Submitted 2 weeks ago by clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
A trans parent would likely still want to be called “Mom” or “Dad”, I assume. At least that’s the case with the few trans parents I know.
Parents don’t usually use “daughter” or “son” as pronouns, so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children.
Do children of non-binary parents call their parents by their first name? It seems unlikely that they say “Parent, may I please have more screen time?”.
Obviously it combines Mother and Father, or: M’F’er
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Isn’t that technically all biological dads?
The existence of the term “biological dad” implies the existence of an “artificial dad”
I don’t know how I missed this. Obviously you have the correct answer!
One of my friends has a mom and a nom. Works well enough.
Love it.
“oi! Fuckface!”
That would be fun at parent-teacher conferences!
I should call her.
my son calls me baba
Baba Is You!
That’s very cute!
“Honored Ancestor” and “Blessed Forebear” are always appropriate.
Much respectful. So parent.
Nonbinary household with conservative upbringing. That would certainly blow the mind of certain people.
“Excuse me, honored ancestor, I need to defecate” - Timmy, 5 years old
I’m not nonbinary but my son just calls me Michael.
Which is odd because your name is Darrell.
What about his brother Darrell?
That cracked me up lol
It’s short for Michaelael.
They use a mixture of “MOM” and “DAD” and call them “MAD”.
No you have it backwards, it’s DOM. As in, “I was bad so my dom had to punish me.”
No clearly it’s MOD. “I was bad to my mod timed me out”
Well that can’t be because I call my nonbinary wife Daddy!
DAM!
“mather” or “fother”
I’ve heard “Mawpaw” for a bigender person before which sounds kind of delightfully southern.
So that’s where madam comes from
Your comment and the resulting chain are all excellent suggestions!
My friend’s father transitioned to a woman but she kept calling her “Dad”. Not to invalidate her identity just that they were both happy to continue describing their relationship with that term.
I read the title as a programming question at first…
I’d imagine that this is something that varies from family to family.
Very individualized as per need. Non-binary is an umbrella term for a whole bunch of different situations so what feels right is going to be very different for someone who feels like say a mix of masculine and feminine versus someone who has dysphoric reactions to any and all gender markers. It’s going to be different for someone whose identity is more static than say someone who fluidly bounces between extremes.
If you know someone who is non-binary that’s essentially just the tip of the iceberg of a whole discussion about how they personally interact with their body or the culture of gender. I’ve heard of mixes of Mom/Dad for bigender people, just Mom or Dad for trans masc/femme folk, Completely new words that do not have cultural baggage, or just “my parent”. It’s not a one size fits all situation.
I appreciate the thoughtful reply.
The words “mom” and “dad” are both derived from baby babble, syllables babies have an easy time making.
I therefore suggest that an enby parent should be a child’s wawa
I like this. It would be awesome to be named after a gas station chain.
Show some respect.
It’s a convenience store/deli/sometimes gas station, and it has the best Thanksgiving sandwich you can order, pay for, and pick up without a single word to a human (and usually in less than 5 minutes).
“Commander”
If I were a nonbinary parent, I’d definitely go with “elder”.
People will think you’re Mormon
I could dig it.
“Your Highness”
Closest Ancestor
Gene Giver
and what about enby grandparents?
Grandy seems an easy choice.
I was wondering the other day why gran is always the grandma not the grandpa
My aunt was raised by her grandfather and called him Grandy. Everyone has called him that since.
Sure, same idea.
i am not sure, but what i think i read somewhere is “ren” (as in pa"ren"t), so you would go like my ren dropped me to school or something.
That sounds cool too.
I’d say go Borg and be 1 of 3
Of Unimatrix 007
so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children
You’d be surprised 😅
I just mean that I don’t often hear parents addressing their kids as “Son” except in '50s media! I’m sure it happens.
But people do tell others about their sons or daughters
Yeah. I had to carefully word my dad’s obituary to not gender me–I wasn’t out yet, but it would have added more pain to the event if I’d been misgendered in it. Luckily, I have a sibling, so I able to rework the first draft from “survived by his son ___ and daughter ___” to be “survived by his children __ and __”.
Anyways, if I had a kid I think I’d just go by my name, or any nickname they came up with. I called my binary parents by their names so it doesn’t feel weird to me.
My nephew has a dad and a mawpa, but there are lots of options out there. It’s wise to choose syllable sounds that babies can easily pronounce.
“hello parent”
Probably depends on the kid. In the right house with the right mindset I bet parents could use first names. Otherwise it will probably be a special word to all of them, maybe something the kid calls them one day that sticks.
Maybe the parents will look to the internet or peers for answers and get stuff like “guardian” “my other parent” etc but ultimately the real question you should ask is how a child addresses their two same-gendered parents, maybe there’s something to contexutalize there.
Is this a real question?
They would just call them by their name or by a nickname. Or by mom or dad if the parents don’t care about that.
Tangential, but my wife is nonbinary and I still call them my wife. They’re okay with it. And I don’t mean to be lewd, but in bed they like to be called Daddy instead of Mommy. My point is that it’s probably a case by case thing without a universal and some nonbinary folks don’t mind some gendered terms. It might even be context based.
Tata instead of mama or papa? But also, what about parent’s siblings, or sibling’s children?
My niece is non-binary and we run into this issue. Now, I just ask people who identify as non-binary. “When there isn’t a good non-binary term to use, do you prefer me to use male or female words?”
So far, the non-binary people I’ve asked seem to appreciate the question.
Snailpope@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Parental unit
actionjbone@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
'nit for short
clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Beep boop robo-Clay approves.