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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are your technology mispredictions?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  I just thought it wouldn’t go anywhere. Financially I made the right choice by never investing. No matter how much money you could have made in retrospect, the correct choice is to make the decision based on sound financial strategies. All the value remains speculation

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Two former Polygon editors say they are launching Mothership, a new game publication, on January 26, to analyze games through the lens of gender and identity⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s this weird thing where the censorship of sexual content comes from the right and the gamers who are mad that they don’t get enough sexual content are on the right and blaming the left. Meanwhile the left generally comes to the position that sexual content is totally fine, but should ideally be humanizing rather than objectifying and should include diversity as well as less sexual options being available.

  Like, both sides have a prude faction and a slut faction, but on the left our prudes generally have little say over policy demands so long as our sluts display some self control and act respectfully. The right does the inverse and lets its sluts be as boorish of pigs as they want, but the prudes decide what the rules are. As a slut, the left is a far better deal

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Electric motorcycles with solid-state batteries seem to be coming soon.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Or when they’re in low speed population dense areas where bicyclists are part of traffic.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨genius⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Good news is, that part ain’t getting off the ground. Bad news is, the rotor might get kinda fast first

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨genius⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  You build a boat out of the helicopter and 3d printed parts. I’ll be a bad boat, but the best case scenario for this 3d printed part is that it breaks under static load

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I can taste sounds⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Wait, your tinnitus stays still? Mine is basically a symphony made for people whose favorite music is hearing tests.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mafs⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  If they impede your breathing you’ve definitely gone too far. Until then to your taste

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mafs⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  And you don’t need to make up a holiday for it, it’s already multiple. You can celebrate Labor Day, but if that’s a bit too red for ya it’s also Beltane, but you’re more than welcome to the more secular version of May Day. It’s really just a lovely day to call off work and enjoy the halfway point of spring, ideally in nature

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I've never been in a situation where me having a gun would have made things bettter.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah even when I awoke to a home invader, what was I going to do, groggily shoot someone I didn’t recognize that had started running?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mom with the real questions ⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I think it may be more that they were the first generation to really be targeted by a disposability culture. The world they were born in was such that tv repair was a job and it was expected that if your small appliances broke you’d fix them rather than assuming it’s just not financially worth it. And their great grandparents had lived in a world where middle class people may have a few nice things that were hand crafted and meant to be passed down in a sort of poor person’s version of wealth.

  So as mass production and upward mobility skyrocketed in the 20th century, it makes perfect sense that the generation born in the middle of it would not really get that the fact that their parents and grandparents had boxes of “valuable stuff worth a fortune” despite never actually having a fortune or anything close to it means they didn’t, they just had mass produced imitations of what once had been reserved for the wealthy.

  Today all items are disposable because consumer goods are either too cheaply made to last a long time (furniture) or too complex or hostilly made to be able to efficiently repair compared to the labor and materials to make a new one (electronics)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mom with the real questions ⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes but I’m not cooking for 12

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Elon Musk’s AI Grok Goes Rogue with Posts Suggesting Trump Is a Pedophile and Erika Kirk Is JD Vance in Drag⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Damn, look at that couch fucker

  Very sexy couches, is what JD Vance is looking for

  Aaaah why is JD Vance fucking my couch

  No, JD Vance won’t choose to fuck his wife instead of a couch

  Crap, JD Vance is fucking another couch

  Egads, JD Vance really puts the love in loveseat

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Ah the feminizing the name of your political opponents thing. Of course

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Shitpost⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  In this context aesthetic means “aesthetic[ly in line with me/the situation]”. It means big mood, but for style.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The phrase "my world is brighter with you" is literally true⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve been bioluminescent in the IR spectrum for over 3 decades. Fortunately my physician referred me to a physicist about it

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK about Israel’s “Samson Option”: The Nuclear Target List that includes American and European cities…⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m reminded of the cycle of abuse and the passing on of personality disorders from parent to child. They’re so obsessed with their own trauma that they’re gleefully doing to others what was done to them. They don’t see the similarities and have come to see the problem with what was done to them more in who it was done to than what was done.

  This is also interesting because I see it significantly less in Jewish communities outside Israel. Sure, there are plenty who side with Israel no matter what and believe whatever they say, but in Israel it’s different, it’s like nearly the whole country has lost its mind and soul.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Check mate, atheists. ⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Exactly, the experience of religion is felt internally and through community. As someone who went Christian -> atheist -> pagan, I can say I do understand both sides. Atheists are right to say that without evidence religion shouldn’t have any power over non-believers. Religious people are right to say that for some people religion serves a role that would be missed without it.

  On issues of religion, even as someone who’s been pagan longer than she was an atheist I generally side with the atheists. I grew up watching Christians try to prove Christianity despite our denomination (catholicism) having the doctrine of non-overlapping magesteria, which basically says that anything science can prove belongs to science and where religion contradicts it must be taken as metaphor or flowery language. I’m far better served by freedom from religion than freedom to use religion as a cudgel, just as all minority religions are.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to deal with agression?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I’ll begin by saying anger issues are one of the areas CBT and DBT shine. This is because anger is a very misunderstood emotion. Its job is to protect you, and in a person with good emotional regulation, a healthy understanding of danger, and a healthy perception of the self it’s a very useful emotion. It’s just that we’re often wired to jump at shadows and those three caveats play an important role.

  So what do you actually do about it though? You start by figuring out how you process emotions. Some people like my wife are internal processors. They need alone time just thinking about their feelings to understand them. Some like me are external processors who need to talk about it to understand it.

  For anger I’ve moved to basically having an internal dialog with an imaginary therapist who just asks me questions like “and how did you feel” or “and why do you feel that way”. They’re all questions cbt told me to ask myself. The goal is to first determine if my anger is an appropriate response. If it is, then I start trying to determine what the best way to act on it is. But far more likely, I’m moving towards asking what threat I percieved, and what cognitive distortions lead to that. Maybe I’m defending my ego, and in reality the ego is actually what’s hurting me. Maybe I’m seeing people who hurt me before in the actions of people who deserve grace, and failing to understand that everybody fucks up sometimes.

  Whatever the distortion is you acknowledge it, but refute it. “I feel unfairly attacked, but I know that that person’s point was legitimate criticism that they felt I needed to hear.” Or “I feel like my partner is nitpicking and never gives me a break, but I know that words like always and never are cognitive distortions, what I need is to calm down and figure out if this criticism is valid or if it’s fair for me to request more grace and to attempt to change behavior where it is valid.”

  But yeah, take a walk, the movement is good for getting the emotions out and thinking. And look for where your brain is lying to you. CBT and DBT are best administered by professionals, and if it feels like it’s just talk therapy it probably is. This is the sort of therapy a lot of therapists assign workbooks for. If therapy isn’t an option there are books on the topic and you can just buy the workbooks. But self administered therapy is a lot like any other form of self administered medical care, sure you may save a lot of money and get great results, but you’re also at risk of fucking up and now needing to hire a professional to fix your mistakes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to deal with agression?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Learn to recognize it and step away. Taking a walk really does help. Decisions made in anger cannot be undone. Most mature people will hear “hey I’m feeling pretty emotional about this topic, I’m going to go clear my head and think on it for a half hour or so” and understand and let you go with little to no judgment. As you get into that habit you’re likely to find yourself less and less aggressive. You instinctively do what you practice doing, right now that may be lashing out, but hard work can change that.

  Having parents who were really bad at emotional regulation resulted in me not really being taught it well. But I found myself embarrassing myself and hurting those around me. I got big on walking my feelings out, and started using the CBT techniques I learned for anxiety, and they worked. Eventually it really became second nature. Big feelings are now followed by introspection. In the rare cases I snap at someone it’s immediately followed by an apology, stepping away, and introspection with an appropriate for the situation explanation.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to deal with agression?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I appease while attempting to flee usually

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨who was the aggressor in cold war?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Nobody that’s why it was cold. Both sides were ramping up and preparing for the other to attack. They engaged in proxy wars and demonstrations of their power and capabilities. But the cost of attacking was everything and neither was willing to sacrifice life on earth without being attacked first.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Among games with over 10K reviews, Deltarune is the most highly rated⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  That makes perfect sense. I can’t imagine anyone who wouldn’t like it would try it

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Pizza styles⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah Chicago bar pizza is excellent. Also the Midwest as a whole likes square cut thin crust pizzas as local treats. Except Michigan where Detroit style is deep dish but for some reason it’s considered cooler

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Electrolysis can solve one of our biggest contamination problems⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  When done in a hair follicle it creates lye destroying the follicle

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨In a way, a gift card is kind of the opposite of a credit card⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  They’re also great for the people in your life who you know are too practical to buy themselves something nice with gifted cash

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Daily Affirmation⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Be someone you want to date. Then date yourself. I hear of a beautiful pool that nobody but me seems to really see the beauty in

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, though if you can’t find a dragon you can check fetlife for local kink events and you’ll find some options

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I found one at a dungeon by treating her like a human being i was interested in

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there an endgame to Trump he is trying to obtain? Or is he making it up along the way at the cost of Americans?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You ever met a narcissist? They have machinations while pursuing power, but rarely when weilding it

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What’s up with Myrrh being more prevalent?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s supposed to be strange. The magi are mystic wizened men (magi are zoroastrian priests) come to give a poor child gifts fit for a prince, specifically ones related to death. Because they saw his birth in the stars. It’s a weird story, but it’s supposed to be weird. It’s about reinforcing that Jesus was destined from birth to die a king. Also it should be noted that king of kings is a title used by both Jesus and Iranian emperors.