dandelion
@dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 3 hours ago:
can’t wait for congress to ban whole milk because it has trans fats
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 3 hours ago:
you know whatever lubricants they put on the drill-bit is not safe for consumption, that hotdog is contaminated now
- Comment on Do you want me to heat that up in the "Michael Wave"? 7 hours ago:
just get it out of my sight
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 7 hours ago:
omg 🥵
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 7 hours ago:
men, is it gay to suck milk through a hotdog hole?
- Comment on I never realized this 2 days ago:
huh, that sounds like a rationalization, a way to find a problem with a critique that sounds more defensible or reasonable than defending patriarchy
- Comment on I never realized this 2 days ago:
my instance doesn’t show downvotes, so all I see is that you have lots of upvotes 😊
I suspect downvotes would come from people who disagree that marriage is patriarchal, tbh - I think a lot of people don’t really understand patriarchy or feminism, so they might thing you are being hyperbolic, like claiming marriage is akin to beating your wife or something.
Or they could just be responding merely to the language and not even the content, i.e. by talking about patriarchy at all or posing it in social terms they might think you have been duped by woke propaganda.
- Comment on I never realized this 2 days ago:
yes, though I think a naming system like this isn’t an individual act as much as occurs on the level of social norms and rules; a single individual won’t introduce a competing matrilineal naming system just by convincing her children into it…
Either way, I somewhat agree with the criticism of the joke that the last name coming from a patrilineal origin isn’t a gotcha, though maybe that’s actually the point of the meme since Homelander is the one posing it as a gotcha (and he’s a villain, so it would make sense to symbolize a misogynist with him). The name would still be inherited in a matrilineal way even if it started as a patrilineal name further up the chain.
I guess there is a question of whether the name’s origin matters at all when we are concerned with the patriarchial nature of a practice where women lose their family names and men don’t. That practice being disrupted is what matters, not what the actual name is.
- Comment on Beautiful stories like this just make you smile 2 days ago:
sounds like the shitposting is working to me
- Comment on I never realized this 2 days ago:
it is a pain in the ass, a burden that is put on the woman
- Comment on I never realized this 2 days ago:
is that an unpopular opinion, or just a well-known fact?
- Comment on I never realized this 2 days ago:
I assume they did mean “maiden name”, how else does the joke make sense? The mom’s maiden name is maternal grandfather’s last name …
- Comment on I never realized this 2 days ago:
I think the point of the joke might be more that an attempt to start a matrilineal naming scheme is foiled somewhat from the fact that the maiden name of the mother is derived from her father, i.e. you can’t escape that the last names all come from patrilineal sources for generations.
- Comment on Why do the majority of women still take their partner's last name? 1 month ago:
I took my partner’s last name because I like their family more than mine, and I liked the idea of no longer being associated with my family.
But I think most people just want to do what is normal or expected of them, so I would imagine that is why most women change their name. Not doing so would go against the grain, putting them in awkward situations where they have to explain they didn’t take the last name.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Since I transitioned I’ve been thinking a lot about how little I knew about trans people until I realized I was one and took seriously educating myself.
It makes me feel ashamed because of how little I understand so many other oppressed groups, and how little true empathy I have. Even if on the surface I have respect for people and consider myself an “ally” to various groups, I feel I should do more than just signal respect and support. Maybe it’s an unrealistically high bar, but my conscience certainly thinks I need to do more to empathize with and better understand other groups.
- Comment on Bluesky: eXodus continues as TERFS lose their brain-rotted minds 1 month ago:
the tl;dr is that they are not really feminists, and they use feminist-sounding rhetoric to justify anti-trans views, they’re basically just anti-trans activists.
ContraPoints has a video about “Gender Criticals” (synonymous with TERF): www.youtube.com/watch?v=1pTPuoGjQsI
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
It’s OK, being closeted was worse. :-)
I didn’t realize having the wrong sex hormones in your body can mess up your mind - I was struggling with depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, etc. for decades that were entirely unnecessary. A socially harder life with the right sex hormones is still much better than a closeted life with the wrong hormones. It was a hard lesson to learn, though.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
especially when they’re also privileged and unaware of what it’s like to be a minority - I don’t really know how to cross that divide, though.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
I accept at this point that everyone is a hypocrite, including myself. I still tend to think some people are worse hypocrites than others, lol
- Comment on how did you master splits (for flexibility)? 1 month ago:
old.reddit.com/…/dont_know_where_to_start_click_h…
Splits
This splits routine was created for the 90-day challenge and will give you quick results by stretching every day.
If you just want to take it a bit slower, here’s a follow-along video for every other day.
Hit a plateau in your splits training? Try these brutal but effective loaded progressions. Here and here. Oh, and here.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
agreed, the title should be edited
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
The general advice is if you are wishing to avoid a pregnancy, to assume estrogen won’t make you sterile (and use protection), and if you are hoping to have kids assume it will make you sterile (and get fertility services like freezing sperm before starting HRT).
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
don’t forget Bill O’Reilly
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
yeah, was going to say - being trans did get me shunned, lol
(not that being trans is a bad thing, I can’t help it and I’m not harming anyone)
- Comment on You could probably measure someone's age how hanging his balls is. 2 months ago:
oh no.
- Comment on You could probably measure someone's age how hanging his balls is. 2 months ago:
🫂
- Comment on You could probably measure someone's age how hanging his balls is. 2 months ago:
are men OK?
- Comment on Eric Andre and the millennial experience 5 months ago:
It’s from Ted Danson’s podcast, this part starts around 1:18: youtu.be/VRWvN7jDYC8?si=ODThZBvRKqHzQMAp&t=78