “black-pilled”) was not all-inclusive. There are plenty of people who just don’t want to date, for whatever positive reason (e.g. too busy, focusing on other things, not feeling like making the effort) or even some with negative reasons (e.g. not feeling like they are in good working order mentally, just got out of a relationship and want to spend some time on their own, trauma) that aren’t aro or “black-pilled.” THIS LIST IS ALSO NOT ALL-INCLUSIVE.

  Also:

  You’re a bigot.

  Just… don’t. Stop throwing the word around so spuriously, or it could lose its meaning. It’s an important word, and using it like that leads to the kind of linguistic drift that takes the meaning out of the language.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is wrong with being "Black Pilled"?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  That is very obviously not what anyone is saying. Not dating because you are not interested in dating is different than not dating because you’re down on yourself and blame the world (and those of the gender you find attractive) for creating your situation.