scarabic
@scarabic@lemmy.world
- Comment on Am I right to be afraid of germs / is my family disgusting or am I overreacting and this is germaphobia? (read post) 47 minutes ago:
It does sound like they are careless but you also sound a little reactive. The thinking I see in your post goes like this:
- a thing is either wholly corrupted or wholly pure
- corrruption spread from whole thing to home thing by touch
It’s kind of a “cooties” mentality. The trash can? Wholly corrupted! It’s trash! And it touched the table now so the table is wholly corrupted! The table is where you eat!! It’s exactly the same thing as eating trash!!
It’s not. Truth is that the ideal is somewhere between sterility and filth. Sterility is not healthy to grow up in, nor is filth. Sterility may be preferable to filth, but that doesn’t make it ideal.
How clean does a thing actually need to be? This is always my question. Am I serving my soaghetti straight onto the tabletop? No, it’s on a plate. So do I care if something touches the edge of the table? No.
Spare yourself the anxiety of pursuing an ideal that isn’t even healthy.
- Comment on Why do we eat dessert? 3 hours ago:
There’s some logic in putting it last. First make sure you get nutritious food. Once you have, you can safely enjoy some indulgence. First of all it won’t displace actual nutrition, because you took care of that first. And second, you’re more likely to indulge moderately because you filled up on real food first.
So if there is any method here, I think it’s to put dessert last, not to put dessert before bed.
However none of this explains why, after a meal, I immediately get sugar cravings.
- Comment on The 49MB Web Page 1 day ago:
I explained this above but their design philosophy is that a user shouldn’t be overwhelmed with every possible function on day 1, nor will they have advanced needs on day 1 like “how can I more quickly scroll to the top to reveal a navbar.” The idea is to make what’s needed most visible, and tuck more advance functions out of the way of top prototypes ones. Then users will discover them over time, either by accident, experimentation, from a friend, or reading tip lists off the internet…
Now if this is a conversation in good faith, you won’t immediately say “so they expect everyone to learn everything by reading tip sheets off the internet??”
- Comment on Would you ever call your son a disappointment? 2 days ago:
You can choose and change what you do.
You can’t choose or change what you are.
If you get confused about do / be just refer back to those rules and you’ll know which one applies.
- Comment on Would you ever call your son a disappointment? 2 days ago:
This is a key distinction. To make sure they understand it properly, I usually push it even further to “You did a disappointing thing.”
- Comment on Would you ever call your son a disappointment? 2 days ago:
Never. My son is a person I could never have imagined. I don’t see what relevance my expectations of him are to anyone or anything. I’m not sure I ever had any.
Why should I? Our children are not products we purchased or objects we crafted. They are new beings coming into the universe under our care but for a while.
You discharge that responsibility on their behalf. That’s it. Of course that means setting standards for them to meet, but even this discipline you do for their own sake. You don’t get expect them to be anything.
That’s negotiating with fate - about as pointless as negotiating with death.
- Comment on The 49MB Web Page 2 days ago:
It’s no obscure. It’s core. Apple has this entire UI philosophy called “revealed power” which is about the UI not having a big button for everything necessarily, and letting the user discover added layers of functionality as they go on. This keeps the UI simple in the beginning, or for people who always need simplicity, but allows others to discover it in time. You won’t have to like it but it’s very intentional.
What’s “discoverable” is also relative. I was on a PC today struggling to figure out how to do something. Eventually I tried double clicking the element in question and that finally worked. I thought wow I don’t use PCs much anymore because double clicking hardly even occurs to me. Can you tell me how any user ever finds out that you need to double click an icon on their desktop? Seems obvious, but there is no label or visible indication.
- Comment on The 49MB Web Page 3 days ago:
The iOS browser has always supported “tap the top of the viewport to scroll all the way up,” which largely allows for what you say: just leave the nav way up there. Last time I looked was years ago, and Android Chrome didn’t did this. Does it now?
- Comment on The 49MB Web Page 3 days ago:
That was a great read. I have worked at companies that lived on display ads and it’s a terrible, terrible business to be in. Personally I think branded display ads have always had zero value (or even negative value) and the better the net has gotten at tracking their value, the more this has come to light, the less advertisers are willing to pay, and therefore the more fuckery publishers engage in to try to survive. It’s extremely hard or impossible to deliver a good user experience under this set of incentives.
Thinking back to the print news era, a lot of the ads were local, which made them much more valuable. But now the net has snuffed out local retail too, so that model isn’t even there to fall back on if we tried.
I’m grateful now to be working somewhere that doesn’t survive on display ads, and that may be one of the big reasons I’ve stuck with this employer for almost a decade now.
- Comment on If Tyler Perry is a billionaire with his own successful movie studio then why are his films so bad? 5 days ago:
Yeah I could be totally wrong on that example - was just looking for some example.
- Comment on If Tyler Perry is a billionaire with his own successful movie studio then why are his films so bad? 5 days ago:
I’m quite certain it tracks directly with restaurants by revenue. I’m not really aware of many restaurants I’d consider truly healthy. They aren’t all as bad as fast food, but none of them are really in the business of taking care of your health.
- Comment on If Tyler Perry is a billionaire with his own successful movie studio then why are his films so bad? 5 days ago:
Visualize that base: people who like Tyler Perry Movies. They would probably say Monty Python are shit and they can’t believe how much garbage they produced.
Basically: Tyler Perry movies are not for you (or me). And other people think the same thing about the stuff you like.
- Comment on Do people in countries outside the US believe our bases in their countries like terrorist cells/bases our country videws theirs? How is the reputation of our military being in a peacefull country? 5 days ago:
Please get your leaders to force US bases out. If you actually want to do something that’s in your own power, that’s it.
- Comment on ‘Devastating blow’: Atlassian lays off 1,600 workers ahead of AI push 6 days ago:
Trying to get Rovo to do things in JIRA is like trying to train a chimp to cram shit back into an elephant’s ass.
- Comment on They Don’t Make CGI Quite like They Used To 6 days ago:
The CGI is sufficient to my needs, which are not great. But the acting when he takes that kick… what the fuck was that?
- Comment on Uber is letting women avoid male drivers and riders in the US 1 week ago:
It wouldn’t even solve the half of the problem, though. Men stop harassing women as soon as they are full time employees, what? Background checks are going to prevent harassment, what?
- Comment on Uber is letting women avoid male drivers and riders in the US 1 week ago:
I also think they should be employees. That is however another matter. Being a full time employee has never stopped anyone from engaging in sexual harassment. Workplace harassment is quite common. Let’s not mix up our issues. Hiring them as employees will not protect women.
- Comment on Uber is letting women avoid male drivers and riders in the US 1 week ago:
Well said, complete and concise.
- Comment on Which faction you expect to be antagonist in some next Star Trek story? 1 week ago:
The Gorn in Strange New Worlds are very far from the Gorn in TOS. The animalistic violence and body horror make for a really interesting enemy and there is a great deal of psychology to the conflict too. People are scarred by past experiences… they live through some really horrific terror. This is a long way from fisticuffs with a dude in a rubber mask.
I’m not sure if you consider them just recycled nostalgia bait. But I’d say if something gets sufficiently re-imagined it is still “something new” even if one can argue it isn’t “original.”
- Comment on Exclusive Update On The ‘Star Trek: Year One’ Series Pitch And Status Of The ‘Strange New Worlds’ Sets 1 week ago:
Same. I really liked him.
- Comment on YSK you can fold fitted sheets neatly (guide by ratfactor) 1 week ago:
I can’t imagine how you’re getting fitted sheets to turn into a crumpled mess more often than flat sheets.
- Comment on Interview: Mary Wiseman On Tilly Settling In As A ‘Starfleet Academy’ Teacher And Dealing With Toxic Fans 1 week ago:
Let’s understand the word “toxic” though. We use the word “toxic” when a relationship or subject has become so radioactive that anything going into it comes out bad, even if innocently intended. Hating on Tilly is pretty toxic now, following an overwhelming amount of pointless hate online. You didn’t create that entire cloud of toxicity with one comment. No one could. But you walked into it. If you just want to innocently express your distaste for this character, you should probably be mad at all the people who made that impossible by flooding the dialogue with mean, stupid hate. Because at this point, making an unqualified swipe at her has gone toxic. If you have something meaningful and critical to say, say it. If you just want to make a jab, yeah, I’m afraid that is toxic now. You can claim you isn’t know, etc but you gotta read the room as it were.
- Comment on Interview: Mary Wiseman On Tilly Settling In As A ‘Starfleet Academy’ Teacher And Dealing With Toxic Fans 1 week ago:
Well, it is somewhat obnoxious to show up and say “hey! I’m here and I don’t know what I’m talking about!”
- Comment on Interview: Mary Wiseman On Tilly Settling In As A ‘Starfleet Academy’ Teacher And Dealing With Toxic Fans 1 week ago:
Jesus this was hard to read.
Yeah, that’s a great question. It’s tricky, because a lot of times in acting, you want to kind of give what you receive. And so I felt like what I needed to hold, and what I was reminded of by the director and Alex and everybody involved, is that she’s affected by by this and what this girl is going through and how this girl is responding to her, but also, she’s in a position now where she’s a teacher and responsible for this cadet, and needs to hold things together to guide her through this really difficult experience, which was a really fun thing to play, and really the dynamic in the playing of it was how to empathize with her and receive what Tarima was experiencing and going through and try to steer the ship where I thought it needed to go in order for her to move through this experience and heal and be able to come out better on the other end.
Something something people experiencing emotions and people experiencing emotions about people experiencing emotions. Damn.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
When I was young I was told it would stunt my growth.
Now that I’m a parent I think people just didn’t know how to say “we don’t want kids to get caffeine because it will make them wild or prevent them from sleeping properly.”
- Comment on Seagate just unleashed 44TB hard drives 1 week ago:
It’s just my opinion but the “brand war” on HDDs is a little overblown in my opinion. I too recall one or two periods where Seagate got bad pr for quality issues, but I’m not concerned that 10 years later any HDD I buy from them is going to croak as soon as it’s half full. There’s no way they would still be in business if that image is true. I think many times if there is a different in quality between brands it’s the difference between 99.999% and 99.998% - gasp! double the failure rate! - and then it evens out again.
- Comment on Microsoft patents system for AI helpers to finish games for you 1 week ago:
It’s so hard to raise kids to turn off the light when they leave the room, with huge wastes of electricity like this just running rampant in the world.
- Comment on Avocado. Is it really so untasty or I am doing something wrong? 1 week ago:
You seem to be expecting a sweet fruit. It isn’t that. It’s fatty and savory. Your post reads like “Fruit is really expensive in my area so I started buying butter… why does anyone like this?”
Spread it on bread and sprinkle on some taco seasoning and salt. You’ll thank me.
- Comment on (serious) What would we be losing in a world where most people didn't own a car? Please read the OP before posting. 1 week ago:
So for example, last night I went to see a play with my wife in the big city we live outside. 8pm show. Our location has better options than most in the US for public transit, but still not enough to fully rely upon and it’s hard to envision that changing.
We have a regional transit rail system we could have taken. It would drop us off close enough to the theater, perhaps 2 city blocks.
But the station is 6km from our house so the problem is on this end. We live in an area that’s not quite rural, more suburban, but it is out on the open countryside a bit and this natural beauty is what we love about living here.
We do have excellent bike lanes and even a network of bike trails that are separated from the roads. Our local station is about a 20 minute ride. We can do it but we’re in our 50s and it’s not our first choice when getting dressed up for a date night to begin with 20 minutes of vigorous exercise. And we would have had to repeat that ride at 11pm on the way home, tired, with a glass of wine in our bellies.
So the problem I guess is our home location. We live in a medium-to-small sized town that’s nestled up against a state park. The only public transit I can really imagine would be a bus system and it would have to cover a very wide area with many vehicles to serve this region. And even then I can’t imagine it would be quick.
I would still prefer a world without cars. I guess I’m just telling you why cars still fit into our needs and why our options are.
In the future I’m pretty optimistic that we can change the math on busses. Autonomous vehicles would allow us to move away from large busses piloted by a human driver to many smaller ones with more comprehensive coverage and better approximation of point-to-point transit.
The appeal of this path is that it’s something car-centric areas can transition to smoothly. We can get mass autonomous bus service going without banning cars and building rail lines or other large projects.
A small country that was laid out centuries ago, before cars, has a different layout and distribution of people that makes things like rail work better. The problem is that the US is huge and was built on cars, which are excellent for spreading individuals out with no regard for central planning.
Today’s generation of Americans are stuck with cars and not always in love with them. The way our population is distributed, it’s hard for mass transit to replace them, so it really doesn’t matter how great civic rail works in Lisbon.
We might address the topic of whether it’s responsible for people to be so spread out. I would certainly have a hard time saying goodbye to my beautiful natural surroundings.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
I didn’t say it above but I completely agree. He sounds about half an inch from using the word “females” at some point.