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- Comment on What's the deal with male loneliness? 3 weeks ago:
If I’ve met any/interacted with any/they’ve run across my profile on dating/hookup apps and they’ve been interested in me, they haven’t expressed it.
- Comment on What's the deal with male loneliness? 3 weeks ago:
Seeing Lemmy’s reaction to the bear made me want to crawl under a rock to be honest, so many people demonstrating that they’re exactly the reason why women don’t feel safe. A lot more than 10% of men on the internet are weird assholes, they just mask it well until they feel insulted. I’ve had a cis woman friend have to change her screen name because she’d occasionally get clocked and harassed, and a trans friend is really split on the progress she’s making with her voice, because now she’s also getting harassed when using voice chat in games.
Sorry mostly unrelated tangent, it just feels like gender relations have been backsliding
- Comment on What's the deal with male loneliness? 3 weeks ago:
🫂
- Comment on What's the deal with male loneliness? 3 weeks ago:
There’s a few factors working together to cause it. There’s really two main ones: pressure to have sex and romantic connection, and an inability to be able to make those connections.
There’s tons and tons of pressure out there about being in a relationship and having sex. In modern day, a good example is Andrew Tate and the like, directly linking your self worth to having sex. Back when I was a male teenager during the days of rage comics and advice animals, it was memes about the friend zone. The core idea is the same, being alone is something to be ashamed and upset about. Being rejected is something that reflects badly upon you as a person. Young men are constantly being bombarded with messaging about how being a man revolves around sex and romance, and lacking these things makes you less of a man. In addition, so much media portrays sex both as this amazing thing on a pedestal and as something that’s not just commonplace but as something that everyone’s expected to be doing.
So young men are believing that everyone except them are all in relationships and/or fucking all the time, and believing that them not doing those things makes worth less as a human being.
The other problem is actually making romantic or otherwise meaningful connections. So much more socializing is online these days, and there are a lot fewer women on the internet than men. It’s difficult to make organic connections with single women online, as random social media is by far mostly male and more direct closer friend groups tend to be made of single men and people in relationships (this is very arbitrary and circumstancial, it’s just what I’ve noticed). So, your odds of finding a single and compatible friend of a friend of a friend online aren’t great, and dating apps are complete trash for pretty much anything other than gay hookups. So, there’s not really a way for many young men to find romantic partners. Straight up hookups are easier, especially if your standards aren’t too high, but it’s an area a lot of young men aren’t socially comfortable with because it’s not something they’ve done a lot of, which makes everything much harder.
In the end, if there wasn’t so much pressure to be dating and having sex, then the difficulty of doing so in the modern day wouldn’t matter so much.
Personally, I’ve basically only had sex with men, because it’s so much more straightforward and the dating pool isn’t crazy lopsided. Though that’s at an end now too, because I’ve transitioned too much to be appealing to gay men anymore and haven’t transitioned nearly enough to be appealing to straight men or gay women.
- Comment on Do rhymes make sense to deaf people? 3 weeks ago:
Cochlear implants do exist, you know
- Comment on New social experiment 3 weeks ago:
/dimwitdog/
- Comment on If it would solve world hunger, what would be the largest item you could fit in your ass? 3 weeks ago:
Coconut oil is what I recommend for an oil for lube. Both solid and liquid work well, the solid formwlts easily with body heat. It smells nice and is also good for your skin!
- Comment on If it would solve world hunger, what would be the largest item you could fit in your ass? 3 weeks ago:
If it really really came down to it I could probably fit something with a 9" circumference, though it would take me a couple hours of warm up and relaxation. I have a toy that’s 8.5" circumference that I can take, but not easily. That’s what, an eggplant? A rolling pin? A standard single serving soda bottle? Somewhere around there
- Comment on This is in a small convenience store where you can buy food things and heat them up while in the store 3 weeks ago:
That is the joke, yes
- Comment on This is in a small convenience store where you can buy food things and heat them up while in the store 4 weeks ago:
Also, cold piss isn’t nearly as thirsty quenching
- Comment on If we eat three meals a day, why do we poop only once? 4 weeks ago:
I’m at every two to three days now cause I just can’t be fucked to eat much of anything
- Comment on Ah, another New Years... 4 weeks ago:
The same clothes I’ve been wearing for the past week apparently
- Comment on I Need TPU For My Bung Hole! 4 weeks ago:
Just don’t use TPU for your actual bunghole, it’s not body safe and will give you ass cancer
- Comment on Tell her 5 weeks ago:
As it turns out, I think I’m hung =/ I’ve only hooked up with 3 guys but I have a much bigger dick than they did. Kind of a shame, cause I don’t like to use it and it’s wasted on me
- Comment on Which will you choose? 1 month ago:
I’d be miserable both fitting in or trying to be myself, either way. Life is just misery
- Comment on This researcher wants to replace your brain, little by little. The US government just hired a researcher who thinks we can beat aging with fresh cloned bodies and brain updates. 3 months ago:
What if a copy of you woke up in the morning? So you could see your dead body from yesterday, but consciousness would seem as continuous to you as normal–you went to sleep yesterday and effectively woke up today, just in a different body? Would it bother you knowing you weren’t technically the same you as yesterday, even if it seemed like it to you?
- Comment on This researcher wants to replace your brain, little by little. The US government just hired a researcher who thinks we can beat aging with fresh cloned bodies and brain updates. 3 months ago:
Sorry, should have been more specific. If you died in your sleep every night and came back to life in the morning, and you couldn’t tell it was happening, would it matter?
- Comment on This researcher wants to replace your brain, little by little. The US government just hired a researcher who thinks we can beat aging with fresh cloned bodies and brain updates. 3 months ago:
Obviously not, but what is the functional difference? If you can’t tell it’s happening, does it actually matter?
- Comment on How do our brains process reality? I heard our eyes were just low-res cameras and our brains were doing all the heavy lifting in 'rendering' reality. 3 months ago:
The top commenter is correct. It’s why when you glance at a clock with a second hand, it can seem like it takes too long for it to move for the next second. It moved as you moved your eyes, and your brain didn’t make up the movement.
- Comment on Why do Counterstrike and the other top 10 games on Steam NEVER change? 3 months ago:
Which is kind of funny because that corresponds inversely with the quality of the game lol. The game director changed and they have been killing it every since
- Comment on Why do Counterstrike and the other top 10 games on Steam NEVER change? 3 months ago:
Buildcraft + IC2, my beloved
- Comment on I love diablo-likes, but they're also really annoying. 3 months ago:
You specifically called out PoEs passive tree, but honestly the tree isn’t the crazy complicated part of making builds–its finding combinations of mechanics that synergize above average. On the tree sure, but the gear and actual skills are really what makes it crazy. Planning around what items can have what mods and what you can reasonably expect to get on what budget is the real brain disabler for me. I love build crafting, but fuck I hate planning rare tier gear.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
Yeah, I’m not a huge pain person either. I don’t enjoy the pain, I enjoy the submission, if that makes sense. The dom I occasionally see will alternate between spanking me and gently stroking my body, building the anticipation and juxtaposing the pain, and will fake on spanks–it’s truly something I never thought I’d love so much.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
Scat, eh, not my thing but I don’t find it repulsive. Not being grossed out by shit makes enemas more convenient. Watersports, sure, I’ve had a dom use me as a urinal, pretty hot. Rape? Sure, on the receiving end. Mostly in the vein of CNC with bdsm.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
10 tbh. No pedophile shit but some things that would probably make some friends break ties with me. My close friends would understand but the ones who I’ve drifted away from over time who are more towards the conservative side of things (NOT conservatives though) would probably just peace out. More public facing, probably a 7 or 8? Let’s go with 8. Into BDSM and a big sub, watersports, impact play, bondage, etc. Petplay, kind of, I’d love to be someone’s pet but animal roleplay isn’t something I’m comfortable with. I’m a huge anal enjoyer and a size queen but I’ve only toyed, never been fucked. Some friends are comfortable with it and I can talk about it casually with them, others aren’t so I don’t bring it up around them. So yeah, in terms of the bell curve, I’m waaaaaay off to the right in sexual weirdness. Took me a long time to get comfortable with it to the extent I can talk about it like this, and now I’m a chronic oversharer. If you want to know about the 10, you can do me, it’s just not something I want available to anyone scrolling through my post history.
- Comment on Would you trust AI to scan your genitals for STIs? 3 months ago:
Would I trust the accuracy of the output? No, but it might be a decent warning to get tested to make sure. Would I trust a company with pictures of my genitals attached to my identity? Certainly not an AI company.
- Comment on AI bots now beat 100% of those traffic-image CAPTCHAs 3 months ago:
4chan is more than /b/ and /pol/, you know. The porn boards are pretty good at least
- Comment on Most file types are just a renamed .zip 3 months ago:
Notably, java jar files as well.
- Comment on When you inhale helium from a balloon, do you weigh less? 3 months ago:
Weight is purely the effect of gravity on mass. Do you consider yourself to weigh negative weight when you’re floating in a pool and the scale is on the bottom of it?
- Comment on When you inhale helium from a balloon, do you weigh less? 3 months ago:
Less the difference between weight and mass and more the affect of buoyancy on your method of measurement. If you float in water, it doesn’t mean you’re weightless in water. It just means the buoyant force of the water overpowers gravity.