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- Comment on Son received an expensive gift from his new best friend, should I ask him to return it? 8 hours ago:
I’m like you. Not everyone is though. Or they might think they are, and the second they perceive any kind of sleight from the person they’ve showered with free gifts to enjoy, the resentment comes out: “after all I’ve done for you, how dare you [whatever].”
To be fair, this can come as a surprise to the gift giver too. People often legit aren’t aware that their heart is building up expectations as they do “nice things just to be nice.”
- Comment on My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so? 1 day ago:
Your choice, as you’ve presented them, are so extreme. Cut your dad off forever and move out, or… do nothing?
Let’s set your mom’s demands aside for a second. Do you have any reaction to him cheating on his wife? How do you feel about that?
You should act based on how you feel about it. And if your mom is incredibly wounded by it, that can absolutely be a factor in how you feel.
I’d think that cheating on your mom should have SOME effect on you. You say your relationship with him hasn’t changed. Is that true? Or is it only true in comparison to your mom’s extreme demands?
Basically, stop playing this like it’s all black or all white and realize that you have a million ways to react to this situation in the middle somewhere.
You’re not a bad person for not moving out immediately. You actually might be a bad person if you have absolutely no problem with the cheating. But you can disapprove of the cheating and still have a good relationship with your dad.
You can disapprove of the cheating and still have a good relationship with your dad. That seemed worth saying twice.
- Comment on Ai Code Commits 1 day ago:
It does seem like AI will be way more useful for finding security holes than preventing them.
- Comment on WTF is a rural town in the USA? 6 days ago:
We use the word differently. In the past I think we used it more as you do, because “going to town” had the connotations of going to a big city.
“Town” in American usage can mean anything from a small urban center (like under 10k people) to an incorporated municipality that has only a post office and tons of farms around it.
Basically we don’t say “village” here. So town is the smallest word we have. But it has a big range.
- Comment on Do you think a story that mixes magic with super advanced technology can work? 1 week ago:
Stargate SG-1 is a great example where no matter what the magic is, it’s eventually revealed to be technology underneath - just really advanced technology. If you take all limits off science, it’s easy for the two to begin blending. They even do the “only available to some people” thing as technology: certain people share a gene with the ancient ancestors who made the high-technology, and so it recognizes and activates for them and not others.
- Comment on Do you think a story that mixes magic with super advanced technology can work? 1 week ago:
I think you inevitably face the whole “magic IS advanced technology” thing. If you actually want them to be different things, you have to have some answer to this.
- Comment on YSK: Two oil brothers, Charles Koch and David Koch, attempted to purchase the entire United States Congress 1 week ago:
Shyeah. They tried to overthrow democracy by due process? Rubes!
- Comment on Mom sues porn sites (Including Chaturbate, Jerkmate, Superporn and Hentaicity) for noncompliance with Kansas age assurance law; Teen can no longer enjoy life after mom caught him visiting Chaturbate 1 week ago:
I mean the kid’s penis must have shriveled up to nothing by now, making the entire case moot.
“Your honor, I move to dismiss on the grounds that the plaintiff’s penis is reduced to a blackened nub.”
“Sustained!”
- Comment on Why is it okay for shit to go down the drain but not food? 1 week ago:
Just don’t read about gutter oil afterward or you might immediately have some solids to throw at your plumbing.
- Comment on what language would be best for me to learn? 1 week ago:
I learned French and it hasn’t done much for me. Occasional use in the Middle East but I’ve spent considerable time in multiple countries there and it’s still only occasionally useful. I love the language and have no regrets. But I’d get 1000x the use out of Spanish, here in the US.
- Comment on what language would be best for me to learn? 1 week ago:
China’s economic growth was on such a steep climb for enough years that we all basically thought we’d need to know Mandarin to get by in the future. Remember in Firefly how they all cursed in Mandarin because it was basically the primary language of humanity. I know white people in California that send their kids to Mandarin language school.
But this impression has peaked. In the 80s we thought we’d all be speaking Japanese soon. And the Chinese growth miracle is over. With demographic collapse staring them in the face, I’m no longer seeing them featuring so prominently in 20 years. India has surpassed their population and are taking a lot of their business - and they speak English
Though I suppose as languages go, Mandarin is as good as any other and better than many. What are you going to do with Italian, honestly?
- Comment on The AI-powered collapse of the American tech workfoce 1 week ago:
I just got recruited into a workgroup assigned to get AI tools together to perform one of the job functions we have in all our teams. We were told it’s on the down-low for now because people are of course concerned about job security, but this is all really to guarantee they have job security.
I was like… blink… wut.
Nothing like being told to ignore the evidence of your eyes and ears.
- Comment on The AI-powered collapse of the American tech workfoce 1 week ago:
I work in tech and I cannot overstate the AI craze that executives are on. We are constantly told to use it for everything, and that the only secure jobs are those held by people who use AI for everything. Using AI all the time is the only way they think you’re maximally productive. My LinkedIn is full of CEOs and influencers all crying that people who use AI will be elevated and everyone else will be dropped. In the most extreme cases, they imply that people who don’t use AI are obviously so stupid that you wouldn’t want to employ them anyway.
Meanwhile I sit at my desk trying to make it do something useful.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Are all the guides OC or do you source them from somewhere? Helpful either way but if you’re making them all, my hat is well and truly off to you.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Just sharing that sesame (including seeds, sesame oil and tahini) are an increasingly frequent allergen. Most bakeries label if it is used in their facility now.
Some tahini or oil would be well-hidden in a vinaigrette, so just be aware of who you’re serving it to, since they will have no way to detect it.
- Comment on What's the process of black market weed consumption? 1 week ago:
My friend, life is ticking by. Get out there or you’ll miss it. Good luck.
- Comment on What's the process of black market weed consumption? 1 week ago:
I think there’s a lot in this post about how times have changed. Notice the part about not being able to get time away from parents. Or not being able to get outside somewhere to smoke up. Kids these days don’t go out like we used to. Shit my brother and I used to haul our asses a couple of miles over some hills that had rattlesnakes to reach a video arcade. Our mom just made us carry a snakebite kit. OP now sits at home pecking at their phone asking how to go outside and gosh is it just impossible in suburbia? I am floored by this post.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Thank you and the person above you for having adult attitudes. I can’t believe the teenagers in here shrieking “you don’t know what’s in my heart from one word I said!”
People need to learn the meaning of the words they use. Mistakes can happen, but they should not be amended not defended.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
The context was provided here and the comment was, frankly, uncivilized. Race isn’t directly involved but there’s a deep legacy of racist attitudes expressed in terms like “uncivilized savages” that this comment unfortunately treads near. Obi Wan Kenobi taking about blasters being uncivilized does not.
So I agree context matters, but I don’t care that they were thinking - It’s a badly chosen word for this situation. Does it make the person a racist? Not on its own. But it does make me wonder what kind of person makes this sort of slip in 2025.
Someone can say the word “negro” in a respectful tone with all the best intentions but yeah, they should still just plain find another way to say it.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
It’s been one of the UN’s primary missions since its inception to unwind the horrific legacy of European colonialism, and help every former colony complete the transition to statehood. When I visited the UN and took the tour some 20 years ago, they were almost ready to call this mission done, but still had about 5 spots they were working on. It’s worth learning more about. Regardless, the course of history has been changed forever by colonialism and Europe continues to enjoy benefits built on its spoils while developing countries still struggle from their wounds. The world will in all practical terms never be free from the stain of colonialism.
- Comment on Duolingo CEO says AI is a better teacher than humans—but schools will exist ‘because you still need childcare’ 1 week ago:
My daughter keeps texting me screenshots of her “streak” achievements as if that means anything. And then when I ask her how to say something in German she barely knows a thing.
- Comment on Duolingo CEO says AI is a better teacher than humans—but schools will exist ‘because you still need childcare’ 1 week ago:
It can be done to a stupid degree. Duolingo defines the outer limits.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Yes. And since when is “swift” faster than fast?
- Comment on Duolingo CEO says AI is a better teacher than humans—but schools will exist ‘because you still need childcare’ 2 weeks ago:
I hate this app so much now. It has become the poster child of enshittification by gamification.
- Comment on How are Americans so outgoing and extroverted and how can I become the same? 2 weeks ago:
The Americans you meet in Germany are not a random selection.
Americas is simultaneously the best country ever and one of the worst in its class. If you’re affluent, it’s the best. I make double what I could in Germany and have no complaints about my healthcare or kids schools. America only sucks for people with less money, and for them it is a shithole country in a first world suit.
Now: which kind of Americans do you think a young guy in Germany gets to meet? The poor Americans who can’t afford to go to the dentist? Or the affluent ones who can afford to travel, move abroad, or who work some fancy international job?
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Interesting. I found the opposite. I was never very good at moderating. Complete cold turkey removes the question from the table. It might suck, but at least you aren’t in a constant battle with yourself over whether you can have a cabarets now, or should wait. Is one more too many? Am I no longer smoking moderately but addictive? I found it was way too easy to slide down the slope on all that. Getting through the day without smoking meant holding fast 1000 times, and relapsing just meant giving in once. I could always talk myself into why a cigarette eas okay this time, why I deserved it, how I’d been doing so well…
Cold turkey just shuts all that off and I could move forward.
Do what works for you. Just make sure it is actually working and not just giving you the illusion of that.
- Comment on Apple executives ban Fortnight from the App store 2 weeks ago:
Imagine if now, at the height of their success, Apple finally decided, for the first time, to alienate the core audience they’ve always shown undying dedication to: gamers /s
- Comment on What would it mean for the world if America was confident they developed a technology that would act as a fool prove deterrent from nuclear attacks what would that mean for the rest of the world? 3 weeks ago:
This points to a flaw in your question.
You probably should have said “foolproof countermeasure” if you really just wanted to remove nukes as a factor to see what happens.
But you said “foolproof deterrent” and now you’re quibbling at people over whether a psychological deterrent can actually be foolproof.
Maybe not, but even your question is nonsensical. The fact is that we are already using guaranteed total destruction of the world as a deterrent and it has so far worked. What more deterrence are you even suggesting we might add to that???
- Comment on What would it mean for the world if America was confident they developed a technology that would act as a fool prove deterrent from nuclear attacks what would that mean for the rest of the world? 3 weeks ago:
I mean… for now. How long until drones with thrusters on their backs can land on a missle and redirect it wherever they want?
- Comment on What would it mean for the world if America was confident they developed a technology that would act as a fool prove deterrent from nuclear attacks what would that mean for the rest of the world? 3 weeks ago:
Sometimes we ask questions to gain knowledge we simply haven’t found yet.
Other times we ask questions because some knowledge just won’t stick in our brains even when it’s given to us, and then we spend the thread fighting the answer for that same reason: it just won’t stick.
Anti-ballistic missles are a technology.
You asked what would happen. A treaty is a thing that can happen.
Why don’t you tell us what you think would happen and be done, if that’s what this is really about.