Nemo

@Nemo@slrpnk.net

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Suffering doesn’t make one better. People are shitty by default and have to learn how to be better.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes. It would be stupid. You can always get married later if you change your mind, but for now focus on supporting her through the pregnancy and prepping to be good parent to the kid and a good coparent to the girl.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  All battles are hopeless when no one fights them.

  You’re not wrong, though. But even thirty years would be enough to make a change, perhaps… or maybe it seems that way to me because that’s when I started paying attention.

  Friggen Tea Party bullshit was when it really started sliding downhill fast, IMO.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  The government needs to adapt, yes, but carefully. You can’t just run with the first or second option, that’s a recipe for regulatory capture.

  It’s not “no change is good” but rather “most change isn’t good, so we need to test them until we find the best change”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  that’s what your politics are, you’re basically just politically homeless…and have been since you started calling yourself that.

  This, at least, is correct.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  What is the point of labels like this if they don’t signal what it is you believe, relatively accurately?

  This is exactly why it’s necessary to push back on those who would twist it to mean something else.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I know what the generally accepted definition is, I just don’t accept it. Regressives don’t have a right to call themselves conservative and I won’t stop calling them out on it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Conservatives and progressives should agree on a whole lot, especially when we’re all trying to fight off an alarming resurgence of fascism, authoritarianism, and illiberalism worldwide. The disagreement was rarely about goals, but rather methods. And right now the method is clear: Get these Nazi fucks out of power, ASAP.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Exactly right.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  This list is all things under attack by the current administration that I want to push back and protect, that’s the point. That was the question I was answering.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  A non-stacked Supreme Court

  The Electoral College

  Human Rights

  Civil Rights

  Checks on Presidential power

  the American melting pot

  Birthright Citizenship

  Separation of Church and State

  basically all of the Enlightenment ideals the country was founded on and have been working towards, it fits and starts, for most of her existence

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m curious how you came to your conclusions, too, because the point of conservatism, to me, is to prevent destruction.

  I’ve been a environmental conservationist my whole life. As I became an adult and aware of politics, I came to realize that just as the natural environment requires protection against the selfishness, greed, and short-sightedness of humanity, so too do all the social and political systems that take decades or centuries to build but only years or months to destroy (as we’ve seen under the current administration).

  It’s been said many times that at the heart of all conservatism is fear. That’s not a very generous way to put it, but neither is it inaccurate. Fear of loss, fear of risk, fear of change. Conservatism holds that if things are pretty good, most changes are likely to make things worse and not better, and so change is to be treated with suspicion, and people pushing for it doubly so, since altruism is rare.

  A bicycle needs both pedals and brakes. We need to move forward, but not recklessly. Before a change is made, the case needs to be argued as to why it is necessary, what it will cost (and there’s always a cost), how to ensure it actually achieves what it sets out to achieve, and how it might be misused in the future. In other words, before a change can be made in the name of Progress, it needs to be demonstrated that the change actually is Progress. To progressives, this feels like standing in the way of Progress. To a conservative, this is safeguarding Progress, the Progress previous generations achieved, from changes that, again, are more likely to be bad than good.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Fiscal conservatism doesn’t work, any economist can tell you that.

  You’re completely correct that conservatism destroyed its reputation when it allied with the religious right in an attempt at political power. The regressives took over the GOP, calling themself conservatives all the while. Terrible to watch from the outside, but like I said, giving up is not the answer. The only thing to do is push back, and try to save what can be saved.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m a conservative, and no. Charlie Kirk was awful. I’m a pacifist, so I’m not glad he’s dead but I’m not surprised either. “Those who live by the sword” and all that.

  “Burn it all down” flies straight in the face of conservatism anyway. It’s all about tying to save the good things in society from destruction. When it feels like the government or society is all gone wrong is the time when it’s most important to save what we can.

  I’ll be honest, it’s hard to feel hopeful when our current President won reëlection on a deeply regressive platform. The man is hostile to any kind of conservatism because he hates checks on his power. His vocal wrath is directed against progressive standards because that’s what riles up his base but at the same time he’s doing damage to our government and social institutions that will last for generations. He’s a nightmare for conservatism. But that just makes it all the more important to fight the tide. Giving up and burning it all down is not the answer.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you ever feel full and hungry simultaneously?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I get food cravings while full, but that’s what gum is for.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Evolutionarily speaking, wouldn't premature ejaculation be considered the desired trait?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  There is the issue of an orgasm before penetration, but barring that

  You can’t bar that. That’s the phenomenon you’re describing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do conservatives define being fascist solely as "being violent?"⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  There hasn’t been a conservative party in this millennium. Twenty years ago there were some conservatives in the right-wing party, today they’ve been purged.

  IDK what you mean by “conservative spaces”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do conservatives define being fascist solely as "being violent?"⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Why do you accept it at face value when fascists try to call themselves “conservative” instead, when they’re anything but?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If spiderman shoots webs from his wrists would not the tension of shooting and swingiing up a skyscraper pretty much break his wrist? Also why SpiderMAN shouuldn''t it be SpiderTEEN?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  As to your second point: He IS trying to disguise his identity.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you consider joking about dying and killing oneself a sign that the person saying it is troubled?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  death no, suicide maybe

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you meditate?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t have any “before” data, I started as an adolescent.

  Helps a little with boredom, anxiety, and distractibility, though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is insulting people for their state (Florida) ok, but not gender or race?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Give an example of the insult in question and I’ll offer an opinion.

  Because there’s a wide stretch of sky between “Florida blows goats, I feel sorry for the people that live there” and “Floridians are all cannibalistic subhumans with unkempt underarms”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨For people who relocated: when did you realize you want to live in the new place long-term & why?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I met my wife here and that’s when I decided to stay.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you meditate?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I do Buddhist-style mantra repetition. Recently I’ve started combining it with box breathing. It’s very effective for me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨thick skinned employees, how can you be so thick skinned?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s two parts:

  Highly valuing my professionalism and dignity is the first part. I don’t need to chase money or approval because I can always make more money, get another job, make new friends. What I can’t afford to lose is my respect for myself, my professional reputation, and the self-discipline that makes me effective at what I do.

  The second part is what I’ve long called “charitable apathy”. I genuinely don’t care what others think and just try to treat them with kindness and understanding. You know, like children. Teach them if they want to learn, give them a snack if they’re grumpy, applaud their terrible art as long as it doesn’t make too much of a mess. Anyone who complains that this is condescending is exactly the kind of person most in need of your apathy and least in need of your charity.

  Since this is the third or fourth post of yours in this vein, I will remind you of previous advice: Part of your job is to get along with your coworkers. It’s okay if you don’t enjoy it; nobody enjoys every part of their job. Just say “hello” and “goodbye” and “I’m getting coffee, do you want one?” and occasionally compliment their shoes or hair or whatever; it goes a long way.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the name of the type of man I'm attracted to? (pictured)⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  teenager

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the first electronic device kids get these days? (Desktop, Laptop, Tablet, Phone, Game consoles?)⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  My kids got:

  Oldest: Digital camera, age 4
  Middle: MP3 player, age 8 Youngest: Digital camera, age 6

  And my dear sibling, digital freedom is a very recent thing and if our ancestors could survive with only 3-5 broadcast networks our children can survive tablets that don’t sideload apps. It’s bullshit, but it’s not the end of free expression.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  A key part is that you have to examine your own behavior with a critical eye.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  At work, I apologize all the time.

  With real people I actually care about, I only apologize for specific things I’ve done wrong. That way they know I mean it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If you argue for a cause like affordable housing for everyone, is it necessarily hypocritical if you also own investment properties?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’d say that you’re unlikely extract enough wealth to make a difference in the large scale, but you absolutely have enough power to make an immediate difference for however many people can live in your building.

  That’s the problem with consequentialism: A certain evil now for a possible good later. I don’t agree with that.