Apytele

@Apytele@sh.itjust.works

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Some hacker in thigh-high striped socks should take one for the team and release the Epstein Files⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  except they’re the ones holding the video and no cop who wants to continue being a cop is going to investigate anyone that could actually get them in real trouble. it’s been hard enough prosecuting anyone in the Epstein files despite TONS of evidence. how many people have fallen off balconies or just never came back from the yacht party that we don’t even know about?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I would be so hyped to see a true dual Lemmy mastodon service that fully allows you to browse and post to both Lemmy and mastodon style feeds. Currently even kbin is really more focused on the Lemmy / piefed end and the microblogging function still requires the posts to be under a magazine meaning masto posts aren’t really browseable and they’re not really fully interact able from both ends. I feel like a service fully compatible with both formats would give a broader reach that would really allow fedi to grow. You’d be able interact with like half of fedi at the same time which would make it feel so much bigger and more comparable in scope to traditional social media.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Silver linings?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Tbh the hose / sprayer kind is actually super handy for spraying out the bedside puke bucket. You can also use it for removing the large solids from reusable pads or incontinence garments or pet waste on a reusable or very rudely diy’ed puppy pad. I’ve spent so much time working with toilets that have a pull down nozzle for cleaning equipment that it’s just plain handy to have one at home for when the cat pukes on my favorite robe. You can also use it for a lot of types of food waste if you don’t have a garbage disposal.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨An emotional rollercoaster⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I read it as a reflexive response to behavioral cues. There’s the “yeah I made it here” in the driveway, but as he approaches the bathroom his reflexes to defecate and micturate reengage more fully.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨People don't really know their own motivation for their actions⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh, yeah. It’s because In our historical environment it was actually super important to be able to do that. Even now its super handy sometimes. There was one time my foot had been fully down on the break for several seconds before I consciously realized I had seen the eyes of a deer in the bushes next to the road.

  It’s actually a super important concept I teach in violence deescalation classes. Our human brain has a natural capacity for risk assessment you just need to learn to evaluate it properly. My two examples are:

  • patient w/ dementia is asking a repetitive question. This makes me uneasy and I’m struggling to pin down why. After a bit I realize that if I was still working with criminally insane men, repetitive questioning means he’s not liking the answer he’s getting and trouble is coming. A dementia patient genuinely doesn’t remember asking. False alarm (but never call your brain stupid, always tell it thank you and make it a hot cup of tea or whatever your equivalent is).

  • patient w/ severe Psychosis has a hair trigger. One day they slammed their body into the heavy hardwood exit door hard enough to crack it away from the maglock. About a week later I’m walking past them standing in the hall and my brain just started screaming at me that I needed to do something right that second so I went and pulled an ativan and offered it, which they were suspicious of but took. I was going to document that the patient looked tense, which was enough with how rapid their escalation pattern was, but when I sat down to document I also realized, they were staring at the door. If I’d waited a few minutes later they probably would have been doing something very dangerous and I would’ve had to do an injection and a physical hold which is so much more stressful and less safe for both them and us.

  TLDR; there’s also a book called “The Gift of Fear.” Anxiety is not your enemy, but you do need to learn to ask it,“Why?” and you need to learn how to address your brain’s concerns in a way that’s safe and intelligent.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Fuck, can I have a do-over?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I tell people good evening while getting off shift at 7a and good morning while coming on shift at 7p and honestly I must roll with it because then nobody gets on me for not remembering their names.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Man posts his incorrect opinion online⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I’m US and my parents were always at least annoyed if we wore our shoes further into the house than right by the door.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Women's razor ads use bare legs but cleaning products don't use clean floors.⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I use clippers to shorten my pits and bush because my pit hair pulls in weird ways and my bush will mat with blood clots and it helps trap less smells in both but other than that yeah there’s no reason. I once had an A&P professor who went on a mini rant one class about how "the hairs are for detecting the movement of fleas ticks and other parasites and how could women be asked to give up such protection? "

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We will never know the name of a human that lived 50,000 years ago⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I bet at least one person was named UUUUUUURRRRR and he had two buddies named AAAAARRRRR and AAAACCCHK

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Sending someone LLM output in response to a question they ask is the intellectual equivalent of sending an unsolicited dick pic.⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I often use AI to break up my ADHD mono-sentence paragraph. I’ll stream of consciousness my reply then tell it to not change my wording but break up the excessively long sentences, and to reorder and split things into paragraphs that follow well. I’m still doing the writing, but having an advanced spell check is actually super useful.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it theoretically possible Trump and ICE are killing a very large number of immigrants (like 25% of those detained) and no one knows?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  A lot of the times our hospital security show up to my deescalation classes after leaving a job in corrections. One of the things we often commiserate on is that they got into corrections and I into the state hospital to try and help other people grow and heal but what happened is that we got caught in a loop of “what am I going to see next that I’m going to have to report?” I’m now working for a psych unit in a regular hospital which still has it’s flaws but none comparable to the state.

  First you see a patient spit in the face of a staff member who has to be physically held back from hitting them (they actually told us we’re allowed to restrain our coworkers if that happens), then you see a staff member get called racial slurs and they get up in the patients face and yell at them and you have to get between them and tell your coworker to take a walk but it’s hard to get them to do that because it’s 2am and there’s no other techs on the unit and they know the nurse isn’t gonna come out to help you before it’s too late. And those reactions make sense and you wonder why they’re packing you in with so many patients that your coworker can’t just walk away. And then you see somebody posture and yell at a patient who’s just all around rude but again it’s 2am and you can’t make it to 7 with just one tech.

  And you also know that you’re going to need to choose the moment that it’s too much and that’ll be the end. Because if you stay after that you become the “them” in the “us vs them” and one day you’re going to face a violent patient at 2am and the tech who’s with you will leave you alone with that patient because “I don’t want you to report me too.”

  And if you’re smart, you get out before it gets that far. One day a nurse asked me what I’d seen happen and I told them (truthfully) that I’d been at lunch and had no idea what they were talking about and they cut the conversation off. And I had no idea what patient or staff member it would’ve been about (as far as I could tell all of the patients were the same as before I’d gone to lunch) so I couldn’t have reported anything anyway. But I had to ask myself if I had seen something what would I have been asked to cover up?

  And anybody who’s worked corrections or for the state will tell me something similar happened to them, or worse. And I just… You either get out or something awful happens. I’m so grateful I was able to get out before I personally got pulled into something. You think you’ll be able to be different but that system is just so much bigger than you.

  And people who are outside of it living their happy lives will tell you they want a better system, but they will never truly be willing to put in the work needed to change it or even give you the resources to do it yourself. Like I’d been a patient at that state hospital previously and went back as a staff member to try and help and being a staff member was just so much worse somehow. I’m grateful that it gave me the experience to do what I do now and be an authority / teacher in the management of violent patients but it was hell while it was happening. No one who’s never been through that will ever really understand.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Believing you will retire before you die now requires the same faith as believing in heaven⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Retirement was never a thing before the 50s or so. That’s why even at the time they had set it to roughly the average total lifespan. It was supposed to be a coinflip to begin with. And honestly one of the shared facets of societies where people routinely live to 100 is actually the lack of a concept of retirement. And part of that is that work isn’t something you either toil at physically for extended periods or being trapped behind a desk. It’s physical but not to excess and they have regular breaks at least weekly and plenty of holidays. You’re not supposed to grind grind grind for years then just stop. You’re supposed to have work that’s accessible and fulfilling that you can maybe slow down a little on with age but not just cut off at some point.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The Truth Is Out There⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My parents unironically told me they know he’s untrustworthy and hope his election results in dissolution of the government, general anarchy, and eventually the second coming of Christ. We no longer talk.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how could this happen😔⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  When I said ‘explicit interracial gangbang with facials’ I was not exaggerating.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how could this happen😔⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Especially when they have the softcore in song of Solomon and the interracial gangbang in Ezekiel 23. And they’re not 100% explicit but Abraham tries to get Sarah to cuck him several times in Genesis, and there’s a couple incest scenes in Genesis as well. Honestly most of the positive aspect I’ve gotten out of the Bible is actually a fair amount of comfort in knowing that humans really have not changed. We’re just as depraved as we ever were.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how could this happen😔⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I told hubs to just come hug me in bed for five minutes the other day (I’ve been working his glutes a bit too hard lately). 10/10 will request hugging in bed again.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the best free version of word?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Libre office was too clunky for my usage. Only office is FOSS, lightweight, and cross-platform.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If the color of the Sun was orange, wouldn't the clouds and everything white also be orange? My friend is adamant that 30 years ago the "real" Sun was orange but got replaced with a white LED.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This person is either at lost mildly psychotic or fucking with you. It’s wild that people are down here in the comments offering evidence when the entire concept is entirely absurd. This isn’t an age thing this is a “this person is unhinged, don’t interact.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If I'm struggling with depression, I get ostracized as a "loser" that haven't accomplished anything but if I die in a tragic accident tonight, I'm a "young man with a bright future ahead"⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s nice to say things about people who have passed away

  eh some people are abusive assholes who deserve to be remembered for it but sometimes a positive adult authority figure can help you process it in a way that doesn’t piss the rest of the family off so you can make the informed decision to cut them all off as an adult after they’re done paying for your college.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If I'm struggling with depression, I get ostracized as a "loser" that haven't accomplished anything but if I die in a tragic accident tonight, I'm a "young man with a bright future ahead"⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  lol you really tryna introduce debate etiquette to the comments section when you also answered “but you also clearly… right?” implying certainty that I did, which you were correct about.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If I'm struggling with depression, I get ostracized as a "loser" that haven't accomplished anything but if I die in a tragic accident tonight, I'm a "young man with a bright future ahead"⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I thought that was the obvious subtext of the statement but apparently did not adequately account for variations in reading comprehension.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If I'm struggling with depression, I get ostracized as a "loser" that haven't accomplished anything but if I die in a tragic accident tonight, I'm a "young man with a bright future ahead"⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Idk when my brother shot himself I would gladly have told the whole church about the time he was swerving while drunk driving and laughing at me for being scared at like 13 years old or the time he held me over the edge of a cliff. The pastor took me for a walk and let me rant at him instead (great dude actually he was a dead ringer for Fred Rogers in appearance, personality, and profession).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK that Jay Van Bavel asked 120 researchers if smartphones and social media are bad for teen mental health. He was able to identify a series of statements that essentially all agreed on⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s doing the mirror to the men, and allowing for the destruction of physical spaces that would normally provide them with healthy socialization and outlets for testosterone.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨a man of many minds⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That level of conviction that you’re right about something can be pretty destructive regardless of who you are. Theory of evolution was a fear step forward but also somehow resulted in phrenology so. Assholes gonna asshole regardless.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rules for a gun fight⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  As a psych nurse my rules for a gunfight are that the ER security checkpoint with the metal detector and x-ray bad scanner better have found and removed the gun by the time the patient arrives on my unit. One day they didn’t and I was VERY put out. Absolutely miffed. I wrote a very stern email in the morning.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do we have a bunch of ways to say good night, but only one way to say good morning?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Why do men sleep this way? I watch people sleep professionally and it’s definitely a thing. It doesn’t even appear to be sexual for the most part dudes just like…? instinctively…? sleep cupping their weens with one or both hands…? I would be fascinated to hear some AMAB perspectives on this.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are you people all bots?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Astroturfing was a thing long before llms.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨yeet⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah it’s one of those "things that separate us from (most) animals. We can ask “what if” and simulate the probable result with a decent amount of accuracy completely internally. It’s a really cool feature if you know what to do with it, it’s just sometimes it runs some really weird simulations “just in case.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Some hacker in thigh-high striped socks should take one for the team and release the Epstein Files⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I genuinely think that there’s a point in every political career (probably at about the mid-to large city level) where you go to a networking event and they take you into a back room with a kid and tell you to rape them on camera or your career ends there.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I don't understand how Trump gets away with all his senial BS. How come everyone is telling him to piss off or use the constitution to shut him the hell up?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I had an old coworker who had given MAGA organizations her life’s savings. She was working well past her planned retirement and wound up getting a head injury. She shouldn’t have been put in the position to work high acuity psychiatry in her 70s. And to the day she retired she kept saying trump was going to reward her any day now. I hope those grifters rot in hell.