vestmoria

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• those of you with good skills to defuse a tense situation at the workplace, what advice can you give me?
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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  you are right, but somehow I cannot stop ruminating about this. Just thinking about them and how I was treated infuriates me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I must insist you read the thread again. I haven’t even started my new job.

  Kindly point where I’m having the exact same issues at a new job I haven’t even started.

  calm down, think before writing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  thank you

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  this is bed nursing specific

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t know if this is PTSD, but the mere mention of their names and remembering them infuriates me.

  I know I should be better than this and leave the past behind me, but somehow I cannot.

  At least I’m eating and resting well

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is like the 6th thread I’ve seen on here by you, every one almost identical in that you hate your job, you hate everyone there, everyone is mean to you, everyone else is lazy, etc

  then read the thread again dude, apparently you didn’t notice I no longer work there

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  People won’t like you for it but you won’t care.

  actually, some unidentified coworkers complained I’m not friendly and the way I speak is demanding.

  My former supervisor seemed to care about this because she came to me with these accusations, repeatedly. I still don’t know if this something big enough to fire somebody.

  I don’t care, don’t give a fuck but apparently hr does…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Don’t give a fuck attitude going forward is a must.

  I’m gonna have to ask you to explain here:

  I stopped giving a fuck about my coworkers 2 weeks before calling in sick, like, fuck them and I hope they burn in hell. If I ever have to set foot at that god forsaken piece of shit ward I’m calling in sick again. Fuck em.

  I also don’t give a fuck about any of my former managers.

  I don’t want to to say I don’t give a flying fuck about my current hospital, because I’m staying with them on a different role until I find something better, which may or may not happen, but it’s a clock in clock out and I’m fucking done with you and fuck you asshole situation

  you suggest not giving a fuck even going forward? but I do need to give a fuck not to lose my new position until I have secured a newer one, right? I don’t even know if I’m going to hate the new position away from patients as much as the ward.

  you other 3 bullet points are great though

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  so I’m going to have a way to work and sustain myself while doing some therapy?

  Did you do therapy or simply started your new job and somehow your brain forgot that part of your former life? Talked to friends?

  I’ll watch the video now

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t want to go to work dreading having to go to work, I don’t want to think about how I’m going to be yelled at, what snarky remarks I’m gonna have to hear, what coworkers are going to lazy around while I work and their sit on their asses, I don’t want to prepare a working plan for the day only to be completely ignored by a coworker that, while not my superior, feels and acts like it only because she’s been there longer than me.

  I don’t want to go to work in fear.

  this looks like PTSD now.

  I want to go to work to do the job to the best of my abilities feeling rested, to do my pauses as stipulated in the contract, to avoid drama and go home.

• I'm burnt out, already changed jobs, what else can I do to go back to my normal self?
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• do you use non violent communication at the workplace?
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• what advice can you give me to try and mend a broken friendship so we don't interrupt each other or yell at each other while trying to solve our issues?
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• what's your take on employers banning the use of languages other than English between coworkers at the workplace?
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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨does the new employee eventually stop being the one given the most tasks?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  or admit I hate nursing and I have to quit bedside.

  really. I hate nursing.

• how are you able to care more about your job itself than the people at your job?
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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨does the new employee eventually stop being the one given the most tasks?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  if this is true, it’s better I work alone

• so I'm thin skinned and cannot get over established coworkers lazying around massively while I toil. Kudos to all of you who can. I want out.
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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨does the new employee eventually stop being the one given the most tasks?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  yes

• thick skinned employees, how can you be so thick skinned?
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• does the new employee eventually stop being the one given the most tasks?
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• do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated?
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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  wow… good post

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  none of us actually care about how anyone else’s weekends were or how the other person’s kids are doing.

  got it, you ask to fake interest in the other person so he feels valued. Seems ridiculous and a waste of intellect.

  It seems the best I can do is working alone. These rituals are way too complicated for me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what does it mean being nice to your coworkers to you?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  that would be cruel

• what does it mean being nice to your coworkers to you?
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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  being nice is all it takes.

  if you mean I have to do this I shouldn’t even waste my time and look for jobs where I work alone. Step 2 is already Get to know your coworkers which for the most part, are irrelevant to me. And I can’t fake that.

  Saying hi is not enough?

  I have no problem with those who have something interesting to say but most of them for the most part care about stuff so asinine it makes me want to kill them and then myself.

  Either I learn really fast to deflect very successfully or I start working alone. To keep my sanity.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  You don’t have to socialize. But being a decent person means sacrificing your comfort for others’ sometimes.

  you seem to imply there’s something like a middle point between fully socializing and being decent, which I guess means talking but less? Is this so?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  You don’t sound ND, you just sound like you don’t care to change. That’s different.

  the people who criticize me are not that important to me that warrant I change to some version of what they consider better. I’ve reached a point where it doesn’t make sense anymore to try to be a better, more knowledgeable professional but simply finding a job where people leave me alone. At least I’d be happier.

  I guess I’m full misanthrope now