jbrains

@jbrains@sh.itjust.works

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What programs do you wish a good FOSS alternative existed, but doesn't or most of the FOSS alternatives simply aren't good?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  First, thank you for the thoughtful and detailed reply. I find it helpful.

  Plain text accounting (and all the variants) sounds great, right until you need to use it to generate invoices, or depreciate assets, or do a monthly Business Activity Statement, or convert a currency, track repayments, etc.

  All of those things require that you write software to achieve that, which means that now instead of solving problems and writing software for my clients, I’m burning hours writing software so I can run my business

  Oddly enough, I feel the opposite: I’m so glad that I have the freedom to use other tools to do what I need and that I can simply write some custom software to achieve that. I always felt locked in by QuickBooks and now I can do anything from messing around in a spreadsheet to writing what I need with jq. Plain text as an interface means that the sky is the limit for flexibility.

  It has also made my company’s financial information more accesible to me. Previously, I’d given it over to bookkeepers and accountants and only seen out of date financial statements when it was time to file taxes. Now I know what’s going on whenever I want.

  It has also turned bookkeeping into a programming exercise, which made me more interested, not less. I don’t have clients waiting impatiently for me to produce features for them, so I can enjoy this wro instead of having it feel like a distraction.

  I’ve been writing software for over 40 years and until last week I’d never heard of it. That’s not something you want in business software.

  I feel that!

  Because I’m still running a 25 year old accounting package that doesn’t run on current hardware, isn’t supported, doesn’t run under Linux and has all my data hostage.

  Our motivations definitely seem compatible, even if our constraints and preferences don’t.

  Thanks again. Good luck.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What programs do you wish a good FOSS alternative existed, but doesn't or most of the FOSS alternatives simply aren't good?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve been using Plain Text Accounting for the past two years and have mostly enjoyed my experience. I’ve found hledger both well documented and well supported. I don’t know the space very well, so which applications and/or packages have you tried?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Am I going crazy, or has people's spelling gotten awful lately?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I speak a couple of languages in which there is no continuous present, but rather they use phrases such as “I sit and study Swedish” to mean “I’m studying Swedish (as in right now, that’s the task I’m doing)” or “I am in the process of reading a book”. They don’t change the form of the verb to highlight this continuous aspect, so perhaps they aren’t used to it.

  Add to that that the continuous aspect in English is surprisingly complicated and arbitrary. If you try to nail down rules for how and when to use it, you might struggle. 😉 Folks struggling to use it correctly might be overcorrecting or merely confused.

  There are, I’m sure, other reasons, but this is enough to account for some of what you’re seeing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Am I going crazy, or has people's spelling gotten awful lately?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  The distinction between simple past and past participle is disappearing in English. I’m curious whether it will be considered quaint to distinguish them before I’m dead.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do people develop feelings for someone?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I suppose I don’t understand yet what you expect from a “relationship” that’s different from a friendship, so it’s hard to offer any advice.

  If you want to have sex with someone, it helps to ask. I understand that asking has risks, so you probably want to have some sense that the other person is not going to hit you before you ask. 😉 I don’t know how to magically get them to ask you, except for maybe being generally sexually irresistible. That’s outside my expertise.

  As you learn what you want, it will become easier to look for it and ask for it. Maybe it would help you to think more about what you want for now.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do people develop feelings for someone?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s not clear to me yet what you want: not too serious, but more than friends, so… sex?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do people develop feelings for someone?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Nothing wrong with that, but then what is your actual challenge here?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do people develop feelings for someone?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I just don’t know how to (for lack of a better word) make others see me for more than just a friend.

  You don’t. It’s complex and subtle and annoying. 😉

  You don’t turn someone who doesn’t love you into some who does. You keep looking until you find a person who was already going to love you. And there are many, even when it doesn’t seem like there are. And it takes a maddeningly long time for some folks. It did for me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people insist on not answering ALL the questions in an email or text message?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not sure. Maybe. Sometimes. I don’t know.

  I can only tell you that my best results have come from replying with a neutral “Thank you”, then repeating the questions. I prefer it when they answer all my questions, but ultimately, if I want answers, I need to persist, and so I do.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What’s normal is that you had a traumatic experience, then internalized a Survival Rule to avoid repeating the behavior that led to the trauma. Depending on your age when the original incident happened, the Survival Rule might sit very deep, causing you to follow it even without thinking and without knowing why.

  All that is normal: expected, sensible, reasonable.

  The rule itself might no longer be needed. Can you imagine a situation in which it would be perfectly fine to interpret as a joke something that someone says without specifying it as a joke? Can you imagine three? Ten?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨low iq in love with high iq person, is that bad??⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Forget IQ for a moment, for all the good reasons that other people have given you.

  One of you will know more than the other or learn more easily than the other. That’s unavoidable. Even if the gap seems small, there might be key moments where the gap causes conflict. This is going to happen, whether it’s you or them who “is ahead”.

  The question is this: how do you handle it?

  If you treat each other with contempt, that’s a problem. That could be you assuming that they are always going to look down or you or them assuming that you’re not trying to “be better”. There are many ways for this kind do contempt to show itself in your relationship. Each of you has the responsibility to not think that way. Each of you has the responsibility for accepting and loving the other.

  If you can’t learn to do that, then your relationship is doomed to fail. If you can learn to do that, then you stand a chance.

  You both can choose.

  Some things about my partner used to irritate me and I learned to accept them for the things they’ve tried to change but just can’t. That acceptance is key.

  Good luck and peace.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If a mysterious force secretly changed EVERY clock worldwide one minute forward, how long would it take until people notice, and how would people/governments react?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, I’ve heard. And even when they were quite punctual, a difference of one minute was very noticeable and reliably commented on.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If a mysterious force secretly changed EVERY clock worldwide one minute forward, how long would it take until people notice, and how would people/governments react?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  *Germany has entered the chat. *

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what is the actual name of this type of „logic”?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  False syllogism (you’re Chinese, so you’re an asshole) or premature generalization (some Chinese people are assholes, therefore all Chinese people are assholes).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is it considered sexist to ask women to smile?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m enjoying being told about these counterexamples, as I’m seeing even more clearly how this attitude is embedded in our shared culture.

  So far, all the specific contexts in which men are being told to smile is one in which others feel entitled to the man attempting to impress them. In contexts such as dating or performing on video or working in retail, this doesn’t particularly surprise me.

  I suppose another reasonable context is one in which the people asking you to smile are genuinely worried about your emotional state and want you to seem happier. By chance is it typically like that for you? (Let’s set aside for now the complex matter of whether they actually want you to feel better or they merely want to control your behavior or feel less uncomfortable themselves.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is it considered sexist to ask women to smile?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  How interesting! That makes it even less surprising.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is it considered sexist to ask women to smile?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s one exception that doesn’t surprise me. Do you have any sense how often they are doing this with intentional irony compared with genuine obliviousness?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is it considered sexist to ask women to smile?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Tell us a story of the last time you witnessed someone telling a man to smile because he would look so much better if he did.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨why does everyone i know treat me like a child or if i was a very childlike person??⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Think of the people who seem to do this to you. Pick the one who trust the most. Now ask them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not disparaging the dead or anything. But why does it seem in the US we are expected to feel sorry for a person who overdoses on illegal drugs? Didn't they make the choice knowing the outcome?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  There is an emerging field of research that reframes addiction as a reasonable reaction to traumatic conditions. This doesn’t explain all addiction, but it seems to explain a large amount of it. We are learning how complex a condition addiction can be and that makes it easier to feel compassion for these folks.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What do you create?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  A hopeful path towards peace for people who struggle with stress at their job.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the point of a long-distance friendship?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In that case, I’m not sure you’re missing anything and I’m not even sure you have a problem to solve here.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the point of a long-distance friendship?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I understand better. I might relate, too.

  I’m not the type to keep relationships “alive” by checking in, but at the same time, when someone re-enters my life after even years, it can be as though no time had passed. If I can help, I will. We can chat for minutes or hours. I’m happy to pick up where we left off.

  I have the distinct impression that many other people don’t operate this way. I do. Do you?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the point of a long-distance friendship?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The same as any friendship: mutual support and love. What you’re describing sounds like an acquaintance to me, not a friend, if conversations don’t develop past small talk. Maybe that’s what you’re missing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do cell phones have a data limit but home internet doesn't?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Where are my Rogers home internet customers at? 🇨🇦

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Canadian. Didn’t see this option yet. Anyone else?