How do you beat post-work floppiness?

Submitted ⁨⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨VinesNFluff@pawb.social⁩ to ⁨nostupidquestions@lemmy.world⁩

Dunno how else to call it. Got me a job. It’s not a bad job. I like the work I do, I tolerate the people there, the hours are not long, it pays the bills I got.

… But god damn. Once I’m home I lack the drive to do literally anything.

I’ve stopped going to gym, I often eat junk cuz I just don’t wanna cook, even my hobbies are being left to gather dust. After working my 9-to-5 I just wanna lie down and rot until it’s work time again.

So the question is, how do the better-adjusted adults handle this?

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whotookkarl@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
You develop coping patterns to adjust to the bullshit of having to work 40 hours a week for shelter and food and whatever other necessities capitalism has captured while advances is technology and increased populations should have brought hours down to <20 decades ago without a wealth class leaching off the working class & pushing propaganda to divide us.

Find something that does motivate you if old hobbies no longer do. Political or union activity, music, exercise, maintaining friendships, whatever can help keep you from becoming cynical or compliant to authority. I like music, video games, philosophy, etc.

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Triumph@fedia.io ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
If you've started this job recently, that sounds completely normal, at least to my neurodivergent ears.

You're learning how to ride a bike, except it doesn't require so much physical practice as mental practice. You're putting in a lot of mental effort all day every day, and it's exhausting. For me, this period at a new job can last three to six months, sometimes more. Eventually, you get the hang of it, and you don't have to put in nearly as much mental effort to do your job well. Then you can get back to your other life shit.

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- VinesNFluff@pawb.social ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  It’s been about 5 months, idk if that counts as ‘recently’ (but I’m also VERY nd, so maybe you got a point :p)
  
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  - Triumph@fedia.io ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    I'd count it. It's been a long while since I really changed jobs, but that was absolutely a thing for me. Part of the way I have survived is by working a nap in somewhere every day. I used to go to my car at lunch and listen to NPR.
    
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saltnotsugar@lemmy.world ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Personally my biggest hurdle is getting started on something. When I get home I NEVER feel like drawing, but if I sit down and force myself to start I slowly get more energy and focus.

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- fubbernuckin@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Action precedes motivation. It sucks but it’s true.
  
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- Godort@lemmy.ca ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  This.
  
  The first 10 minutes of any activity after work is by far the hardest, but once you clear that hurdle it’s easy to keep going
  
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meco03211@lemmy.world ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Consider you might be depressed. Professional help could be in order. No shame in seeking help.

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Gullible@sh.itjust.works ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Ramp up and down your productivity through the day. Leave yourself time to recover during the last hours of work, both mentally and physically, so that you can do what you like when you get back home. Never tell your boss that you’re doing this. They will see the peak of your ramp and that alone, and their expectations will climb

I’ve heard that it’s fairly common in food service to “always be closing” so that you can finish and leave at the drop of a hat.

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TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I take a shower then I lay on a yoga mat and listen to a funny podcast like tigerbelly or bad friends for ~30 minutes depending how the day went. Sometimes I plan out what to do for dinner on the drive home sometimes I plan it out during mat time and do some light stretches. My shoulders and pelvis are chronically tight from stress. Maybe have a drink in the shower before laying down but maybe don’t incorporate that

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- FireRetardant@lemmy.world ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  I can vouch that a shower beer often brings my energy back post shower.
  
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Ging@anarchist.nexus ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I don’t have a real solution, but for me I just try to be exceptionally mindful of precisely what you already described. On my way home I try to think of a few productive things I could possibly muster before compromising/collapsing back into idleness

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Feyd@programming.dev ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
After work is exercise, which you need anyway, but it also shakes off the doldrums and provides a clean break between work and evening

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someguy3@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
First accept that you won’t have the same time or energy.

The gym is not about motivation, it’s about dedication. Also, that will give you more energy paradoxically.

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Spark@lemmy.zip ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I deal with this on and off myself. You have to find a way to get back to your old health habits, and create a schedule that allows you to do that. It sucks, because making time like that with your job is designed to be impossible, but you have no hope of ever feeling better if you have to work 8 hours a day or whatever AND you feel like crap because you are eating junk, not exercising, getting no sleep etc.

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HubertManne@piefed.social ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Well currently I don’t have a job sooo… Honestly I know what you are talking about and I basically negotiate with myself on if im going to have fun after work or on the weekend. if I want to enjoy myself on the weekend I have to get stuff done during the week.

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ch00f@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Allow yourself to be bored. You’ll find the motivation.

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deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Xbox.

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FartsWithAnAccent@fedia.io ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Work out in the morning or integrate exercise into your commute: I ride a bike to work and walk everywhere I can. Depending on where you work, you might even be able to get in some body weight exercises, light cardio, etc. between stuff.

Do it in little bursts whenever you can, every little bit helps! Keep in mind also you cannot out-exercise a bad diet, so try to eat healthy nutritious meals as opposed to fast food trash.

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Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I don’t. That’s why I don’t have a job right now.

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