captainlezbian
@captainlezbian@lemmy.world
- Comment on He's really pissed at me but I did exactly what he told me to do 12 hours ago:
With the roughest tobacco on earth and a lot of it
- Comment on Hey Grok 12 hours ago:
Meh, Vivian’s cooler
- Comment on How did far-west era US dealt with "Male loneliness" 1 day ago:
Bars, unions, and a little insanity as a treat
- Comment on TikTok allegedly monitoring users’ Grindr activity, digital rights group claims 1 day ago:
Yeah there are a lot of religions on most social media sites. Manifesting is interestingly increasingly popular with Christians.
- Comment on TikTok allegedly monitoring users’ Grindr activity, digital rights group claims 1 day ago:
No, I interpreted it as a form of religious magical practice that’s somewhat popular on social media
- Comment on How do you "feel" gender? 1 day ago:
And I’d like to add, my interests are largely somewhat masculine coded. My personality doesn’t feel masculine or feminine, I’m loud, extroverted, and strong but kind. Or as we say in my family: my mother’s daughter. I did have to put in effort as a kid to not get mistreated for being a feminine, and put extra masculinity into my presentation as a teenager.
My everyday clothing is the normal androgynous style of jeans and tshirts, though over the years I’ve gotten less baggy with it. When I want to look nice I prefer a more feminine look or a feminine take on a more masculine look (leather jacket with bold makeup for example)
Ultimately I do think a lot of society’s gendering of everything is kinda stupid, though existing within it I find it easy to fall into it. That said, I can’t imagine a world in which I as myself would maintain a more amab style body if given a choice nor one in which with that choice barred it would not cause me significant distress to the point of hindering my ability to live.
- Comment on How do you "feel" gender? 2 days ago:
I’ll admit two major things here: firstly I was what would have been described in a more medicalized time as profoundly dysphoric. This is not the majority of people now seen as trans. One of the major wins of the trans community in the early 21st century was that dysphoria shouldn’t have to be life ruiningly bad to get to have it addressed. Secondly dysphoria got worse over time and I had other signs earlier including phantom breasts and maladaptive daydreaming of being seen as a girl even in my early teens.
Like, I would’ve probably been able to transition in 1960s America, though I definitely would have had to put more effort in and jump through a lot of hoops including lying about my sexual orientation. But had I been in the silent generation or a boomer I probably would have done it, despite the personal, social, and financial costs.
- Comment on Neanderthals wouldn't be considered a person under U.S law 2 days ago:
Species is a construct meant to impose a binary on a complicated reality. The division between us and Neanderthals was in the grey area. We were able to interbreed, and we did so, but it was absolutely nothing like when two groups of sapiens interact over a long period of time. You can’t separate the Gauls from the Romans in France for example. Racial separation requires heavy effort in homo sapiens, whereas we’re talking a few percentage points of Neanderthal DNA.
- Comment on How do you "feel" gender? 2 days ago:
I wanted to die until I got tits. Also growing tits sounded like a good way to not want to die, which I hear is a thought process rare in men.
- Comment on Of course there is. 2 days ago:
Hey, Adderall isn’t like that at least for people with adhd
- Comment on Of course there is. 2 days ago:
Yeah and it’s not even a stims thing. I’ve seen progressives down Adderall between shots and do coke. But the one meth user I’ve known was a queer republican who tried to lie her way into relationships with people.
- Comment on After viral interview, Palantir launches neurodivergent fellowship 3 days ago:
In this case it was just a decent gen ed literature paper but yeah I once literally couldn’t stop reading the Wikipedia article about the evolution of plants when I was unmedicated.
I’m more likely to talk of hyperfocus when it’s things theoretically people would think are good to be unable to stop focusing on like school, work, or learning. This is largely because crashing on the couch doomscrolling instead of eating is something even neurotypicals do these days and because talking about all the nights I spent playing binding of Isaac or civilization with zero capacity to stop and do my damn homework or go to bed make it sound like a failing and like I’m blaming my mental illness.
But yeah, it’s inability to regulate attention and we live in a world in which sophisticated tools for catching and maintaining attention are extremely commonplace and should be more regulated.
- Comment on After viral interview, Palantir launches neurodivergent fellowship 3 days ago:
Idk I feel like if it actually worked that way we’d get pretty firm negotiations that home and work get separate metalminds at least at decent jobs. And much like how zincminds don’t make you smarter, they just make you equally smart faster, these won’t make you good at your job, just make you solely focused on the stupid thing your boss told you to do.
- Comment on YSK that Stanford scientists examined what happens when people stop using social media. They found deactivating Facebook and Instagram significantly improved users' emotional well-being and happiness 4 days ago:
Around 2010 I realized the more I saw of my casual acquaintances the less I liked them and quit. I didn’t make many great decisions at 16 but that was one
- Comment on Time to butter my corn. 4 days ago:
I have one. Never used it, but it was on sale at a sex shop and I found it hilarious. Now it’s just a source for Midwestern jokes.
- Comment on 4 days ago:
I can give it a shot
- Comment on After viral interview, Palantir launches neurodivergent fellowship 4 days ago:
Yeah also hyperfocua is thankfully often one of the earliest symptoms to be dealt with. The name “hyperfocus” sounds great, but when I tell the story of how in college I sat down to write a paper then several hours later was finished, couldn’t tell you anything about it and desperately needed food, water, and to use the restroom but was so exhausted I didn’t know how to prioritize these needs and spent several minutes deciding which to resolve first… Yeah then it sounds like a symptom of a disability rather than some magic power.
I swear I’m sick and tired of people thinking adhd is basically being an attention feruchemist
- Comment on After viral interview, Palantir launches neurodivergent fellowship 4 days ago:
Or more cynically: privileged talent knows its worth, marginalized talent is undervalued and will thank you for only lightly screwing it
- Comment on After viral interview, Palantir launches neurodivergent fellowship 4 days ago:
Oh I didn’t know Karp was going to get forcibly sterilized by the government if he succeeds at his goals. Sounds like he doesn’t know that either
- Comment on This is what my coworker pictures every time I say lemmy. 4 days ago:
I would never have the courage to tell a coworker I use the obscure communist social media site. And if I phrased it that way they’d probably assume I was talking about rednote
- Comment on inside joke 1 week ago:
Yeah I’m not the person to speak on good Mexican food as an Ohioan who moved to the PNW but you can get pretty decent Mexican food in Columbus. Yeah it’s americanized, but it’s good. And Candado is good for what it is.
- Comment on inside joke 1 week ago:
It’s hard to have a bad time in Cleveland.
- Comment on 1 week ago:
Nobody’s kicked me off yet, you’ll be fine
- Comment on Fun Otter Fact 1 week ago:
They aren’t bumpkins, they’re just far more likely to major in pure math or biology.
- Comment on Fun Otter Fact 1 week ago:
Not much. I don’t think they have much access to gallium
- Comment on Transliterated country names into Chinese Language use pre-existing characters that already has its own meaning, therefore native Chinese speakers have a subconcious impression based on country names. 1 week ago:
Your comment reminded me of a road in a suburb in Ohio I once heard about called Sharts Road. For context, in American slang to shart is to fail to merely flatulate. Every once in a while I look up if that town ever noticed and changed it. And well…
- Comment on Just me browsing Lemmy today. 1 week ago:
The internet is for corn
- Comment on anyone eat raw pasta while working? 1 week ago:
That sounds incredibly unpleasant to the teeth and with sn awful sound to boot
- Comment on The most normal Silicon Valley techbro 1 week ago:
Owning and operating such a thing requires a level of dirty labor he strikes me as being unwilling to engage in.
- Comment on How do you sleep at night? Please respond with a number 1 week ago:
11 is wild. Personally though I just wear my glasses and nothing else to sleep
