The consequences (of my actions) have been extreme

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• rumba@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  LOL private chat with 8 people.

  You don’t even need a Derek, all you have to do is have one of the 8 perceive that they are being wronged. One’s mate makes googly eyes at another, next thing you know, it’s all public.

  Never post anything anywhere if it ever getting out will fuck you.

  Nothing is private and you should strive to be the kind of person that doesn’t say shit about other people behind their backs.

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• Letsdothisok@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Wow. Derrick is a dirty pu–y. Screw you, Derrick, you don’t even know us. This is why no one likes you, Derrick.

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• 3dmvr@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I would never feel bad about that, have you ever had girls show you their gcs? I’m traumatized

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  • 3dmvr@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Think woman project a bit about what men do, since ive never discussed womans bodies in a homie gc or seen ppl do it, sure some out there exist and its not rare but all the girls I know discuss everythink, like dick shape size, how long they last what kinks they have everything you thought was private

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• prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Derek is the fucking GOAT

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• SleafordMod@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Good guy Derek

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• AidsKitty@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Be careful who you trust and only post things online that you wouldn’t mind everyone in your life seeing. Never trust the internet.

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• clot27@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  fuck you derek

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• polle@feddit.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Thought at first that its a meme about the signal groupchat that was leaked currently and then read its discord and its 1 year old.

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• OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Thought this was parity until I saw it was 1yr old

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• RagingRobot@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  They called him brother that changes everything lol

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• Sprawl@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Don’t talk shit about people behind their back. It always has a way of getting out because it’s clearly how you feel when their is no filter in place.

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  • OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I used to talk shit people to their face and compliment them behind their back. Thought it was cool. Anyways, didn’t work at the workplace.

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    • Snowclone@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      It’s better to say ‘‘Yes’’ and fail then to say ‘‘No’’ and succeed. Presentation is everything in a workplace.

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• MoreFPSmorebetter@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  If my group chats got leaked they would just think we were all idiots who love vehicles and watching people get hurt or make really dark jokes.

  Nothing really personal other than always posting really cringe crap and then tagging someone who we know it’ll piss off and telling them that it reminded us of them.

  Yeesh

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  • prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    OP gave away the game when they mentioned that they like to boast about trolls they’ve accomplished or whatever.

    Cringe shit. I bet that chat was just full of awful shit and as bad as the OP sounds, he’s actually downplaying it in an attempt to save face.

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  • Peck@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Somebody would manage to take offense. No doubt in my mind.

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  • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    My leaked group chats are just messages of me abusing emojis and and reusing memes from 10 years ago

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• Eddbopkins@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  This is a leave a guy in the middle of a desert moment.

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• ploot@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Still not sure whether OP is Pete Hegseth.

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• tyrefyre@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Wow this must be the biggest group text leak ever.

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  • Mikrochip@feddit.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I can hardly even imagine one that’s worse

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    • Krompus@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      👊 🇺🇸 🔥

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• Mustakrakish@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Derek sounds like a real one. That poster lacks so much situational awareness they’d fall into an open manhole like in a cartoon.

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• AbsoluteChicagoDog@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

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  • SleafordMod@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    If you find out that someone cheated on their wife, do you have to keep it private to protect the cheater’s “privacy”?

    Maybe it’s better if that person’s wife knows the truth.

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    • AbsoluteChicagoDog@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

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  • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    What a bad dichotomy.

    Most of us here are not saying either party is “right,” the story of this situation isn’t that there’s a bad guy and a good guy and an audience giving some kind of “pass” to anyone for anything. Everyone in this story is shitty and the people who posted shitty content they were ashamed deserve their shame for not being remotely careful about their own confidential materials.

    It’s not even the same as “violating someone’s privacy” because that implies that these people shared something deliberately with someone they trusted, that wasn’t the case, this was people posting material in a semi-open space and not being careful about who they invite in. Fuck them, they deserve this lesson.

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  • Denixen@feddit.nu ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    True, but it is oh so satisfying when bad things happen to shitty people. Especially people finding out the true depth of their shitty. Even more satisfying when they complain about it.

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  • pseudo@jlai.lu ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Indeed, just like being a bad person is not fine if you keep your bad behavior private.

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  • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Things shitty people say when they get caught

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  • theotherninjaturtle@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Yes, those private texts should have stayed private

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    • AbsoluteChicagoDog@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

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• MonkderVierte@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  @TO: would you like being recorded while drunk? This is pretty much the same.

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  • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    If you tend to behave a certain way when drunk that could make you incredibly embarrassed or have consequences in your life you don’t want… do you know what you should fucking do?

    Not get drunk around others.

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    • MonkderVierte@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Look, humans are inherently social animals. In public, there’s some pressure to behave the “correct” way, present an image. In private spaces with friends, you don’t have that pressure, you can unwind and make the occasional silly joke. That guy, however, betrayed the trust they gave him and TO and you say that’s their fault, for being silly with someone they trusted.

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  • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Sounds like the solution is not to be a asshole while drunk? Or not be drunk? Or not be there to get recorded?

    Nobody forced you to do anything.

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• Polderviking@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I’ve definitely got some bleak ass humor with some friends in private but forwarding messages people sent you in private to other people and group chats? Really?

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  • Lyricism6055@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Isn’t that what Derek just did to him? Feels bad I guess ;D

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  • slaneesh_is_right@lemmy.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I text my friends offensive shit too, but imo the only reason you can consider them funny is because it’s the exact opposite of who i am. Like i don’t even really swear irl. But shit like forwarding private messages or bullying real people is so disgusting to me. I often talk to girls from tinder, and they sometimes send me screenshots of people from tinder to make fun of them. Instant turn off and block.

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    • VitoRobles@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      If you’re sharing it privately, that’s your true self, the version of you unfiltered and able to avoid the consequences of actually saying it.

      Not if, but when it gets exposed by a Derek, will people look at you differently?

      You just discovered something important about yourself.

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  • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Every parent’s “talk” with their kids should start with “Never say or post anything about yourself on the internet, in any capacity, that you wouldn’t want literally everyone in your life knowing about.”

    I would extend that to include even uploading things to private cloud servers and saving things to your own computer. You don’t have to take these precautions, but then it’s on you to deal with consequences of people seeing the things you want to keep private. Sure, there can be bad people who make extra effort to find and share your private things, but if you already covered your bases ahead of time by not saying things you don’t want others to hear, not posting media you don’t want others to see, you can make it almost impossible for people to cause you harm this way. Also, don’t talk about war plans in group chats.

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    • Snowclone@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      I have had this exact talk with my kids repeatedly and probably will again ''the internet is a PUBLIC place, if you wouldn’t do or say things you wouldn’t be comfortable doing in the quad at school or in the middle of Walmart, DON’T do it online. You wanna have spicy conversations, do that in person or over a phone line and if someone secretly records that, you can press charges!

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  • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    If you’re ever concerned that your private messages will get leaked, why send it? That seems like a you issue for trusting them.

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    • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Sadly, people rather get in trouble and make themselves out to be a victim than decide to use some measure of self control and not spout every stupid thing that crosses their mind in their weird little shitty discord channel with their other shitty friends.

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    • Polderviking@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      The abuse of trust is the problem there, not the trust itself…

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  • TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Yeah that’s my line. Something someone told you in confidence is a shit thing to make fun of them for, forwarding it to friends is another level.

    Derek’s lame but they were shit too

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    • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      confidence

      If this is supposed to be private, personal stuff, why then would you share it with either someone you don’t know well, or share it in a public space where others can see it? “Confidential” material means it should only be seen by people you trust. This whole post is about someone they didn’t know or trust coming into their space and sharing their shit. It’s entirely on them for saying stupid shit on the internet and not being careful.

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    • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Nah fuck that.

      If your comment was so bad that a person you both trust and respected was like, “WTF” to expose it, that’s on you.

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  • dabaldeagul@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Depends on context. Maybe I’m not reading the OP right, but if it’s in the context of “yo guys what do I say” it’s different from “yo guys look how desperate she is lmao”

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• thisbenzingring@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  i wouldn’t have guessed that reading the comments of this would lead to blocking another lemmyworld user. it’s amazing how much better a conversation can be when you get rid of the actual shit

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  • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Best part about Shitposting honestly.

    There’s the shitposters who post weird funny things and are here just having a laugh.

    Then the awful mofos who think Shitposting means they can be their true selves and post offensive garbage under the guise of Shitposting. Then they get called out, get really offended/flip out because they didn’t realize.

    It’s a great honey trap.

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• azalty@jlai.lu ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Leaking private DMs between you and an ex is a dick move 😵

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• Etterra@discuss.online ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I love how the government is now just assholes in a shitty group chat.

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• LengAwaits@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Shitposting is just pretending to be stupid/racist/shitty for laughs/attention, right? Pretty low form of humor, if you ask me (no one did), but I’m also guessing a lot of shitposters aren’t just pretending.

  I like a laugh as much as the next person, but we can’t sit around going “Why are people in this country so fucking stupid/racist/shitty?” while simultaneously elevating “acting” stupid to some high form of humor. You see how that’s counterproductive, right?

  “Infidelity does not consist in believing, or in disbelieving; it consists in professing to believe what he does not believe. It is impossible to calculate the moral mischief, if I may so express it, that mental lying has produced in society. When a man has so far corrupted and prostituted the chastity of his mind, as to subscribe his professional belief to things he does not believe, he has prepared himself for the commission of every other crime.” - Thomas Paine, The Age of Reason

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  *“Any community that gets its laughs by pretending to be idiots will eventually be flooded by actual idiots who mistakenly believe that they’re in good company.” - Jason Garrett-Glaser*

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  • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    In the 90s, calling yourself a flat earther was a opportunity to have a fun and yet silly conversation about belief in science. During that time, both people KNEW that the earth was round. It was an exercise in creativity and played straight for laughs.

    But somewhere in the 2000, some people didn’t realize the satire. They actually BELIEVED in it.

    There’s a line of shitposting like with anything.

    Shitposting is an art. It’s satire.

    Then there’s actual shitty people who don’t realize that.

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  • yaldabaoth@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    more than half this comment is a quote. maybe make some of your own ideas instead of just reacting to stuff on emotion and googling quotes

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  • Korhaka@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Isn’t this a group chat between friends though, so its not an open community where actual idiots are free to just join it.

    I play a lot of games that include genocide, like Rimworld, Stellaris, Drox Operative 2, Factorio. That doesn’t mean I am actually going to go out and commit one.

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    • Chocobofangirl@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      One, nah. Two, you missed the ex getting her privacy violated by OP sharing her texts in the chat.

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  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    We become who we pretend to be.

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    • SLVRDRGN@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Image

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    • lagoon8622@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Great failure of Pauline (🤡🤡🤡🤡) discourse: actions don’t matter, only faith. Bitch nothing in your head matters, only what you do is consequential. Motherfucker destroyed Christianity before it even had a chance get started

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  • Kira@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

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    • LengAwaits@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      That’s me! Cringe and proud.

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  • abbotsbury@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I don’t think it is that people are saying shitposting is a higher form of humor, but that it requires a level of trust that you know the people you’re shitposting with know you and know you’re joking. Lack of that leads to your second quote.

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    • LengAwaits@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      That’s totally fair, and I agree with you. I probably shouldn’t have used the phrase “high form of humor”. I more meant “worthwhile form of humor”.

      I’m not the comedy police or anything, I just don’t want to end up here:

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• Dorkyd68@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  U

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  • glitch1985@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    P

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• missandry351@lemmings.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  The world needs more Dereks

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  • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I love all the comments who hate Derek, obviously projecting their own shitty behavior.

    What a tell.

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• KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  never admit to the group chat leaks.

  Always be shitposting. They can never catch you offguard if you don’t stop.

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  • Duamerthrax@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Shitposting is one thing. Without knowing what the war memes were, I can’t say one way or another.

    Sharing private chats your girlfriend? Yeah, that’s too far.

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    • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      i doubt the war memes weren’t that bad honestly. There’s been a lot of shitposting about it general, it’s just that most people haven’t seen it because it’s not particularly common. The real question is what their actual opinion is.

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    • abbotsbury@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Sharing private chats from your girlfriend? Yeah, that’s too far.

      Whoa whoa whoa, but they said they didn’t commit crimes by sharing nudes without consent! They’re not that disrespectful!

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• ThatGuy46475@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  There’s always two group chats, one for everyone and one for the people you want to talk to. And if you think that doesn’t happen I have some bad news for you.

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• rivan@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  My groups collective chats is more of a microcosm of meme culture at the given time, sort of a petri dish of various meme strains fighting for (limited) mental resources.

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• MTK@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Ah yes, “cocksucker” as the first insult to come to mind, the sign of a good person

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• Frostbeard@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I would love for my 40k groups five year group chat to be leaked. My theories about Alpharius is valid I tell you.

  Nononono, do it go! We haven’t even gotten to the part with Valdor, and the Emperor yet.

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