do you use non violent communication at the workplace?

Submitted ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨vestmoria@linux.community⁩ to ⁨nostupidquestions@lemmy.world⁩

I learned what non violent communication is a day ago and I’m using it to mend a friendship.

Have you however used it at the workplace?

I find it unpractical: there are so many things to do at the workplace and the last thing stressed people with deadlines need is to have a conversation about feelings, but maybe I’m wrong?

A question for nurses working bedside: do you actually use non violent communication at your ward with your patients and actually have time to do your other duties, like charting, preparing infusions and meds, dealing with providers, insurance, the alcoholic who fights you, the demented one who constantly tries to leave the unit, the one who wants to leave ama (against medical advice)?

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db2@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

Notable concepts include rejecting coercive forms of discourse, gathering facts through observing without evaluating, genuinely and concretely expressing feelings and needs, and formulating effective and empathetic requests.

Why the fucking fuck does that need a name? People incapable of such basic communication aren’t really going to be fixed by slapping a weird label on it.

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- masterspace@lemmy.ca ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Because once it has a name, it makes it easier to describe and reference in research literature, and thus makes it easier to draw conclusions on.
  
  Everything has some super specific name that professionals in some field use for it because they regularly need to distinguish it from other similar things.
  
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  - phoenixz@lemmy.ca ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Great
    
    Use a different name as this has nothing to do with violence and it is unhelpful. Violence is physical and as soon as you make any inconvenience in communication “violence” then you just get lost in pedantic semantics.
    
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  - Perspectivist@feddit.uk ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    We don’t call people non-golfers either.
    
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- CrayonDevourer@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  It reminds me of people on LGBT forums going: “I’m a man, and I like women, but I don’t feel sexual attraction towards all of them, only the ones I feel a connection with; what are my labels?”…and needing to tell them “NORMAL! NORMAL IS YOUR LABEL!”.
  
  Meanwhile everyone is like “Oh, you’re ace+/romantic”…/sigh…
  
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  - Grimy@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    We really need to bring back the “it’s complicated” panel but for sexuality instead of relationships. We can just dump 90% of people in there and call it a day.
    
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  - CmdrShepard49@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Tribalism has run rampant. Stuff like this is fairly innocuous if a bit much. When people get militant about it then it becomes a problem.
    
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  - narr1@lemmy.ml ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    what i really wonder is why you gotta bring out your bigotry if you just disagree with the concept of non-violent communication?
    
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- ValarieLenin@midwest.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Wait till you learn about how language works …
  
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J52@lemmy.nz ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago
Isn’t it directly related to ‘non-violent conflict resolution’ ? Maybe people should look at that first to get a grasp. As for real world benefits look at the outcomes (effects) in schools (Netherlands and other places in the world where it’s already taught).

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phoenixz@lemmy.ca ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I seriously dislike these somewhat new wording because it trivializes actual problems.

In this case it makes anything that isn’t sweet and nice and places it directly at the same severity as actual violence

For those that can’t distinguish between actual violence and hurt feelings, I don’t know what to tell you, but there is a huge difference between me breaking your bones and me breaking your heart

I’m not trying to negate shitty bosses or toxic work environments, not at all, but I hate that this is now called violence.

It’s the same as people calling everything rape. You’re staying out late in a hotel lobby with some people and when going back up in the elevator you ask the girl that was with you of she would like to join you for a nightcap? Yeah, raaaape! (This happened)

I get the point of it but I feel that the definition of this very “non violent communication” literally makes it “violence” within itself.

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- narr1@lemmy.ml ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  i really don’t know what you’re on about at the start, but exactly which definition of nonviolent communication literally makes nonviolent communication violence within nonviolent communication? i honestly can’t follow
  
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black_flag@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Maybe the reason why nonviolent communication seems foreign in the workplace is because there is violent communication inherent to the workplace relationship.

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makeitwonderful@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago
I like this playlist of sessions by the creator of Nonviolent Communication for anyone interested in learning more about the concept.

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cloudless@piefed.social ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
No I only communicate violently. /s

It is not unpractical. You don’t need to follow every bullet point for every conversation. In most cases a normal professional conversation just need to be respectful. Some of the non violent techniques are only important in specific situations (e.g. difficult colleague in a stressful scenario)

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jbrains@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Yes. I focus on making direct requests and on trying to understand the unmet needs of others. A large part of what I do is train people to believe that they can say “no” to me without arbitrary repercussions.

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Kyrgizion@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
It sounds like a crock of shit for weasels who can’t look reality in the eye.

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- meekah@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  It sounds like someone hurt you and in turn you want to hurt others unnecessarily.
  
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  - Kyrgizion@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    1/2. I calls em like I sees em.
    
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Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Yes I do if I really need to clean the air or if I want something from the boss but I’m a factory worker so with my colleagues the need rarely arises. If it does it’s pretty funny to see how seamlessly you can actually switch between brutal workplace banter and sharing something genuine. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time if you’re upfront with it.

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Regna@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
So…

Do you always have deadlines?

Do you have time to have breaks (preferably with coworkers), at least two separate apart from lunch (one before lunch break and one after)?

Do your coworkers always talk about work during those breaks?

Bathroom breaks do not count, and you shouldn’t anyhow bother colleagues with feelings during bathroom breaks.

For 2 and 3, yes, it’s normal to talk about emotions and feelings, as long as you’re not overshadowing other peoples need to vent.

For 1, get a different job if you’re not constantly striving for heart attacks, kidney failures or brain strokes.

For 4, I was going to make a very dumb joke, but… change work place.
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