Your posts are a refreshing change of pace in an otherwise heavily male-focused space.
Lemmy is great but requires some heavy pruning. I reccomend making frequent use of the block button
a girl can never be hyperfeminine/sexual, chaotic, unfiltered online without ulterior motives allegations
Submitted 13 hours ago by violet08@lemmy.today to [deleted]
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recklessengagement@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
violet08@lemmy.today 8 hours ago
Lemmy also has a misogyny problem, despite being progressive on most issues. Besides my own experience, I’ve seen this a lot in women/feminism-related threads.
boonhet@sopuli.xyz 7 hours ago
I think society at large has a misogyny-as-default problem unfortunately. I guess most of us have been raised with biased we’re not really aware of until we reach a certain level of self-reflection.
Nora@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 hours ago
Sometimes I feel like Lemmy is worse than reddit in this regard. The amount of blatant misogony I see is unreal. Memes, posts, comments, it’s everywhere, often not-so-subtly too.
hsr@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 hours ago
Your posts are a refreshing change of pace in an otherwise heavily male-focused space.
You could almost say /c/femcelmemes is, uhhh, leaking, in a way.
ThunderQueen@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
👉👈
GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
is this a real thing? like…do people really get so sexually charged they reach out to strangers for sex?
just jerk off into the toilet like a normal person and go about your day.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
Goddamn, I love when you give me orders.
GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
only if you’re ok using quartz sand as lube.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
I mean, yes. The human touch is excellent for stuff like sexting and erp with strangers on the internet. But also, that’s what hookups are.
GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
hookups are two consenting individuals.
reaching out to a stranger that hasn’t given consent or worse, just sending dick pics, is just weird.
Naho_Zako@piefed.zip 3 hours ago
If rule34 and horny sub/community comments are to be believed, then yes. I genuinely can’t understand why people wanna have phone sex with randos on image boards, but sure I guess. I always thought it was the ace in me, but thankfull others see it too I guess.
ByteJunk@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
I’m probably just really tired, but why would people expect that? Posting cool stuff is a huge service that I’m really grateful for, I wouldn’t have such an amazing feed without all of you guys who are active posters, if anything you should be offered uh… services, if so desired, not requests to provide them wtf.
Decoy321@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
Goddamnit, this comment thread is gonna make me work.
YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 6 hours ago
Lol do you need your bonking stick?
Fluffy_Ruffs@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Some people don’t know how to deal with an overtly sexual woman. It throws them for a loop. To some people, only men are allowed to be horny. If you’re a horny woman you must be a slut who can’t control their emotions and that’s bad.
I think it’s important for some men to realize women are people, too. I know that sounds silly to say out loud but I really think some guys think women are these completely different creatures from themselves. We’re all human and, gasp, some like to talk and joke about sex. The horror!
spicytuna62@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
I do hate the double standard that it’s totally fine for men to joke and talk about sex, but when a woman does it, she must be dirty in some way. I get that biologically, women have had to be more choosy with partners because for a long time, the best protection was zero insertion, or the chances of ending up with a child you didn’t want were nonzero. Things are different now. We have the pill. We have emergency contraceptives. Some of us even have access to abortions.
Sex isn’t dirty. It’s normal and natural to want it. It’s normal to have a hard time getting it. It’s normal to be frustrated by the dating field and navigating relationships. It’s normal to feel incredibly rewarded when you do get it. And it’s normal to want to blow off steam by talking to people closest to you about your successes and failures in life. And a big part of being human is one’s own sexual exploits.
One of my closest friends is a woman about 13 years older than me (I’m 33; she’s 46), and she’s going through menopause right now. And she’ll start talking about the difficulty it’s bringing her, and she’ll tell me, “You don’t wanna hear about all this,” or, “I know you don’t care about this.” And the truth is that I do not nor could I ever understand what she’s going through, but as a friend, I can listen to her complain about it and give her the space to vent. Even if I’ll never get it, I can just be a voice in the room to pull out some great hits like:
- “Jeeeesus, I’m so sorry,”
- “Yikes, that sucks,” or
- "Haha, Fuck. That."
As a man, I don’t always have follow up questions or advice to offer someone going through issues unique to women. But people aren’t always looking for advice. Sometimes, it’s just nice to have the space to blow off steam with a safe person.
And that’s not dirty. It’s something we all do.
GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip 6 hours ago
Curious that this is your perception, while i myself have noticed a sort of inverse trend in that regard.
Especially around these parts it is heavily frowned upon making any kind of horny or sexual comment as a dude about a woman. A surefire way to get schooled on what a misogynist objectifying dick you are (excluding literal porn community comment section of course).
Other horny comments are much less controversial, women on men, men on men, women on women. Things you might find in the average (gay) porn comment section get upvoted on lemmy on a regular basis, im sure it’s totally ironic.
So my personal “analysis” of recent ish lemmy online discourse would be that heterosexual men on lemmy avoid being publicly horny because of the expected blowback. That or they make an alt account.
EldritchFeminity@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 hours ago
Considering it was only about 100 years ago that science decided that women could orgasm and weren’t just faking it to make their husbands happy…yes, the idea that a woman can be horny and is a normal human being is a shocking revelation to some (many?).
Scubus@sh.itjust.works 5 hours ago
See that makes a lot of sense, but you are forgetting something vital. This is the internet, so everyone is a guy. Especially the horny women. Therefore, only men can be horny. Checkmate, wanktheiests.
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 hours ago
who can’t control their emotions
Ironic how men accuse horny women of being unable to control their emotions when it’s mostly horny men being unable to control their emotions that’s actually problematic (causing misogyny and rape)
Many men tend to be actually too horny, they objectify women and tend to have misogynistic and patriarchal expectations.
Demdaru@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
Lol. I am liking your post 'cause you provide much needed whiplash among dominantly politic content, so thanks xD
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 hours ago
I upvote almost everything
I see upvote as “this is a good Lemmy post/comment” and downvote as “this is a bad Lemmy post/comment”. Most of what I see is good. Bad things are things such as misinformation, bad faith stuff / trolling, bad (in my opinion) takes, people being wrong/stupid about stuff, irrelevant things, etc. When I do not vote it’s for one of 3 reasons: either I don’t understand what it is saying, it makes a reference I don’t get, or I can’t determine whether it’s good or bad (usually because it’s unclear).
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 5 hours ago
But I did. And if someone wants sexual services from me, assassinate Peter Thiel, and I will be right back on it.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
Look. I’ll do it for free. It’s been a rough spell.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 hours ago
Thank you! Pretty generous! And I don’t have to give up my booty for it!
bruhduh@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
404@lemmy.zip 6 hours ago
I saw the thumbnail and was about to comment “justice for violet08” but then I opened the post and it was you
Still though. Justice for violet08
Furbag@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
Hi, I upvoted your post, so when’s the wedding? 😏
D_C@sh.itjust.works 6 hours ago
Step back. I’ve upvoted quite a few of Violet’s posts therefore we are obviously going to meet later, do The Sex ™, then go out for cheese sandwiches!!!
YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 6 hours ago
How the fuck did he get grilled cheese in here‽
Luvs2Spuj@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
I feel a bit bad for silently upvoting your content instead of commenting things to offset the shit you must get. I don’t say much here compared to how many things I upvote. Please keep doing your thing, you are appreciated here and I hope you can still enjoy yourself without creeps spoiling that.
deacon@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
I enjoy the posts, I’ve just always assumed this is another user doing a bit though — which is fine
All the better if there is a real person behind this, it gives me some hope for the younger generation, and I hope nothing you encounter here makes you regret sharing who you are and what you’re going through.
But you’re in a community that is skewing older and more early-internet, and thus most of us find it prudent to pretty much assume every identity in a community like this is partially or largely fake. I am, for example, a 4 year old Australian Shepherd in real life and my human has no clue.
Real or fake, I enjoy my game of “Stamets or Violet” every time I see a horny or uncouth post.
Forester@pawb.social 10 hours ago
On the internet everyone knows you’re a dog if you’re from pawb.social at least.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
Looks concerningly regardless of instance
r4venw@sh.itjust.works 10 hours ago
I, for one, still believe Stamets and Violet are the same person. Have you ever seen them in the same room together at the same time?? Checkmate!
Agrivar@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
This is like the second or third time I’ve seen this Stamets person mentioned, as if everyone knows who they are, but I’m clueless. I figure I’d better ask now before it gets even more awkward - who is Stamets and what’s their deal?
PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 2 hours ago
What is I like and share?
PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 2 hours ago
Oh never mind, you’re a girl.
I thought you were a furry femboy
AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor@piefed.social 12 hours ago
American/christianism puritanism at its best.
We’ve been taught that violence is fine, every human is violent and, in some cases, it’s even a good thing. But god forbid you manifest sexual desires in public!
Like… mate, do you realize that violence only brings pain while sex brings pleasure?
Then you realize that the whole point of both is to make your life miserable and things start making sense.
QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 12 hours ago
so you’re saying instead of bombing countries we don’t like we should organize an orgy in the magnitude of hundreds of millions of people? fair enough
trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Make love, not war
curbstickle@anarchist.nexus 11 hours ago
…. Seems like its worth a try.
Mika@piefed.ca 11 hours ago
Sex brings pleasure and consequences in children/std or even physical injuries. Also sex is largerly overrated when we have videogames and anime.
AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor@piefed.social 10 hours ago
Unlike wars and violence that bring pleasure without consequences to the rich fucks who send kids to kill themselves for them.
Certainly, we should have more wars and less sex, it only makes sense, right?
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 hours ago
Have you heard of this these things called condoms?
Or birth control?
Or fleshlights and vibrators?
…Did you ever take a sex ed class, or no?
Agrivar@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
You should try having good sex once or twice, and then get back to us.
StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 7 hours ago
Idk I took a glance at your posts and I don’t know if I would call them hypersexual, I would consider that like what u/sexmeat did. I think horny humor is just part of Gen Zs vernacular
RBWells@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
I’m not even bi and I miss her posts, they were so hot.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
I also think it’s just that some (especially young adult) people are very sex motivated, and due to various factors young women like that are often treated as abnormalities rather than within the expected variation of humanity.
Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it 12 hours ago
It’s also silly how men can’t be hyperfemminine in this modern society…
sidebro@lemmy.zip 12 hours ago
i dunno, i do that all the time
SarahValentine@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 hours ago
Femboys are my favorite kind of men uwu
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 hours ago
same :3
Zamboni_Driver@lemmy.ca 11 hours ago
You can be who ever you want, I don’t believe you though.
I don’t believe that anyone on the internet is who they say they are.
It’s not really bothering me, you can be you, or be the character you’re playing or whatever, it’s all good.
If you want to be believed though, you would need to prove it in some way. And no I don’t mean by posting nudes or lewd content, it’s an easy enough thing to provide evidence for in a sfw way that protects your privacy.
Again, it’s not important that you prove it, but you won’t be believed until you do. Your posts are changing from being funny memes to being semi aggressive taunts about your identity. It seems like for you the question of your identity is a game for you and something that you’re using for attention. You can have whatever identity you want to have, but maybe try to stick to being funny and interesting and not whatever this new dynamic is.
violet08@lemmy.today 11 hours ago
If I had a nickel for every time someone wrote a relatively long comment analyzing my online behavior on here, I’d have two nickels. Which isn’t a lot, but it’s weird that it happened twice.
Zamboni_Driver@lemmy.ca 10 hours ago
It’s weird that someone replied to your post seeking attention about your identity? Only one of my sentences analyzed your behavior. The rest were a response to your post from the point of view of the average person.
Now it just seems like you’re absolutely trolling if you’re going to try to mock people who reply.
boonhet@sopuli.xyz 6 hours ago
If OP is who she says she is, she’s better off not proving who she is. Probably best for a young woman to not put a face to her name online if she’s making a bunch of sexual posts. People can be nasty.
At the end of the day it doesn’t really matter if she’s actually a woman or not, since it’s highly unlikely any of us is meeting her in person ever.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
What kind of incel ass reaction is this to a woman posting a meme that basically says “You can give me positive feedback but I am not obliged to fuck you”?
Holy fuck dude…
Garbagio@lemmy.zip 9 hours ago
OK but like, what does it matter? Why does to matter who or what @violet08 is? At the end of the day it’s a bit, and a funny one when rubes like you keep getting so invested in it that you write essays like this. It’s like a comedic blacklight for showing how people feel about women.
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 10 hours ago
Your posts are changing from being funny memes to being semi aggressive taunts about your identity. It seems like for you the question of your identity is a game for you and something that you’re using for attention
Alternative hypothesis: People get angry when you call them liars, and people yell when they get angry.
ysjet@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
Dude, this is weird as fuck. Go touch grass.
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 hours ago
demlet@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
Yeah, natural selection really made sure men are as horny as possible didn’t it? Fortunately there are ways to learn how to mitigate it somewhat by being more self reflective and such.
Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
demlet@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Most men aren’t smart enough or wealthy enough to become surgeons, but that’s an interesting idea.
PhoenixDog@piefed.ca 3 hours ago
If you need surgery to not assume you get to stick your dick into whoever looks at you kindly…
GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip 12 hours ago
Oh you definitely can, and i do enjoy the unhinged nature of your contributions, but it is pretty much a guarantee that some lonely and/or horny dude will feel encouraged.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 5 hours ago
Let me guess, someone actually responded seriously? Shocker.
Battle_Masker@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 hours ago
Not just girls either. One dude-lookin person has a feminine look and their inbox fills with requests for that stuff… and dick picks
zaphod@sopuli.xyz 12 hours ago
Wait, I thought we’re married, what’s even the point of this now?
Denjin@feddit.uk 10 hours ago
How many creepy dms do you get per week?
SaltyIceteaMaker@lemmy.ml 13 hours ago
i was fooledonce again :<
Mim@lemmy.zip 11 hours ago
You don’t? But I thought we were married?!? 😭😭😭
Nah, I just like reading along and posting a comment every now and then (though probably more often than I comment in general tbh).
So, have fun. :3Banana@sh.itjust.works 9 hours ago
Preeeeach
python@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
I like your posts bc they’re relatable
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 10 hours ago
Instructions unclear. Sex expected. Rage building.
FishFace@piefed.social 13 hours ago
Nor can guys, but the most common motives vary. Though a desire for attention is probably common in both cases.
aBundleOfFerrets@sh.itjust.works 7 hours ago
29d old account, certainly a bot
m3t00@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
simpler times
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