Rhynoplaz

@Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so?⁩ ⁨⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s pretty ironic considering she did what op’s dad did.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so?⁩ ⁨⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  Let me be perfectly clear.

  THIS IS NOT THE KID’S PROBLEM.

  Forcing them to take sides has ONLY NEGATIVE EFFECTS ON THE CHILD. (

  I know you REALLY feel for Mom, and want justice for her, and I don’t disagree with that, and I’m not defending Dad’s actions, but you need to be saying these things to Mom, or her peers (siblings, friends, HER parents)

  You are trying to convince OP to weaponize themselves against their parent in order to enforce justice on someone that you don’t like and have never met.

  Please stop.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so?⁩ ⁨⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  Unless you are their mother and refuse to talk to them, that’s not up to you.

  And if you are, or if she has the same plan, then OP would probably be better off without.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so?⁩ ⁨⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m sure it is hard for Mom right now, but she’s not in the room, so, we’re focusing on OPs well being.

  It is not the kid’s responsibility to be their parent’s support team.

  It is not the kid’s responsibility to dispense justice for the other parent.

  Just because OP is the only character in this story we can interact with, it doesn’t mean that they need to right every wrong in it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Am I allowed to make this post to update about a question I asked a few days ago?⁩ ⁨⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  Good for you!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  So, if she won’t give herself to you, you can stop wasting your time on her and find someone else to hang around and obsess over?

  I recognize this behavior, because I used to do it. Spoiler: it doesn’t work.

  Go meet more people, stop treating women differently from men, and remember: getting laid won’t happen until you stop forcing it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Your feelings for what?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  If she’s not a good enough friend that you’re willing to just walk away from her, then dating is probably a bad idea.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Someone who disbelieves everything they hear is no more informed than someone who believes everything.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Fair enough, but was one of you 30 years older than the other? I’m not saying there aren’t healthy relationships with circumstances that might otherwise be a red flag.

  Hell, when I first hooked up with my current wife, I was her direct supervisor at work. Big red flag there! We ended up breaking it off for the obvious complications, but ran into each other ten years later, tried again under new conditions, and are now happily married with quite the extended family.

  But the combination of a teenager/early 20s and a middle aged person in a situation like those, is more than likely to be a dysfunctional unbalanced relationship.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  When a repeat victim of domestic violence refuses to press charges against their partner, and continues to take them back, as is commonly seen in this scenario, do YOU personally think that is their “choice” (as in: they truly desire to remain in this situation forever) or that they would choose otherwise, but due to emotional trauma and manipulation, they are psychologically unable to get away?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s why I have the pass on a one night stand, but if you think a healthy 7 year relationship can develop from sex alone, you’ve got a lot to learn about relationships.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Again, as a wild no strings attached night of debauchery, sure, it could happen and no harm done. But, let’s be honest, if this is something they are doing often, that’s not really normal behavior, and is often a symptom of an underlying issue.

  I find it much more likely in your scenario, that the older person is manipulating the other person’s depression or emotional trauma and that their relationship is dysfunctional.

  I have a feeling that you were a very horny teenager.

  Sorry, I’ll explain. If someone spent their teenage years obsessed with sex, and thinking about how they’d bang anything that would let them, they’d probably be more understanding of a teenager sleeping with a 50 year old. “I wish I even had that chance” they think so many years later.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  So, first off your example takes advantage of a common yet sexist belief, that men constantly want sex. Some definitely do, but that generalization has led to a general assumption that men cannot be raped or taken advantage of.

  Society has a very different reaction when a female teacher has sex with a male student than when it’s a male teacher and a female student. Even though it’s the same manipulation occurring, we see people congratulating the boy on getting laid, but the poor girl was victimized.

  Now, I’ll admit that your example MAY be totally fine if it is exactly as it plays out in your description: Young guy goes out, and really wants to bring a girl home. So he takes his chances with an older woman, has a one night stand, and everything is consensual. I can see that playing out and both of them being happy with how the night played out.

  If they continue to have a relationship after that, it starts to get creepy. My kids are around the 18-21 range, and I have a few coworkers in that range as well. I get along with them all just fine, but we have so little in common, that I can’t even imagine being in a relationship with somebody at that age.

  I’ve heard people argue “But younger women are objectively more beautiful than older women so why would anyone not want the youngest, prettiest woman they can get?” And to me that’s a clear sign of being a total piece of shit. Anyone who says that is looking for eye candy to look at and show off. This is not someone who cares about a woman’s thoughts and opinions. This is not someone who is looking for a partner. This is someone who sees a woman as an accessory to his lifestyle, and he wants to have the shiniest one in his neighborhood.

  Any middle aged person in a relationship with someone in their teens or twenties is either actively manipulating the younger person, or at best, completely objectifying them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Is this news to anyone?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  No, that still seems creepy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does a one cat get lonely without other cats, or is the company of humans good enough?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Cats are quite social, and your cat might be curious to know what’s outside, but that doesn’t mean it’s good for them. Sure, they probably will have fun out there, but you put them at risk of disease, parasites, territorial strays, and traffic.

  This is terrible advice.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Holy shit I got Retro Achievements working on my Pi Gameboy! Lmao this is so cool. I get to achievement hunt in my favorite game, earthbound after 30 years. Amazing⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  You know that part where you take the secret portal in the bar to another dimension? How do you get past that? I have up on the game because I was just getting slaughtered.

  Fun game until that. it really made me laugh.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Feet are as expressive as the face. Moreso because they are uncorrupted by intelligence.⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m either too high or not high enough to have any idea what this means.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Feet are as expressive as the face. Moreso because they are uncorrupted by intelligence.⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Everybody I know wears shoes, so, I couldn’t say.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how do I stop being a sucker for alcoholic stuff on sale?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Everyone has a different opinion on what makes you an “alcoholic”. I stick with a forgiving scale of: If everything you do revolves around whether or not you can get a drink, you’re an alcoholic.

  I was drinking a lot a few years back. Much more than two beers a day. By my definition above, I wasn’t an alcoholic, but I know others would say otherwise, just based on quantity and not necessity. I was getting drunk for something to do, but if plans came up, I was never conflicted with “should I do this, or get drunk instead?”

  I’ve met high (and low) functioning alcoholics, and there’s a big difference between an addict and someone who drinks frequently. If you don’t feel comfortable with the amount you are drinking, then I recommend changing your habits. But if you’re concerned with what other people might think about your drinking, those are only opinions, and they will vary.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Then why do so many of my neighbors display broken down cars in their front lawns?

  Checkmate, atheists!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨WTF is a rural town in the USA?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  An American Small Town sounds a lot like your village.

  But, we have like 10,000x as much space to spread out in, so we can have these villages every 10 miles or so in every direction. You could easily drive for 24 hours across the country and easily avoid all major cities.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I want a chav boyfriend. Where can I find adult chavs? (If you don't know what that is, they're called bogans in Australia and rednecks in the US)⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Move to a rural town. That’s all we got around here!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Sounds like someone didn’t check their empathy before posting honestly!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  There are people who dress for comfort or the weather, and others dress to impress.

  You can drive a car that’ll get you there, or you can drive one that makes people jealous.

  The people who are concerned with how attractive their partner is to others, are the same people that are worried about how others view their material possessions.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  You sound like you could weave quite a humorous tale.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I heard they were pushing for a blanket ban on Afghans.

  (This is a joke btw)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Now that the Chrisleys are pardoned. Does that mean they still have to pay back the fraudulant money they stole? Or is that written off to?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  They probably used it to buy the pardon.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What games are just objective master pieces?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t see Goldeneye on your list.