Submitted 14 hours ago by Naive@leminal.space to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me
Internalize your rewards for doing something good - don’t look for external validation from others that you are doing a good job. This is especially important in relationships. It’s great to be appreciated when you do the dishes, but you should be able to motivate yourself to do it and feel pride that you are carrying your own weight.
Local, state, Fed.
If you don’t vote, you have no rights to complain about how government is functioning.
Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Read.
If you don’t know, ask or find out. Knowledge is rarely a Bad Thing.
Read.
Take care of your health. It gets a lot harder as you get older.
Read.
Seriously, go to a library. Pick something. If you don’t like it, return it for something else. If you do, get some more like that one. But don’t be afraid to branch out.
To add to this. You don’t need to go to the library. Depending on where you live, you can go online to your local library website. Register with them. They will give you a username and password. Then you can download apps like Libby or Hoopla to check out books/comics/audiobooks from your mobile device.
Learn how to clean properly, stains especially.
Practice a few basic but yummy recipes (trial and error for which work for you) and get good at cooking them.
Remember everybody is living their own life at their own pace. Don’t feel like you aren’t doing it right.
Ask for help when you need it. Nobody can do it all alone.
Stay in contact with friends and cut ties with people that make your life worse.
Get to know yourself. What kind of person you are, what do you like, need and so on. Accept yourself as you are.
Sure, you can change your weight, learn new skills, become better at stuff and get stronger. I’m not talking about those things. Some traits just are the way they are, and fighting against them will only result in frustration, stress and sadness. Try to figure out which parts of you can be changed and which ones can’t. Treat them accordingly.
You are the only person who is fully stuck with you and vice versa. You have to live with your choices and behaviors, and I’ve never met someone who genuinely both should and does have no regrets.
You will fail to be a good person, you will disappoint people you respect, you will fuck up on the job and in your relationships, and you will be the asshole sometimes. Treat each of these instances as a chance for growth and humility. A sincere apology and putting effort towards being better in the future will go very far. And when others do the same show them the grace and kindness you wanted when you fucked up.
That said, some people are in destructive places and will keep fucking up and hurting people, understand when you can’t help and when it will hurt you to stay in their life.
If you can’t be alone with, and genuinely love, yourself; you’ll never be able to do that with someone else. Living alone for a little while really helped me either this.
Don’t stop training, don’t eat shitty food (at least, not daily), don’t believe anything you hear or read and always double check it.
Travel if you can afford to, it’s an incredible way to learn about the world and meet different kinds of people. Look after your teeth.
The lattory is a ‘Stupid Person Tax.’ Meaning that stupid people throw their money at it because they buy into the feeling versus the logic behind it. “The overall odds of winning a prize are 1 in 24.9. The odds of winning the jackpot are 1 in 292.2 million.” source
You had better odds of you, a sperm cell, fertilizing your mother’s egg, than you do currently of winning the Powerball jackpot.
How much sperm is in semen? A typical sperm count may range from 15 million to more than 200 million per milliliter of semen
Let that info sink in for a moment.
I’ve also heard the “stupid tax” or “dumb tax” as what you pay when learning or doing something new. There will be times that you look or feel like an idiot, but we’ve all been there, don’t let it stop you. Learn from your mistakes and persevere. You’re never too old to keep learning - knowledge, skills, compassion, empathy, shame, regret, success, failure. Life’s a trip, appreciate it for all its aspects and keep at it.
Tbf, they won out that lottery 🙃🎉🎆
Head to the Winchester and wait for adult life to blow over.
Go to therapy if you struggle with mental health - the sooner, the better. Change gets harder the older you get.
Do the things you don’t want to do.
Really that’s it. You’ll do the things you want to do, meaning the things you didn’t want to do are the important ones.
The right age for playing video games is after 30. before that, there s better to do
Thefuck?
Games are a hobby. If they give you pleasure and joy, then there is no “better” thing to be doing.
How much of your time at 18 should be spent on hobbies is a different matter, but to dismiss games as unsitable at that age is insane.
The games people play growing up and as young adults can be formative and massively influential.
They tell stories, frustrate, entertain, let you form social bonds, and even enlighten you in ways no other form of media can by allowing you interactively explore the thoughts of other people.
Plus, I’m not even 30, I am already noticing a decline in my performance in terms of precision and reaction time when it comes to the competitive genre.
I was asked for an old man advice and gave it. Video games is not any hobby. It requires no physical effort and little social interaction. It is suited for older married people.
I’m 30 and I get really bad rsi now, but maybe I shouldnt play video games for 6 hrs straight
Just be nice. And listen. Always listen and pause before you speak. It will solve sooooo many problems.
Don’t take advice from lonely Redditors on the internet, like you are doing.
You can see a trend in these replies and it’s not a good one.
Put a lot of thought into your college major. Pick the hardest one you can actually do. Take it easy on the substances, especially stimulants and depressants (yes, this 100% includes alcohol). Exercise regularly, sports are ideal because they’re also social so you’re getting two birds stoned at once. If you don’t like flossing, buy a water flosser. Don’t have kids until you’re in a stable relationship and you both have good jobs. Get used to living on 90% of your salary, the difference in terms of stress between slightly under-spending and slightly over-spending is enormous.
rbos@lemmy.ca 8 hours ago
Buy quality things that will last a long time.
Paraphrasing Terry Pratchett, the man who buys a good pair of boots will have dry feet for ten years, and the man who buys a pair of cheap shoes every year will spend more and still have wet feet.
resipsaloquitur@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
The paradox of thrift.
Or, buy once, cry once.