Submitted 1 month ago by Naive@leminal.space to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me
Buy quality things that will last a long time.
Paraphrasing Terry Pratchett, the man who buys a good pair of boots will have dry feet for ten years, and the man who buys a pair of cheap shoes every year will spend more and still have wet feet.
The paradox of thrift.
Or, buy once, cry once.
The right age for playing video games is after 30. before that, there s better to do
Thefuck?
Games are a hobby. If they give you pleasure and joy, then there is no “better” thing to be doing.
How much of your time at 18 should be spent on hobbies is a different matter, but to dismiss games as unsitable at that age is insane.
The games people play growing up and as young adults can be formative and massively influential.
They tell stories, frustrate, entertain, let you form social bonds, and even enlighten you in ways no other form of media can by allowing you interactively explore the thoughts of other people.
Plus, I’m not even 30, I am already noticing a decline in my performance in terms of precision and reaction time when it comes to the competitive genre.
I was asked for an old man advice and gave it. Video games is not any hobby. It requires no physical effort and little social interaction. It is suited for older married people.
I’m 30 and I get really bad rsi now, but maybe I shouldnt play video games for 6 hrs straight
I have no interests in games when I am playing life as a game
Head to the Winchester and wait for adult life to blow over.
i don’t even know where is winchester. I am from another country
You should go watch Shaun of the Dead.
Take care of your teeth. Many loves will come and go in your 20s and maybe even 30s, but if its a life partner you want try focusing on yourself and they’ll appear out of thin air. Friends are important but not as important as inner peace. If a job offer 401k start investing as much as possible as soon as possible. Everyone is going through their own crazy messed up life so be kind. Puff, puff pass and enjoy your 20s as much as possible while not losing sight of your goals. Goals are EVERYTHING, set the achieve them and set them again. Heartbreak and death are integral parts of being human. It’s important to sit with and process the pain as long as YOU see fit. Death will come for someone you love someday, don’t let drugs or alcohol be your medicine
Weed and alcohol are my medicine and you don’t want to end up like me.
well they are tabboo too so it is hard to get there in my country
i didn’t even approached my first date as I don’t know how to approach girls or guys cuz I am bisexual. I also live in religious society where dating only leads to marriage and I don’t wanna be committed at this point
DONT DO IT!!
THERE’S NO TURNING BACK
Don’t drink a lot. I’ve forgotten a lot of good times due to excessive drinking, and it’s taken a toll on my mental health. I’m 35 now and trying to make some changes, but I’ve wasted about 15 years of my life just partying and being hungover. Not to mention the tens of thousands of dollars spent.
On a positive note: find something to volunteer your time doing. Even an hour or two a week is great. It’s a great way to meet people, and there is so much good work being done by organizations who always need extra help.
Good luck to you dude, I know you have a bright future ahead of you!
thanks a lot. drinking and partying is a tabboo in my country as I live in Muslim country
Lots of good advice here and I am not THAT old but here are a few things I wish I had realized sooner in life (in no particular order or theme):
The biggest thing though, there isn’t one correct way to live your life and anyone telling you differently is probably selling you something. Always try to learn something from every situation and you will be fine, mistakes are a part of life. Anyway, hope at least some of that is helpful!
Here’s my rantomendation:
Don’t hit, mame or kill anybody ever. That includes when driving.
When driving pay attention to the road and only to the road. Ignore work or home or school problems. Don’t zone out.
Listen to your parents but don’t listen to the parts that limit you. Be gay if you are or straight or smart or whatever, be you. But listen to the good advice.
Fuck a lot
Eat healthy
Pay attention in school and learn from others. Be observant and follow in other people’s steps long enough to learn to blaze your own path.
Don’t get a school loan or max out your credit cards.
Work thru school in a light non interrupting way. Don’t get an 8hr job, just something part time.
Get that diploma and go find a job where they pay you for what you know. Work on something you like to do. Work to live, not live to work. But to get here, don’t skip steps…sweep the floor before you shoot for CEO.
Mourn your losses, everyone dies. Be happy with yours while you can. Family is everything and there’s not much more than your own personal desires beyond family. But if you don’t have kids by chance or by choice, still be happy. There’s plenty of people who choose not to have kids or be married or be in a relationship. Have bobbies. There’s a lot of you time towards the end part of your life. So Hobbies are good. Watching people is a hobby.
Be at peace. Don’t hate and help others not hate. Racism is the worse. So if you can help a racist person to accept others then that’s good.
Fuck a lot
Shit
That’s from “little Ms.Sunshine” you should watch it. There’s a part when they’re riding with their Gramps and he says that. Ode to gramps
what is mame?? apart from this question, this is quite detail and good
Sit down pee when you’re visiting a friend’s house. Double points if you do the same at your own house.
I’ve never understood the desire to stand while peeing. Sure; when you’ve got too - like outside - or if a toilet is filthy and you don’t want to touch it; but I’ve always been happy to take the opportunity to sit my lazy ass down for a minute. Plus I never have to worry about aim or cleaning up if I miss.
i do it yeah cuz I don’t have urinals in my surroundings
Lift wieghts and or do some other physical activity. Its good to have two hobbies; a mental one and a physical one. The muscle you build now will be with you for the rest of your life, and its mucb easier to do it now than when you are middle aged like me.
Dont focus too hard on girls, just live your life and enjoy the experiences and relationships you build with all people; everything else will follow.
Travel, with a focus on the physically taxing things that are harder to do when you are older.
Invest what money you can, compound interest is real and it is the path to wealth (eventually).
At that age, I was trying my hardest to figure out what I’m doing, to be together like the older adults.
I’m 39, I don’t have a clue what I’m doing and I’m more together than most of my coworkers, many who are older than me.
We’re all just trying to figure it out, so when you look up and think you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re with everyone. And if you know someone who says they have everything together and don’t have any issues, be wary as they likely have a lot of blind spots to their life.
Exercise, have a salad for dinner sometimes, be careful who you date and keep friends you can trust to tell you when you’re fucking up.
I just have one. Smart people learn from their mistakes. Wise people learn from the mistakes of others. You won’t leave long enough to make all the mistakes yourself.
Don’t try and “make it” by 22 and realize that those who appear to do so are faking it.
Yeah, the only ones that realistically “make it” by their early 20’s were born with a trust fund. Seriously, if you go read up on most of the big “American dream” types, you’ll realize that they only had the time to work 55 hours unpaid each week, because they had a trust fund feeding them and keeping them sheltered.
Bill Gates used to be the poster child for the American dream; A young scrappy programmer whose tiny tech startup beat the odds, thanks to Gates working so hard he would end up sleeping under his desk. Then when you dig deeper, you realize he was born a multi-millionaire. He was only able to take the risk with (and dedicated the time to) his tech startup because he didn’t need to worry about rent or affording his next meal.
what is making it??
Open an IRA (or your country’s equivalent), invest as much as you and still afford to live. A tiny little discomfort in the beginning isn’t the worst thing. That money will grow tax free for year until you retire. The more you get in early, the more compounding works in your favor.
18yo old
That’s like “ATM Machine”
Get a vasectomy
i heard it is risky
Do you know what the genetic difference is between a human alive today and one who lived 100,000 years ago? Almost none.
The real difference is shared knowledge. Every generation stands on the shoulders of those before it. You hold in your hands more understanding than any person in history could have imagined.
You will always be ignorant, not as a flaw, but as a truth of being human. Accepting that is where real learning begins.
Stay curious. Curiosity keeps you open to the world. It grows empathy, invites wonder, and reminds you that every person you meet carries a piece of the story you haven’t heard yet.
And when you share what you’ve learned, don’t speak as though you hold the final word. Speak as someone who has explored, reflected, and arrived at their understanding with care.
Learning is a lifelong conversation, one that connects you to every curious mind that ever lived. So keep asking, keep listening, keep growing. The future needs you.
i really felt this heart touching. thanks
Do not break the weekend safety brief.
I may have to go to jail soon for a couple years. I’m a non passing trans person who is flamboyant & wouldn’t win a fight against a small animal, can you please explain that last part???
Hol up
As someone who wishes someone had told me… Adults don’t know what we are doing either. It took me way too long to realize I’m not an imposter pretending to be an adult, we are all just kind of winging it.
As you grow older you’ll have seen more stuff and it will be a little easier, but I can attest I don’t have a clue what’s for dinner, just like I don’t know what new headache the next meeting will bring. Live life for life’s sake, the clock will keep ticking whether you’re ready or not.
Your brain still isn’t fully developed into an adult one. Another half decade or so should equip you with the rest. Take care of it!
don’t make a kid
Hey! I was a kid
Live in the present, take time to analyse things. It’s ok if you are slower at some things. Every time spent reflecting will enrich your next reflection and bring more peace and comprehension. Be patient. Try new things. Meet people. Hold your own opinions to scrutiny, back them up with evidence. Do the work. Trust the right people. Don’t give in to fear or anger. Allow yourself to feel sad. Analyse your frustration and feelings. Talk to yourself if no one is listening. Keep some of your hobbies especially if it’s skill dependant going.
Before you get a career, live and work in another country or travel on a budget for a year. See other places, meet new people, learn lots of new things and get out of your comfort zone. Some people just walk or bike across a continent with a tent.
You won’t be able to do it later in life when you have a job, family and commitments.
Yeah, maybe find a touring job for a year or two. Cruise lines are always hiring, and there’s plenty of technically skilled jobs that you could later transfer into other industries when you get tired of traveling.
Do the things you don’t want to do.
Really that’s it. You’ll do the things you want to do, meaning the things you didn’t want to do are the important ones.
well I act like the person I don’t wanna be all the time and do the things that I don’t wanna do and yeah it hurts but they are important for my survival. I can face serious consequences maybe if I don’t do these things. But yeah, I got it. Thanks
Just be nice. And listen. Always listen and pause before you speak. It will solve sooooo many problems.
Don’t take advice from lonely Redditors on the internet, like you are doing.
well i got religious tradcons ahead of me who are homophobic and racists in real life so redditors are better for me
Go to the dentist, ask them how to take care of your teeth for the next 80 years, and do it.
If that means cutting down on soda, or acidic espressos, or candy do it.
If that means buying an expensive electric toothbrush with better toothpaste do it.
yeah i got braces last year and it is worth it. definitely gonna do it
Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 1 month ago
Go to therapy if you struggle with mental health - the sooner, the better. Change gets harder the older you get.
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
i can’t afford therapy. is using Ai for therapy good??
Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 1 month ago
I would say no, since it’s too sycophantic which can lead down some dangerous paths.
In many countries there are NGOs or social services that can offer therapy cheaper, but it’s hard to say exactly without knowing where you are. I read your other replies and based on what you wrote, you have had a pretty rough youth; you don’t learn to hide stuff on the regular if your environment is accepting. If you ever get the chance for psychotherapy, take it.