Apytele
@Apytele@sh.itjust.works
- Comment on It's not coming back. 21 hours ago:
From another comment of mine on a similar post:
ADHD protip: commit to only setting up the digital workspace as soon as you get the assignment. Set up a cloud storage folder with google drive or one drive or whatever you use with:
- a copy of the assignment outline
- an empty document in the paper format, complete with title and reference pages
- a folder for reference PDFs or diagrams or quotes or whatever
Not only have I written numerous fabulously scoring assignments on my phone while taking horrifying IBS shits but also–
–one time I set this up for a group project and sent the folder out to the members. A few days later I logged in and one of the other members who also had ADHD had basically completed the entire assignment. Cannot say whether she was shitting while writing it but it’s certainly not impossible. A day after that another group member edited it and it was ready for submission five days ahead of schedule.
The neurochemistry isn’t actually averse to work, you just gotta catch it at the right angle.
- Comment on i'm a cockwarming enthusiast🫶 22 hours ago:
Hubs gets annoyed sometimes by my attention seeking hypersexuality. He’s fond of this bit:
spoiler
- Comment on Sitting in traffic 3 days ago:
The world would be a better place if people spent more time recognizing admiring skilled labor. Like even people who mostly just move and make things. The level dexterity alone is just 👨🍳🤌💋
- Comment on Sitting in traffic 3 days ago:
People ask me all the time if taking the bus is stressful but like. bruh I’m zoned out scrolling social media the entire time at the bus stop and on the bus. Or I’m just straight up zoned out. I don’t have to pay attention even to my own driving let alone the rest of these people. And also once in a blue moon the bus driver does something utterly wild like execute a perfect K-turn on a crowded city street in the ice without touching a single car to route around a detour (my mind was blown).
- Comment on MEGA FLAG 4 days ago:
I agree. You gotta look at it like when a love theater actor starts pulling red scarves outta their shirt when their character gets stabbed. Obviously it looks nothing like real blood but bruh. Pipe down and enjoy the play, OK? For a while I followed somebody on tumblr who did art of what each species might look like if star trek had way more sfx resources. They were also a massive scaly LOL a looot of the art was garak/bashir
- Comment on We should be thankful that humans only evolved a sympathetic yawning response and not a sympathetic farting response 5 days ago:
Worse, we did develop a sympathetic vomiting response. It makes a lot of sense with us being communal eaters. If you buddy is puking up the communal meal maybe you’d better get rid of it before it gets you too.
- Comment on Giving out addiction for Halloween 6 days ago:
- Comment on somehow i don't make any progress 6 days ago:
ADHD protip: commit to only setting up the digital workspace as soon as you get the assignment. Set up a cloud storage folder with google drive or one drive or whatever you use with:
- a copy of the assignment outline
- a document in the paper format, complete with title and reference pages
- a folder for reference PDFs or diagrams or quotes or whatever
Not only have I written numerous fabulously scoring assignments on my phone while taking horrifying IBS shits but also–
–one time I set this up for a group project and sent the folder out to the members. A few days later I logged in and one of the other members who also had ADHD had basically completed the entire assignment. Cannot say whether she was shitting while writing it but it’s certainly not impossible. A day after that another group member edited it and it was ready for submission five days ahead of schedule.
The neurochemistry isn’t actually averse to work, you just gotta catch it at the right angle.
- Comment on Is it weird for parents to keep saying "I love you", then asks "Do you love me?" 1 week ago:
!DIYMentalHealth@lemmy.dbzer0.com
I’m not done with it but…
- Comment on A sudden epiphany. 1 week ago:
is this? (is it just psych?)
Not at all, it originated in medical iirc
- Comment on Cursed image thread 1 week ago:
- Comment on A sudden epiphany. 1 week ago:
System for writing thank you notes to a nurse. They give you a little enamel pin to put on your badge that I’m not comfortable possibly accidentally losing on an acute psych unit. Then about every quarter each hospital gives an award to one of the nominations. So like, objectively, at least a few of my patients feel cared for. It’s just hard to feel that way sometimes.
- Comment on A sudden epiphany. 1 week ago:
☝️
Yeah 10 years and a dozen Daisy noms in and I still feel like my foot is constantly in my mouth. You have to walk this horrible tightrope of remembering this is the worst day of someone’s life then emotionally file it under your 400th Tuesday. The cognitive dissonance of that alone is enough to drive you bonkers.
- Comment on A sudden epiphany. 1 week ago:
Yeah I feel like it’s one of those things that sounds completely insane unless you’ve been through it. A lot of it was learning how to respond to crazy but I did actually learn a few positive behaviors directly from them. You’d be surprised how much please / thank you and sir / ma’am they use. I also learned to stand a lot taller, swagger a little, and speak from my chest. Like people will comment on how much confidence I display which is wild to me being actually in my own head.
- Comment on A sudden epiphany. 1 week ago:
You know I heard a quote one time that said if you’re the smartest person in the room you’re in the wrong room. But at the same time my parents always told me whatever I did I needed to be the best at it. Like they put me in tutoring because my math skills were only one year ahead. My family is all engineers, computer scientists etc. Everybody’s a bachelor’s or above except my one sister who’s specifically disabled.
When I decided on nursing school I was like OK I’m just going to aim for something achievable for me. The content should be right at my level, at least I’ll be able to excel at that like they’re expecting. And the coursework itself was super easy. I had all the chem physics and bio I needed for the conceptual groundwork. I had all the Greek and Latin roots I needed for the terminology. Even the math was actually right on my level (basic algebra, ratio and proportion, PEMDAS equations), I just needed to up my accuracy when I had previously optimized for speed.
But they absolutely humbled me in people skills and emotional resiliency. I actually flunked out the first time for being too emotionally immature. They made me cry on the regular and I just couldn’t get a grip on what they wanted from me interaction wise. It was actually my first shitty job at a psych hospital + going through therapy simultaneously that fixed me. It’s wild to say but I feel like the literally criminally insane men I was working with taught me better people skills than my parents did. I learned so much about respect and what it really meant to uphold a promise through adversity and how to keep my stupid mouth shut.
So. I thought I was aiming low, and I still wound up being the dumbest person in the room.
- Comment on 1 week ago:
Reminds me of Dr. Marijuana Pepsi Vandyck
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Was just talking about something very similar in another community LOL
- Comment on Why conservative men repeatedly crash Grindr 1 week ago:
Loving the diagram. Keep up the good educational work.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Oh it’s a good one. Like I might use that. Like damn. Say “grow up” but utterly roast the person while you do it!
- Comment on public service 1 week ago:
it’s the only social media I have that still has my real name attached. I use it to keep in contact with old coworkers, keep and host my resume, and I like their daily games.
- Comment on It seems like when I eat meat my ears ring more. Any ideas if what causes this? Not so much with hamburger but more with pork. Thoughts? 2 weeks ago:
CVSs and Walmarts usually have a free BP check station if OP lives in that part of the world. I second this by the way.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
pppsssst: that’s why your body can’t tell the difference!
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Breaking news: caffeine is DRUGS people.
This is not sarcasm; it is a psychoactive stimulant on par with coke and amphetamines. Your heart and kidneys do not know what drug schedules are.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 2 weeks ago:
Meet people: hobby or spiritual community are the two big ones most people meet a partner at. Look up cheap hobbies in particular something like a walking club.
Cheap places to take a girl:
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fish around in conversations for her favorite food. Pick the prettiest spot within walking distance. Pick somewhere out of the way but visible to passerby like the edge of a park. Check the calendar for favorable weather. Bring a blanket, that favorite food, and anything needed to make the environment comfy like an umbrella.
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if it’s just not the time of year for favorable weather book a library or community center presentation room and in addition to food fish around in convos for a favorite movie. Still bring a large blanket and push the tables and wheely chairs out of the way.
Any partner who finds effort over cash undesirable is just not a good fit for your life right now.
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- Comment on The same people who rage against authority love moderating communities where their ideology is the only one allowed 3 weeks ago:
factual true opinions
oh god that’s it; you’re an utterly insufferable person. And learning how to constructively approach injustice by conserving and directing your energy towards actions that will make the most real difference is a core goal of the therapy. Either put in the effort to become someone people want to be around or accept people don’t want to be around you.
- Comment on The same people who rage against authority love moderating communities where their ideology is the only one allowed 3 weeks ago:
No one is making you be here. You can click a button and start your own community and if your modding policies are that much better people will switch. …or none or very few of the users like what you say and the mod just happens to be the one responsible for telling you.
Is it frustrating to be part of the outgroup? Sure. Is it frustrating to have an opinion people dislike or don’t think is worth leaving their ingroup for? Sure. But that’s just called being a weirdo. Lots of people are weirdos. I’m a weirdo. In fact it’s often hard for me to get certain things done or find certain products. Bigelow doesn’t stock my favorite flavor in most stores because it’s not popular enough. That’s not oppression that’s just being unpopular.
Being a weirdo isn’t for the faint of heart. Dialectal behavior therapy changed my life and teaches four ways to approach a problem. 1. Stop seeing it as a problem. 2. Fix the problem (conform). 3. Accept the problem. 4. Stay whiny. I tend to vacillate between 1 and 3 (sigh sadly and order my tea online) but I spend little time bitching online about how it’s other people’s fault.
- Comment on Docs used to be cool as hell 3 weeks ago:
Had an micro teacher a long time ago at community college where 90% of his students were in healthcare career tracks. He told us when we’re hometo eat and roll in the dirt and for the most part only wash our hands after the toilet and before eating / prepping food or anything specifically medical like wound care or putting on contracts. …then at work you wash your hands every time you touch something and before touching your face. Said that was the key to a strong immune system.
- Comment on It would be so interesting if humans didn't have a gender assigned at birth and could choose who they want to be. 3 weeks ago:
This is what I’m saying! Maybe it’s like that game from rick and Morty. 1% chance you get a brain tumor, 1% chance you just get put in the wrong body in some way or other cuz fuck you that’s why.
- Comment on What're your strong opinions from an aged / dead fandom? 3 weeks ago:
It’s not the age gap it’s the raising her / being her caretaker as a small child and having all those surrogate father-daughter moments. Switching suddenly from father-daughter to love interest… 😬
- Comment on It would be so interesting if humans didn't have a gender assigned at birth and could choose who they want to be. 3 weeks ago:
How do you know you didn’t and you just happened to guess wrong?
