captainlezbian
@captainlezbian@lemmy.world
- Comment on Always there, just waiting. 1 hour ago:
Man up and grow a pear
- Comment on Quidk! I need a chili recipe. What would you add to a pound of hamburger, diced jalapenos, chili powder and bloody mary mix? 6 hours ago:
Onions, beans, cheddar, and of course the spaghetti. Gotta go with a 5 way
- Comment on Quidk! I need a chili recipe. What would you add to a pound of hamburger, diced jalapenos, chili powder and bloody mary mix? 6 hours ago:
If it ain’t a five way why bother
- Comment on Quidk! I need a chili recipe. What would you add to a pound of hamburger, diced jalapenos, chili powder and bloody mary mix? 6 hours ago:
Mustard, mayo, and all. The buns get soggy but are good in it. The side of fries is optional
- Comment on Quidk! I need a chili recipe. What would you add to a pound of hamburger, diced jalapenos, chili powder and bloody mary mix? 6 hours ago:
I prefer an ale, or barring that a pilsner
- Comment on Those differences that are rooted deep in our DNA 13 hours ago:
Weird. The bi women I’ve dated have all spoken glowingly about certain body parts of men, while my gay ass was just like “good to know”. The one ex found uncircumcised dicks hot as all get out. Another found both twinky guys and hairy masculine guys super hot, but mostly she just loved a good ass no matter who it was on.
- Comment on Two sides to every story 15 hours ago:
As someone who fell prey to someone that way, yep. I try not to be callous, but at a certain point it goes from “you’re part of the problem” and into “you’re incapable of coping with a boring normal situation and so you just cause problems to deal with it”
- Comment on Find what you like and stick with it 15 hours ago:
Yeah it’s vital that agreeing to try something new doesn’t feel unsafe. If the kid doesn’t like it a parent can eat it, it’s fine. And that’s not just for autistic kids, but it is especially for them. Adventurous behavior, especially in children, is associated with it feeling safe to push outside one’s comfort zone. That can mean trying kimchi or it can mean trying the monkey bars. Encouraging adventurous behavior is also good. You want the kid to be comfortable leaving their comfort zone and entering the growth zone. Food is just one element of it.
I’ve had to help autistic adults learn that they can just try new things, fail, and be ok whether it’s setting up a doctor’s appointment, new foods, or new skills. Many people, but especially common in people diagnosed with autism as children, are raised where if something doesn’t go right the first time they’re scolded or punished or fussed over or whatever else discouraging behavior and it results in people who struggle to leave their comfort zones, which is crippling as an adult.
- Comment on The RAM shortage is coming for everything you care about 18 hours ago:
Wait, touch screen for windshield wipers‽ Fuck that shit. It’s supposed to be a stalk opposite the turn signals because it’s safety critical. What next, touch screen for your turn signals‽
- Comment on Find what you like and stick with it 18 hours ago:
Finding nutritious safe foods is vital. People super into weights often eat a pre portioned amount of rice and chicken and all the spinach they want, and my autistic wife enjoyed doing that when she did it. Texture is huge but so is familiarity. For western autistic people safe foods tend to be heavily processed “kid foods”, make sure your kid’s idea of comfort foods isn’t that.
Also encourage him to be brave and try new things with the safety of it not being commitment to the food, and as he’s older talk to him about what he likes and doesn’t about things and check in before trying something new when he’s old enough to. My wife has days where she has the mental energy to try something new, and days where she doesn’t. Additionally if I can describe what it’s like it takes less energy for her to try. And don’t pull the “it’s just like chicken” thing, go more “these fried mushrooms are tender and slimy with a strong umami taste, kind of like soy sauce but not as salty or fermented tasting”
- Comment on Find what you like and stick with it 19 hours ago:
It’s also just easy. My lunch every workday is the same. When I ate meat I’d swap out what kind of lunch meat was on the sandwich, but now it’s a peanut butter sandwich with a piece of fruit. My breakfast is often the same on workdays. My variety comes from dinner and weekends. Is it because the idea of doing this is appealing? No, but I never have to worry that I forgot to pack a lunch or that I chose a breakfast I didn’t have time for.
- Comment on Mewgenics becomes the most-played roguelite ever on Steam 1 day ago:
That’s surprising, I bought it but found I didn’t really care for the humor and all that so I returned it. Maybe I’ll pick it up again someday if I feel in the mood for what it was
- Comment on Would you look at the time 1 day ago:
Ok, but what hour is it the 50th minute of
- Comment on Every so often, it's important for our community to pause, heal, and reflect together on what's truly important and why we're all here. 1 day ago:
We’re channeling Khrushchev
- Comment on Every so often, it's important for our community to pause, heal, and reflect together on what's truly important and why we're all here. 1 day ago:
Beans also heal the soil and the soul. And the correct answer is beans with potatoes. Falafel and greek style fries is easily a top tier meal
- Comment on Every so often, it's important for our community to pause, heal, and reflect together on what's truly important and why we're all here. 1 day ago:
Corn is wonderful and versatile but at the end of the day my true love is pulses. They can go in everything, they’re nutritious as all hell, and they’re just plain tasty. Bean tacos, bean burgers, falafel, hummus…
- Comment on In hindsight why was/is america upset they elected a leader who constantly lies while making fun of politicians literally and figurativly for years that they lie there ass off? Y B Shocked? 2 days ago:
Because those jokes ensured the no information voter didn’t understand that there’s a difference between the normal thing of over promising and under delivering and trump’s constant spewing of blatant lies
- Comment on It should be a strict rule 2 days ago:
What the fuck‽
- Comment on Texas Republican Primary having a normal one 2 days ago:
Also these are laws that Christians insisted were fundamental for their religion in our country’s past. Hell, some still say that.
- Comment on Am I a joke to you? 2 days ago:
Disagree. The taste of tomatoes is horrendous until cooked and salted. That said, fried and salted Pico de gallo is one of the absolute best baguette toppings
- Comment on Am I a joke to you? 2 days ago:
UN standard actually, but primarily in Europe. The americas largely follow US road marking standards or ones inspired by them.
- Comment on Get on my level 2 days ago:
Ok but height really isn’t enough to make it that. I’ve dated short women who I was attracted to because of how womanly (mature, mom bod) they were. The first specs of gray hair, the sagging of giant tits, the wide hips… Her being short was honestly mostly an inconvenience because I had to bend over pretty far to kiss her.
Then you’ve got folks like my friends who are in the upper half of 6’. Everyone is short to them. They aren’t going to go to tall communities just to find relationships. One is now dating an abnormally tall woman and he’s happy about it.
Sometimes two people just click. I’d be skeptical if someone kept intentionally dating young looking people significantly shorter than them, or if they were into the sort of stuff your words describe that content as. But that content isn’t the majority of relationships with major height differences. The only people getting off on the stuff I’m talking about are greedy chiropractors.
- Comment on Get on my level 2 days ago:
Also to the tall person that isn’t the ratio of height of a child. They’ve most likely been that height since they were a teenager and think of the height of a child as the height that children are. Sure it may be waist height instead of chest height, but that’s how tall kids are to them. It’s not like you’re 25 and have been dating around for a while and suddenly grew 6 inches and are uncomfortable because women in your dating pool are suddenly a proportional height you associate with children.
- Comment on Get on my level 2 days ago:
He’s very tall and she’s pretty short, both with regards to average for their gender.
Tap for spoiler
6’5" is about 1.95m 5’2" is about 1.52m
- Comment on Why are we not getting stress relief games where we take our stresses out on normal people? 2 days ago:
That said, showing love to animals in response to negative emotions is an effective solution
- Comment on Good riddance 3 days ago:
Wow that must be a record for him
- Comment on Chat are we cooked? 3 days ago:
Yeah and it’s a small part of civics because it’s a lot of organizational stuff, some of which is relevant to everyone, but a lot is only significant to some people unless things completely jump the rails. Followed by a bunch of amendments which vary in importance from freedom of expression, prohibition on unlawful search and seizure, banning of cruel and unusual punishment (yeah I’m firmly of the opinion that one hasn’t been followed in my lifetime), the abolition of chattel slavery, and the extension of citizenship and suffrage to prohibiting the government from forcing you to quarter troops (it really pissed us off when England did that) to the one that banned alcohol until we realized it was a bad idea and repealed it with another. You also have shit like the direct election of senators, making president and vice president run together, and the establishment of the income tax in there. Boring procedural amendments that solved 18th and 19th century problems so you don’t think about how important they were.
Also like, the us constitution is in many ways still a radical document. The bill of rights is still controversial to actually apply. It’s easy to say no cruel and unusual punishment, but a sincere application of that would prohibit everything from the death penalty to solidarity confinement. A sincere application of the 4th amendment would strike down the entire internal surveillance system and the purchasing or requesting of it from external bodies. It would also prohibit that bs where cops charge your stuff to rob you. The fact that juries are expected to take you pleading the fifth as neutral is huge, and the fact that you’re allowed to not talk to cops is awesome. Hell we’re supposed to provide far more in public defense than we do these days. And that’s all before we get to the explicit statement that there are inalienable rights that the government is not allowed to violate that aren’t included. That’s vital for things like the implied right to privacy which was an amazing right we used to have.
- Comment on Chat are we cooked? 3 days ago:
Idk sex workers seem to have decent disease and poison resistance and better hp than a lot of people
- Comment on Therapy 3 days ago:
Yeah that’s not good. The good therapists I’ve had definitely had some crazy that was visible below the surface and I could tell when I hit on something that they worry about, but they kept it under control and never made my session about themselves.
It’s therapists in social situations where you see the real crazy in them
- Comment on my bf says sleeping with your balls out is the male equivalent 4 days ago:
People take out larger jewelry, but studs, small hoops, and bars are often left in. You have to leave piercings in for the entire healing process even. But yeah, even years later if you sleep without your nipple piercings in you’re at risk of not being able to get them back in when you wake up (it’s one of the most prone to closing piercings). Hell I had to get plastic bars for surgery since you can’t have metal in/on when you’re under.