Submitted 12 hours ago by clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
A trans parent would likely still want to be called “Mom” or “Dad”, I assume. At least that’s the case with the few trans parents I know.
Parents don’t usually use “daughter” or “son” as pronouns, so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children.
Do children of non-binary parents call their parents by their first name? It seems unlikely that they say “Parent, may I please have more screen time?”.
Parental unit
'nit for short
Beep boop robo-Clay approves.
Obviously it combines Mother and Father, or: M’F’er
🤭
Isn’t that technically all biological dads?
The existence of the term “biological dad” implies the existence of an “artificial dad”
I don’t know how I missed this. Obviously you have the correct answer!
One of my friends has a mom and a nom. Works well enough.
Love it.
I read the title as a programming question at first…
Hah!
“Honored Ancestor” and “Blessed Forebear” are always appropriate.
Much respectful. So parent.
my son calls me baba
Baba Is You!
That’s very cute!
“oi! Fuckface!”
I should call her.
That would be fun at parent-teacher conferences!
I’m not nonbinary but my son just calls me Michael.
Which is odd because your name is Darrell.
What about his brother Darrell?
That cracked me up lol
They use a mixture of “MOM” and “DAD” and call them “MAD”.
No you have it backwards, it’s DOM. As in, “I was bad so my dom had to punish me.”
I’ve heard “Mawpaw” for a bigender person before which sounds kind of delightfully southern.
DAM!
“mather” or “fother”
So that’s where madam comes from
Your comment and the resulting chain are all excellent suggestions!
I’d imagine that this is something that varies from family to family.
Very individualized as per need. Non-binary is an umbrella term for a whole bunch of different situations so what feels right is going to be very different for someone who feels like say a mix of masculine and feminine versus someone who has dysphoric reactions to any and all gender markers. It’s going to be different for someone whose identity is more static than say someone who fluidly bounces between extremes.
If you know someone who is non-binary that’s essentially just the tip of the iceberg of a whole discussion about how they personally interact with their body or the culture of gender. I’ve heard of mixes of Mom/Dad for bigender people, just Mom or Dad for trans masc/femme folk, Completely new words that do not have cultural baggage, or just “my parent”. It’s not a one size fits all situation.
I appreciate the thoughtful reply.
I’d say go Borg and be 1 of 3
Of Unimatrix 007
“hello parent”
Could be.
If I were a nonbinary parent, I’d definitely go with “elder”.
People will think you’re Mormon
I could dig it.
and what about enby grandparents?
Grandy seems an easy choice.
I was wondering the other day why gran is always the grandma not the grandpa
My aunt was raised by her grandfather and called him Grandy. Everyone has called him that since.
Sure, same idea.
so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children
You’d be surprised 😅
Yeah. I had to carefully word my dad’s obituary to not gender me–I wasn’t out yet, but it would have added more pain to the event if I’d been misgendered in it. Luckily, I have a sibling, so I able to rework the first draft from “survived by his son ___ and daughter ___” to be “survived by his children __ and __”.
Anyways, if I had a kid I think I’d just go by my name, or any nickname they came up with. I called my binary parents by their names so it doesn’t feel weird to me.
I just mean that I don’t often hear parents addressing their kids as “Son” except in '50s media! I’m sure it happens.
But people do tell others about their sons or daughters
Probably depends on the kid. In the right house with the right mindset I bet parents could use first names. Otherwise it will probably be a special word to all of them, maybe something the kid calls them one day that sticks.
Maybe the parents will look to the internet or peers for answers and get stuff like “guardian” “my other parent” etc but ultimately the real question you should ask is how a child addresses their two same-gendered parents, maybe there’s something to contexutalize there.
I was going to say it’s definitely a case by case basis and what both parents and kids are comfortable with. With same-gender couples, I’ve often seen with my friends using two different gendered honorifics, like “mom” and “mama” or “dad” and “papa”.
With trans people, often times it depends on when they came out. If before the child was born, or they were really young, I know a lot of parents will switch what they use, but for many people the title becomes something beyond gender. I’ve met a trans woman who transitioned later in life and was still “dad” to her kids because her role as a dad didn’t invalidate her gender as a woman. In the same vein, I’ve known nonbinary folk who have kept “mom” or “dad” after coming out, went with a less traditional title, or even just made one up either something fun and ungendered (think something like “babi”). I’ve also heard people just using a diminutive of they’re name, like rather than the kid saying “my parent, Sam” it becomes “my Sammy”.
The fun thing about language is that it changes to fit the needs of people and groups, so we can just make it up as we go!
Is this a real question?
They would just call them by their name or by a nickname. Or by mom or dad if the parents don’t care about that.
i mean, this is the real answer yeah. but i’m liking @Nemo@slrpnk.net’s answer and will begin enforcing ‘honored ancestor’ instead of my name.
Tata instead of mama or papa? But also, what about parent’s siblings, or sibling’s children?
Good question. I guess first name or nickname is most likely.
Nephew/ niece is nibling. Like sibling.
In that same vein I’ve seen pibling for aunt/uncle.
steeznson@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
My friend’s father transitioned to a woman but she kept calling her “Dad”. Not to invalidate her identity just that they were both happy to continue describing their relationship with that term.