Daily Affirmation

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• jonathan7luke@lemmy.zip ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Tbh, I don’t really want to be in a relationship with anyone who’s standards are low enough to like me. Guess I’ll be alone forever. 🫡

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  • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Same, like I have options but I just don’t want to settle for the kind of girl who’s willing to settle for me. I’m not lonely though and enjoy being free to do whatever I want all the time so it’s whatever.

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  • Klear@quokk.au ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    That’s some Groucho Marx level shit, I hope you get better.

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  • Deceptichum@quokk.au ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    That’s some incel level shit, I hope you get better.

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  • Tudsamfa@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    That’s definitely an accurate analysis of your troubles, I hope you get worse.

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  • roguetrick@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    That’s some shit, I hope.

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  • ivanafterall@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    That’s some self-sabotage shit, I hope you get better.

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  • Janx@piefed.social ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    That’s some toxic self-hatred level shit, I hope you get better.

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  • Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    That some low self esteem shit, I hope you get better.

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• Trainguyrom@reddthat.com ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I’ve seen some of the most terrible people inaginable manage to find themselves in a relationship. There really is someone for everyone

  There was this one dude I met at an event, literally would hit on every single conventionally attractive woman he encountered. If he was sitting in a space with multiple women he’d hit on one woman for a bit then realize he’s not getting anywhere and turn and start hitting on the next woman as if she didn’t just witness him hitting on 3 other women before moving onto her. Personality of soggy cardboard that constantly tries to cheat on you. Yeah he had a girlfriend while this was all going on. I got to hear him have half-ass phone sex where he both called her “baby” and “mommy” within 2 sentences. Then that evening he cheated on her with a friend of a friend who I’d really hoped had better standards than that.

  Point is, if a dude who literally repells everyone around him the moment he opens his mouth (and he doesn’t stop opening his mouth) can get in a relationship, you can too.

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  • TheBat@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    no.

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• MissJinx@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  In my case it’s a paradox. If I meet someone I like we won’t have much in commom because people that have things in commom with me and that would be great company are not out there meeting people, like I’m not also.

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• Rooty@lemmy.world ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I hope the OP is 16, this is incel sadposting

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  • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Is it?

    I thought it was straight people problems. I.e. I’m not attracted to men so I don’t understand why women like me. But they do shrug

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  • TheBat@lemmy.world ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    No u

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• Jankatarch@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  See I can only think up to “if I was a girl” before being completely derailed into other thoughts from there.

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• Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I don’t hate myself at all, but I honestly don’t see how my spouse manages to not just like my, but actually have me as his partner. It’s so weird, I’d go crazy if I had to live with me.

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  • abbadon420@sh.itjust.works ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    My wife says the same thing. I hate it. I want her to love herself as much as I do and I wish she could see how beautiful she is in my eyes.

    I am sure your spouse also wants you to love yourself as he does and for you to see the beauty he sees.

    We all want to make our partners happy and loving yourself that way might possibly the happiest you can be.

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• krooklochurm@lemmy.ca ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  It’s the damndest thing.

  When you work on yourself, like yourself, and invest in your interests, women are more attracted to you.

  Like. The easiest way to trick people into liking you is to be a good person. And then one day you’re like: hey, I can’t believe this is working, tenting your fingers, and you can’t think of anything you’ve done in a decade that you hate yourself for and you’re like: holy shit, AM I a good person?

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  • exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    There are qualities about myself that I really like to be present in the people in my life (including my wife, and previous partners I’ve had): smart, empathetic, funny, fun, interesting, charismatic, confident.

    There are also qualities in myself that I need to actively rely on others in my life to help me mitigate, and that I don’t like to bring into my own life: disorganized, absent minded, easily distracted. I like for the people in my life to be the opposite. Also in terms of physical attraction I am a man who is attracted to women, so I want the “opposite” of myself in that respect, too.

    And there are qualities that I don’t have, that I really like for my partner to have: kind, emotionally supportive, spontaneous.

    There are qualities about myself that I don’t much care one way or another whether my partners or my friends have: extroverted, athletic, technically minded.

    And when talking about actual interests and hobbies and background and experience and knowledge, there’s a lot that I like to see that are true of myself, and a lot that I like to see that aren’t true of myself.

    Ultimately, a partner is going to have some overlapping things with yourself, some differences, and the question you have to ask yourself is whether you’re a good fit for each other. That answer is going to depend a lot on different things.

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    • krooklochurm@lemmy.ca ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      If you are not kind or emotionally supportive you a) have no right to expect the same from a partner and b) probably shouldn’t have one.

      A partnership requires emotional support from both partners. To expect this to go one way is fucked up.

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• Dyskolos@lemmy.zip ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  “I’m 12 and this is deep” would be a nice subreddit for this crap bordering incel-dogma.

  Sorry, but everyone (except pedos, murderers and the likes) deserves to be loved. There is no international norm nor measure of love-worthyness. And it surely wouldn’t be defined by your face, your income, your schlongsize, your height or your whatever.

  Just because there are legions of ugly (inside) people who define your worth based solely on above mentioned criteria, doesn’t mean there aren’t solid people out there who don’t. It just gets tiresome, sorting out the bad raisins. And if you’re absolutely adamant that you’re ugly inside too (which is probably just the work of others): be the change you want to see in this world, or be a pussy and give up.

  Stop frequenting sites/people who pamper your already skewed worldview and drag you deeper into THEIR void…avoid toxic people by all means. No matter who they are.

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  • dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Crashing out in a shitpost 😂

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    • Dyskolos@lemmy.zip ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I have the time to do this and it surely couldn’t hurt OP more than others did. And it made an intellectually superior being, like you, have fun. Well worth my time 😁

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  • TheBat@lemmy.world ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    No u

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  • abfarid@startrek.website ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    But in the same comment you said “everyone deserves to be loved” and “[everyone should] avoid toxic people”. That doesn’t follow.

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    • Dyskolos@lemmy.zip ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Everyone with exceptions. Add people who are toxic to others to that exceptions. Or try to flood them with love in hope to cure their toxicity. Your choice.

      And surely it’s not just black and white but gradual. You might be mildly toxic due to other toxic people and just haven’t reflected enough yet. Or you might be a cesspool of hate and poison, way beyond the point of possible repair.

      I surely can’t fit all this into a simple formula. It’s a general guideline. And if it’s shit to you then just ignore and make up your own 😊

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• Bruhh@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  If you don’t like yourself it’s because you aren’t your type but you are definitely someone else’s type. This doesn’t mean there isn’t room for self improvement to increase your chances of falling in someone’s range.

  Just being confident about who you are rather putting yourself down goes along way. Though you could argue that being a pessimist is part of your personality but the only people you will attract will be those trying to fix you.

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• SpicyTaint@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Hey, that’s me! 🫶

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  • TheBat@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Us bro us🫂

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• Wigglesworth@retrolemmy.com ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Of course you wouldn’t, gender is a only a social construct. I hate all sorts of people and I’d hate them all the same as a girl.

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• captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Be someone you want to date. Then date yourself. I hear of a beautiful pool that nobody but me seems to really see the beauty in

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  • exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Be someone you want to date.

    Got myself some big floppy boobs, now what

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  • TheBat@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Get out of room mom!!!

    And just how high are you right now?

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    • QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      5’5

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• ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  At some point, self-hatred is just masturbation.

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  • Klear@quokk.au ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I tried both but it just doesn’t compare.

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  • Janx@piefed.social ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    You might be whacking off wrong.

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