blarghly
@blarghly@lemmy.world
- Comment on A guide for our friends outside the U.S. 23 hours ago:
100° = really fuckin’ hot 0° = really fuckin’ cold
- Comment on My friend exposed a guy for bad stuff. Now he's created a site where he archives everything my friend posts online & deliberately twists it to make her look bad/discredit her. What should she do? 1 day ago:
My socials are set to private for lots of reasons - situations like this being just one. Pretty much everyone I know also has them set to private. Its just smart
- Comment on My friend exposed a guy for bad stuff. Now he's created a site where he archives everything my friend posts online & deliberately twists it to make her look bad/discredit her. What should she do? 2 days ago:
Stop wearing short skirts if men are cat calling you
It’s reasonable advice, if you are sure that not wearing short skirts results in less cat-calling. The societal solution is to discourage cat-calling in whatever way. But if a particular individual doesn’t want to be cat called more than they want to wear short skirts, then the solution is obvious.
This is similar advice to “if someone is trying to mug you, just give them your wallet so you don’t get stabbed.” Certainly there should be a larger discussion about decreasing the amount of muggings - but for the particular individual in a particular circumstance, they should take the action that is in their immediate self interest.
- Comment on My friend exposed a guy for bad stuff. Now he's created a site where he archives everything my friend posts online & deliberately twists it to make her look bad/discredit her. What should she do? 2 days ago:
Also, start archiving the website in order to compile evidence for later. Don’t count on this person leaving the site up.
- Comment on Coming out of my depression and starting to exercise again because an evil tool just ate floor 2 days ago:
Hence why I specified 80s bodybuilders
- Comment on Coming out of my depression and starting to exercise again because an evil tool just ate floor 2 days ago:
Any athletic motion can result in an overuse injury of progressed too quickly with inadequate recovery.
- Comment on Coming out of my depression and starting to exercise again because an evil tool just ate floor 2 days ago:
If rapid circular movements with the elbows were that dangerous, we couldn’t play tennis.
- Comment on Coming out of my depression and starting to exercise again because an evil tool just ate floor 2 days ago:
Bodybuilders
- Comment on Coming out of my depression and starting to exercise again because an evil tool just ate floor 2 days ago:
I mean, the category you’re thinking of is bodybuilders - specifically bodybuilders from the 80s when machines became popular.
- Comment on Feelin the Bern? 2 days ago:
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Clearly he just assassinated Charlie Kirk.
- Comment on Has Charlie Kirk ever changed his views on a subject during a debate? 2 days ago:
He said some deaths were worth it. I think he made a pretty strong case.
- Comment on Has Charlie Kirk ever changed his views on a subject during a debate? 2 days ago:
What was he proven wrong about?
- Comment on THIS JUST IN: FBI suspects Kirk was likely targeted, more info to come 3 days ago:
I’m not saying that Russia isn’t being a class-a douchenozzle. I’m saying it hasn’t escalated yet, there is still plenty of space for de-escalation, and predicting the future is really hard.
- Comment on THIS JUST IN: FBI suspects Kirk was likely targeted, more info to come 4 days ago:
World War 3 has already has started
Wars start all the time and don’t escalate into worldwide conflicts. This is like saying “The next recession has started, just look at X!!!” It’s really easy to make a doomer take, but when the doom fails to materialize, it’s always “okay, sorry, we got the date wrong… but soon! Doooooooom!” Any sort of take like this deserves a blanket response: put up or shut up. Let’s see your bet on Polymarket.
He had no problem of having two politicians assassinated to just distract from No King protests.
Conspiracy talk. Show me the proof. Or show me your bet on Polymarket that we will eventually find evidence.
deploy military in Utah
Outside Moab and SLC (which are moderate), Utah is one of the reddest states in the union. From a despotic point of view, this makes no sense.
Wasn’t Kirk on the release Epstein files bandwagon anyway? That sounds like something that would let you fall out of favor.
Trump’s administration might be more competent now, but Trump himself certainly isn’t. If he found himself suddenly not liking Kirk, I would expect to see him trash talking on TruthSocial.
A far more likely scenario: all the recent political violence we’ve been seeing is the result of unstable individuals in a politically divisive climate with unfettered access to firearms.
- Comment on THIS JUST IN: FBI suspects Kirk was likely targeted, more info to come 4 days ago:
Trump sending the military to Orem would be really friggin weird. Unless he’s sending a brigade of recruiters.
- Comment on Are fossil fuels vegan? 4 days ago:
and practicable
Right. This is the part I’m curious about. If someone enjoys consuming animal products to such a degree that not consuming them is impractical, don’t they then have a claim to being vegan?
- Comment on Do you meditate? 5 days ago:
I meditate. I don’t know what it is called. I just call it meditation. All the other things, imo, are not meditation. Not to say they are bad - just that to the extent that the word “meditation” means something, these things do not fall under that definition.
To me, meditation means intentionally focusing attention on one particular thing, refocusing whenever you notice attention has drifted, and doing this with the intention of improving your ability to focus your attention.
Box breathing isn’t meditation because you are consciously trying to change your breath.
Any kind of activity where you are highly focused, I suppose, could be used as a kind of meditation-adjacent practice. But unless your overall intention is improving your ability to focus your attention, then it isn’t really meditation. So it someone says, for example, that tennis is how they meditate because they enter a flow state, I would be doubtful - most people playing tennis do it because it is good exercise, it is fun, it is social, they like to win, and they get a tan. These are all fine goals - but if the goal isn’t explicitly and exclusively the improvement of focusing attention, then imo it is not meditation.
I’m split on the specific kinds of “meditation” that I hear about. Eg, loving kindness meditation, transcendental meditation, anything that requires consciously moving the body or controlling the breath, anything that requires repeating a mantra or visualizing a feeling, image, or sensation. Maybe these are just more advanced forms of meditation that I’ll appreciate when I’m better at normal meditation. But intuitively, I tend to think of them as, like, derivative techniques of meditation, rather than meditation itself. I’m also always skeptical when someone who has been meditating for two weeks starts talking about how they are practicing “X” kind of meditation. Assuming that these more specific kinds of meditation could be considered meditation at all, imo, practitioners should focus on basic meditation first until they are able to maintain stable attention before they get all fancy.
For me, meditation is sitting down and focusing on the sensations of the breath as it passes over the tip of my nose, and refocusing my attention there when I notice it has drifted. That’s it.
- Comment on Are fossil fuels vegan? 5 days ago:
Why wouldn’t it be vegan?
- Comment on My wife wants a puppy 5 days ago:
Children are definitely not a cheaper alternative
- Comment on Are fossil fuels vegan? 5 days ago:
No, I mean like…
Suppose where you live and where you work are fixed. You can drive and murder animals via climate change. Or you can ride your bike. But driving takes 30 min, and riding your bike takes 2 h. There is nothing dangerous or otherwise bad about riding your bike - it just takes an extra 3 h out of your day that you’d rather spend playing video games. As per the above definition, you can murder animals via climate change because it is “impractical” (ie, unpleasant because you are impatient) to ride your bike, and still call yourself a vegan.
Now, a new scenario. Suppose you are avoiding driving and are riding your bike 2h each way to get to work. But on the way to and from work, you pass a McD’s. Every time you pass it, your mouth waters. You are hungry. You really like the taste of their animal products. And the taste of a quarter pounder with cheese fills you with memories of a happy childhood. You want it so much, in fact, that not stopping there to buy a hamburger creates twice as much negative utility for you as biking instead of driving - ie, is twice as inconvenient to avoid eating a hamburger. Given this scenario and the above definition, eating hamburgers is vegan if you like them enough.
- Comment on Are fossil fuels vegan? 5 days ago:
I mean, even if they do contain animal, does it matter? Are vegans not allowed to pick up old buffalo skulls from the ground from buffalo which died of natural causes?
- Comment on Are fossil fuels vegan? 5 days ago:
But they are also an animal. So they can’t kill themselves, since that also wouldn’t be vegan.
- Comment on Are fossil fuels vegan? 5 days ago:
Because saying “it depends on the individual” doesnt give us an interesting conversation.
- Comment on Are fossil fuels vegan? 5 days ago:
Wouldn’t this mean that if someone derives a sufficient number of utils from eating meat (enough that not eating it would be “impractical”), then eating meat is vegan?
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
Are you not having a good time? Does she tell you/make you do things you don’t want to do? Does she scream at you or try to coerce you when she is angry?
If yes, problem. If no, no problem.
- Comment on Were both parties cheated on? 6 days ago:
It’s worth it if they are your sister and you care about them.
- Comment on Were both parties cheated on? 6 days ago:
So, one possibility is that Asher is a jerk, and never actually was in an open relationship with his bf, or else he and his bf were in an open relationship, but had a boundary that they had to ask the others’ permission before hooking up with other partners (or something similar).
The other possibility is that Asher and his bf had agreed to an open relationship, but had never really discussed the details, and both a had different ideas about what was and wasn’t acceptable.
And yet another possibility is that they had an open relationship, and they’d agreed that what Asher did was totally acceptable - but that when faced with the actual reality come to life, Asher’s bf was not okay with it.
This is why there has been a metric ton of ink spilled in nonmonogamous spaces about - say it with me - good communication. But of course, these are teens. And they likely haven’t had much experience being nonmonogamous. So I’d just chalk this up as being a learning experience for everyone.
Imo, what your sister should take away is that you shouldn’t get too invested in a non-monogamous person without meeting their partners (or at least their friends who are involved in their nonmonogamous circles). Sure, flirt and fool around and have fun - but don’t assume it is anything beyond that until you have actually interacted with the other important people in their lives.
As someone who is nonmonogamous, personally I think everyone should try having an open relationship at some point in their lives. Not because everyone should be nonmonogamous. But because it’s going to dredge up a whole lot of emotional baggage and force you to deal with it, while also making you extremely good at communicating with your partner(s). Having multiple partners is awesome - it is, no doubt, really fucking hot. But at the same time, it is basically like having a second job in terms of work. So anyone going in should be aware of that caveat.
- Comment on Were both parties cheated on? 6 days ago:
They’re adolescents - sexually mature people who are learning how to navigate the world, including romantic relationships. Sure, this is melodramatic teen heartbreak. But it’s real to them, and OP is right to be concerned about the situation so they can talk about it to their sister.
- Comment on walter 6 days ago:
blarghly
- Comment on walter 6 days ago:
A respectable stance, imo