dream_weasel
@dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works
- Comment on 💩. 5 hours ago:
Thanks!
- Comment on 💩. 6 hours ago:
Ugh. Blegh. I tried it the second time and my second opinion is still the same as my first opinion.
- Comment on 💩. 14 hours ago:
I mean this is fine for looks, but what do I do if it looks hard but feels weird in my pocket, or if it tastes really bad?
- Comment on Everybody is fine with celebrities like Whoopi Goldberg making up fake names for themselves, but when someone chooses a name for themselves to suit their gender identity it's suddenly a problem 2 days ago:
I’m not sure what youre basing this allegory on. There’s nobody saying that trans folks (or anyone else) shouldn’t be able to pick whatever name they like. I’m not even saying that people SHOULD like any name and it frankly isn’t that important. It’s not like don’t wear pants or don’t grow long hair. What I AM saying is that if you choose a name that is offbeat and people don’t love it, like (whoopi, sure) that has nothing to do with being trans and having chosen a name that suits your gender identity, but rather with people having preferences about names that you can’t control.
The unspoken premise of the original post, which I disagree with, is that people don’t like some set of names because trans people pick them. Instead, surprised Pikachu, there are names people don’t really like. It’s not trans stigma, it’s filling your candy dish with black jelly beans and candy corn then saying, “people just don’t like my candy because I’m pupscent and they are all backward cynophobes”. If you like those candies then of course eat them, but let’s not call it stigma if other people don’t share your tastes.
- Comment on Everybody is fine with celebrities like Whoopi Goldberg making up fake names for themselves, but when someone chooses a name for themselves to suit their gender identity it's suddenly a problem 2 days ago:
It makes a ton of sense actually.
To make sure the line you quoted is giving you the right impression what AI mean to say is if you pick a weird name well then it’s a weird name, not that it’s weird to pick it. You can’t guarantee everyone will like any name you pick no matter who you are, and you sure can’t force them to.
- Comment on Everybody is fine with celebrities like Whoopi Goldberg making up fake names for themselves, but when someone chooses a name for themselves to suit their gender identity it's suddenly a problem 3 days ago:
So change your name to pupscent IRL.
You or anyone else can change their names to anything you want anytime. However, you can’t force people to like it.
Sure, if you want dream_weasel to like it, you can ask for the approved list. If you want to name yourself General Buttfuckingnaked you absolutely can, but if people don’t like it that’s YOUR problem. It isn’t trans insensitive to be weirded out by you naming yourself Incestte.
- Comment on Everybody is fine with celebrities like Whoopi Goldberg making up fake names for themselves, but when someone chooses a name for themselves to suit their gender identity it's suddenly a problem 3 days ago:
Dang, we could have had Longboy DiCaprio. Or like Lyman or something.
- Comment on Everybody is fine with celebrities like Whoopi Goldberg making up fake names for themselves, but when someone chooses a name for themselves to suit their gender identity it's suddenly a problem 4 days ago:
I think having a cute stage name is something people accept after you’re famous.
I’m gonna come in with maybe an unpopular hot take. I have no problems people being trans or choosing a name that suits your preferred gender, but–perhaps because of the repression earlier in life–it seems like the transition and name choice spout an… aggressively creative search for names?
I know about 8 MtF people (0 FtM for some reason?), and they are not picking mainstream names like Mary, Samantha, or Norah for example. Eris, Athena, Cybelle, Malice, and Laika are 5 of the 8 names chosen. It’s not a problem, you pick it and I will use it, but it IS jarring. I’m not making excuses for transphobia because that’s stupid, but it is strange to me to ostensibly want to blend in with everybody else, but then choose a name that obviously marks you out? It’s like the line between choosing a name for your heroine DND character and for yourself is suddenly completely erased and it’s absolutely your right, but as an outsider it’s honestly kinda weird.
I support a parents right to pick names for their kids, but aeslyn and breeleigh and brandaeden are weird names. Same for people who pick their own names regardless of gender identity, but if you pick a name that is kinda weird… well it’s kinda weird.
- Comment on Cause and Effect 4 days ago:
Bro, come down out of your own asshole.
Your real, no kidding argument is that this meme template best explains that people believe windmills cause cancer / vaccines cause autism / XYZ crazy thing is that the current state of education is * checks notes * “slave conditioning” and patents are being conspiratorially hidden for “emancipating technologies”? Really?
This to you is a rational following of the discussion and context, not itself a wild non sequitur (note the spelling)?
I don’t care what branch of philosophy you’re studying or what argument logic piques your interest because it just isnt relevant here. You’ve shoehorned an unrequested and unsubstantiated conspiracy theory into a post about people believing improbable and/or deranged things. And no, making your own footnote isnt a substantiation.
You can’t “I am very smart” this into making sense, even by miscounting logical fallacies or trying to couch it as an epistemological discussion which this is not.
Just… yikes.
- Comment on Cause and Effect 4 days ago:
Total sidetrack and total missing the point.
I didn’t say “taxes are good” or “current education is good”.
The problem I posed is that knowledge transfer is an essential skill and people who are bad at it are–I would suppose–both oblivious to it and easier to take advantage of.
- Comment on Cause and Effect 5 days ago:
Should add a sentence to top panel that says “they should teach useful things in school like how to do your taxes!”
spoiler alert: that’s just reading and basic math applied to something besides a test for a grade.
- Comment on What's the most offensive word I can use that isn't a slur? 6 days ago:
You could argue that if you make up the argument I guess.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Yep. My home assistant production deploy is on a separate rpi, same as my pihole, and I’ve promoted out a few other services out of unraid. As an almost 40 father of 2 with a full time gig, I don’t want to dick around with experiments that interrupt the rest of the family and I also don’t want to spend a year of “30 mins before bed” to figure out how to deploy a service I’m not even sure I want to use long term.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Exactly. I like doing clever scripting and neat one off projects, I don’t like having to become a networking expert, a containerization expert, a hardware expert, and an integration expert so my wife can reliably watch law and order.
I can roll a custom arch build no problem, but I can not set up custom vlan or nat rules or easily swap to a new file system with baked in snapshots or tell you anything about how my GPU compares to anything on the market or how to make it reliably perform hardware acceleration. I would be happy to learn those skills, but sometimes it’s all just too much.
If I’m gonna do it, I want to do it. If I need to verbatim copy someone’s YouTube video where I use proxmox to use someone’s Ubuntu KDE VM to set up couch potato, I’d rather just use unraid and not pretend I’m a FOSSing haxor :).
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Already bought the lifetime license. It’s great, I don’t miss rolling my own bare metal arch servers.
(Because I still do that too)
- Comment on How do you secure your home lab? Like, physically? From thieves? 1 week ago:
The 42U rack in the basement will be… hard to steal.
I only use 3U of it for compute and all of it came from my university salvage for less than… $350 total (switch, rack, 2 servers).
- Comment on whatever happened to in-store coffee grinders? 1 week ago:
I want to know why people who would buy whole beans would grind them in the store.
I often wish that you couldn’t even buy the same brands of coffee either ground or whole bean. The disappointment of accidentally getting a bag of pre ground coffee at some random coarseness is real.
- Comment on Doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results is not the definition of insanity. It's the definition of practice. 1 week ago:
Nah. Some forms of practice like shooting or bowling or anything where the goal is to do something 10 or 100 times and get a high score are absolutely about doing exactly the same thing over and over again as predictably as possible and the variance of result is the problem.
If you don’t like that example, how about chess puzzles?
Certainly between practice sessions you might wisely expose yourself to new ideas, but the idea is the same:
See a position, see the winning strategy / tactic / idea. If you’re a student of the woodpecker method, once you do that once, you do it again, exactly the same way, and hope to be faster at it.
These are forms of practice wherein you do the same thing, exactly the same way, and hope to get increasingly better results by honing a skill through repetition without changing anything. its not that you CANT change things sometimes or that you shouldn’t, but generally speaking the idea is consistency.
- Comment on How do I stop sleeping through everything? 1 week ago:
Not sure how you get yours, but I’ve always been a coffee drinker. I cut my caffeine way down by slowly mixing more decaf into the grind when I make the pot. Instead of drinking half a pot or a pot of regular, now I get the equivalent of about a cup or cup and a half if that and it was easy to do.
If it’s soda you could experiment with drinking it from a big cup and doing the same trick mixing in decaf maybe?
- Comment on BREAKING NEWS: We did it, guys! 20 poptarts! 1 week ago:
That took me much longer to figure out than I would admit to in person.
- Comment on BREAKING NEWS: We did it, guys! 20 poptarts! 1 week ago:
I showed my wife at 14 and she was not impressed. At 20 she is impressed.
- Comment on do you use non violent communication at the workplace? 1 week ago:
I will also say I like the part where I gave you the win in a cordial thread of the no stupid questions community wherein I admitted I understand the historical value of the term now even though I don’t like it, but you couldnt accept. When you can’t convince me to like it you just gotta tell me what my problem is, downvote every comment, and go home.
The problem here may well be opinion vs expertise, but every time someone brings up skilled and unskilled labor (for example) I do it. As do all of us experts who have an important message, and we should be doing it patiently and without judgement.
So let me, at the close, suggest to you that you go back to the very top and see how your attempt at direct, nonviolent communication came up way short. I think there is value in the approach and there’s value in expertise, but for an “expert” in the field, I find this exchange to be equal parts tone deaf, insightful, and ultimately officious/petulant/immature. This sure felt like some undergraduate level dick measuring bullshit to me 🤷.
Next time I hope you try to destigmatize mental health issues broadly not specifically, and someone calls you out in the same way every time you short circuit a discussion by suggesting that’s why whoever you’re addressing “doesn’t get it”.
Have a great day!
- Comment on do you use non violent communication at the workplace? 1 week ago:
Let it be a lesson when you write your book to choose a better name, then. You won’t have to work against the grain. It will also go easier if you don’t suggest that anyone who disagrees with you has some form of mental health disorder, but that would be nit picking.
- Comment on do you use non violent communication at the workplace? 1 week ago:
The dictionary definition reflects common usage, and we are only having this discussion because I backed up someone else who had the same thought based on, you know, common usage. I’m happy to hear the trivialization for the scenario I described doesnt happen based on your experience. I still don’t like the wording, but then, I don’t have to.
- Comment on do you use non violent communication at the workplace? 1 week ago:
I was not considering violence as a spectrum. Since your last comment, I did some background research and saw that “nonviolent communication” has its roots in a book that came out at the same time that non-violent protest was being put to effective use. In that context it does make sense.
To make sure I wasn’t crazy, I did just google the definition of violence and the top definition is here:
violence /vī′ə-ləns/ noun Behavior or treatment in which physical force is exerted for the purpose of causing damage or injury.
So I appreciate the idea, I don’t prefer the terminology, but I suppose I shouldn’t be hung up about it.
I do take issue with this though:
You are, indeed, conflating all of violence and reducing it to just assault. Which is hurtful and trivializes the suffering of victims of harassment, rape, and many more. Yours is the same logic by which rapists argue that it was not “actual” rape.
My point is the opposite. I think the trivialization goes the other way. Suppose we have a group session for victims of violence. This gradient point now means that a rape survivor, the domestic abuse survivor, and the victim of some race related beat down sit with someone who gets called names on XBox Chat. Are they all victims? Absolutely. Can they be reasonably lumped into the same group? I would think no, but then this is not my area of expertise.
- Comment on Should you copy a person's accent when pronouncing their name? 1 week ago:
Interestingly I don’t find the nasal vowels hard at all. In Écureuil (and other words that give me problems) it’s the “u” that is the hard part. It’s projected to a funny place in the mouth for me.
- Comment on Should you copy a person's accent when pronouncing their name? 1 week ago:
Renault Peugeot Rumplestiltzkin
You got any friends with a similar example name in French? Unless your name is Écureuil, I’m thinking it can’t be that bad.
“Moi, je déteste l’écureuil.” was my practice sentence to master that one and sometimes I’m still nervous to use it in the wild lol.
- Comment on Should you copy a person's accent when pronouncing their name? 1 week ago:
“So we are going to take our chicken and add a big pinch of MoOoOtZAdeLL” - Giada DeLaurentis
- Comment on Google just broke *all* third-party web clients, including yt-dlp; a full JS implementation is now required. 1 week ago:
Smart tube also looks like it’s working this morning.
- Comment on do you use non violent communication at the workplace? 2 weeks ago:
The more I write about it in this thread the more I agree that “nonviolent communication” implies “violent communication” which feels like an equivalence between words and physical assault.
I’m all for people communicating in a way that is civil, unambiguous, and direct, but this lexical appropriation sure sounds like manufactured fragility at best, or—as you say—a trivialization of physical violence.
(And I sure hope — shows as an em-dash)