The context makes it worse, but I’m just trying to gauge how fucked up normal people would find this, because being raised by this kind of person messed with my calibration.
If context makes it worse then were already not in a good place my guy
How abnormal is it for a mother to be her son a fleshlight for his 18th birthday?
Submitted 4 days ago by FATALRPG@sh.itjust.works to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
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CobblerScholar@lemmy.world 4 days ago
howrar@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
- Talking about sex: Perfectly healthy and is something every parent should do.
- Talking about sex toys and flashlights: Also perfectly normal.
- Requesting/offering help in purchasing a flashlight (e.g. take my credit card and buy something under my name or driving them to a sex shop): Normal
- Choosing the fleshlight for them and thus making the decision in exactly what kind of sensations they experience while masturbating: Out of bounds.
FuglyDuck@lemmy.world 3 days ago
(lol) every parent should talk about proper illumination!
Keeping a flashlight handy and charged could save your life.
(It could, but also, that auto incorrect made me giggle.)
Mac@mander.xyz 3 days ago
It’s abnormal but only because sleeves are taboo due to religion and socirtal bullshit.
glimse@lemmy.world 3 days ago
No, it’s definitely abnormal because it’s weird for a parent to help their offspring masturbate.
What about a father buying his daughter a vibrator for her 18th birthday?
Mac@mander.xyz 3 days ago
Help??
A sleeve is basically PPE. Do you know how common it is to have damage due to hand-to-hand combat instead of using one? Sleeves should be part of the sex talk.“Son, weve noticed blah blah blah. You should be using the proper tool for your body’s health and safety.”
I’m not the authority to ask about vibrators.
scoobford@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
It isn’t an inherently problematic act in itself but it is very weird and I’d be shocked if it has ever happened without being connected to some very creepy shit.
etchinghillside@reddthat.com 4 days ago
Depends on if you gifted her a dildo prior.
Death_Equity@lemmy.world 4 days ago
The Bad Dragon Chance XL makes the perfect Mother’s Day gift.
burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de 3 days ago
A medium is plenty for a first timer.
TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Super fucking weird
Pacattack57@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Pretty expensive gift. Most fleshlights are pretty expensive. Do what you will with that info.
FATALRPG@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
Yeah, I know the bitch spent $100 on something for him when I was prostituting myself to afford $60 for Pearson’s fucking chemistry question textbook.
tomjuggler@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I heard all the books are free now? Considering you’re on here you probably knew that already though…
Sunsofold@lemmings.world 3 days ago
Quite abnormal. Not bad, though.
Leather@lemmy.world 3 days ago
If your brother was 17, and your mother did this, and a mandatory reporter found out they would be calling CPS - level of abnormal.
MeekerThanBeaker@lemmy.world 4 days ago
I thought it was weird when my parents bought me a Sports Illustrated swimsuit calendar when I was around that age. So… yah… that’s not normal.
bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de 4 days ago
First time I went into a sex shop was as a kid with my parents. They wanted to buy him a gag gift because he stayed home alone for the first time while we went on vacation. They settled on penis pasta (warning, increase in size when cooked) while I tried to appear to not be looking at anything.
Yeah, buying your kid sex stuff is generally seen as weird. But ultimately only you can say how your family does things.
devolution@lemmy.world 4 days ago
If as a joke, the humor is fucked. If legit, it’s double fucked.
Steve@communick.news 4 days ago
It’s certainly abnormal.
But abnormal doesn’t mean bad. At all.I actually think it’s a thoughtful honest appropriate gift. That kind of thing should be more common.
thejoker954@lemmy.world 4 days ago
I cant say if it’s because of the sex stigma in the usa or because it’s just weird
Context could make it better I guess - like maybe the sons a sex/porn addict or something along those lines.
But you said this particular context makes it worse (and the only worse context I can think of right now is she had it molded to herself) so I would have to say it’s pretty abnormal.
my mom bought me playboys back in the day somewhere around my 14th/15th birthday and I was pretty weirded out by that relatively ‘benign’ act.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 4 days ago
“Wanking wasn’t enough? You’ve no hands?!” was my first thought, bringing back some Reddit core memories, lol.
Ofc it’s weird AF. Promoting hedonism and oversexualization is weird and immoral in general, but your own mom doing that to you sounds traumatic too… Sorry, OP. This is the kind of stuff you either take to the grave or share only when you find an extremely understanding lady. :/
And purely out of curiosity, where are you from?
datavoid@lemmy.ml 4 days ago
Everyone knows masturbation is hedonistic and immoral!
And purely out of curiosity, what religion does your username imply?
Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 days ago
Their head would explode if they saw my drawer of 1-2k USD of bad dragon dildos, vibrators, clit suckers, masturbators, plugs, beads, and more…
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 4 days ago
I didn’t say masturbation, in the traditional sense, was something so outrageous and immoral. I understand the urges of the flesh because I too am a person (a healthily horny man at that!), but fleshlights are definitely too much. It’s advanced gooning. Your mom promoting it and buying you sex toys is weird AF and concerning, and the fact I even have to spell it out is, well, I’d like to say surprising and disappointing but it isn’t, not really. I know who I’m talking to here, after all.
And Muslim non-sectarian!
SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org 3 days ago
Depends. Did she get a custom one made? Very VERY weird. Did she get one from her favorite porn actress? Quite weird. Did she just get any old one? Still a bit weird, but eh. Weirder things have happened to me.
scrion@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Even having a funny and weird relationship with my mother, this would be suuuuper cringe. And inappropriate.
Vitaly_Chernobyl@sopuli.xyz 4 days ago
Pretty fucking weird.
gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Just make sure you don’t break both of your arms at the same time. Or do…? Idk what you’re into.
stinerman@midwest.social 4 days ago
Abnormal meaning “not normal?” Very abnormal. As others have mentioned there are some edge cases where this isn’t terrible, but in general it’s a pretty bad look.
BassTurd@lemmy.world 4 days ago
My mom once left her Amazon account logged in and open on her computer. My sibling and I searched for a bunch of sex toys to mess with the ad suggestions. That was funny, but I’d never buy my mother a dildo and it would be really weird if she bought me a Fleshlight.
IdontplaytheTrombone@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Lol don’t
blackris@discuss.tchncs.de 3 days ago
I see your username and know this is a fucking trap!
Una@europe.pub 4 days ago
It’s unusual, depends does he like it and why do you want to buy him that?
CrayonDevourer@lemmy.world 4 days ago
I’m pretty fucked up as a person, and I think this would be weird as all fuck. I think most people consider fleshlights pretty taboo to begin with.