Women Dating Safety App 'Tea' Breached, Users' IDs Posted to 4chan

Submitted ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨bytesonbike@discuss.online⁩ to ⁨technology@lemmy.world⁩

https://www.404media.co/women-dating-safety-app-tea-breached-users-ids-posted-to-4chan/

Users from 4chan claim to have discovered an exposed database hosted on Google’s mobile app development platform, Firebase, belonging to the newly popular women’s dating safety app Tea. Users say they are rifling through peoples’ personal data and selfies uploaded to the app, and then posting that data online, according to screenshots, 4chan posts, and code reviewed by 404 Media.

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sunglocto@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
This is what happens when you decide to vibecode a service with zero attention to safety or web development. This is why you don’t immediately jump onto a new service without it being vetted properly. Now one of the worst communities on the Internet is in possession of over a hundred thousand women’s driving licenses and faces. This is going to be an absolute disaster.

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- Darrell_Winfield@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  This is ALSO why no service should ever require or get my driver’s license information. Fuck that. Also, yet another Constance to those who can’t afford a car or want to improve the environment by living car free.
  
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  - shiroininja@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    My only exception to that are uber drivers. But then again we live in an age where somehow better help has become popular, even though they sell your data.
    
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  - JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Instead, just prove you have a credit card by submitting the details. Also totally safe. Be sure to include the CVV, please!
    
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  - Alaik@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    The only site I ever felt comfortable scanning shit like that into was a site that sold things only to military/medics/fire fighters so I had to upload my medic license and my FF cert.
    
    Anything beyond that is a no go from me.
    
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- 4am@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Now now, I like to shit on vibecoders too but let’s not pretend this is some new problem.
  
  Idiots leave databases on cloud servers exposed all the time rather than deal with their companies often arcane rules for generating certificates
  
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  - JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Remember when the government published SSNs in HTML? zdnet.com/…/missouri-will-not-prosecute-hacker-re…
    
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  - Passerby6497@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Where do you think the AI learned it?
    
    Like, I get that competent coders do it too, but now any skiddie with an idea can cosplay as a developer so this is going to be so much more prevelant
    
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- panda_abyss@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  To be fair, I’m not sure why firebase even has a public access option. That’s a recipe for issues.
  
  Though if it’s anything like Google Cloud Store, they hopefully make it very clear that your bucket is public.
  
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- Zetta@mander.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  “Vibe coded” you just made that up didn’t you, because you don’t like llms. I don’t see anything in the article about “Ai” and this service has been operating for 2 years.
  
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  - shalafi@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    My thoughts as well. But hey, it’s lemmy! Just accuse someone of doing something we hate, good to go!
    
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  - Redjard@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    The og 4chan post brought up the vibe coding. Using it as an insult to quality is wider spread than just lemmy.
    
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  - sunglocto@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Maybe I shouldn’t have used the term vibe coded. I apologize.
    
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- Eheran@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  How is something “vetted properly” and how do I find out about that?
  
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  - Hupf@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    You wait a while until something like this happens.
    
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  - thymos@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    This is something I worry about all the time as well, especially since I’ve started to learn how to code and experienced how easy it is to mess up and send a list with all registered users to everyone opening a page. (This was in a test environment.)
    
    As a user, there is no proper way I know of to verify an app’s security. Most apps are closed source, but even if you could view the code, what would you look for?
    
    Both Apple and Google have a verification process for apps that are published in their app stores, but if these worked, we wouldn’t see this happening.
    
    There are academic researchers working on apps and privacy as well, but it’s not like you can ask them for a report on an app you’re thinking of installing.
    
    I think it basically comes down to trust. Check if a developer has messed up in the past and how they dealt with that, that sort of stuff. And for dating apps there is this interesting article: privacyguides.org/…/queer-dating-apps-beware-who-…
    
    It’s a long read (haven’t fully read it myself yet) and it paints a bleak picture, but that’s the world we live in today.
    
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  - bytesonbike@discuss.online ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    I honestly don’t understand what op is talking about.
    
    Leaks happen all the time, even in billion dollar companies.
    
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- zarkanian@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Anybody oblivious enough to create something like this isn’t someone you should trust your most private data with. This service had red flags from the concept phase, never mind the execution.
  
  This is not to say, of course, that the victims deserved it. It just really sucks that they had to learn this lesson this way.
  
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gnu@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
People sign up to app intended to share personal information about others without their permission, end up having their own personal information shared without permission - the irony is impressive.

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- surewhynotlem@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  At first I was going to call bullshit because I thought you were exaggerating and being ridiculous.
  
  Nope. That’s the app. “Anonymous” sharing of pictures and info of other people. Presumably without their permission. That’s fucked up.
  
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  - blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Yeah. I mean, I get it. The concept of the app makes sense. And I would be that, on average, it is/would be used for good.
    
    On the other hand, as a guy, the idea that people are out there sharing reviews of me as a person on the open internet, and I have no way of knowing this, is deeply unsettling. Like, I haven’t done anything wrong - just the whole concept feels very gross.
    
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- Zomg@piefed.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I think it depends on people's intent and purpose for using this service. I'm overall not a fan of someone taking and sharing pictures of me without my consent, or making claims that can't be defended...
  
  The group of women legitimately using it for safety is fine, in a general sense.
  
  The group of women using it as gossip and entertainment is not.
  
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  - DrSteveBrule@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Considering that “tea” is common slang for gossip I’m not convinced there was many of the latter.
    
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  - lunardroid@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    It makes sense using it for safety, but I would worry about whether all the information on there is accurate. Most of the feedback on the app is probably negative, I doubt anyone would really post anything on Tea that’s positive about their former partner. But people like to believe they are in the right. Someone who got in a fight with their partner might post something on Tea that isn’t accurate, but makes them feel better since they can spin the story how they want, and make the other person at fault. However, unlike regular social media, the person being attacked by their partner on Tea has no idea that it happened, and no way to refute what was said. It promotes the opposite of any type of communication between partners after a fight or breakup. It promotes safety, but at the same time it promotes some toxicity in relationships. What would you think if you knew that if your got into a disagreement with your partner that you could end up posted on this app, without any way of arguing back?
    
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dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
The replies in this thread are disturbing, gives me a sense that Lemmy has a misogyny problem; maybe I was naïve, but I expected outrage about 4chan doxxing women trying to protect one another, instead I see lots of revenge enjoyment as if being doxxed on 4chan is justice for … <checks notes> warning one another about dangerous men they encounter when dating?

The inability to empathize and take seriously the threats posed to women or to understand their motivation to protect one another is alarming.

There is no good faith extended, but also no evidence presented that instead of safety the app was just for gossip, it’s just taken as assumed that women are wrong for using Tea and they all deserve to be doxxed.

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- DrSteveBrule@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I’m all for groups of safe spaces for women. Especially when it’s designed to keep them safe while dating. I have my doubts that Tea was that. Even if it was advertised as such, “tea” is slang for the word gossip. I’ve heard stories from several sources that it was used to dox people as well. Not saying what happened to the users is right. I think some users here are just feeling smug that this might cause the app to fail or shut down.
  
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  - dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    
    The app enables the photos to be run through a reverse image search, enabling them to run a basic background check, check against public sex offender databases, and check for photos that might get flagged as being used in “catfishing” — misrepresenting one’s identity online.
    
    The app also features a “Tea Party Group Chat,” which allows users to directly share information about men, and has a rating function, which allows users to share their experiences with Yelp-style reviews, awarding men a “green flag” or a “red flag.”
    
    www.cnn.com/2025/07/…/tea-app-dating-privacy-cec
    
    It’s a bit like Rate My Professor, but for dating.
    
    Honestly I cyncially expect this kind of app might inevitably exist for rating people of all genders, but the reason this app exists has directly to do with the violence women face from intimate partners.
    
    The point is that men who are enjoying the doxxing of women who have used this app are ignoring the context, or even have a warped sense of the context, as if this is narrowly about (legitimate) privacy concerns.
    
    Even if the concerns about the app are justified, the revenge enjoyment betrays a much harder to defense view that all the women who used the app are equally cupable, or that doxxing women using the app is equivalent to women doxxing abusive men through the app.
    
    Men are not all equally privileged, but there is a broad inequality both to how violence is distributed and how that plays out in dating situations. Women are not wrong to fear men. One in three women have experienced sexual or physical violence, most of that violence being perpetuated by men.
    
    Since this is the context for the use of this app, it’s not neutral to doxx its users or to claim it’s fair because men feel (legitimate) concerns about the app’s privacy violations.
    
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  - zarkanian@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Yeah, naming it “Tea” is really the cherry on top. I’d love to know more about the people behind this. It’s hard to believe that anybody would be this oblivious. I guess the same kind of people who wouldn’t secure their database.
    
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  - Squirrelanna@lemmynsfw.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Could you share said sources? It’s irrelevant though because justifying this doxxing SHOULD mean that the entirety of 4chan is a justifiable dox target. If you don’t believe that, then you should be against it happening against Tea users. They’re at the very least guilty of the same thing (in this case. 4chan is guilty of much more heinous things than just this).
    
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- zarkanian@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  It isn’t the women who are wrong; it’s the app developer and 4chan. But setting aside the data breach, creating a Yelp for dating is a ticking time bomb. They were going to get sued out the ass, data breach or no data breach. I don’t know how many times this needs to happen, but I guess web developers have the memory of goldfish. There have been several attempts at something similar that got shut down for the obvious reasons. Making a website that rates human beings is always going to be a legal minefield.
  
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  - WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Don’t trust dating apps ever. Literally better off dating someone you meet at a park.
    
    Less chance an algorithm set you up to fail.
    
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- LePoisson@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Your comment was on top for me in my app, so I was like “oh how bad could it be.”. Holy shit you’re not wrong, there’s some disgusting comments that are getting voted up.
  
  I’m low-key disappointed and appalled by these community members who believe these women “deserve” it for … Trying to help each other be safer?
  
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  - jwmgregory@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    saw this happening here, saw it happening in reddit threads on the topic, saw it all over the media cycle in the comments.
    
    i agree, people’s visceral backlash against this app is steeped in a deep misogyny.
    
    watching people take somewhat valid privacy concerns as an excuse to let loose their most toxic feelings towards women used to be the sort of thing only losers or emboldened megalomaniacs did in public, even just a decade ago.
    
    in the past years i’ve just seen all my peers, regardless of political affiliation, manipulated into a cult of outrage that serves as another hamster wheel upon which capital may spin.
    
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- Gemini24601@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  The Tea app is agnostic. While its purpose and main use case was made for the safety of women in the dating scene, it was inevitably used to spread exaggerated or misleading information about otherwise innocent men. Imagine being a privacy-conscious individual, and breaking up with a toxic woman. She could go on to spread lies about you and even upload pictures of you to the reverse image search/ai. So even if you were doing everything right from a privacy standpoint, you’d still end up in someone’s private database, subjected to ai training, shared with the government, or who knows what. While I do see the purpose of apps like these, they can effectively take away someone’s privacy/dignity without them even knowing about it. Now imagine being a 4channer, someone probably even more privacy-conscious than lemmings, and possibly experiencing mental disorders like paranoid schizophrenia or autism; of course they’re drawn to hacking an app that would destroy their privacy. They are not sane individuals, so this event really was inevitable.
  
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  - echodot@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Look at the screenshot in the article. That’s what their website looks like, it absolutely looks like it’s focusing on gossiping rather than women’s safety on dates.
    
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- SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I think you are misunderstanding why people are upset.
  
  It’s horrible that these women were doxxed.
  
  It’s also horrible that a subset of women were doxxing men, which is what brought this negative attention to the site.
  
  Misogyny is real in our society, misandry is real.
  
  Saying things happen for sexist reasons when it was for a logical reason does a disservice to movements that seek equality.
  
  The internet also cheered on the 4chan PII leak that happened recently, not becauase it’s a male dominant space, but because they do shitty things like dox people.
  
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- Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Lemmy is full of people with a lot of technical knowledge, who look down on anyone without it. Just look at their responses to someone complaining and an issue on Windows, it’s just a hundred people telling you what Linux distro they use.
  
  It’s not so much mysogyny, they just can’t pass up the opportunity to be smug about something.
  
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  - otp@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    
    it’s just a hundred people telling you what Linux distro they use.
    
    Oh come on, Lemmy doesn’t have that many users!
    
    /s
    
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- joel_feila@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Well lets be honest if someone made a gender inverse version ofctea many people would b concerned about what is being shared on the app. Honestly i find tesla disturbing and the 4 chan doxing dangerous. Both sides can be bad.
  
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  - dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    sorry, are men concerned for their safety dating women such that a gender inverted version of this app makes sense? Your ignorance is what I’m talking about here …
    
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  - ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Those already exist. 4chan (yes, they even kind of invented cancel culture with going after “whores” in the late 2000’s), kiwifarms, various manosphere forums, Andrew Tate’s Discord server, etc.
    
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- Feathercrown@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Tea could easily be used for two extremely different purposes:
  
  Legitimate use to inform and protect women from abusive men
  
  Illegitimate use to spread misinformation (libel!) about men with no verification of truth or reasonable appeal process
  
  The idea of Tea isn’t bad-- I’ve thought about the potential utility of similar apps myself-- but most people who are reacting badly are recognizing that it’s a nearly impossible moderation problem that will be used for bad things too.
  
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  - dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    of course, the app has obvious problems, but I don’t see that as justifying the gloating and sense of revenge enjoyment happening.
    
    Instead I see a kind of discontent about women I find concerning, which seems ignorant of the widespread violence women experience or what it’s like for women who take risks when dating men.
    
    Men are not all equally problematic or privileged, but they are generally in a position of power relative to women and are acting like the victims here.
    
    They should direct their discontent to patriarchy which creates the situation where violence against women is dismissed or accepted, and which motivates women to use apps to check if the person they are dating has a history of violent behavior.
    
    Patriarchy which perpetuates the narrative that men are natural predators and women natural prey is what victimizes men here, not the women who rightfully fear and feel victimized by the minority of men who are violent.
    
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  - Zephorah@discuss.online ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Why is everything we do, when we band together, seen as suspect and dangerous?
    
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- SonOfAntenora@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Apparently the platform operated as some sort of gossipping/reporting system where unaware men and guys could be posted, so they could basicallly do the same thing that happened to them, all on one if the most unsafe system possible.
  
  Honestly I see this as a consequence of their own actions mostly the database was unprotected. Their purpose was to document men behind their back. Turns out it backfired.
  
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  - kerrigan778@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    “According to predators on 4chan the platform operated as what the users thought was a secure way to discuss potentially dangerous men on dating platforms with women in similar situations, this is naturally completely equivalent to exposing the women who were attempting to be safer and putting any and all private info of theirs online for predators to access. The level of risk in going on first dates with people you met on the internet is completely equivalent for straight men and straight women and it serves them right for trying to help eachother stay safe by comparing notes”
    
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- JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I’ve been seeing a lot of misogony here the past week or so. It’s disheartening.
  
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  - WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    I wonder what that is about?
    
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- MousePotatoDoesStuff@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  And even if it was purely a gossip app, an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.
  
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- wizbiz@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  “gossip” is for safety. It’s often information that men don’t shared so it’s painted like it’s bad. Claiming women shouldn’t gossip is just more misogyny.
  
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  - dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    There is some of that happening, like when women get together and discuss how they’re being treated it’s “gossip” and inherently immoral.
    
    I think some men might read what you’ve said and think you are denying any toxic gossip exists, it’s important to have nuance and not alienate men who otherwise would be allies, but I think overall your point is well taken.
    
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- bathing_in_bismuth@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  This comment is one hour old, let’s give you my SS and CC info
  
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  - dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    ??
    
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LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I would not under any circumstances give my drivers license to a for profit app. I don’t even like to give my email.

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- lady_maria@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  apparently there’s some law in the UK that mandates it now 🙄
  
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  - 4am@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Well UK, have the day you voted for I guess
    
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  - Blackmist@feddit.uk ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Thank fuck for VPNs, although it now wants to show me hot milfs in Brussels.
    
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JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I can’t open the article, but I think I read that this was hosted on an unprotected bucket. Assuming that’s correct I wouldn’t say this was a breach. A better headline would be “Women dating safety app ‘Tea’ exposed women’s PII”.

To be 100% clear, I’m not excusing the hackers. I don’t believe it’s morally correct to publicize something because it is exposed. For folks curious about that you can look into how to ethically disclose vulnerabilities. I still view this as doxxing. I still believe what the hackers did should be a criminal offense, it’s just that I also believe the app holds a ton of the blame as well. How can you proclaim to be about keeping women safe while putting them at risk? That should be punished as well.

Like if the storage facility you trusted to hold your stuff never had locks on the doors, shouldn’t they take a lot of the blame as well as the thief who found out a door was unlocked?

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- hopesdead@startrek.website ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  The bigger problem is trying to get the mainstream that would read an article like that to understand the technical difference between hacking and accessing unsecured data.
  
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- teslasaur@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Soft rules have never applied to the internet.
  
  Things that you wouldn’t do afk, just because “those are the rules”, doesn’t apply when every empathy damaged person in the world with an internet connection can break them.
  
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- Clbull@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  They also said they deleted IDs once users were verified. The breach proved that to be an outright lie.
  
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sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Wow that was fast.

I did not even know this app existed untill about 8 hours ago.

Already comprimised.

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- jwmgregory@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  if that’s truly how the leak happened then these people, in any reasonable jurisdiction, would be considered criminally negligent, at the least.
  
  yay compsci ethics courses :D
  
  boo courts failing to uphold the law >:(
  
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- JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  
  this arguably is not even largely a hack.
  
  While I agree in principle, I think we should still call it a hack. As in “to gain illegal access to (a computer network, system, etc.)” as Merriam-Webster puts it. It shouldn’t be legal to do do this just because the website had horrible (non-existent) security. You shouldn’t be allowed to rob a house just because the door wasn’t locked.
  
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ToiletFlushShowerScream@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Not sure if this is ironic that the users are now less safe after using the safety app. But I still feel bad for the users. Dating is hard enough without the fear of being harmed.

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Longmactoppedup@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Maybe I’m just getting old, but the idea of “verifying” my real identity to a faceless website or mobile app is abhorrent.

I guess it doesn’t help that governments in some countries (UK, Australia that I know of) are encouraging this bullshit with Trojan horse laws claiming to protect children from adult websites / social media.

Can’t help but think there is also an element of pot meet kettle here, when users of an app designed to dox and slander people without their knowledge are now the ones getting doxxed themselves.

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- kalpol@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  California, Utah, Texas all have laws now requiring age verification to use an app store
  
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- omniman@piefed.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  What if they take people's biometric aka fingerprint and to view nsfw stuff you goota use the biometric and I am not talking about passkey
  
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bytesonbike@discuss.online ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
My friend came over and told me a story about this crazy date she was on. The guy love bombs her, sets her up with a massage, then in the morning, goes out and eats McDonalds alone and ghosts her. Then repeats every few weeks with love bombs.

I shared that with my discord group and someone said they know that guy too.

Im assuming that’s what Tea is for.

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- Godric@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Wait what? How does one ghost and then repeat love bombing? Also why is eating breakfast alone remarkable? Tf is happening?
  
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- Aqarius@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  
  …eats McDonalds alone and ghosts her. Then repeats every few weeks with love bombs
  
  Something something “cheat day”
  
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ChickenAndRice@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
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Wispy2891@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

Protecting our users’ privacy and data is our highest priority. We are taking every necessary step to ensure the security of our platform

Since sensitive data was put on a public bucket, maybe they meant it was their lowest priority?

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Zephorah@discuss.online ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Reading these incredible comments has revealed a large piece of what was named as the reason for lemm.ee shutting down.

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BackgrndNoize@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
This is why there should be a nationwide rule that PII data should be deleted after the users identity has been verified

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SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Never upload PII to social media

Your privacy is not legally protected.

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UncleGrandPa@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
What are the chances of this being the main reason for the app’s existence?

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SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Stay classy, 4chan. /facepalm

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zkfcfbzr@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I thought 4chan shut down permanently like 2 months ago?

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Bronzebeard@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I had been under the impression that 4chan had also basically died due to their own site getting hacked

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simplejack@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Hungry data privacy lawyers when they learned about Tea this week:

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VinnyDaCat@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I don’t quite understand the outrage in the thread. I’ve been looking through the comments, trying to see if this ever went beyond gossip and I can’t find anything.

From my understanding the app was intended to be a safe space for women to discuss dating. Relaying information about dangerous individuals, or people who cheat. I can imagine that things might have gotten slightly out of hand in regards to anonymous gossip, but is that anything compared to being doxxed? Besides, women, and men have been gossiping behind each others backs for as long as humans have existed. An anonymous app makes it significantly worse certainly, but it is what it is. This behavior is always going to exist for better or for worse. For example, people already discuss this on sites like fetlife since the risk of ending up with someone who wants to batter you for the sake of battering you is somewhat high there.

Surely we can have some sympathy for people who have had their identifications doxxed by 4chan who haven’t done anything worse than a bit of toxic gossip at most?

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Not_mikey@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Self proclaimed “5 star man” Dennis Reynolds is the top suspect

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Clbull@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Tea is the offshoot of all those “Are We Dating The Same Guy” Facebook groups where ladies talk shit, slander and creep-shame guys they went on dates with.

Part of me wants to celebrate this breach because damn those groups are toxic a f. But also, it’s a textbook argument for why mandatory age verification laws need to be abolished. AWDTSG works as a way to keep women safe when it’s used as intended but there are too many women that will slander men with false allegations purely out of spite.

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lenz@lemmy.ml ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I made an account on this thing to lurk, bc obviously who wouldn’t be curious? I guess I’m screwed now. Rip.

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M0oP0o@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
One would have hoped the lesson here would be about the dangers of commoditfiying everything as a fucking “app”, but no, it looks like its not the increadably irresponsible company at fault (as is tradition).

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thatradomguy@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Another example of why people shouldn’t be uploading/sharing nudes on any platform when the pretense is that it will only be between 2 people. That just isn’t realistic anymore. Never was, really. I still don’t get how people can hear and know about all the hacks happening now but they can’t see that sending nudes is somehow safe? Why does society work this way?

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