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5 perfectly balanced and happy to explore any reasonable deviancy within the safety and privacy of a healthy and lawful relationship.
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Submitted 1 year ago by j4k3@lemmy.world to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
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bear@lemmynsfw.com 1 year ago
otp@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
The maximum score is being banned from online communities? Some people get arrested and locked up for years for their perversions.
tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 year ago
I’m like a 7-8 for kinks and 0 for sexuality. I’m basically asexual.
ski11erboi@lemm.ee 1 year ago
I feel seen.
KingJalopy@lemm.ee 1 year ago
My bad, that’s my kink.
DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 1 year ago
Mm. 8 rated by tolerance for kinks and general desensitization. I’m not going to be shocked by most things even if I’m not into it.
4 by interest in most of them. I’d go along with most of them up to mild S&M but a lot of more “extreme” stuff (to my scale) plays with degradation to one degree or another and that’s a boner killer.
PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee 1 year ago
6 or 7, tried pegging with my GF, wasn’t offended enough by the experience to turn down her being giddy about doing it again.
Mildly worried that she’s buying something brand new specifically to use on me.
We also get thirds every so often when we want to have an occasion
UncharismaticSatyr@lemmynsfw.com 1 year ago
Fantasy, I think I’m kinky, but I’ve been a denizen of the internet for too long and seen far too much efukt to believe I’m extremely kinky. Still, watersports and buttstuff make up the majority of the porn I consume. So a 6-7?
But, I have only ever been in vanilla relationships, so what do I know. Username relevent.
RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com 1 year ago
- I’ve done and enjoyed stuff I think most people haven’t, and a slap is still faster than a kiss but I enjoy plain sex every day, and counting down I think that:
10 is people who want something that will kill them or someone else.
9 is people who want something that would land them in jail, or literal fetishists who get off on something that doesn’t include what most of us think of as sex, and only that.
8 is people who need something other than plain sex or can enjoy things that most of us find too gross
7 is people who identify mostly as their kink but can enjoy sex without it
Which would leave me at 6. I think way more people are in the 1-5 group than the 6-10 group, it’s not an even distribution. If you are asking where I’d land in the general population of women, that would probably be a different answer.
j4k3@lemmy.world 1 year ago
[deleted]RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com 1 year ago
So you would put more people as kinky because you think most are repressing very dark shit? Maybe, but seems like most people I know kind of don’t care that much about sex, if that makes sense. If it’s more like violence that just sometimes finds a sexual outlet, is that even kinky?
The 1-5 I’d put as:
1 is asexual, do not even feel desire at all.
2 the demisexual who can kinda enjoy it if you do but really are just doing it for someone else they wouldn’t bother for themselves.
3 the people who have to be in love to feel sexual desire, they can be ‘unlocked’, basically, it’s just part of love to them. May actually do more variety of stuff but only for someone else, really do not feel independent sexual desire but love and sex entwined.
4 I think of as the normal people who can enjoy sex as an activity, outside of a relationship just for physical pleasure but it doesn’t pull at them so hard, and they don’t want unusual stuff just sex. Probably don’t seek out sex specifically, but dates,
5 the normal people who are more adventurous, and who get frustrated sooner, have a more active sex drive and will seek out sex partners, will go outside their comfort zone if a partner suggests it. Sexually active normal people I don’t think of as kinky.
I just think probably a very large chunk of people just don’t prioritize sex or need anything very specific.
Num10ck@lemmy.world 1 year ago
i want my bed to have robotic tentacles
FairycorePhoebe@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 year ago
Most definitely a 10. Most people would find at least one thing that I like to be morally objectionable. I’m extremely into BDSM, and submissive to a fault. Like, I think that submission is better than sex. If there’s a bad thing that can happen to someone, I’ve probably fantasized about it happening to me. Anything from public humiliation to erotic torture. I also enjoy basically every kind of taboo erotic roleplay. Ageplay, petplay, CNC, you name it. As long as I get to feel submissive and lose control that’s all that matters. I’m also aroused by the thought of virtually any human bodily fluid in the right context, although I leave scat, blood, and vomit to fantasy.
In practice though, I’m not nearly as extreme as my fantasies. The kinkiest things I do with any regularity is light bondage, impact play, body worship, and verbal roleplay. My absolute favorite thing though, is humiliation. I remember having humiliation fantasies as young as 5 years old. Most of my kinky desires have some basis in an urge to feel humiliated. I’ve developed certain kinks solely because I found it particularly embarrassing to have them. Even typing this out this comment with the idea that people will read it and judge me is exciting.
HatchetHaro@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 year ago
that’s more like an 8 tbh. i’m pretty much exactly the same way and i’ve seen more perverse stuff around.
shasta@lemm.ee 1 year ago
Maybe a 10 if they also regularly do all that at sex parties and masturbate in the bathroom at work
Kolanaki@yiffit.net 1 year ago
13
Krejall@ttrpg.network 1 year ago
10, if that’s as high as it goes. I’m judging ‘perversion’ to be a combination of ‘conceptual distance from normative sex’ and ‘the degree to which the average person would be horrified by it.’ I don’t get banned from places because I’m not a jerk, but there aren’t any ‘communities’ for what I’m into anyway. I don’t think my thing even has a name, really. For that matter, it might not actually fit on a scale like this where the assumption seems to be ‘sex plus some stuff.’ My therapist thinks I should write a book about it.
It’s kind of lonely, and it’s a pain in the ass to find porn (I usually have to just make my own) but I did get lucky in that none of it involves kids or animals or anyone incapable of consent.
Imadethis@lemmynsfw.com 1 year ago
I have no idea where I’m at, because the difference between a 9 and a 7, or a 4 and a 7, doesn’t really get into my mind much. I think some of my kinks would get me banned from places, but they’re mostly fantasy. They would never happen in real life. So does that make me a 10, or am I only a 5 because I set hard limits and know I don’t want those things, only to imagine them?
…now, that being said, if there was some way to experience something and recover (so no permanent injuries, physical OR mental), I’d try just about everything. I know I wouldn’t like everything, but I’d try it just to say I had.
Anyway, peg me about a 7. Between the occasional furry fling (and all the craziness drawn art can get up to, whoah), deepthroating 13" dildos, and my libido, I’d say I’m pretty perverted.
Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world 1 year ago
4 + 2i
HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 1 year ago
You’re like that kinky statistician, you need more than standard deviancy.
HipsterTenZero@dormi.zone 1 year ago
Probably about a 5. The monsterfucker fantasy rears its ugly head sure, but unless scientists make hot bara werewolves real and aliens roll up and are dtf, I’m fairly vanilla in practice.
RightHandOfIkaros@lemmy.world 1 year ago
My goals are beyond your understanding.
pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 year ago
10 tbh. No pedophile shit but some things that would probably make some friends break ties with me. My close friends would understand but the ones who I’ve drifted away from over time who are more towards the conservative side of things (NOT conservatives though) would probably just peace out. More public facing, probably a 7 or 8? Let’s go with 8. Into BDSM and a big sub, watersports, impact play, bondage, etc. Petplay, kind of, I’d love to be someone’s pet but animal roleplay isn’t something I’m comfortable with. I’m a huge anal enjoyer and a size queen but I’ve only toyed, never been fucked. Some friends are comfortable with it and I can talk about it casually with them, others aren’t so I don’t bring it up around them. So yeah, in terms of the bell curve, I’m waaaaaay off to the right in sexual weirdness. Took me a long time to get comfortable with it to the extent I can talk about it like this, and now I’m a chronic oversharer. If you want to know about the 10, you can do me, it’s just not something I want available to anyone scrolling through my post history.
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I feel like I’m on par with pixeltree.
Also not comfortable with sharing ALL the details, but aside from pain, which brings me no joy, there isn’t much I wouldn’t at least try once.
r00ty@kbin.life 1 year ago
"it goes up to eleven"
frankenswine@lemmy.world 1 year ago
yes
Anticorp@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Bishma@discuss.tchncs.de 1 year ago
NA
cactusupyourbutt@lemmy.world 1 year ago
probably a 9. I have been timed out for my fantasies once so far
ambitious_bones@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Username checks out
Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Maybe a 3+.
While I’m completely satisfied by vanilla sex with my partner every time, I’m not locked into my personal interests or against the wider spectrum. 3 is where I want it, anything else is just extra credit.
kamenlady@lemmy.world 1 year ago
So, a 10 out of nowhere would be game?
Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I’m not going to commit any crimes, but I had a fling drop knife play on the second hookup and it didn’t phase me. So long as my partner can and does consent I’m good to go.
thefartographer@lemm.ee 1 year ago
Why stop at 10? Go straight to 12 and send in Armie Hammer to sexually cannibalize their ass
infinitevalence@discuss.online 1 year ago
I reject the premise. Sexuality at its core is not, and in in my opinion cannot be perverted. Kinks may have social implications and be less preferred, but outside of overtly illegal acts and non-consensual harm suggesting something is perverted only acts to shame people for natural desires.
AceQuorthon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 year ago
You’re probably an 11 on the scale based on this post
j4k3@lemmy.world 1 year ago
[deleted]noxy@yiffit.net 1 year ago
The legality and external judgements of others are irrelevant to the question.
The concept of perversion is entirely based on the legality and external judgments of others, though. Even in your own example where 10 is being banned from communities as a result.
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Kinky is using a chicken feather. Perverted is using the whole damn chicken.
PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee 1 year ago
Aggressively rubs barbecue sauce on a rotisserie chicken
“Yeah you like that don’t you, you slut!”
kamenlady@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Even then it could have a wide range of pervertedness:
Is the chicken alive?
With or without feathers?
Raw or cooked?
over_clox@lemmy.world 1 year ago
0 - ain’t had any (this year at least)
Angrywaffle2@lemmy.world 1 year ago
6.9