I love bpd girls

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• zeropointone@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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  • DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    The manic pixie dream girl has tempted many a fool with her clever illusions

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    • outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Yeah i just straight up say ‘evil fairy queen. Want a snack?’

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• ParadoxSeahorse@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I have a theory, BPD = Autism + PTSD

  Once you address them separately, they realise problem behaviours that fall under A) don’t need changing, “it’s just me” for the most part, and B) can be improved if the trauma(s) is/are addressed therapeutically by a professional, ignoring BPD diagnosis bs, and using trad PTSD techniques.

  This is because PTSD is far more diagnosed in men, so it is “fixable”, and medical professionals have generally no fucking clue about Autism presentation in women, so they’re under-diagnosed, probably just mentally ill / fucked, ie. BPD.

  Generally, I would compare mental illness to the personality theory of temperament (in this case flavour of neurodiversity) + experience, but psychology is insanity so.

  This may all be bullshit, just anecdotal

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  • proceduralnightshade@lemmy.ml ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I’m diagnosed with BPD and met (quite some) other people who were diagnosed over the years. I think your theory is bullshit – but not in a rude way, it just doesn’t fit what I know about BPD and the women diagnosed with BPD I got to know.

    Generally, I would compare mental illness to the personality theory of temperament (in this case flavour of neurodiversity) + experience

    Modern treatment methods often follow a bio-psychological or bio-psycho-social model. This is a oversimplification, but BPD is usually a biological/genetic predisposition to be more emotional + bad experiences in your childhood, leading to strong negative emotions and the lack of mechanisms to regulate those emotions, which cumulates in impulsivity, unhealthy coping mechanisms etc later on.

    There’s overlap with the vague concept of hypersensitivity and ADHD; there’s differential diagnosis too, which is “hey, this can be similar to that, let’s diagnose properly before we do anything”; and there’s comorbidity.

    I agree that trauma plays a big role, and I would go so far as to claim every BPD person is traumatized in a way that justifies therapy, but PTSD is a specific diagnosis, just like autism is.

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    • ParadoxSeahorse@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      My personal experience is that doctors and institutions (ie. hospital, work, university) are just far more friendly towards the dual diagnosis. ASD is treated as, I don’t necessarily accept “disability”, but special circumstances, and is generally well catered for given enough back and forth with the correct departments. And PTSD is quite favourably treated as things that happened to you rather than because of you, which it always feels is kind of the assumption once people hear the BPD diagnosis.

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  • ContriteErudite@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I think this as well, though I have no formal training in psychology. My perspective comes from a lifelong interest in learning across fields and from having several family members who struggled with mental health, often dismissed as hysterical, crazy, over-emotional, or immature. Decades later, many of them received diagnoses of comorbid autism and CPTSD. I believe that within the next 5–10 years, assuming the DSM can be inured against political editorialization, autism diagnoses will be further refined and the spectrum will become more granular and specific.

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    • outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Autism+sufficiently complicated ptsd in the context of our society can look very verrrrry much like the diagnostic criteria for bpd.

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• zbyte64@awful.systems ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Wishing you the best therapist she can find. “Integrated Family Systems” could be of help.

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• Tedesche@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  She’s disordered, but it’s the man’s fault. Typical.

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  • kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Looks like the He-Man Woman Hater’s Club found Lemmy.

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  • Squirrelanna@lemmynsfw.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Huh???

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    • neons@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      didn’t get it either, but I guess it’s because of the @toxxxicmasculinity

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  • Fla@lemmy.zip ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    How does the post blame the guy?

    Genuinely curious because i’m not seeing it…

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    • Tedesche@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      So how do you interpret the toxic masculinity line in the middle?

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    • neons@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      don’t get it as well, but I guess it’s because of the @toxxxicmasculinity

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• outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  “Thank you, officer”

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• ouRKaoS@lemmy.today ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  The bad part is, as soon as you discover this cabinet, 3 of her personalities are behind you with a knife.

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  • outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Hot.

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  • rami@ani.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Ah the multiple personality serial killer trope. Classic, fallacious, and not the least bit problematic.

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  • xx3rawr@sh.itjust.works ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Only one of them is out to kill you though. The other is a cook and is cutting onions while another just had the most masive shit of her life.

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    • Yareckt@lemmynsfw.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Classic Poop knife …

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    • ouRKaoS@lemmy.today ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Also at any moment the other personality that wants to use the knife for some kinky shit could come out.

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• ViscloReader@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I can fix here

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  • ebolapie@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    *She can fix herself, given the motivation, a stable environment, and a whole lotta patience and earned trust

    Source: gf has BPD and I’m really proud of her

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    • outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      stable environment

      And a magical unicorn to ride through it.

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    • rami@ani.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      You’re good people ❤️

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    • Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Good Luck for both of you!

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    • ViscloReader@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      There’s fixing there then. Good 👍

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  • samus12345@sh.itjust.works ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I can fix there, too.

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    • MehBlah@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Soon you will be here, there and everywhere.

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• antsu@lemmy.wtf ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I read this as “bipedal girls”. Me too, love me a nice pair of legs.

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  • Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Yeah, but what about three legs?

    Virginia The Forest

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    • PrettyFlyForAFatGuy@feddit.uk ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      As a leg man, i approve

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    • Agent641@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      How many vaginas?

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• Cruxifux@feddit.nl ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  The crazy girls being better at sex thing always confused me. I vaguely understand that correlation but like… it holds so true. What is it about bpd that makes you bang so good?

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  • kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    From personsl experience: it’s not worth it.

    Swap pronouns were applicable.

    You’ll be so exhausted from her meltdowns, manipulation, and the constant repairs (literal and figurative) from her poor life choices that you won’t have the time or energy for sex. Then she’ll cheat on you with your gross scumbag neighbor who was old enough to be her father because she jumped to the conclusion that you did’t want her anymore and she wanted revenge.

    She’ll then proceed to run off with one your friends. But not before explaining how it’s probably just temporary and the relationship will be stronger than ever when she comes back. So stay single. Oh, can you keep her cat for now? He doesn’t have room in his parent’s apartment that she’s moving into the day after fucking him for the first time.

    My early 20s were trash. She ended up completing suicide a week before my wedding in 2012. Myself, I was so fucked up by that relationship I now live with chronic anhedonia and alexithymia. It literally broke my brain.

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    • proceduralnightshade@lemmy.ml ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      you won’t have the time or energy for sex

      skill issue

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  • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Less inhibitions.

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  • OldChicoAle@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    As a gay man, I had some of the best sex with a man that turned out to be a little cray cray. His place was immaculate but he freaked out on me after one hookup. Granted, I did cancel our second date, but no need to get weird about it. Blocked. Never driving around his place again either.

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    • Cruxifux@feddit.nl ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Yeah I dated a girl for 3 years that was amazing sex. Not worth the emotional abuse though.

      Also I guess I shouldn’t have prefaced this with just women being like this. I’ve heard the same about men.

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  • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Passion, like everything else, is cranked up to 11?

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    • PrettyFlyForAFatGuy@feddit.uk ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Pretty much. I had a partner with BPD for almost four years. It was extremely intense.

      The sex was fantastic but fucking hell was it tough walking on eggshells constantly

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  • rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    The good times are especially good and the bad times are especially bad, currently dating one and confused a lot of the time

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    • MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Can’t it be kept in check with meds?

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    • ivanafterall@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Yes, you should run. It probably doesn’t do you any good to tell you this now, as I know how intoxicating those times can be, but you should run. I was in exactly this situation. Also it WILL be hard to find equivalent sex in the future. Just try not to think too much about the fact that you might have now peaked in that regard.

      If you get to the point that you want some helpful answers, consider reading Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. I read it one night, it was so helpful back in the day. See if maybe it touches any sensitive areas.

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  • MeatPilot@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    One explanation for someone who is bipolar. Hypomania can express as hypersexual.

    My wife and past girlfriends have experienced this with me and to be honest it’s fun for the first hour but having a throbbing boner and inability to satisfy the urge stops being fun for both parties involved. Also makes woman feel horribly inadequate that they can’t get a man to cum. Add to it I try to do all sorts of uncomfortable things to us both to just nut.

    I’m sure that the bipolar woman go through what I have gone through it’s like eating nonstop and still being hungry even though your stomach is about to burst. You feel like a disgusting slob with every bite but can’t put the food down. All you crave is the sloppiest and nastiest food because anything healthy just doesn’t get you there. The regret afterwards is next level.

    Not trying to be a downer, but you did ask.

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    • sober_monk@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      There’s also the fun part of dialling in your medication to find the balance between being an overclocked sex machine and a walking limp noodle!

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    • MycelialMass@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Dang dude

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    • Pacattack57@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I’ve never heard a better explanation for this phenomena. Appreciate the insight.

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  • Jerkface@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Sensation seeking, emotional intensity, and a certain lack of inhibition.

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    • mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      The mania also helps. Bipolar isn’t just a happy-sad thing. The manic phase is categorized in the same group as schizoaffective disorders. Some of the most common symptoms of mania are hyper sexuality and feeling invincible. Imagine being absolutely insatiable even while doing it. So you keep going harder and harder, trying to find something to sate the urge. And the entire time, you’re delusional to the point of thinking nothing will hurt you. If you’re a manic girl who just brought home a random hookup, he’s about to get sex so hard his entire genetic line will be impressed.

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  • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Passion.

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• SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  That's the point when you should double check the status of your insurance with your broker.

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  • thesohoriots@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    They died doing what they loved: actuarial tables

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• red_bull_of_juarez@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  And probably the last sex of your life.

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  • Lemmyoutofhere@lemmy.ca ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    *best

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  • rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Died doing what i loved

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  • cm0002@piefed.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    DEATH BY SNU SNU

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    • dickalan@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Out of the entire series, this one is the one that stands out as the only one that promotes females raping men and is a stain on the entire series that I love

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    • samus12345@sh.itjust.works ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Image

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• simplejack@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  This is one of those things you find at a university art gallery at the end of a semester.

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• istdaslol@feddit.org ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  But don’t call them a fish. We did it once and the aftermath wasn’t very cool.

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  • kelpie_returns@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    What?

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    • rami@ani.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Yeah I’m actually curious about this one.

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