I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me
Get a vasectomy
Any advice for me a guy turning 18 yo old??
Submitted 9 hours ago by Naive@leminal.space to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 28 minutes ago
bigredgiraffe@lemmy.world 57 minutes ago
Lots of good advice here and I am not THAT old but here are a few things I wish I had realized sooner in life (in no particular order or theme):
- No one really knows what they are doing, more experienced people usually have just made the mistakes already.
- There is a difference between being correct and getting someone to agree you are correct, the former is the most important and the latter is not always possible or desired and when to argue and when to let someone be wrong is a skill that takes practice.
- The less time spent worrying about what other people think of you the happier you will be and the easier life will feel. In almost all situations you spend more time thinking about whatever it is than the other person does.
- Always strive to be a good and like-able person but always remember that it’s impossible to be liked by everyone, sometimes people just won’t like you and that is okay.
- One friend you can count on is more valuable than 100 acquaintances, guard and nurture your valued friendships like your life depends on it because it might some day.
The biggest thing though, there isn’t one correct way to live your life and anyone telling you differently is probably selling you something. Always try to learn something from every situation and you will be fine, mistakes are a part of life. Anyway, hope at least some of that is helpful!
kambusha@sh.itjust.works 9 hours ago
Always double-check. For example, the community you are posting in.
d00phy@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Measure twice, post once!
Contramuffin@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
The biggest advice I can give you is, you need to try to be social. It’s easy to hang out with friends in high school because everyone’s locked into the same building every weekday for 6 hours.
Once you’re an adult, you no longer have that limitation. Even college is more of a “go to class for 2 hours a day then leave afterwards” type of experience. It’s certainly liberating to not be forced to be someplace for long periods of time, but it also means that the primary reason that you hang out with your friends (ie, because they’re already there with you) is now gone. It can make for a very lonely experience.
You need to go out of your way and actively maintain your friendships. Make plans to meet up at least once a week or something. Otherwise, you won’t really get another chance to make deep friendships
vatlark@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
This was reported twice for not being a shower thought. The reporters are correct, it’s not strictly a shower thought.
But thinking about getting older is something we all do in the shower, for multiple reasons :)
Looks like people are mostly enjoying it so I’ll let it stay for now.
Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
Use sunscreen.
Notyou@sopuli.xyz 1 hour ago
Just post the song for him.
Valmond@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
Brush your teeth and see the dentist at least yearly.
ramble81@lemmy.zip 6 hours ago
Stop reading beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Strider@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Everybody else is just faking it, too.
Jesus_666@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
And everyone is trying to muddle through, including your heroes. I think it’s good to keep this in mind; both to avoid feeling inferior for not having your shit figured out (because nobody has) and to be tolerant of people making mistakes – nobody’s perfect and everyone has issues besides getting your order exactly right.
Be chill with yourself and with other people.
Strider@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Non withstanding there can be fundamental differences which no one tells you about (like neurodivergency) so if something feels very off, it might be.
scytale@piefed.zip 5 hours ago
Strengthen your core. Lower back pain in your mid-30s is a bitch. Also, take care of your teeth and floss everyday. Start investing early. Any amount you can set aside, no matter how small, will payoff if you start early.
NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 7 hours ago
Upload posts to appropriate communities.
IWW4@lemmy.zip 4 hours ago
USE A CONDOM!
Thedogdrinkscoffee@lemmy.ca 2 hours ago
Get a vasectomy.
kepix@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
get a dishwasher, always read contracts, be confident during interviews, hydrate your skin, do regular exercise
Ekybio@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Buy a plunger BEFORE you need one
snooggums@piefed.world 7 hours ago
On a related note, own a fire extinguisher before you need one.
Also learn how to use both before you need to.
Contramuffin@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
In a similar vein:
Get a fire ladder if you’re not living on the first floor
But seriously, learning to use a fire extinguisher needs to be emphasized more. I stopped a fire from becoming serious because I was trained to use a fire extinguisher and I put out the fire quickly. My partner didn’t know what to do and she just handed the fire extinguisher to me. If she were there alone, the building could have burnt down. Or at minimum, all of our possessions could have been damaged.
It’s easy to learn, but YOU NEED TO LEARN
Triumph@fedia.io 4 hours ago
Do the things. Do them. Don't leave them until later. There are always things. If you don't do the now things, thinking you can do them later, there will be other things later.
Not doing the things only puts you behind, possibly forever.
Do the things.
truthfultemporarily@feddit.org 8 hours ago
Live below your means.
DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works 5 hours ago
Do not discard advice from older people because you think “the world has changed” and old people are out of touch.
ALL the advice that the older people in my life gave me in my teens about money/college/jobs/people/relationships was right, but I refused to listen to any of it because the were old and didn’t understand my life.
Don’t force yourself to learn every life lesson the hard way, like I did.
You’ll probably learn everything the hard way…but I tried to tell you.
remon@ani.social 9 hours ago
Don’t take advise from people on the internet.
rbos@lemmy.ca 4 hours ago
Buy quality things that will last a long time.
Paraphrasing Terry Pratchett, the man who buys a good pair of boots will have dry feet for ten years, and the man who buys a pair of cheap shoes every year will spend more and still have wet feet.
resipsaloquitur@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
The paradox of thrift.
Or, buy once, cry once.
thirstybear@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
Internalize your rewards for doing something good - don’t look for external validation from others that you are doing a good job. This is especially important in relationships. It’s great to be appreciated when you do the dishes, but you should be able to motivate yourself to do it and feel pride that you are carrying your own weight.
MedicPigBabySaver@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
Vote!
Local, state, Fed.
If you don’t vote, you have no rights to complain about how government is functioning.
FRYD@sh.itjust.works 9 hours ago
Let go of any fear of others expectations for you as soon as you can. Explore what interests you and don’t let others stop you. People come and go, but they’ll come to you faster than they leave if you’re a confident and passionate person. You can only be that if you work on figuring out how you want to live and chase that life.
manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml 9 hours ago
Practice your hobbies, I didnt start taking photos or playing guitar until I was 21, I’m pretty good now, good enough to find enjoyment in them
learn a language?
oh and also, therapy
TehBamski@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
Acamon@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
Yeah, never feel like it’s too late to start something. There’s stuff (learning an instrument, language, craft stuff) I considered getting into in my 30s but felt like it was too late. Now I’m 40 and I’ve started and I wish I’d done it ten years ago, because I’d be so much further ahead.
d00phy@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Read.
If you don’t know, ask or find out. Knowledge is rarely a Bad Thing.
Read.
Take care of your health. It gets a lot harder as you get older.
Read.
Seriously, go to a library. Pick something. If you don’t like it, return it for something else. If you do, get some more like that one. But don’t be afraid to branch out.
Notyou@sopuli.xyz 1 hour ago
To add to this. You don’t need to go to the library. Depending on where you live, you can go online to your local library website. Register with them. They will give you a username and password. Then you can download apps like Libby or Hoopla to check out books/comics/audiobooks from your mobile device.
sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 9 hours ago
Wear condoms every time
Engywuck@lemmy.zip 8 hours ago
Don’t stop training, don’t eat shitty food (at least, not daily), don’t believe anything you hear or read and always double check it.
TranquilTurbulence@lemmy.zip 7 hours ago
Get to know yourself. What kind of person you are, what do you like, need and so on. Accept yourself as you are.
Sure, you can change your weight, learn new skills, become better at stuff and get stronger. I’m not talking about those things. Some traits just are the way they are, and fighting against them will only result in frustration, stress and sadness. Try to figure out which parts of you can be changed and which ones can’t. Treat them accordingly.
d00phy@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
If you can’t be alone with, and genuinely love, yourself; you’ll never be able to do that with someone else. Living alone for a little while really helped me either this.
CEbbinghaus@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Learn how to clean properly, stains especially.
Practice a few basic but yummy recipes (trial and error for which work for you) and get good at cooking them.
Remember everybody is living their own life at their own pace. Don’t feel like you aren’t doing it right.
Ask for help when you need it. Nobody can do it all alone.
Stay in contact with friends and cut ties with people that make your life worse.
someguy3@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
Do the things you don’t want to do.
Really that’s it. You’ll do the things you want to do, meaning the things you didn’t want to do are the important ones.
TehBamski@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
The lattory is a ‘Stupid Person Tax.’ Meaning that stupid people throw their money at it because they buy into the feeling versus the logic behind it. “The overall odds of winning a prize are 1 in 24.9. The odds of winning the jackpot are 1 in 292.2 million.” source
You had better odds of you, a sperm cell, fertilizing your mother’s egg, than you do currently of winning the Powerball jackpot.
How much sperm is in semen? A typical sperm count may range from 15 million to more than 200 million per milliliter of semen
Let that info sink in for a moment.
bravesilvernest@lemmy.ml 7 hours ago
Tbf, they won out that lottery 🙃🎉🎆
MumboJumbo@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
I’ve also heard the “stupid tax” or “dumb tax” as what you pay when learning or doing something new. There will be times that you look or feel like an idiot, but we’ve all been there, don’t let it stop you. Learn from your mistakes and persevere. You’re never too old to keep learning - knowledge, skills, compassion, empathy, shame, regret, success, failure. Life’s a trip, appreciate it for all its aspects and keep at it.
sourhill@lemmy.sdf.org 9 hours ago
Travel if you can afford to, it’s an incredible way to learn about the world and meet different kinds of people. Look after your teeth.
don_kiedyck@lemmy.world 22 minutes ago