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• Fuck_u_spez_@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I’m going to dodge the question entirely but I’ll pass along this fact as told to me by a urologist/surgeon:

  After ten years, the chances of a successful reversal surgery drop by about 50%.

  Also, consider writing down a list of pros and cons and see which column ends up longer.

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• FreedomAdvocate@lemmy.net.au ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Absolutely 100% too young. When you’re 27 you’ll look back at when you were 22 and think you were so dumb compared to now. When you’re 32 you’ll think you were dumb at 27, and that at 22 you were an absolute imbecile.

  At 22 you’re basically still a teenager mentally. Making major permanently life altering decisions at 22 is a terrible idea. There’s no need to get a vasectomy until you’ve got kids and don’t want any more imo. There are plenty of non-permanent contraception options for until then.

  Not to mention getting a vasectomy will massively decrease your potential wife pool.

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  • Taalnazi@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    To each their own, is my creed; I personally think it’s best to go with the easiest effective solution. Anticonception will do a good job in that regard.

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• FanciestPants@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Anecdotally, I feel like im a pretty different person than I was when I was 22. Had first kid at 34, and am now 42.

  Analytically, I can’t know for sure if I would have significantly different feelings (e.g. regret, relief, etc.) if I had made different decisions. I recognize that the world is different now for 22 year olds compared to when I was 22. If “regret” avoidance is the main objective, then I’d guess that you could make a better assessment of potential outcomes (your possible feelings of regret) than your family as long as you’ve considered all of those outcome scenarios.

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• Walk_blesseD@piefed.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Hell nah lmao I got surgically sterilised at 22 (had most of my reproductive system cut out), and while my attitudes towards children have softened since then it's still the best decision I ever made.

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• Godric@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Yeah dude, that’s very young, you must be tapping everything that moves if a vasectomy sounds better than wearing a condom

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• ileftreddit@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I had my daughter at 38. Everyone’s journey is different. I never wanted kids; the idea scared me, up until my daughter was born. I would not trade her for anything. I’d gladly kill for her. I’d gladly die for her. The greatest joy I have ever known.

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• hanrahan@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Had mine at 20, am nkw.59, no regrets.

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• Tollana1234567@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  that is very young, are you rawdogging all the time, or having lots of sex.

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• daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Unless you have a stable partner there’s no much point on a vasectomy. You will need to use a condom regardless.

  I would wait until there’s a strong reason for getting it. Most people wait until they have a stable partner they want to have unprotected sex with.

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• MTK@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Imo, if you are not in a hurry, wait a bit.

  I knew I wanted one since about your age, I waited about 4 years until I realized that nothing is changing and I went ahead.

  But I’m glad I waited because I now feel very at peace with it and I don’t feel the need to explain it to others.

  When my family said that I will change my mind I just ignored them because it felt so meaningless when I already know I wanted this for so many years.

  Just remember that it is mostly permanent, there is no guarantee that you can reverse it.

  Good luck!

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• Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I had friends 40 years ago in their early 20s that were adamant that they never wanted kids. Some of them stayed that way and are going into retirement childless and most of them are happy with their decision. A few aren’t but can’t do anything about it. The others discovered, that with with right person, they did want kids and are just as happy. Hard to say which you will be. I know a few young women banking eggs in case they change their mind 10+ years from now and want to have biological children. Can you bank sperm to hedge your bet?

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  • Tollana1234567@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    sperm bank probably? but it will be stranger, i dont know how it works if you wan to keep it in storage.

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• MushuChupacabra@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Your genes, your decision if you want to retain the capacity to spread them or not.

  Vasectmies are reversible, so the objections youre facing are irrelevant.

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  • scrion@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    No, they’re not always reversible. You can opt for one that isn’t, and even if you decide to go for it, it might simply not work.

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    • MushuChupacabra@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      You can also die from a knee replacement.

      As it turns out, that’s not the typical outcome, so people still get knee replacements, despite the non-zero chance of death during the procedure.

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    • daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Correct me if I’m wrong. But your testicles will still produce valid material don’t they? That could be extracted and used for artificial insemination if needed, I think.

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  • kamenlady@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Vasectmites

    *Viltremites entered the chat *

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    • TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      OH NO

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• ReiRose@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I never wanted kids. I have one now im 40, and no regrets there, but the fact they’re my biological child is bc my husband really wanted that. I would’ve been fine with adopting.

  Consider you meet an amazing woman who really wants kids, and her her you’ll do it, would you be OK with adopting? Or may e she wants to experience pregnancy, would you be ok with a sperms donor? You may find someone you really want to have kids with, in which case you may have to do a reversal. Ask the dr about all the options.

  Chances are you won’t change your mind, but you might, life is a funny thing. Have a plan and maybe even write a letter to your future self. What’s your reasoning?

  Your body your choice but this is a big decision, so think it through

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• Nemo@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Not too young. If you change your mind about wanting kids, adopt. But you probably won’t change your mind.

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• BurgerBaron@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  You know yourself better than us and I don't kbow your reasoning behind that "it's just not my thing" so I can't tell you either way.

  I've never wanted kids and wish I had gotten a vasectomy earlier than 28. I'm 35 now. Looking at the world, I can't say it's done anything but constantly reaffirm the same conculsions I've drawn since I started thinking about sterilizing myself at 16.

  I never changed my mind because my reasons weren't shallow. More of a reaction to my environment and the nightmare nature of reality most refuse to acknowledge, choosing delusions and unevidenced beliefs instead.

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  • peachgelato@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

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    • 37piecesof_flare@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      I share the sentiment and have always felt the same way since I started thinking about it (even as a kid myself). The idea of having kids never appealed to me, I don’t like being around them, never have, still don’t at 35. I have a handful of nephews/nieces now and still don’t enjoy hanging around them even for short bursts of time… I don’t have the patience for the screaming, crying, breaking shit, tantrums, messes, etc.

      It’s a 24/7 job for at least the next 20 years if you go through with it.

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    • BurgerBaron@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Hmm okay, in this case I think there's a high chance your preferences could change as you age.

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• WaffleWarrior@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I am against them in general. At your age? To me borders in insanity. Might me the unpopular opinion here but yes, I wouldn’t do it.

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  • occultist8128@infosec.pub ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Sometimes I feel a bit off when unpopular opinions get heavily downvoted. I mean, can we keep the comments diverse? I might disagree with someone, but I won’t downvote them just so their opinion doesn’t get buried.

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• hperrin@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  My sister never wanted kids until she was about 35. So, it can happen.

  But vasectomies are often reversible, so if you really want it, I don’t think you should let that idea stop you.

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• coaxil@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Knew I didn’t want or like kids at age 10, nearly 41 now , and that dislike of children is stronger every day. One of the better choices in my life was to get sterilized and not have the anxiety of possible baby ever again! Legit get happy every time I think about how less awesome my life would be if kids where in it! You do you man!

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• Mubelotix@jlai.lu ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Peiple in this thread act like it would prevent you from having kids. No it wouldn’t. There will always be plenty of people agreeing to give away their sperm. And nobody has to know

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• Twinklebreeze@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I didn’t want kids until I was late 20’s. You might be different, but biology could hit you hard. I just had a vasectomy ~2 mos. ago and my second kid is due around thanksgiving. You do you, but be prepared for biology to disappoint you potentially.

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• pfr@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Just find a woman that swallows dude. Don’t neuter yourself just yet. Also the pill is very effective these days, and a chemical abortion is also cheap and less invasive than a vasectomy. And if your smart and in a long term relationship you can track your partners ovulation and raw dog some of the time.

  What I’m saying is, there are other options. Your also presuming that all the women you fuck will be ok with no condom. Women care about std’s too so you might find yourself needing to wear a rubber anyway. That would be ironic.

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• UnpledgedCatnapTipper@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  It’s your body and your life, do what you feel is right for yourself. If you’re fully aware of the risks and consequences, and you feel it is the right thing for you, then you should do it. Bodily autonomy is important, and personal medical decisions are between you and your doctor.

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• Dead_or_Alive@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  22 is too young. From a purely clinical point of view your brain isn’t done maturing and you haven’t hit the prime years of your life.

  But there is no option in the US for male birth control and there is a chance that the vasectomy can be reverse, so do what you think you need t so. It’s not a chance I would take though.

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• Serinus@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Is your life likely to change significantly in the next five years? Most people go through fairly big changes in their 20s. How will your future significant other feel about it? Do you care, or is it a deal breaker?

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• unmagical@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  My family always told me that I’d grow more conservative and want a family of my own as I grow older.

  As I aged I went from ambivalence toward politics and kids to decidedly anti-conservative and anti-kid.

  You know your own feelings on the matter more than your family does, and letting your family dictate how you live your life will lead to resentment and misery.

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• PennyRoyal@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  One of my mates got his plums snipped in his 20s, still doesn’t regret it. Another of my mates spent his whole life saying he wasn’t going to have kids, and seriously considered the snip, but was grateful he didn’t when he met the now mother of his kids in his mid 40s. Life’s weird, and only (and sometimes not even) you can really know your own mind

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• zxqwas@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  When I was 20 they told me that I’d change my mind about kids when I’m older.

  I’m still waiting to get older.

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• suodrazah@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Is freezing some guys an option just in case? Or have I watched to many movies?

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  • FuglyDuck@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    The vasectomies are usually reversible. It’s not a non issue as it’s usually expensive and not covered by insurance, and it’s not 100% every case, but it can be done.

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• pHr34kY@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  The doc questiones why I wanted a vasectomy at 30, which he thought was young.

  “I have 3 kids already.”

  That’s all it took to convince him.

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• Schlemmy@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  It’s reversible

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  • camelbeard@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Meh, it’s definitely not 100% chance of success. Every year that passes reduces the chance of a succes to reverse it. Also there is always a risk for other complications like ending up with erectile dysfunction, the chance is really small, but I wouldn’t take it too lightly. Mine also hurt like hell for a week and everything was purple blue. I’m probably the exception, but I definitely don’t want to do it a second time.

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  • tomjuggler@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    A friend who had it reversed said that the reverse op was extremely painful (Vs the vasectomy which apparently was painless)

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    • camelbeard@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      This is what everyone I know that had one told me. The operation was not that bad, maybe a 5/10 on pain. The days after my ballsack was getting really purple blue and parts of my penis also. After about a week I went to a doctor to make sure this was “normal”, he said everything looked ok, but I’m just unlucky as for most guys it is almost painless. About 10 days after things got better in a couple of days.

      I don’t want to scare anyone but going in thinking it will not hurt is not for everyone. For me thinking it shouldn’t hurt (while it did) made me worry much more, thinking they might have messed something up.

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