Apytele

@Apytele@sh.itjust.works

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college?⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  Meet people: hobby or spiritual community are the two big ones most people meet a partner at. Look up cheap hobbies in particular something like a walking club.

  Cheap places to take a girl:

  • fish around in conversations for her favorite food. Pick the prettiest spot within walking distance. Pick somewhere out of the way but visible to passerby like the edge of a park. Check the calendar for favorable weather. Bring a blanket, that favorite food, and anything needed to make the environment comfy like an umbrella.

  • if it’s just not the time of year for favorable weather book a library or community center presentation room and in addition to food fish around in convos for a favorite movie. Still bring a large blanket and push the tables and wheely chairs out of the way.

  Any partner who finds effort over cash undesirable is just not a good fit for your life right now.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The same people who rage against authority love moderating communities where their ideology is the only one allowed⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  factual true opinions

  oh god that’s it; you’re an utterly insufferable person. And learning how to constructively approach injustice by conserving and directing your energy towards actions that will make the most real difference is a core goal of the therapy. Either put in the effort to become someone people want to be around or accept people don’t want to be around you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The same people who rage against authority love moderating communities where their ideology is the only one allowed⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  No one is making you be here. You can click a button and start your own community and if your modding policies are that much better people will switch. …or none or very few of the users like what you say and the mod just happens to be the one responsible for telling you.

  Is it frustrating to be part of the outgroup? Sure. Is it frustrating to have an opinion people dislike or don’t think is worth leaving their ingroup for? Sure. But that’s just called being a weirdo. Lots of people are weirdos. I’m a weirdo. In fact it’s often hard for me to get certain things done or find certain products. Bigelow doesn’t stock my favorite flavor in most stores because it’s not popular enough. That’s not oppression that’s just being unpopular.

  Being a weirdo isn’t for the faint of heart. Dialectal behavior therapy changed my life and teaches four ways to approach a problem. 1. Stop seeing it as a problem. 2. Fix the problem (conform). 3. Accept the problem. 4. Stay whiny. I tend to vacillate between 1 and 3 (sigh sadly and order my tea online) but I spend little time bitching online about how it’s other people’s fault.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Docs used to be cool as hell⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Had an micro teacher a long time ago at community college where 90% of his students were in healthcare career tracks. He told us when we’re hometo eat and roll in the dirt and for the most part only wash our hands after the toilet and before eating / prepping food or anything specifically medical like wound care or putting on contracts. …then at work you wash your hands every time you touch something and before touching your face. Said that was the key to a strong immune system.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It would be so interesting if humans didn't have a gender assigned at birth and could choose who they want to be.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  This is what I’m saying! Maybe it’s like that game from rick and Morty. 1% chance you get a brain tumor, 1% chance you just get put in the wrong body in some way or other cuz fuck you that’s why.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What're your strong opinions from an aged / dead fandom?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s not the age gap it’s the raising her / being her caretaker as a small child and having all those surrogate father-daughter moments. Switching suddenly from father-daughter to love interest… 😬

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It would be so interesting if humans didn't have a gender assigned at birth and could choose who they want to be.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  How do you know you didn’t and you just happened to guess wrong?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The reason why the US president loves McDonald's so much is simply because he's a world-class narcissist and it sounds like it's named after him. That's it.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  No it’s because he’s too cheap to even hire a catering company and his first lay or first daughter or whoever isn’t even up to faking the while party hostess part of that role to even bother hiring an event planner to do it for her.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rabbit holes, girl; have you never heard of them?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  …am I…♂️…???

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨bold words⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s still fucked.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Ariana Grande: The Last Racebender⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  One of my coworkers commented on one of our difficult patients calling the weekend crew racist against them and how ridiculous it was because both the patient and the weekend nurses are black. I was like oh yeah no that’s because the weekend nurses aren’t black (being a cultural term for African-American), they’re African. Emphasis on the not-born-American. That’s different (to people who care about that sort of thing). Is it rational? Not even a little, but racism, despite the claims of phrenology et al, is about as far from rational as you can get.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨women⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I was gonna say that some of this is also probably sentencing bias. Subjectively the correlation seems too strong to not have some truth to it. I also have other data to support male = higher violence risk largely outside of perceptual bias.

  As an example from my area of expertise, men complete suicide more often because they typically choose deadlier means (guns especially) vs women are more likely to attempt something like a drug overdose which is more reversible / leaves more opportunity for aborting the attempt. There’s not a lot of room in those stats for perceptual bias, dead is dead and alive is alive. It’s basically a known fact that men are more violent to themselves. I won’t get too much into the stats of violence against others except to say that the statistical predictor tool I’ve used for that in institutional environments didn’t use “male,” it used “male under 30y/o.”

  On the other end of perceptual errors almost govern criminal sentencing. Entrusting a group of people to judge an event reduces some but not all of the perceptual bias, but certainly can’t eliminate it. And I do also have my own subjective / experiential perspective that suggests what you do.

  When I first started in my field I was told and found to be true that when you’re breaking up a fight between men all you need to do is break eye contact. You get between them back to back with a coworker and if you can’t block their sightline to each other with your bodies you shove one of them around a corner. And that’s it. Within about 30 seconds they’re in tension reduction talking about their feelings in that emotionally constipated way western men do (“he just made me so mad!”). Otoh I was told and found to be true that you let the women go at it until the entire code team arrives from your surrounding units because you’re going to basically have to do a full restraint episode for each woman.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Administrative task management⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I did this to epic on my charge nurses computer last night and she thought it was magic.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨AI is the digital equivalent of an atom bomb. You can refuse it but you can't prevent others from using it... and there may be dire consequences if only the worst people have it.⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I’m worried about them a) creating botnets that simulate grassroots political movements b) as this user said, the joke about everybody having their own government agent was absurd because that level of attention given to and individuals activity was impossible. That’s about to be a lot less impossible.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Unhinged... I'm gonna start doing that⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨My phone, iPad, and laptop finally all use the same USB-C charger. The galaxy is at peace.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  My tablet doesn’t support it I was so confused. I got a work laptop that I literally only use for teaching but I use it’s charger at home for everything that thing is a BEAST.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨misleading cover⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨misleading cover⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s literally just corruption of champions

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Our kryptonite⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Can’t kill another rock. Just makes more rocks.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hopefully, he will be 6 underground by that time.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Nah he was just quiet senile instead of loud senile. I’ve had patients that are rather agreeable despite low cognitive function. They don’t wind up in the hospital as much and get discharged quicker because the agreeableness means they can accept home caregivers more safely, but they very much still need assistance.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Therapy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve had a couple of people ask for I stomach what I do for a living (acute inpatient psychiatry) and one of my answers to one of the aspects is that a lot of this was going to happen to them anyway and they may as well have at least one person there who’s been there and won’t be a asshole about it (or any more than I haveto be anyway). Also everybody’s a mental health advocate who wants the poor sweet depressed babies to be loved more until a homeless schizophrenic on PCP starts wiping period blood on their car while yelling about how Obama filled their vagina with spiders.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a culture/country that doesn't have sarcasm in its language?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh I would certainly think it’s the norm but I do wonder if there’s some culture somewhere that really is just that literal. Like shit we don’t know what the sentinelese (but they definitely give a dark sense of humor vibe).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨PB&J⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have a folder of shitpost diagrams that is way too small and I appreciate you helping me add to it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Some hacker in thigh-high striped socks should take one for the team and release the Epstein Files⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  except they’re the ones holding the video and no cop who wants to continue being a cop is going to investigate anyone that could actually get them in real trouble. it’s been hard enough prosecuting anyone in the Epstein files despite TONS of evidence. how many people have fallen off balconies or just never came back from the yacht party that we don’t even know about?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I would be so hyped to see a true dual Lemmy mastodon service that fully allows you to browse and post to both Lemmy and mastodon style feeds. Currently even kbin is really more focused on the Lemmy / piefed end and the microblogging function still requires the posts to be under a magazine meaning masto posts aren’t really browseable and they’re not really fully interact able from both ends. I feel like a service fully compatible with both formats would give a broader reach that would really allow fedi to grow. You’d be able interact with like half of fedi at the same time which would make it feel so much bigger and more comparable in scope to traditional social media.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Silver linings?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Tbh the hose / sprayer kind is actually super handy for spraying out the bedside puke bucket. You can also use it for removing the large solids from reusable pads or incontinence garments or pet waste on a reusable or very rudely diy’ed puppy pad. I’ve spent so much time working with toilets that have a pull down nozzle for cleaning equipment that it’s just plain handy to have one at home for when the cat pukes on my favorite robe. You can also use it for a lot of types of food waste if you don’t have a garbage disposal.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨An emotional rollercoaster⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I read it as a reflexive response to behavioral cues. There’s the “yeah I made it here” in the driveway, but as he approaches the bathroom his reflexes to defecate and micturate reengage more fully.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨People don't really know their own motivation for their actions⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh, yeah. It’s because In our historical environment it was actually super important to be able to do that. Even now its super handy sometimes. There was one time my foot had been fully down on the break for several seconds before I consciously realized I had seen the eyes of a deer in the bushes next to the road.

  It’s actually a super important concept I teach in violence deescalation classes. Our human brain has a natural capacity for risk assessment you just need to learn to evaluate it properly. My two examples are:

  • patient w/ dementia is asking a repetitive question. This makes me uneasy and I’m struggling to pin down why. After a bit I realize that if I was still working with criminally insane men, repetitive questioning means he’s not liking the answer he’s getting and trouble is coming. A dementia patient genuinely doesn’t remember asking. False alarm (but never call your brain stupid, always tell it thank you and make it a hot cup of tea or whatever your equivalent is).

  • patient w/ severe Psychosis has a hair trigger. One day they slammed their body into the heavy hardwood exit door hard enough to crack it away from the maglock. About a week later I’m walking past them standing in the hall and my brain just started screaming at me that I needed to do something right that second so I went and pulled an ativan and offered it, which they were suspicious of but took. I was going to document that the patient looked tense, which was enough with how rapid their escalation pattern was, but when I sat down to document I also realized, they were staring at the door. If I’d waited a few minutes later they probably would have been doing something very dangerous and I would’ve had to do an injection and a physical hold which is so much more stressful and less safe for both them and us.

  TLDR; there’s also a book called “The Gift of Fear.” Anxiety is not your enemy, but you do need to learn to ask it,“Why?” and you need to learn how to address your brain’s concerns in a way that’s safe and intelligent.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Fuck, can I have a do-over?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I tell people good evening while getting off shift at 7a and good morning while coming on shift at 7p and honestly I must roll with it because then nobody gets on me for not remembering their names.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Man posts his incorrect opinion online⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I’m US and my parents were always at least annoyed if we wore our shoes further into the house than right by the door.