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Are there any Lemmy/Mbin instances by women for women?

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  • sjmarf@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Community-wise there’s !WomensStuff@lazysoci.al

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    • dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      unfortunately I think this is the current answer, at least on Lemmy.

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      • TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        unfortunately?

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  • Draconic_NEO@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    lemmy.blahaj.zone has a decent amount of women and both their admins are women, it’s not a “women’s space” as one would describe since everyone is welcome there but it’s probably the closest thing one would describe as an instance “by women for women”. I am obligated to mention that it is a queer instance and that many of the women there are either trans themselves or strongly supportive of trans people, and do not tolerate transphobia or anti-LGBT sentiment (including refusal to support LGBTQ people) at all.

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    • Nursery2787@lemmy.ml ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Beat me to it. Their zero tolerance for misogyny/transphobia extends to who they federate with. If a server doesn’t care about its users being transphobic then it gets the axe. I remember it being a big hub bub because an instance was actually using its defederation option.

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    • UprisingVoltage@feddit.it ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Good.

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    • 3dmvr@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      spinster exists but I think its the opposite where its antitrans

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      • tomenzgg@midwest.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        We all pretend that it didn’t exist and do not acknowledge its presence; that’s the informal rule.

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      • Draconic_NEO@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Yeah Spinster is generally considered a hate site, and consequently is very widely defederated, even from general purpose instances like lemmy.world. Also it’s less of a Reddit alternative and more of a Twitter alternative but is technically redundant since you can do everything you did on there on the real thing instead.

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      • StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        The admin behind it is also a man so its for (some) women by a man. Literally the opposite.

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      • Walk_blesseD@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        I thought that was mastodon. Do they have a lemmy instance as well?

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    • finitebanjo@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Everyone Except Fascists and/or Tankies

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      • Draconic_NEO@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        I think that kind of goes without saying.

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    • Konkyer@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      As much as I appreciate the community and users at Blahaj, in my personal experience, the moderation was fairly wanting. At least a year or two ago (not sure about now), they tolerated some pretty freakish right-wing people who enabled chasers and other weird shit on their communities.

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      • Draconic_NEO@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        They certainly do not seem very tolerant of that now, they very commonly ban people for thinly veiled homophobia and transphobia that would normally slide on other sites. They do not even seem mildly willing to tolerate the intolerant.

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  • StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Lemmy has an undeniable woman problem that it carried over from Reddit. I’ve lost count of the number of pathetic blokes that I have blocked on here for anti feminism.

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    • AllHailTheSheep@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      yep it’s pretty horrible. any time gender issues are brought up there’s dozens of comments saying “what about the men” and completely missing the point

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      • Hupf@feddit.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        xkcd.com/322/

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      • bane_killgrind@slrpnk.net ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        The response to “what about men” comments is, we’re already talking about men when we talk about misogyny. Misandry and misogyny are the exact same problem, strictly enforced gender roles. If you deviate, you are punished. The men that are caregivers are derided just like the women that refuse to rear children. Every other related paradigm punches down into the people who do not conform. Stoicism in men, histrionics in women.

        Either is a foil for the other and it’s exactly the same bullshit.

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      • IndustryStandard@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        What about the me

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      • TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        As a guy, I do recognise that men are disadvantaged in many areas and need to be put on equal footing with women-- like courts disproportionately award custody of children to mothers, regardless of how unfit the mother is to be a caregiver. But broadly speaking from my pespective, women are still at more disadvantage. I used to live in a bad part of my city for many years and have had little to no issues. However, it is a different story from women I spoke who got harrased, and another hit on the head. They said they will avoid going to the city ever again. I remember sharing the accounts of these women to other men, and the men were surprised because their experience is the complete opposite. Women are still seen as weak. And in the corporate hierarchy, men (of tall statures) disproportionately make up the board of directors and executive roles.

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      • KeenFlame@feddit.nu ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        What about them

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    • mholiv@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      100%

      It’s really bad and lemmy is really in denial.

      Sexism here is much worse than it was on Reddit.

      It feels like 2008 Reddit here sexism wise, except instead of Ron Paul libertarians tooting their horns everywhere we have heavy teacher vehicle enthusiasts.

      I did hope lemmy having a left leaning culture would help but it does not.

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      • misteloct@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Oh yea? One time I got kicked in the balls and it kinda hurt. Women have it soooo easy.

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      • drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        you mean the comments that have been downvoted to the bottom?

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      • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Try making any post that focuses on situations uniquely or disproportionally experienced by women and you get mostly “what about men” or “men have it worst” responses.

        that’s kind of just how controversial things are on the internet though.

        Evens shitposting from men will get similar responses from women, it’s just how it is now. Sort of always has been.

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      • Konkyer@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Some instances have a left-leaning culture. Lemmy.world definitively does not.

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  • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Youre absolutely welcome to join Blahaj zone. Our wonderful administration team (both of whom are women) bans misogyny whenever it comes around to our communities. The mods for our main communities share a very aggressive moderation policy.

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    • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      They also ban real users instead of the people literally calling their gender “dragonfucker” and “attack helicopter”

      The blahaj admins are trolls

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      • Cryophilia@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        I give Ada a lot of credit. In the early days, I had the following interaction:

        TOPIC: Something about sexual/gender preferences, I don’t remember, asking people their preferences

        Me: responds with my preferences (I’m straight cis male, I like women so I’m down with post-transition trans women but pre-transition don’t turn me on)

        Some random user: respectfully asks if I would be willing to date a pre-transition trans man

        Me: I guess, but it probably wouldn’t work due to the fact that what I like about their body, they hate

        Some of those professionally offended people took a misleading screenshot of my response and started screaming about “chasers”.

        Ada did an admin post to the community backing me up and calling those idiots out.

        So unless she’s changed a lot, I don’t think she’s a troll. It would have been easy to go with the mob but she stuck up for me.

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      • AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        They also turn a blind eye to misandry.

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      • sudo@programming.dev ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        The pronoun was just “drag”. PJ is the one who kept calling them “dragonfucker”. You can go read dragonriders comments instead of just repeating gossip.

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      • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        “dragonfucker” and “attack helicopter”

        i mean, if they’re doing it as a haha funny, i see no harm, but if they’re also being assholes, i think that takes precedent. You aren’t legally required to fill in your gender tagging appropriately so.

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    • cupcakezealot@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      also our wonderful admin kaity did what the lemmy devs couldn’t and nuked the dm spam :)

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      • StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        It really seems like instance admins tend to do a much better job with a lot of stuff on here than the core devs. Its a shame that forking would take as much work as it would.

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    • Lemminary@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Pfft, I’d say overly aggressive to a fault. It’s not a good thing when they’re banning people for a passing comment where the worst offence is “gatekeeping” rather than something that matters.

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    • Realitaetsverlust@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Probably the … fourth-worst well known instance. Idk if that’s a good suggestion.

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    • Konkyer@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      As much as I appreciate the community and users, there are (or at least were) serious moderation problems on Blahaj, I did not feel safe there when I tried it a year or two ago.

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      • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        I definitely cannot agree. I encourage anyone who has any issues with moderation to make a post in the Blahaj meta community. Ada and Kaity have been spectacular and have responded to every issue I have come across. There are limits, they can’t preemptively prevent any kind of moderation issue but they respond quickly.

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  • merc@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    This seems like a very good niche for someone willing to do it. Problematic accounts could get a site-wide ban instead of each woman having to ban someone herself.

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    • dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      this is a bit of how Blahaj works as I understand it, so it’s a good model - if anything I would think Blahaj might already be poised for this kind of instance-level protection of women

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    • teatimeplease@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Lemmy needs block lists users can subscribe to like they can on BlueSky, it would make a huge difference imo.

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  • Eiri@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    But like what even is a social media for women? I wasn’t aware the ones we currently have were for men

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    • Tonuka@feddit.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      reddit has /r/TwoXChromosomes which is one of my favorite subs. It’s a general womens subreddit, and though it obviously leans feminist it’s not its main purpose. It welcomes all genders, but remains a womens space.

      The fediverse could really use that energy.

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      • lunarul@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        There’s also /r/WitchesVsPatriarchy which is also very strictly woman-centered.

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      • poVoq@slrpnk.net ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        We used to have an equivalent on our instance, but it was constantly flooded with reply-bros and trans people complaining about the name, so we archived it as no women was willing to moderate it (for understandable reasons).

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      • hanrahan@slrpnk.net ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Yeah but thats a subreddit not REDDIT itself, you can similarly start a /c/TwoX on jist about any Lemmy instance.

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      • slingstone@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        I wondered if they made the jump over here. Guess not, sadly. Reading that sub has made me a better man, because it offers some pretty harsh critiques of male behavior.

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    • 3dmvr@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Its all technically ran by trans women which is mildly interesting, like the mods of 2x and the others on reddit and here I think

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      • 3dmvr@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        on reddit every female sub is ran by the same woman

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  • Cryophilia@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Most of the fediverse is male, and there’s a significant trans woman space, but there’s no spaces that really cater to cis women or to trans men specifically that I’ve seen.

    And yes, I think it’s reasonable to look for a space that is strongly (though not exclusively) cis-woman, in the same way that a Protestant would feel out of place in a Catholic community, even though they’re all Christian. I imagine most cis women feel the same way as I (a cis man) feel when going to blahaj - like a friendly, allied visitor in a foreign land.

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    • andros_rex@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I can’t think I of a single online space ever that has catered to trans men.

      I guess Hudson’s Guide lol.

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    • CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      There is! It’s !WomensStuff@lazysoci.al

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  • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Depends. You looking for a woman’s apace…or a terf space?

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    • tfm@europe.pub ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I definitely think it should be an inclusive, not exclusive space

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      • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        blahaj.zone is a great one I’ve found. Extremely inclusive, brooks absolutely no bullshit from bad faith actors.

        Is also very very queer tho JSYK

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      • barsoap@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        That can describe a bar that throws out Nazis or a Nazi bar, depending on perspective.

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  • carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    its kinda sad how one of the biggest women’s community on the lemmy/main side of fedi is !femcelmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone…

    i mean, it’s a great community, but yea.

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    • Mubelotix@jlai.lu ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      There seems to be a majority of males even in that community though

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      • gwen@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        every femcel community gets invaded by guys at some point. see: r/letgirlshave fun and r/femcelgrippysockjail. theres one that went private and thats keeping out the men really well (and is the only community im still on reddit for)

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    • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Hahaha the name doesn’t do it justice tbh, *cel has connotations that femcelmemes really just doesn’t have

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  • MECHAGODZILLA2@midwest.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    The comments here make me very disappointed in our little corner of the internet. If anyone wants this but doesn’t know how, neither do I but I’d be happy help.

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    • i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I am disappointed but not surprised. The attitude of men here reminds me a lot of default subs in Reddit. People tend to be more civil, but there is so much “but what about men?” when talking about women’s issues or belittling women still. Business as usual on the Internet, but I can see why it would cause women to avoid Lemmy.

      I haven’t been back to Reddit, but it makes me miss the small niches where I didn’t see that as often.

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    • Irelephant@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Call it out when you see it. Keep the bar nazi free.

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    • CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      There’s !WomensStuff@lazysoci.al

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    • frog_brawler@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I think there’s a few tutorials about how to set up your own lemmy instance. If so compelled; go for it! If you have any sort of IT background it’ll probably be pretty easy.

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  • Ulrich@feddit.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Pardon my ignorance but what would be the point of that? You can sign up on any instance and participate in any women’s communities. It’s not like there’s any way to verify the user’s gender anyway.

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    • Genius@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      A community like that would hopefully ban misogynists who go unbanned on other communities.

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    • pseudo@jlai.lu ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Local feed I guess. I wouldn’t trade my french local feed to another despite the abillity to subscribe to the community that made it.

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    • Cryophilia@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      You really don’t see the benefit to a group of similar people to have a space focused on them, their wants and needs and daily lives? A community of people like them? It’s one of the most fundamental human desires.

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    • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      with enough admin and moderation you could circle jerk your way into a “woman positive” or “woman friendly space” which would be the idea.

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  • FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Lemmy,blahaj,zone is run by Ada, who is a woman

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    • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I wish I could recommend blahaj, there are a lot of trolls in the space that the admins have successfully been guilted into supporting.

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  • ZeffSyde@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I want there to be a witchesvspatreiarchy here, but I’m a dude and it’d be messed up if I started it.

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  • hendrik@palaver.p3x.de ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    beehaw.org aspire to be nice, friendly diverse and safe. But they're more towards nice, not women. And we have lemmy.blahaj.zone for queer folks. To my knowledge, there isn't a place aimed towards women. Maybe heehaw is the closest... Still not really a fit.

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  • Snoopy@piefed.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I find this idea pretty cool, i hope they will succeed to achieve that. Imo, we lack diversity on the forum6erse except maybe mastodon.

    It would provide an additional layer, another governance, they could also benefit a lot from local community and can check vote...Other have already mentionned good example with blahaj, beehaw.

    On the other hand, it will render the instance more visible.

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  • Lemgen@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Create one!

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  • Binette@lemmy.ml ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I was thinking of making one, but I’m not a woman, so I’ll think of something else

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  • Diva@lemmy.ml ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    hexbear is heavily transfem and bans aggressively for misogyny/transphobia. Spending some time there when their recent domain crisis defederated from the rest of Lemmy was actually quite relaxing

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  • ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Like women only or hosted by women? Based on the selfhosted poll I’m guessing these is a 5% there is.

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  • Jhex@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    it’s called pinterest

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  • CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yep we have !WomensStuff@lazysoci.al its a women only community by women for women.

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  • Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Even if not, you can create one :3

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  • SirSamuel@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    TW: crude and insensitive joke (hopefully the spoiler tag works lol)

    ! It’s funny, blahaj.zone is full of pussies, and .ml is full of cunts, and yet there’s no dedicated space for women !<

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  • Vanilla_PuddinFudge@infosec.pub ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Lemmy is aimed at pleasing all of humanity.

    Asking for a women-centric flavor of any site is parallel to asking for a version with less men. If you’re implying there is a difference to the interests of both, I’d love to show you the Greg’s Anatomy sub.

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  • MITM0@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Reddit is pretty pro-female, what is this riddiculous gaslighting ?

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  • Owlboi@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    how would they stop men from participating?

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  • FinishingDutch@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Be the change you wish to see in the world.

    It really comes down to this: if you want your own space for particular interests, you should create one and find likeminded people to populate it. Just waiting for it to magically appear isn’t going to work. Be assertive.

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  • Enzy@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Onlyfans

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  • pr0sp3kt@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Why you want to create division?

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