Azzu
@Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Creator of LULs (a script which helps links to point to your instance)
Come say hi here or over at twitch.tv/AzzuriteTV :) I like getting to know more people :)
Play games with me: steamcommunity.com/id/azzu
- Comment on YSK Lemvotes.org will show you votes on any post, comment, or by user, or anything on the fediverse 2 days ago:
This doesn’t really make sense. What you say is only identifying if you already have this information about someone. If you already do have all this info about someone, what else do you need?
- Comment on YSK Lemvotes.org will show you votes on any post, comment, or by user, or anything on the fediverse 2 days ago:
If you’re really worried about that, there’s no reason why you need to have your private details associated to your account. You can even have a “clean” main account for show and a “real” secondary account.
Your votes being public is only a “problem” if your account can be associated with you.
- Comment on YSK Lemvotes.org will show you votes on any post, comment, or by user, or anything on the fediverse 2 days ago:
Except the ability to register an account without any personal details. Which makes it completely private if you want.
- Comment on Do you meditate? 6 days ago:
Don’t know what it’s called, I just let my thoughts go and focus on the sensations of my senses. I do this all the time except when I specifically need to think, which isn’t super often.
- Comment on How long do we have before PCs get locked bootloaders and corporations ban installation of "non-approved" software? (for context: Google is restricting sideloading worldwide on Android ETA 2027) 2 weeks ago:
Yeah, mine too, it’s not the fastest and most cutting-edge one, though, maybe that’s what they mean.
- Comment on How long do we have before PCs get locked bootloaders and corporations ban installation of "non-approved" software? (for context: Google is restricting sideloading worldwide on Android ETA 2027) 2 weeks ago:
Not really realistic at all. There’s a market for unlocked devices, and where there’s money, there’ll be a way.
- Comment on Does anybody else feel like Linkwarden is very resource intensive. 2 weeks ago:
You really don’t get having to pay for things, do you?
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 2 weeks ago:
Two things.
For most people, asking “why do you talk so little?” is not a slap in the face, it is an attempt at inclusion. It gets interpreted as a slap in the face. As such, your example is not right.
Secondly, when we expect people to take our autistic sensibilities into account, I think it is entirely fair to take their sensibilities into account as well. Most people do not rub autistic people the wrong way on purpose. We do not rub them the wrong way on purpose. Yet it makes sense for both parties to take the other parties sensibilities into account. Since one can only control oneself, one should start this behavior with oneself.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
People in general don’t work by any guiding principles, they work by emotions. Emotions don’t care about consistency.
Acting in a consistent way has to be learned in a rational way, and it involves suppressing your emotional reaction. People are only lile this if they explicitly learn/practice this, the default human without learning that does not work like that.
So, the fact that your dad is good to you and bad to other people is very simply explained: he loves you, acting lovingly, and hates others, acting hatefully.
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 2 weeks ago:
You’re doing what they do to you back to them. This is not hard to understand. You don’t like it, so they don’t like it. You’re essentially “proving your point” by taking revenge. The only thing they hear is that you’re taking revenge.
If it was about boundaries, you could say something along the lines “I don’t like these kind of questions, I am perfectly comfortable being quiet, with this question you make it sound like something is wrong about it. I get this question all the time and I don’t want to answer it anymore.”
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 2 weeks ago:
I’m not talking about in real life. I’m talking about your comments right here that are that way. You also edited your comment here, at first you were saying something about the person you’re replying to being boring.
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 2 weeks ago:
Your coworkers do it to you and if frustrates you, but you’re doing it to them which frustrates them.
They openly admit to doing the bad behavior back to them.
why I don’t talk more, why they feel offended if I answer asking why they talk so much
There is no need to go for confrontation, asking why someone talks so little might just be a way of trying to include them in a group or getting to know them, and it sounds like OP just responds as hostile as possible. They could just say “I’m comfortable talking little” or whatever.
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 2 weeks ago:
I’m an autistic introvert and upvoted them. You really don’t see how you immediately go for personal attacks and derogatory behavior? You don’t need to tell people they’re being boring. You can just leave and not interact and thus not hurt their feelings.
- Comment on What strategy would you use to estimate the number of hazelnuts 2 weeks ago:
Weigh 10 hazelnuts, weigh all hazelnuts, do basic math.
- Comment on Best Co-Op Games? 2 weeks ago:
Nucleus Coop (for Windows only unfortunately) makes lots of games that ordinarily don’t have offline splitscreen to work in that way.
- Comment on Best Co-Op Games? 2 weeks ago:
You can play a lot of games splitscreen coop with nucleus, Windows only unfortunately.
- Comment on Gamers Nexus big story about GPU smuggling got taken down. 3 weeks ago:
Is there a tldw somewhere before I watch 3.5 hours?
- Comment on A real question about trans athletes and records 3 weeks ago:
The question is, what really is different between a woman or a short man in basketball? Both can not compete because of their genetics.
- Comment on Upvotes and downvotes are public information on Lemmy 5 weeks ago:
Would be my question as well. It seems quite obvious that if you participate in publicly viewable discussion, that the stuff you do is publicly viewable.
If you don’t want it associated to your physical person, use a VPN and unidentifiable account name.
- Comment on What can be wrong with our Monstera? 5 weeks ago:
Is it really unreasonable to want a resource on how to grow plants? There’s no reason to have to repeat the same kind of information again and again and again in discussion threads. I also don’t want to learn calculus by asking on discussion forums. This feels like a solved problem.
- Comment on What can be wrong with our Monstera? 5 weeks ago:
What I’d much rather know, where do you get information how to care for all kinds of plants without having to ask in Lemmy communities or whatever? There must surely be some place where someone collected all kinds of plant growing information like this, right?
- Comment on YSK: Lemmy supports custom emojis, your instance may have some. 1 month ago:
They’re just ![]() tags, you can embed any image in your comments
- Comment on What's the easiest way to get hookups without seeing escorts? 1 month ago:
This comment was adressed at other people giving advice, not for OP.
- Comment on If you had 1 dollar and 24 hours what would you do? 1 month ago:
Beg on the streets for someone to give me 1 dollar
- Comment on Goosebumps: The Game will be removed from sale on August 8, 2025. 1 month ago:
I’ve never heard of this. Can you give some kind of context?
- Comment on How do you reconcile staying sane while keeping yourself up-to-date with the news? 1 month ago:
My philosophy is: “if everyone behaved like I did, would we have any/this problem?” and if the answer is no, I’m fine.
The thing is that many people see injustice in the world and want to fix it now, which means forcing other people to not be assholes. But the problem with forcing other people to do/think something is that it doesn’t generally work, at least not without causing a massive amount of suffering in the other direction. Everyone generally thinks they’re the good guy of the story, no matter how much evil they do. They think the evil is necessary to stop other, more evil things.
Like for example, Israelis think that Muslims wanna wipe them out, and so it’s only good to wipe these evildoers out first… And exactly the same thoughts happen in the other direction. At this point, it doesn’t matter anymore who started it. Both sides wanna stop the other side from doing more evil, and this attempt to stop is creating more evil.
Doesn’t have to be so severe though. Could just be parents forcing their child to eat their veggies. Eating their veggies is good, and so you might think the parent is doing the right thing of forcing their child to eat it. But, most often, all that happens is that the child will forever hate eating veggies and as soon as it’s away from the parents, never eat veggies again. Until they turn adult and learn for themselves that eating veggies is good, and try to do it, but the trauma of being forced is hard to reverse.
And that example is our constant state of existence with basically everything.
Everyone wants to force everyone else to do/not do something, and even if one side is right, the action of forcefully trying to change someone else usually backfires in some way. Force doesn’t need to be physical force btw, shame (mental pain) is also a kind of force.
I’m not saying you should turn the other cheek to everything. That force should never be stopped with force. I’m just saying that most of the time, you can’t make other people change their ways. But you can always completely change your own ways. And if everyone did that, we’d actually have no problems anymore. But most of the time, people start trying to fix problems in others before they fixed their own, and that is almost a complete waste of energy.
Of course, that philosophy doesn’t stop injustices from happening right now. But it gives a peace of mind in some way. If you are truly convinced that if everyone was like you, the world would be a nice place, then you can be content, at least with yourself.
Honestly, this is only part of the answer, there is more to answering your question fully, but I don’t wanna write more right now. If you want to know more, let me know.
- Comment on I'm looking to buy a new rig, as I'm not from US the dolar going down will help me immensely. Now how do you think it will behave in the coming weeks? 1 month ago:
Probably a new set of masts & sails for their boat.
Or a new oil pumping station.
Or maybe a new truck.
- Comment on How would you take 'stfu' from a stranger online, provided what you said wasn't meant to be funny? 1 month ago:
stfu
;)
- Comment on How does a guy become his most confident around women? 1 month ago:
Stop having a goal with women specifically. You talking about experience and success with women is literally the total opposite of what makes sense.
Just have fun with a person. You have had fun interacting with people before, right? Just do that. The literal only difference is that you can sprinkle in some sexual innuendos or some shit, if you think of it. If not, also fine. Then go home and resume what you always do. Repeat.
If while doing this you ever notice some sexual tension, just do something sexual. Touch them. Or tell them you find them attractive. Or ask to kiss them. Whatever, it literally doesn’t matter. If they don’t like it, you’ll likely notice because they tell you and then you can do something different. If they like it, you’ll also likely notice, and continue escalating from there. Touching platonic -> kissing -> making out hair/neck/back-> touching sexually titties/butt -> touching pussy. Natural progression.
If you notice something afterwards, while thinking about it (like someone giving you obvious signals that you completely missed), if you can, just respond to the signal as soon as you notice, don’t think “now it’s too late”. In fact, it’s never to late until you tried it and it didn’t work.
But yeah, I can’t stress this enough. The most important thing is to not expect anything. In fact, maybe you’ll never have sexual contact again. It’s best if you’re content with nothing but masturbating for the rest of your life.
- Comment on It’s the little things 1 month ago:
I mean you can just ventilate whenever you spill something.
The larger problem would be the entire water-based ecosystem.
