Any advice for me a guy turning 18 yo old??

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I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me

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Flax_vert@feddit.uk ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Go to Church every Sunday

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- Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  I am from different religious background
  
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- Aequitas@feddit.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Religions are fairy tales for children who are afraid of death. They have nothing to do with reality. There is no god and no rational reason to believe in one. Part of growing up is accepting that.
  
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  - Flax_vert@feddit.uk ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    
    There is no god and no rational reason to believe in one.
    
    Except from that guy who did miracles and stuff and rose from the dead
    
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CaptPretentious@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Who you are now, isn’t likely who you’ll be in 6 years. You’ll change a lot over the next few years as you become an adult. Legally, becoming an adult is the difference of a day. But actually maturing into an adult takes time and effort. Yes effort, you’ll meet plenty of adults who cling to their highschool self.

I don’t know if alcohol is still placed on a pedestal like it was in my teens, but alcohol isn’t that great. It’s an expensive poison humans can sorta metabolize. It can taste good, but moderation is key. The point isn’t to get drunk. As an adult who can drink anytime I please, is generally would rather just have water.

Now is a great time to get into a fitness routine.

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Azal@pawb.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
At that age, I was trying my hardest to figure out what I’m doing, to be together like the older adults.

I’m 39, I don’t have a clue what I’m doing and I’m more together than most of my coworkers, many who are older than me.

We’re all just trying to figure it out, so when you look up and think you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re with everyone. And if you know someone who says they have everything together and don’t have any issues, be wary as they likely have a lot of blind spots to their life.

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Mangoguana@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Live in the present, take time to analyse things. It’s ok if you are slower at some things. Every time spent reflecting will enrich your next reflection and bring more peace and comprehension. Be patient. Try new things. Meet people. Hold your own opinions to scrutiny, back them up with evidence. Do the work. Trust the right people. Don’t give in to fear or anger. Allow yourself to feel sad. Analyse your frustration and feelings. Talk to yourself if no one is listening. Keep some of your hobbies especially if it’s skill dependant going.

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Amaterasu@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
If you don’t know yet learn a second language. Chinese seems the most useful nowadays.

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- Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  English is my second language
  
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- GrammarPolice@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Out of curiosity, why do you think Chinese is useful?
  
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  - Amaterasu@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Seems to be where the world is marching. They are surpassing the US and competing in many areas. They have a large population that is starting to travel more often. They are producing large content online that is not translated. They have their own YouTube equivalent (Bilibili), etc…
    
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glibg@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Don’t drink a lot. I’ve forgotten a lot of good times due to excessive drinking, and it’s taken a toll on my mental health. I’m 35 now and trying to make some changes, but I’ve wasted about 15 years of my life just partying and being hungover. Not to mention the tens of thousands of dollars spent.

On a positive note: find something to volunteer your time doing. Even an hour or two a week is great. It’s a great way to meet people, and there is so much good work being done by organizations who always need extra help.

Good luck to you dude, I know you have a bright future ahead of you!

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- Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  thanks a lot. drinking and partying is a tabboo in my country as I live in Muslim country
  
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Psythik@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
If you aren’t already, start going to the gym now, or you will regret not doing so by your late 30s. I stopped going at age 30; it’s only been seven years since but I can already feel my body falling apart. Everything hurts all the time and it doesn’t stop hurting.

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- chilicheeselies@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Its reversable. I started going back to the gym at 39 and am stronger now than i was when I was younger. I have knee pain, but thats a weight issue honestly.
  
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Spaniard@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Take care of your body is the only one you have, use solar cream.

Spend time with your parents and people you love they are not going to be around forever, do things they like.

You have time, don’t rush into things. Don’t think you are 25 you should have a family by now, life is not a race each person reach goals differently and not all have the same goals. Search what makes you happy and do it.

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BarbecueCowboy@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Exercise, have a salad for dinner sometimes, be careful who you date and keep friends you can trust to tell you when you’re fucking up.

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corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

18yo old

That’s like “ATM Machine”

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dogs0n@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Im probably not wise enough to give advice, but in general I think it’s while you are young that taking big risks is more worth the trade offs.

Im talking risks like career wise or investment wise, business wise, etc.

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discosnails@lemmy.wtf ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
The more discipline you can have without letting small lapses and setbacks get to you the better off you’ll be in the future. Don’t get set on something (job, relationship, philosophy) until you really know who you are and what you want, and explore WIDELY. Be honest and direct in your communication and you’ll have less drama, the trash will take itself out. Find mentors, don’t let them run your life. Use your body like a diesel truck.

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- Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  what do you mean by diesel truck?? finding myself still, hope i will find out. thank you
  
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  - discosnails@lemmy.wtf ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Keep it running, use it for hard work, don’t worry too much about the exterior or upholstery but keep the drive train and the suspension maintained and in good shape. Work hard, play hard.
    
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Donebrach@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Start building credit if you’re in the US, but don’t treat your credit card like free money.

Don’t let yourself get addicted to alcohol (or any other drug).

Spend a decade commuting by bike if you can (rain or shine).

Get radicalized by the terrorists (people who just wanna have a nice safe society free of bigotry and hate).

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greenashura@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I just have one. Smart people learn from their mistakes. Wise people learn from the mistakes of others. You won’t leave long enough to make all the mistakes yourself.

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chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Stay away from gambling sites. If you’ve got extra money and want to watch it grow, invest in Exchange Traded Funds (ETFs) with a low/no fee trading account. Stay away from meme stocks as well.

If you do invest, diversify your portfolio. SPY is very exciting but it’s heavily tied up in the AI bubble. Try to more international markets, clean energy, minerals, heavy industry. No matter what happens to the AI companies, we still need energy and resources to build stuff and keep our economy going.

Read about taxable and non taxable trading accounts in your country. Try to use those to avoid having your savings eroded by taxes. You will pay plenty of taxes on your income, so don’t worry about that!

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- Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  what is SPY??
  
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  - chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    S&P 500 index fund.
    
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ArsonButCute@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
If you haven’t yet, question what being a man means to you, and what being a good person means to you.

You will, throughout your life, find those definitions challenged. How you respond to the first will help you to develop a stronger sense of how you relate to your gender, and how it effects the way you interact with yourself and the world. How you respond to the second determines your character, which is how the world will see you as a person, and with sufficient introspection how you will see yourself.

Keep growing. Keep learning.

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- Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  yeah i question it
  
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  - ArsonButCute@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Awesome!
    
    If you’re still looking for advice, another good piece I try to Employ is:
    
    Always be working towards something, even if that something is just relaxation. Live with intention, because time unaccounted is time lost.
    
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- CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Not enough people do this. Very good advice!
  
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the_grass_trainer@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Personally i would suggest not going to university for at least 2 years, work a small job if you have a good living arrangement with family, and save up as much as you can for those 2 years.

Additionally, put some savings into an account that earns interest over time as a way to save for the long-long-term.

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mcv@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Don’t worry too much about the rat race. Take time to enjoy life and experience things with people you care about. The best moments in life can be really small things.

At the same time, don’t waste too much time doing nothing either; use your time well, but use it to develop and improve yourself, learn something useful. Get a job you enjoy or consider important, at least. Doing work that you enjoy or consider important is far more valuable than the money you make. But don’t ignore the money either. Just don’t sacrifice your soul for it. Don’t work yourself to death for a boss who doesn’t appreciate you. Don’t burn your relationships for money.

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SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Don’t try and “make it” by 22 and realize that those who appear to do so are faking it.

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- Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  what is making it??
  
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- mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Yeah, the only ones that realistically “make it” by their early 20’s were born with a trust fund. Seriously, if you go read up on most of the big “American dream” types, you’ll realize that they only had the time to work 55 hours unpaid each week, because they had a trust fund feeding them and keeping them sheltered.
  
  Bill Gates used to be the poster child for the American dream; A young scrappy programmer whose tiny tech startup beat the odds, thanks to Gates working so hard he would end up sleeping under his desk. Then when you dig deeper, you realize he was born a multi-millionaire. He was only able to take the risk with (and dedicated the time to) his tech startup because he didn’t need to worry about rent or affording his next meal.
  
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GenosseFlosse@feddit.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Before you get a career, live and work in another country or travel on a budget for a year. See other places, meet new people, learn lots of new things and get out of your comfort zone. Some people just walk or bike across a continent with a tent.

You won’t be able to do it later in life when you have a job, family and commitments.

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- mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Yeah, maybe find a touring job for a year or two. Cruise lines are always hiring, and there’s plenty of technically skilled jobs that you could later transfer into other industries when you get tired of traveling.
  
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captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Your social life as an adult is very much what you make it. Go do things that seem interesting even if you feel you’d rather stay home. Chat with people when you’re there. A huge component of modern loneliness is that we’re able to stay entertained and with a crude social life without seeing others irl, but it’s often not actually sufficient. So go get involved in something hobbies, activism, whatever events look interesting at the time. And remember that the things you do now are the memories and stories you’ll have when you’re old.

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don_kiedyck@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Take care of your teeth.

Wash your butthole every chance you get.
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DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Get a vasectomy

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- Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  i heard it is risky
  
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bigredgiraffe@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Lots of good advice here and I am not THAT old but here are a few things I wish I had realized sooner in life (in no particular order or theme):

No one really knows what they are doing, more experienced people usually have just made the mistakes already.

There is a difference between being correct and getting someone to agree you are correct, the former is the most important and the latter is not always possible or desired and when to argue and when to let someone be wrong is a skill that takes practice.

The less time spent worrying about what other people think of you the happier you will be and the easier life will feel. In almost all situations you spend more time thinking about whatever it is than the other person does.

Always strive to be a good and like-able person but always remember that it’s impossible to be liked by everyone, sometimes people just won’t like you and that is okay.

One friend you can count on is more valuable than 100 acquaintances, guard and nurture your valued friendships like your life depends on it because it might some day.

The biggest thing though, there isn’t one correct way to live your life and anyone telling you differently is probably selling you something. Always try to learn something from every situation and you will be fine, mistakes are a part of life. Anyway, hope at least some of that is helpful!
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Contramuffin@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
The biggest advice I can give you is, you need to try to be social. It’s easy to hang out with friends in high school because everyone’s locked into the same building every weekday for 6 hours.

Once you’re an adult, you no longer have that limitation. Even college is more of a “go to class for 2 hours a day then leave afterwards” type of experience. It’s certainly liberating to not be forced to be someplace for long periods of time, but it also means that the primary reason that you hang out with your friends (ie, because they’re already there with you) is now gone. It can make for a very lonely experience.

You need to go out of your way and actively maintain your friendships. Make plans to meet up at least once a week or something. Otherwise, you won’t really get another chance to make deep friendships

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- Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  yeah indeed i can relate for that lonely part
  
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- chilicheeselies@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  This is not strictly true. You can still make deep connections later in life. Very true that it takes effort though, and not as easy as when you are younger. Not impossible though.
  
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- captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Yeah in college I experienced both extremes. I spent about a year and a half completely isolated, just traveling between classes and my dorm. It was self destructive and my grades and mental health suffered. Then I made some life changes and started going to clubs and events and made friends and suddenly it was easier to study even though I had less time. I became extremely social and found myself spending nights doing everything from deep discussions of big ideas to long nights drinking with friends to lots of casual sex to long nights working on projects.
  
  Because of all this I left college far more well rounded and prepared for my career and my marriage. To this day the skill of how to make friends and positive acquaintances has stuck with me and been a majorly useful skill.
  
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  - Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    damn bro!! I don’t have this connection. Fellas all around me just i don’t know why avoid me and like damn, I am not a friend of anyone. If I put a certain persona then I am likable otherwise no one even wanna see my true self.
    
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vatlark@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
This was reported twice for not being a shower thought. The reporters are correct, it’s not strictly a shower thought.

But thinking about getting older is something we all do in the shower, for multiple reasons :)

Looks like people are mostly enjoying it so I’ll let it stay for now.

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- Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  thank you moderator
  
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- CluckN@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  
  Thinks about 18 year olds in the shower
  
  Mods get them!
  
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  - Flax_vert@feddit.uk ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    I think that’s legal… Barely
    
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kepix@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
get a dishwasher, always read contracts, be confident during interviews, hydrate your skin, do regular exercise

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IWW4@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
USE A CONDOM!

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- Thedogdrinkscoffee@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Get a vasectomy.
  
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rbos@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Buy quality things that will last a long time.

Paraphrasing Terry Pratchett, the man who buys a good pair of boots will have dry feet for ten years, and the man who buys a pair of cheap shoes every year will spend more and still have wet feet.

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- resipsaloquitur@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  The paradox of thrift.
  
  Or, buy once, cry once.
  
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someguy3@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Do the things you don’t want to do.

Really that’s it. You’ll do the things you want to do, meaning the things you didn’t want to do are the important ones.

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- Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  well I act like the person I don’t wanna be all the time and do the things that I don’t wanna do and yeah it hurts but they are important for my survival. I can face serious consequences maybe if I don’t do these things. But yeah, I got it. Thanks
  
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