dandelion
@dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone
- Comment on Florida ounces 38 minutes ago:
thank you, so helpful! I had made it to the themes but was confused by the options and didn’t think to scroll 😄
- Comment on Florida ounces 7 hours ago:
- Comment on YSK that Gerrymandering allows politicians to choose their own voters. In many countries, it's illegal. Gerrymandering is common in the United States 1 day ago:
ha, relatable
I do have to think about these assumptions in web design, e.g. using block start or end padding styles instead of padding left or right, so that the page will render correctly if loaded in a different cultural context / language. Euro-centrism is strong, but English isn’t the only language, and Western culture isn’t the only culture.
- Comment on YSK that Gerrymandering allows politicians to choose their own voters. In many countries, it's illegal. Gerrymandering is common in the United States 1 day ago:
💀💀💀
- Comment on YSK that Gerrymandering allows politicians to choose their own voters. In many countries, it's illegal. Gerrymandering is common in the United States 1 day ago:
agreed, I think the reasoning makes sense given that context 😄
- Comment on YSK that Gerrymandering allows politicians to choose their own voters. In many countries, it's illegal. Gerrymandering is common in the United States 1 day ago:
this assumes a left to right interpretation which is not universal, the graphic in a sense is not absolutely red then blue
the text could be positioned left and right like the graphic does, but I found it natural to list the larger number first and the smaller second - so not everyone feels the same as you about the graphic being confusing
- Comment on YSK that Gerrymandering allows politicians to choose their own voters. In many countries, it's illegal. Gerrymandering is common in the United States 1 day ago:
smh my head
yes.
- Comment on Is it normal for young teenagers to snore ? 2 days ago:
because qualifying someone’s gender like that can be dehumanizing …
- Comment on Is it normal for young teenagers to snore ? 2 days ago:
why specify MtF in this context, the girlfriend is just F, that doesn’t really require qualifying does it?
- Comment on I ain't got no time to maintain some stupid little plastic bread clip. I got a landlord to feed. 1 week ago:
are you describing a grocery store?
- Comment on Women Dating Safety App 'Tea' Breached, Users' IDs Posted to 4chan 1 week ago:
sorry, are men concerned for their safety dating women such that a gender inverted version of this app makes sense? Your ignorance is what I’m talking about here …
- Comment on Women Dating Safety App 'Tea' Breached, Users' IDs Posted to 4chan 1 week ago:
yeah, the app has obvious flaws, and the Rate My Professor style approach succeeds or fails depending on the quality of the users and moderators, and could easily be useless or become toxic - either way, I’m not defending this aspect of the app, it’s clearly problematic.
Regardless I understand why women would want a resource like this, and that doesn’t seem true for those in the comments who see the doxxing as deserved for using this app.
Nevermind the rest of the context, like 4chan being a bastion of right-wing, misogynist trolls who would target an app like this for political reasons. Lemmy users approving on 4chan doxxing of women is a major red flag … it might have something to do with how many Lemmy users come here for being banned for their behavior on Reddit. Reddit isn’t sending their best and brightest, and it shows.
- Comment on Women Dating Safety App 'Tea' Breached, Users' IDs Posted to 4chan 1 week ago:
of course, the app has obvious problems, but I don’t see that as justifying the gloating and sense of revenge enjoyment happening.
Instead I see a kind of discontent about women I find concerning, which seems ignorant of the widespread violence women experience or what it’s like for women who take risks when dating men.
Men are not all equally problematic or privileged, but they are generally in a position of power relative to women and are acting like the victims here.
They should direct their discontent to patriarchy which creates the situation where violence against women is dismissed or accepted, and which motivates women to use apps to check if the person they are dating has a history of violent behavior.
Patriarchy which perpetuates the narrative that men are natural predators and women natural prey is what victimizes men here, not the women who rightfully fear and feel victimized by the minority of men who are violent.
- Comment on Women Dating Safety App 'Tea' Breached, Users' IDs Posted to 4chan 1 week ago:
The app enables the photos to be run through a reverse image search, enabling them to run a basic background check, check against public sex offender databases, and check for photos that might get flagged as being used in “catfishing” — misrepresenting one’s identity online.
The app also features a “Tea Party Group Chat,” which allows users to directly share information about men, and has a rating function, which allows users to share their experiences with Yelp-style reviews, awarding men a “green flag” or a “red flag.”
www.cnn.com/2025/07/…/tea-app-dating-privacy-cec
It’s a bit like Rate My Professor, but for dating.
Honestly I cyncially expect this kind of app might inevitably exist for rating people of all genders, but the reason this app exists has directly to do with the violence women face from intimate partners.
The point is that men who are enjoying the doxxing of women who have used this app are ignoring the context, or even have a warped sense of the context, as if this is narrowly about (legitimate) privacy concerns.
Even if the concerns about the app are justified, the revenge enjoyment betrays a much harder to defense view that all the women who used the app are equally cupable, or that doxxing women using the app is equivalent to women doxxing abusive men through the app.
Men are not all equally privileged, but there is a broad inequality both to how violence is distributed and how that plays out in dating situations. Women are not wrong to fear men. One in three women have experienced sexual or physical violence, most of that violence being perpetuated by men.
Since this is the context for the use of this app, it’s not neutral to doxx its users or to claim it’s fair because men feel (legitimate) concerns about the app’s privacy violations.
- Comment on Women Dating Safety App 'Tea' Breached, Users' IDs Posted to 4chan 1 week ago:
There is some of that happening, like when women get together and discuss how they’re being treated it’s “gossip” and inherently immoral.
I think some men might read what you’ve said and think you are denying any toxic gossip exists, it’s important to have nuance and not alienate men who otherwise would be allies, but I think overall your point is well taken.
- Comment on Women Dating Safety App 'Tea' Breached, Users' IDs Posted to 4chan 1 week ago:
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- Comment on Makes sense to me 1 week ago:
so the solution to misogyny is to git gud?
- Comment on Women Dating Safety App 'Tea' Breached, Users' IDs Posted to 4chan 1 week ago:
The replies in this thread are disturbing, gives me a sense that Lemmy has a misogyny problem; maybe I was naïve, but I expected outrage about 4chan doxxing women trying to protect one another, instead I see lots of revenge enjoyment as if being doxxed on 4chan is justice for … <checks notes> warning one another about dangerous men they encounter when dating?
The inability to empathize and take seriously the threats posed to women or to understand their motivation to protect one another is alarming.
There is no good faith extended, but also no evidence presented that instead of safety the app was just for gossip, it’s just taken as assumed that women are wrong for using Tea and they all deserve to be doxxed.
- Comment on Horny🧠 2 weeks ago:
There are a few clarifications I would like to make:
Having an erection does not require the person to have sex, and is not the same as being horny or desiring sex.
Having a penis does not guarantee you have erections (let alone involuntary erections, which is what you seem to be talking about). People with penises who are testosterone dominant do have involuntary erections, but even so, see my first point for why that’s not relevant.
Your claim was about being horny being a bigger problem for people with penises, which is a fair assumption but has more to do with testosterone than the penis (like you’ve pointed out, trans men can be very horny without a “penis” - though it should be noted here that male and female genitalia are more similar than dissimilar and have the same structures of a phallus and glans, just in different configurations).
so it’s already suggesting that it’s not a myth.
The myth is the belief that men are horny while women are not, the reality is that it varies significantly by person. with significant overlap between the sexes. There is a difference on average, but it’s not as large or total as people commonly believe.
And finally, as you have pointed out the social context will skew the data significantly with fewer women being comfortable with sex than men, fewer women having learned to masturbate than men, and fewer women willing to discuss or disclose their sexual feelings or behavior than men. These differences in how sex is treated socially means whatever biological differences there are is muddled, especially when what was measured was self-reporting on frequency of masturbation. It’s possible that men and women are far more similar than dissimilar than even the current evidence we have points to.
- Comment on Horny🧠 2 weeks ago:
that’s a common belief, but it varies a lot by individual, with many women having higher sex drives than men
- Comment on sardonic soup 2 weeks ago:
we already have thornless blackberry varieties…
- Comment on Hotels have developed a new revenue stream: "algorithmic" smoke detectors 2 weeks ago:
also, who has the time and money to bail on work, pay upfront for hotel rooms and lawyers, and do this? I mean, someone - but probablynot enough people to make large corporations that worried about it, though I could be wrong about that.
- Comment on Hotels have developed a new revenue stream: "algorithmic" smoke detectors 2 weeks ago:
- Comment on Chanterelle update 3 weeks ago:
generally yes, but children, elderly, immune-compromised, etc. are more susceptible and the toxins in that mushroom could theoretically result in a person’s death even if in most cases it usually it just results in vomiting, diarrhea, etc.
still, it’s a good call out that it’s not as dangerous as something like Angel of Death.
- Comment on Chanterelle update 3 weeks ago:
though these are chanterelles, a deadly look-a-like to rule out are jack-o-lantern mushrooms (named because they glow in the dark!)
- Comment on UwU brat mathematician behavior 3 weeks ago:
fake and gay?
- Comment on How does one become a clown? 4 weeks ago:
I was clowning with you 😉
“you can’t be serious” being a literal (joking) instruction on how to become a clown, while also making it look like I was questioning your dedication 😄
- Comment on How does one become a clown? 4 weeks ago:
you can’t be serious
- Comment on We'd like to welcome our newest Student to Hogwarts, Hun-Gary Mc'Spud. 4 weeks ago:
literally came to comments to say Sirona Ryan, lol
- Comment on Enough is enough 5 weeks ago:
In the film there is a villain character named Buffalo Bill who murders young women and harvests their skin to make a woman suit they can wear to become a woman after being rejected by gender-affirming clinics for being mentally unstable.
There is a famous scene where Buffalo Bill has abducted a woman and keeps her in a well, and a basket with lotion is sent down and Buffalo Bill says a now famous line: “It rubs lotion on its skin, or else it gets the hose again.” This is a threat if she doesn’t moisturize and take care of her skin, since that’s what is intended to be harvested from her.
There’s another iconic scene when Buffalo Bill is putting on makeup and jewelry and in the mirror saying “Would you fuck me? … I would fuck me. I would fuck me. I would fuck me so hard.”
This is perhaps one of the biggest and most impactful instances of transphobia in film, and served as an anchor in the 1990s for how people thought about trans women, as deranged psychopathic perverts (similar to how at the time all gay men were believed to be pedophile rapists).
There were even protests held against the film at the time.
Since OP’s post is about lotion and criminality, my assumption is that some Silence of the Lambs joke is inevitable, so I thought I’d get ahead of it.
