alternategait
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- Comment on Any advice for me a guy turning 18 yo old?? 15 hours ago:
I would encourage more than 2 hobbies. It can be very difficult to feel satisfied if for some reason you can’t engage in one of your hobbies (I speak from experience).
- Comment on Aight. Let's be honest. How many of you dress for yourselves, and how many dress for others? 3 days ago:
It’s definitely a mix. I’m not a stylish person, but I find I get the most compliments when I’m wearing things I love.
- Comment on A cartoonist's review of AI art, by Matthew Inman 1 week ago:
I like and admire visual arts. I wanted to try to be able to do the thing. I have a strong imagination and extremely good visualization skills, so I wanted to be able to take things from my minds eye to reality.
I have found much of my art/creative outlet in dancing and crafting.
- Comment on A cartoonist's review of AI art, by Matthew Inman 1 week ago:
I have always felt that I’m not good at art (the practice I did got me not very far), and I’ve recently had reason to make little collages. One thing that I’ve done is uploaded pictures to Canva and traced them so I had something resembling recognizable images (my dog, me in a kayak). I don’t think tracing is making an art, AI is definitely not making an art.
- Comment on Is anyone NOT steaming their Music? 2 weeks ago:
What a fascinating quirk. Do you ever get ear worms? Are you just generally indifferent or do you dislike music?
- Comment on Is anyone NOT steaming their Music? 2 weeks ago:
Interesting. I like a pretty niche style of music and I feel like when they make suggestions after the end of playlists were regularly good enough to get added to the seeding playlists.
- Comment on Is anyone NOT steaming their Music? 2 weeks ago:
I was using tidal for about a year but I just got really frustrated when my account got lost/interrupted when I updated my phone. I may go back for music discovery and playlists. However right now (and I plan for at least a few more months) I’m going to spend the money on band camp.
- Comment on I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self? 2 weeks ago:
One of the things that I took from therapy was to stop and really consider how much influence I had over specific outcomes and then dive even more deeply into how much influence I had over specific outcomes at specific points in time.
I might have 85% control over x component of my job generally while I’m physically present. But do I have any control over it at 3AM while I’m at home? No, there’s 0% control and not way to change that, it’s better to save my energy to deal with it in the near future than stressing/ruminating about it right now.
This is a result of 3 rounds of therapy each running about 3 years, one of them including group mindfulness meditation followed by group therapy in addition to individual therapy. It’s not easy, but it is possible. I also strongly believe it’s worth it.
- Comment on I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self? 2 weeks ago:
Give a fuck while you’re on the property and don’t give them any space in your mind, heart or soul when you’re gone.
That said, fuck them, hope they burn in hell is the opposite of not giving a fuck since they still get that attention or energy from you. Try to think of them as little as possible and give them as little emotional energy as possible when you do think of them.
- Comment on I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self? 2 weeks ago:
Luckily I had somewhat more minor versions of the feelings (I was toast) previously, and had been in therapy at that time. While it wasn’t the focus of the therapy it obviously came up and I had some coping strategies already in place by the time my serious burn out came around.
I agree with what other people said about adding very different feeling things into your life and reducing the things that feel similar. I also have (counterintuitive but bear with me) fairly regular things in my life (I’m a creature of habit) and leaning into those habits really carried me through. I couldn’t make a decision to save my life, but if it was Tuesday I went dancing and Mon/Wed/Fri are strength days and my wife always wants to do happy hour on Friday, so things happened because they always happened if that makes sense.
It sucks because these things are ideally in place before the burnout. When you need them most it’s the hardest to do.
- Comment on Google says adblockers caused YouTube views count to drop - this is what adblockers told us really happened 3 weeks ago:
I’m sure that the number of times I’ve decided “nah I don’t need to see that” after being told an ad blocker violated YouTube’s terms of service has absolutely nothing to do with it either.
- Comment on Can you think of any now? 3 weeks ago:
My (3.5 year) nephew also loves APT. His other go to is These Boots Are Made for Walking.
- Comment on I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self? 3 weeks ago:
Burn out takes up to two years to recover from, so a few weeks is really not enough to recover.
Consider watching this video (or don’t, it did make me cry when I was needing to leave patient care).