People have private conversations on speaker phone but if I participate then I'm the crazy one

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DrSleepless@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago
Don’t join in, just make as much obnoxious noise as possible

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dryfter@lemm.ee ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
This is a pet peeve of mine. If you aren’t disabled use the damn phone as a phone and use FaceTime in private.

I don’t want to hear about the latest drama your ex is involved in and who’s doing who to god knows what. I also don’t want to be in the background while you are standing in line FaceTiming someone and they comment on the person behind them on camera.

And then the people who actually use the phone as a phone but have the most obnoxiously loud one-sided conversation.

I may be slightly biased, I use public transportation and have to listen to this shit every day. I wear hearing aids so I hear everything at one which makes it even more fun.

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- Sturgist@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago
  It took a few years, but now unless it’s really important or she thinks I’m probably not on the bus, my wife now texts to ask if I’m able to talk. I hate people who do these things and I feel incredibly uncomfortable speaking on the phone when I’m on public transit.
  
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MehBlah@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Oh hell no. If I’m stuck somewhere and they are having a speaker phone conversation I comment. I did this at the doctors office and the lady told me it was a private conversation and I told here she should have it in private.

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- Agrivar@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  I like the cut of your jib!
  
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AdamEatsAss@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I think some people just don’t realize it’s rude to have a speaker phone call in a public setting. I once had a complete stranger at a restaurant ask my friends and me to be quiet because the person on the other end of the phone kept hearing us.

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- haui_lemmy@lemmy.giftedmc.com ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  This is the main character syndrom. People consider themselves the main character in this world and the others just npcs (non player characters, bystanders). Best way to tech them is a bucket of cold water (literally or figuratively).
  
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- Xatolos@reddthat.com ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Had someone in a restaurant ask the manager if they could turn down the music playing, they were in a business zoom meeting.
  
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- BlemboTheThird@lemmy.ca ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Same with people who blast music in public. There’s a bike/pedestrian trail near me I use a lot and people are constantly riding or running while blasting the worst music imaginable to everyone nearby. Maybe someday I’ll build up the courage to tell them to shut the fuck up… or at least teach them what headphones are. Maybe I could buy a bunch of cheap ones and just chuck them at the heads of anyone who apparently needs them.
  
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  - HikingVet@lemmy.ca ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Get the cheap corded earbuds and wrap em around a rock for aerodynamics.
    
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  - pedz@lemmy.ca ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Headphones on a bike are illegal in my province. So I once bought a bluetooth speaker for my bike. I don’t really like imposing my music to anyone and tried to keep it at a minimum level but stills didn’t like it. So now I use bone conduction headphones. Unfortunately they are also in a grey area where they could also be illegal.
    
    In short, if you want to listen to music on a bike here, your only legal option is a speaker. Anything else is unsafe and could traumatize a poor car driver that hits a cyclist that didn’t hear them coming (according to the police here).
    
    Otherwise get a car and blast the music with the windows open like a normal safe person. or close the windows and don’t hear anything around, but this is much safer than having headphones while cycling, obviously.
    
    Same with walking or jogging with headphones. Are you out of your mind? Some poor car driver could hit reckless runners jumping in front of their car because they couldn’t hear it coming.
    
    No, society wants everyone not in a car to keep quiet and don’t ruin their silence, with all the soothing car noises, so it’s safer this way. No headphones on a bike, it’s not safe! You need to hear that car blasting music that’s coming at you.
    
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  - datavoid@lemmy.ml ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    My favourite is people blasting shitty music from the speakers on their Harley’s, fucking double trouble
    
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  - Confused_Emus@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    There’s some shithead in my area that lugs around one of those large JBL party-size looking Bluetooth speakers and has a habit of sitting at the bus stop across the street from my apartment and blasting his shitty rap music for the whole fucking neighborhood to suffer. Always super awesome to finish a long night shift, crawl into bed, and be woken up to that shit a few hours later.
    
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- ininewcrow@lemmy.ca ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Hey Adam, are you sure you weren’t just eating ass at the time? … I’m just joking about your username.
  
  I would have said hi to the person in the speakerphone and told them about my meal and introduced them to my friends and told them that everyone could hear their conversation in the restaurant.
  
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- helloworld55@lemm.ee ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  I’m one of those people … I always thought, it it’s reasonable to have a conversation with someone physically there, at a reasonable talking volume, why does it matter if I’m doing the same on my phone?
  
  Obviously if it’s obnoxiously loud that’s a different story
  
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  - ripcord@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Why would you want to use speakerphone anyway? Especially in a public place where they’d be harder to hear?
    
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  - MummysLittleBloodSlut@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    The sounds coming out of your phone are distorted by the speaker and the connection, and distortion can be painful to listen to
    
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Kecessa@sh.itjust.works ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Had a lady scream at me because I passed her while jogging and she was “having a private conversation”… On speakerphone… On the street…

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- arschflugkoerper@feddit.org ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  youtu.be/j7yrxrmmGag
  
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whaleross@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Today I was annoyed by a man in his 30-40s that was talking on his phone like he was a reality soap star with speaker on full blast in a doctor’s waiting room.

Then I remembered the most absurd moment on the tram some time ago when a two teen girls were talking to a third and the one holding the phone told her friend to go sit somewhere else because they wanted to talk in private. The second girl moves and the first one proceeds to have their private talk on speaker. In a tram full of people and her friend sitting a few seats away.

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- abbadon420@lemm.ee ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Lol. Teenage girls are so stupid
  
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  - RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    I don’t think that’s gender specific
    
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- LePoisson@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Damn, sometimes (because I’m a miscreant) I like to jump into convos or make a comment on them if someone is being really loud about it especially if they’re on the phone with another person.
  
  I mean, I rarely do it because people are crazy but sometimes I can’t stop myself.
  
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SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Are there any justifiable reasons that it’s okay to be on speakerphone in public?

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- HikingVet@lemmy.ca ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  911 while administering first aid.
  
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  - WereCat@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Nah, I’d still prefer email
    
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- whaleross@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Hands full, disabled, multiple people, yes. Holding the phone like an extended duck face, no.
  
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  - SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    God… And then they lean in to listen to it Like it’s an alien rock whispering secrets to them.
    
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- sawdustprophet@midwest.social ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  
  Are there any justifiable reasons that it’s okay to be on speakerphone in public?
  
  I once saw this question asked on the other site, and there was at least one good response. It was from someone who used a hearing aid, and said that for whatever reason, using the phone normally next to their ear resulted in the audio being garbled and difficult to understand, but using the speaker held a few inches away was fine, so that’s how they preferred to use it.
  
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  - Knoxvomica@lemmy.ca ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    That does make sense, though I think modern hearing aids actually have Bluetooth capabilities so that the conversation is right through the hearing aid itself. Kinda wild.
    
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- jjjalljs@ttrpg.network ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  The only case I can think of is like you had to call 911 for an emergency and you want the people around you to also hear the dispatcher.
  
  For day to day stuff, not really.
  
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  - LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Microphones and speakers did all the time. That’s usually the only time I consider a good time to use the other microphone/speaker.
    
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- kurcatovium@lemm.ee ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  No.
  
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Lazycog@sopuli.xyz ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I’m convinced people forgot that our huge handheld devices are supposed to still be mobile phones that you are supposed to put it against your ear when you call someone.

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- DrSleepless@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago
  You should have told her it’s a mobile phone and she should mobilize to a quiet area
  
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- Kowowow@lemmy.ca ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  I blame facetime for making speakerphone use more common
  
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  - Kecessa@sh.itjust.works ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    I don’t get it, my girlfriend only uses video calls with her family… If you want to do a video call with me you better warn me, meanwhile it’s like any other phone call to them except that when they’re driving they panic and find somewhere to pullover to take their call instead of using the car’s phone functions!
    
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- EtherWhack@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  But, I don’t want to smudge my screen. /s
  
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  - Lazycog@sopuli.xyz ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Honestly this has crossed my mind several times as another reason why people don’t put the phone on their ear. You might be on to something!
    
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corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
That’s like those halfwits who talk into their phone and hold it like a slice of (not Neapolitan) pizza.

This isn’t a reality show

You’re dumb enough to be on one

If it’s not working well, shouting won’t help. You’re actively impairing its noise cancelling and you’ll only be more noise to it.

Use your phone like a phone for best results.
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Pnut@lemm.ee ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
They are, by definition, not having a private conversation. It’s just parrots looking in a mirror. They genuinely think we are impressed by what they have to say. Source: grew up with a narcissist. He was wearing a Bluetooth earpiece 100% of the time until like 2020.

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- MummysLittleBloodSlut@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  I don’t think that’s an okay word to say. Why don’t you use a less loaded word?
  
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  - Jolteon@lemmy.zip ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    A Bluetooth headset then.
    
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  - Agrivar@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    I think you forgot the /s
    
    Or, you’re an insufferable twat I’m relieved not to know.
    
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Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Pretend it’s one of your homies talking to their mom and make loud sexual moans.

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floo@retrolemmy.com ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Whenever I hear someone using speakerphone in public, it really annoys me. Often, I will join the conversation. When the party is subject, it’s an excellent time to remind them how fucking rude it is to use a speakerphone in public.

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TrojanRoomCoffeePot@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Make random jungle and peacock noises close to them. Nothing makes them want a more private conversation than the person on the other end saying that it sounds like they were lying about where they are. Sex moaning and sloppy liquid pulching sound effects optional depending on others nearby.

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Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Hey bud if you won’t hold me close at night dont pretend like you want to join in on the call where Im scheduling my next proctoligy appointment.

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- HikingVet@lemmy.ca ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  I like to know the health issues of people before holding them close at night. Reduces surprises.
  
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RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Has anyone tried blasting music from their phones in response?

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- HikingVet@lemmy.ca ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Same reaction as jumping into the convo.
  
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  - RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    That’s why you start off by screaming “Getta load of THIS!” and when it’s done you shout “Anotha One!” like DJ Khaled.
    
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grepe@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
nice metaphore to how people use the social media nowdays… people spill their mind into a public discussion forum and and then they are pissed at the “reply guy problem” and try to come up with ways to stop people from talking instead of adjusting their expectations… i get it - everyone wants to be treated nicely but come on!

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angrystego@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
People have private conversation face to face in a crowd as well - sometimes some things need to be talked about right away and the anonymity of the crowd makes it feel private enough. If you don’t know the people, then you know the convo is none of your business - so if you join in, yes, you’re viewed as the crazy one, or at least the one with not enough social inteligence.

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- whaleross@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  If only there was a way to speak privately on a phone.
  
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- Agrivar@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  *intelligence
  
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11111one11111@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Ill never do it in public but by myself speaker phone calls are amazing. Being able to take notes or look up stuff with both hands is a game changer.

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- corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Yeah. When I’m working a problem with someone and need my hands free, okay. But that’s a tech call and not a procto appointment.
  
  I’d love to use a headset, but
  
  New phones are shit and have no jack
  
  Radio earbuds are shit with shit batteries sold by shit companies for shit phones
  
  End of list
  
  So I’ll talk in my private office on the speakerphone and get things done quickly. And curse ducking Samsung for copping out and ripping the jack out and making all the usual shit excuses because they can’t say “you’ll still buy it ya plebe”.
  
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- whaleross@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  You are free to do whatever you want that makes you happy in private bud. Anything. Almost.
  
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- iks@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Buy a BT headset and you’re all set. My choice is the Poly Voyager Focus 2, now 3 years old and still going strong! I need it for work but use it for all the calls when I can. Look ma, no hands! And some privacy too.
  
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