How do you beat post-work floppiness?

Submitted ⁨⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨VinesNFluff@pawb.social⁩ to ⁨nostupidquestions@lemmy.world⁩

Dunno how else to call it. Got me a job. It’s not a bad job. I like the work I do, I tolerate the people there, the hours are not long, it pays the bills I got.

… But god damn. Once I’m home I lack the drive to do literally anything.

I’ve stopped going to gym, I often eat junk cuz I just don’t wanna cook, even my hobbies are being left to gather dust. After working my 9-to-5 I just wanna lie down and rot until it’s work time again.

So the question is, how do the better-adjusted adults handle this?

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zerozaku@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Everyone sharing their own coping mechanisms in the comments makes me want to question the whole thing itself. Why are we living like this? And why do we need to force ourselves to go through all this? What is the end goal? Are there no better ways to live? Why, why, whyyyy…

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- hayvan@feddit.nl ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Capitalism. The answer is capitalism.
  
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- CrabAndBroom@lemmy.ml ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Food is literally free, it just grows out of the ground. If we weren’t such dickheads we could just take it in turns picking potatoes or whatever and spend the rest of our time fucking about doing whatever we want. Probably
  
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- False@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  We live in a society
  
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mirshafie@europe.pub ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
This is pretty much always the case when you start a new job. It takes time adjusting to the environment, the people and everything else. It’s going to get better, it always does.

However, skipping proper food and exercise is counter-productive, so do make an effort to cover those needs.

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Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
If you find the secret, pass it along

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- WhyIHateTheInternet@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  The secret is simple. What you do for money isn’t what it who you are. 8 hours of work. 8 hours of sleep. (Unconscious body resting sleep) That leaves as many hours per day you spend working as you could spend doing anything you are able to facilitate. Problem is, if your 8 hours of work is debilitating to the point it owns the other 66% of your time then you need a new 9 to 5 or at least find peace with what it is you do for money.
  
  Or you have depression. If that’s the case I feel for you, and I know you got this.
  
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  - Jakule17@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    
    That leaves as many hours per day you spend working as you could spend doing anything you are able to facilitate.
    
    No commutes?
    
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  - Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    D d d d d d d d d d depression
    
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- UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  $100,000 a year in passive income
  
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  - Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Ahh, the “small loan of a million dollars” approach. I always forget about Daddy’s money!
    
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- blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Don’t go home. Go to a place to do the thing from work instead.
  
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jaggedrobotpubes@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
9am to 5pm is all day, and you have to be on.

That shit is hard.

Everybody is silently trying to make you feel bad about a regular reaction to a big thing, because they feel the same, which they should all be embarrassed not to realize is fine.

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Fedizen@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Idk about better adjusted but it helps to have a checklist and somebody to lean on.

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blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
As others have said in this thread: don’t go home after work. Go somewhere else. That’s it.

If you wanna start doing a workout routine, join a gym close to your work and go straight there instead of going home. Want to learn to dance? Find something to do away from home until it is time to go to a dance class that happens every week. Have hobbies you would normally do alone at home? Start a group dedicated to doing those hobbies together in a public place, and meet there regularly.

If you feel really exhausted after your workday, almost universally you can use this technique: go to the next place you are going to be, find somewhere to sit or lay down, then set a timer for 15 minutes and just close your eyes. You can meditate if you want, but that’s not what this is about. You are literally just sitting there, doing nothing, resting your eyes. The hardest part is dealing with the fact that you feel bored and want to look at your phone - don’t. Being bored is a way to mentally recover from your stress. Looking at your phone doesn’t do this.

Then, work on building up a schedule of events in your life for your after-work time. These should be things that:

Are fun. They are things you actually want to do. They are goals you chose for yourself because they are personally meaningful.

Are social. You are spending time with other people with the same interest, who you enjoy spending time with. You can reasonably expect that they will be happy to see you, and that you will be happy to see them.

Are regularly scheduled. You should be showing up to the same place at the same time every day or week.

Gradually build up a schedule like this for 4-5 days out of the work week, and possibly on the weekend. Leave one afternoon per week open for life admin - laundry, cleaning, groceries, etc.
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ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I work at a home office in a fairly active industry so while I do get to wear sweats or pajama bottoms much of the day, it’s still draining as FUCK to be “on” all day. Even at rest the human brain burns enough energy to power a 30-watt incandescent light bulb, which doesn’t sound very bright but I would challenge anyone to keep a bulb lit for 8 hours or more purely by peddling a bike or something. When you’re thinking and stressed and working out problems and focused on tasks, the power consumption of your meat-calculator goes way up, so the exhaustion is real and tied to physiology.

So here’s how I’m trying to tackle having this same problem:

Higher protein, lower fat and lower carb snacks. A little sugar boost here and there can help but if you’re destroying a box of cookies to get through the day you’re making yourself more exhausted.

Drink a LOT more water. It’s so easy to forget to hydrate while working, and this doesn’t just fatigue you, it wrecks your teeth when your mouth dries out.

Walks… walks, walks walks. Take a walk at lunch, even if it’s around the street, even if it’s in circles in the house, you HAVE to keep moving. Sitting for any period of time can be bad for you but it can also make your body want to lay down and go sleepy sleep. Also, no matter how lazy you feel, a short walk after working will always make you feel better physically and emotionally. It creates a mental separation for you to now look at your home life as distinctly different from your work life. Your survival-oriented brain needs this.

Go to bed early. If your body is screaming to sleep, just go sleep. You’re probably not getting enough. I have a lot of sleep issues so lately I just go to bed at 8:00 PM like an old man, and even though I wake up absurdly early now, it helps me physically and mentally prepare for the day. So maybe it’s as much about shifting your schedule as it is how much time you spend sleeping versus living.

Sunlight. A giant nuclear furnace spewing radiation doesn’t sound very healthy to stand in front of, but your body is a product of basking in the shockwave of this hydrogen bomb for millions of years, it needs a little heat and warmth on your skin. (One of the nicer feelings is napping with curtains open and sunlight streaming in on your skin on a cold day - holy shit that’s the best feeling in the world.)

Less caffeine. I could autistically talk for hours about how adenosine and brain receptors work as I have a neurology fixation, but the short version is the more caffeine you drink during the day, the more wrecked you will feel at the end of the day. There are no work-arounds to this, it’s inherent in how the brain chemistry works. Try to limit caffeinated drinks to a couple a day and spaced apart.

Healthier dinners. More fiber, more low-fat protein, less processed carbs. Eat early and not late and you will feel less heavy when you get up.

Talk to yourself. Keep a narration going, and talking out loud actually helps your non-verbal layers of your consciousness to align to what you want. (I told you, I have a neurology fixation.) You are legion, you have a multitude of thoughts inside you, but they don’t have a voice, each vying for attention and reporting things to your “main” controller. It can be amazingly effective to literally talk to these brain layers. If you want proof that I’m not talking out my ass, learn about split-brain syndrome and the eerie effects of a hemispherectomy.
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- Jax@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Again, I don’t have much to add — but god damnit I try to go to bed early and end up staying awake staring at the ceiling all night.
  
  I could probably get more sunlight but this is a post on how to be less sleepy, not more sleepy.
  
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Master@sh.itjust.works ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Recently lost my wife and my whole life feels like this listlessness you describe. Some suggestions people have made.

Plan out an hour after work to do something even if it means not driving home for an hour and going and doing something. This one works for me.

Do all your extra work on the weekend when you have the energy. Laundry and cleaning the house fit in here.

Plan out and prepare your metals for the work week on the weekend. Its only 5 meals. Cook two big meals and portion out the extras as leftovers in frozen containers then make an extra small meal that is either quick to cook or precooked or frozen meal from store. You now have three meal variety you can pick to quickly cook during the week after work. This works for me as the variety makes me feel like I have a good selection to pick from and if I buy some junk otw home I can eat the extra on the weekend.

Force yourself to exercise for at least 20m every other day. A hard sweaty workout! Just fucking do it no matter what. I do this in morning before shower.

Life still fucking sucks and I hate it… But its better than it was and gets better day to day. You just have to do it.

That’s really what it all comes down to and the only real advise. Just do it. Pick one and do it for two weeks. Then add one more and do it with the first one for the next two week. And repeat. They say it takes two to three weeks to build a routine. At some point it will feel weird to NOT do it… But it takes time and energy. So just fucking do it because its not going to magically get better on its own.

Just do it already.

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- VinesNFluff@pawb.social ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Sorry for your loss, mate
  
  And thanks for the advice. Even if right now I want to make sad animal noises at the idea of “just doing it”.
  
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  - Master@sh.itjust.works ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Baby steps. Just pick one small thing and do it… I say this as I fight against “just do it” myself… Its so fucking hard. I get it. But again. It wont fix itself magically.
    
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- Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Sorry for your loss. Thank you for the inspiring words.
  
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- edwardbear@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Sorry for your loss, man. If you need someone to talk to, about anything, send me a message.
  
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- lIlIlIlIlIlIl@lemmy.world ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Your story is inspiring, and I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Rooting for you
  
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- kubok@fedia.io ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Sorry for your loss. I admire your strength.
  
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- Mac@mander.xyz ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  I admire your strength and perseverance.
  
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zxqwas@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
As soon as I get home: I do not sit down. If I do I’ll lose all motivation to get up. Go to the gym, do meal prep etc before I’m even close to my chair.

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- SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Sounds awful
  
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  - angrystego@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    But functional
    
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- zerozaku@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  This is actually what I did when I was in a miserable work schedule and it works!
  
  The moment you sit down, your lethargy keeps going up to a point you barely want to do anything.
  
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masterspace@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
By forcing yourself to do stuff.

It sucks at first, and you feel exhausted and like you’re not that effective and your brain will keep coming up with excuses and rationalizations as to why you should just rest, but you ignore them and force yourself to do the stuff you don’t feel like doing.

Do that for a while and you’ll suddenly have a higher energy level and it won’t seem like a big deal.

You’re basically at the point where you just took up a new exercise every day, and that’s just tapping you out. If you keep doing just that exercise and nothing else, your fitness / energy will eventually rise to the point of being able to handle it and nothing else. If you force yourself to do more, then eventually your fitness / energy level will rise to working + after work stuff being the baseline.

Give yourself time and give yourself rest days, but most people online will advocate for too much self care and don’t realize that the only way to actually change and improve is to continually push yourself a little past your comfort zone.

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- ivanafterall@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Great analogy.
  
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ThePyroPython@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
There’s a good dozen of great suggestions in the comments here for tips to sort out various things like cooking, etc. (I have saved a few for myself later).

So instead I’ll offer some meta advice for making these things feel effortless:

Find the paths of least resistance and chain them together.

Look at the additional activities you want to add on to your day before/after work and figure out what is the most effortless way to trigger starting one activity when the previous one ends.

For example, back in April I wanted to start going to the gym regularly so I did three things: put together a gym bag with enough sets of gym clothes for the week’s exercise, keep that gym bag in my car, and joined a gym as close to my place of work as possible.

By doing this I was able to build “going to the gym” into my commute home from work. I have managed to keep up the habit of three gym sessions a week since then (with the occasional miss due to illness or other life events getting in the way).

Make the good habits obvious and the bad ones obscure.

I struggled all my life with something so basic; remembering to brush my teeth both in the morning and at night. So what I did last year was use the IKEA peg board thing and found some holders for my toothbrush and toothpaste. That pegboard is right next to my bedroom door so I have to walk past my toothbrush whenever I leave the room as a visual trigger to go brush my teeth.

Think about how you can position physical reminders in your space to do the activities you want to do.

Or use your phone’s calendar/to do list app of your choice to book in reminders to nudge you into getting started.

Just five minutes to get started and if necessary do the bare minimum badly.

Whenever I’m feeling tired but there’s a task that needs doing I ask myself “will this take five minutes or less?”. If the answer is yes, then I just do it there and then.

If it’s something that will take more than five minutes to complete to 100% then I say to myself “ok I’m tired but I’m just going to do five minutes of it and see how I’m feeling then”. This works out great for the gym example. Today on the way home from work I was knackered but I told myself to just do the five minutes as the bare minimum. Once I’d done a few minutes of exercise I felt like I was achieving and then pushed past the five minutes for a good 30 minutes before deciding that was enough for today.

And yes, there have been days when I literally just did the five minutes and stopped. But that didn’t matter, because I still completed what I set as the bare minimum. Those minimums still get me closer to my goals and therefore they’re still a win. So long as I’m getting just one more of these little wins over losing (i.e. not going to the gym) then the progress keeps stacking and the good habit continues to form.
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starlinguk@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
My neighbour doesn’t even go inside when she comes back from work, she parks her car, ditches her bag in the bike shed, hops on her bicycle and tears off into the distance. I’ve seen her on her racing bike in a suit.

So, don’t give yourself the chance to veg out, do something on the way back home or go for a walk before you go in?

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greedytacothief@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Probably not helpful but when I was roofing and at work for 11-12 hours a day, getting home and going for a short run really helped out (~4 miles). Something about that cardio gave me more energy and would guarantee I’d at least take a shower after. I think I was only running 3-4 days a week then.

It’s also a great time to decompress, just being alone with your thoughts a little. Then for a while after your heart rate is elevated and you’ve got some extra energy.

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- toynbee@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  My back just stopped me from walking down one stair (and I barely made it back from trying) and here you are calling ~4 miles a “short run.”
  
  I don’t begrudge you that, it’s good that your body is capable, but jeez it’s hard not to be envious.
  
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  - masterspace@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    If you force yourself to run a little bit one day, then a little bit more each day after that, then eventually 4 miles will feel like a short run.
    
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  - rapchee@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    try to do some beginner back excercises for a bit, it helped me
    
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- Apytele@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  It’s funny that this is about work life balance because I’m trying to catch some sleep before my fourth twelve in a row and my acute psych nurse brain just went nooo nooooooo oh noooooooooooo but assuming you never experience significant mania, psychosis, or delirium, I LOVE that for you.
  
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Nomorereddit@lemmy.today ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Any chance you have sleep apnea?

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kubok@fedia.io ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
One coping mechanism that helps me a lot, is taking evening walks. While listening to music or podcasts. If it does not alleaviate the exhaustion, it will at least convert the exhaustion into a more physical kind, rather that a burnt-out mental kind.

Also, you might suffer from burnout. I am not a doctor or psychologist though, so you may ask an actual professional.

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- masterspace@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Burnout isnt a thing, it’s just situational depression.
  
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Nemo@slrpnk.net ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I’ll tell you what worked for me: Doing everything before work instead. Get up at 4am instead of 7 and go to bed at 7pm instead of 10.

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- MutantTailThing@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  This is MADNESS
  
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  - BreadOven@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    THIS IS SPARTA!!! Kicks
    
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- 5in1k@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  God I wish I got up at 7. I’m already at work for a half hour.
  
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- FireRetardant@lemmy.world ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  My schedule changes frequently. On days i start at a normal time i tend to get things done in the mornings. Days i start early i get stuff done after work. I find the best trick for getting stuff done after work is to start right away. Even sitting for just 5 minutes can be detrimental to my motivation.
  
  Part of what helps motivate me is in my area electricity is cheapest between 7pm and 7am. So i try to do things like laundry early in the morning and i try not to use my computer much until after 7pm. Even my wifi is often off during daytime hours (i live alone and work away from home). I know the savings are minor, but i find that extra financial incentive is all i need sometimes to wash the dishes at 6:30 pm and relax afterwards.
  
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- litchralee@sh.itjust.works ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  At the very minimum, gym in the morning (but after coffee/caffeine, plus the time for it to kick in) is the enlightened way. It helps if your gym is nearby or you have a !homegym@lemmy.world .
  
  I personally also use the wee morning hours to reconcile my financial accounts, since ACH transactions in the USA will generally process a day faster if submitted before 10:30 ET.
  
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- folkrav@lemmy.ca ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Yeaaah, doing this would mean the death of anything I enjoy outside of work and the wife and kids.
  
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  - Nemo@slrpnk.net ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    OP is already failing to do anything outside of work and sleep. Desperate measures.
    
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Alenalda@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Maybe you’re a morning person. Wake up and do all your important stuff in the mornings and be lazy at night.

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scarabic@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
If you have a good job that’s not too demanding and are still feeling this, then you might think about it as a health issue and look into it with your doctor. You have two paths:

look for some treatable malady - perhaps depression

focus on wellness and fitness: exercise more, get your electrolytes, fix your diet

Either of those two paths may lead to more energy. I don’t know how old you are but this kind of thing doesn’t get any easier with age so I highly recommend getting ahead of it as soon as you can.
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fonix232@fedia.io ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I'm in this picture and I don't like it.

On a more serious note, I feel the same.

Don't get me wrong, I actually do like my job. I'm working with people I like, I like what I'm actually doing, and I'm not waking up with dread every (or really, any) morning. I can't even complain because I'm getting paid well, great benefits, tons of time off (so much in fact that my manager had to force me to take Fridays off until EOY just so I use up my base rate PTOs), great bonus situation, lots of options to travel, management is generally good as well.

But every single day, I just feel exhausted after work. Even when I'm WFH, or have little actually exhausting tasks to do... I'm just exhausted. Tired. No energy for anything but running a quick bath, or shower, reading for an hour or two, then sleeping.

In fact this lack of energy has been so bad recently that I've taken to inserting a workout+cooking+everythingelse hour in the middle of my WFH days just so things get done.

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- zerozaku@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Relate to the WFH situation a lot. I need a fix really bad :(
  
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5in1k@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Pure fucking willpower, don’t let yourself sit down when you get home right away.

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CrackedLinuxISO@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
It’s quite insidious, and tbh there’s only so much you can do to control how you feel after work. Instead of hoping to feel good every day, I try and set myself up for success on random days where I do leave work with energy.

In my case this means I have 1 or 2 braindead-easy dinners waiting in the wings. Good leftovers I can reheat in the oven, or a meal that takes 2 steps to prepare. If I don’t have to worry about cooking dinner, then I have that much more time to dedicate to a hobby when the fancy strikes me.

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BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
A lot of it is just figuring out a new routine. Once you do, and you work that routine for a couple of weeks, it will feel weird to NOT hit the gym after work a few times a week.

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- I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  This is a fucking lie. I work out to keep my blood pressure down and I HATE it. Every fucking day I hate it. “IT wIlL feEL WeIrD NOT tO HiT tHe gYm-” fuck off. No it doesn’t. Every second I’m at the gym I wish I could be laying down relaxing. It also doesn’t get easier. Oh the workouts do, but the motivation to go? The awful post-workout routine of being exhausted and needing to shower but STILL having to do all the household chores. The desire to do ANYTHING else besides go to the gym. That does NOT get easier.
  
  I’m so fucking tired of working out. If I didn’t have blood pressure issues, there is no way in hell I would subject myself to that BS 5/7 days of the week. There is no enjoyment from this activity. People talk about post-workout endorphins and I feel like they have to be bullshitting because I’ve never felt anything of the sort. Just a vague relief that it’s over… At least for that day.
  
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  - masterspace@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Honestly cannot fathom this. Are you pushing yourself at the gym? Are you eating healthy and enough protein? Resting enough?
    
    There’s literally never been a period of my life where going to the gym regularly hasn’t made me feel better. I havent gone for like 6 months because I’ve been brutally busy, but I honestly cannot fathom how you could be going and not getting something positive out of it.
    
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  - blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    The reason you hate it is because you expect to hate it, because you are “forced” to do it. Self-fulfilling prophesy. Sure, endorphins are good - but because you are priming yourself to hate exercise, even if you generate them your brain will avoid interpreting their existance as a “good” feeling.
    
    It is possible to learn to love exercising. It’s easy, actually, since exercise is fundamental to human health, so the body is primed to reward you for doing it. But you will probably find it difficult, since not only do you hate exercise, but you like hating exercise. I don’t wanna psychoanalyze you too much - but based on this comment, it is pretty clear that hating exercise is something of an identity for you. I have all sorts of tips and tricks for learning to enjoy exercise (which really boil down to “make it easy, fun, and social”) - but they all fall flat if you are simply determined to hate it because that is what makes your ego feel safe.
    
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  - AstralPath@lemmy.ca ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    
    If I didn’t have blood pressure issues, there is no way in hell I would subject myself to that BS 5/7 days of the week
    
    You shouldn’t necessarily ever expect to enjoy doing something that you’re essentially forced to do. The gym is kinda like work for you so its perfectly reasonable that you hate it.
    
    I love playing guitar and working on music but if I was ever forced to do it daily I would start hating it real quick. This is why I avoid monetization routes for my music that would require adhering to a routine.
    
    When it comes to the gym, I’ve certainly gotten well into it to the point that it feels weird not to go. Same with running, but even more potent. I’d actually be in a shit mood if I had to skip a scheduled run for some reason.
    
    Its a real bummer that you’re struggling to enjoy the gym, but I totally understand where you’re coming from. Life is busy and sometimes all that I have the bandwidth for is a beer on the couch after work. We all have our limits and that’s OK.
    
    Glad to hear you’re pushing through it for the sake of your health. There’s likely no better reason to hit the gym. 💪
    
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  - notacat@lemmy.today ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    there was a youtube short video I wish I could find again about a guy who got dumped by his girlfriend and started going to the gym and on the treadmill every day and he hated every minute of it and never really grew to like it but slow got more in shape and his life went from pit of despair to just ok and I feel like that sort of thing - recognizing that some of us don’t get runners high, some of us don’t don’t get that habit-formation and it remains a slog - is way more motivating than people saying “it’ll get easier! stay positive!” etc.
    
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Kamsaa@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
There’s a lot of good advice to improve things by changing your behaviour. It is also worth checking your health. I have had similar issues but it got better after I was treated for vitamin B9 deficiency. I was just plain exhausted but after a blood test confirming the issue and a few weeks of supplements prescribed by my doc, things got so much better. Depression and burn out have also been mentioned and it is definitely worth asking for a depression test if you see a doctor. That shit is so exhausting. When I was depressed, I could sleep like 10h a night and I still had zero energy.

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- starlinguk@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Or long covid. So many people have long covid it ain’t funny.
  
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DagwoodIII@piefed.social ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
You only need to cook one day a week to have good meals.

Make a whole roast chicken on Sunday. You can have that bird all week. Ceasar salad with chicken; chicken tacos, chicken sandwich.

Get a big pot and make a giant stew. Freeze it in pint size containers. Right now I’ve got chili and lentil soup sitting in the freezer, waiting to be nuked.

Keep plenty of fresh fruit and quality cheese on hand. An apple with some sharp cheddar is a great snack.

Angel hair pasta takes about five minutes to cook; put any sauce you like on it.

You don’t have to go to the gym to stay fit.

Use this manual, 15 minutes a day.

https://leisureguy.ca/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/rcaf_xbx_5bx_exercise_plans_text.pdf

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whotookkarl@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
You develop coping patterns to adjust to the bullshit of having to work 40 hours a week for shelter and food and whatever other necessities capitalism has captured while advances is technology and increased populations should have brought hours down to <20 decades ago without a wealth class leaching off the working class & pushing propaganda to divide us.

Find something that does motivate you if old hobbies no longer do. Political or union activity, music, exercise, maintaining friendships, whatever can help keep you from becoming cynical or compliant to authority. I like music, video games, philosophy, etc.

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SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I have some after work martial arts classes and on the other days I practice for an hour or so on my own. I also think up what I want to cook and keep it interesting. Most of our crappy eating and snacking is due to boredom.

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SoupBrick@pawb.social ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
It might be worth it to try a 10min power nap after work and see if that helps.

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metallic_substance@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Viagra

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- ivanafterall@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Now I’m horny as hell, but have no motivation to do anything about it.
  
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RBWells@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I go pretty much straight from work to yoga, make supper at a civilized hour afterwards, and take Wednesdays off workouts to, as you say, flop.

Gardening I do in the morning before work.

Cooking I do because others depend on me, that’s been true for 30 years now, before that I didn’t remember to eat, just when hungry. Don’t keep junk in the house if it tempts you, make your easy stuff healthier. Hummus, boil eggs on the weekends so you have those, fruit, bagged salad greens, make it easier to eat nutritious food.

I want to say suck it up and go to the gym, you will be glad you did. 9-5 is pretty nice hours, here it’s 8-5 or 9-6. Exercise is one non-negotiable for me. I have gotten up at 5 to run when that was the only option, and have gone to the gym at 20:30 after night classes after work when that was the only option. You will feel better if you just GO and work out even if you don’t want to.

Habit>willpower. Commit to 6 weeks, and by then your schedule will probably settle out. Personally I put exercise ahead of healthy eating because I know my body.

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- dumples@midwest.social ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  I have no self control but I know this. So if its in the house I will eat it. Don’t buy it or hide it
  
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blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Whatever bullshit tasks you’re dreading, see if it’s possible to do them before work, or on your lunch break, or on the weekend, or on your scheduled vacation days

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