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• Triumph@fedia.io ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Do the things. Do them. Don't leave them until later. There are always things. If you don't do the now things, thinking you can do them later, there will be other things later.

  Not doing the things only puts you behind, possibly forever.

  Do the things.

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    yeah i really struggle with this thing. gonna do them. thank you

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    • Triumph@fedia.io ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Glad you came back to read this.

      I struggle with this too, and I'm old. It is a difficult habit to break out of. I urge you to put a lot of effort into this, make "doing the things" your habit.

      But most especially, forgive yourself if you don't do the thing. The best time to have done the thing is "already", and the second best time is "right now", and if you do the thing at the second best time right now, when you're done it will become the best.

      Or, if you're having a hard time doing the thing, just do a small part of the thing. A sub-thing, as it were. "It's a little bit better than it was before."

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• ThrowawayPermanente@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Put a lot of thought into your college major. Pick the hardest one you can actually do. Take it easy on the substances, especially stimulants and depressants (yes, this 100% includes alcohol). Exercise regularly, sports are ideal because they’re also social so you’re getting two birds stoned at once. If you don’t like flossing, buy a water flosser. Don’t have kids until you’re in a stable relationship and you both have good jobs. Get used to living on 90% of your salary, the difference in terms of stress between slightly under-spending and slightly over-spending is enormous.

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• DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Do not discard advice from older people because you think “the world has changed” and old people are out of touch.

  ALL the advice that the older people in my life gave me in my teens about money/college/jobs/people/relationships was right, but I refused to listen to any of it because the were old and didn’t understand my life.

  Don’t force yourself to learn every life lesson the hard way, like I did.

  You’ll probably learn everything the hard way…but I tried to tell you.

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    thanks!! yeah older people advice are good but like sometime they are not good when dictating about religion/politics/morality or when they teach you to hate certain people based on what they believe

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• scytale@piefed.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Strengthen your core. Lower back pain in your mid-30s is a bitch. Also, take care of your teeth and floss everyday. Start investing early. Any amount you can set aside, no matter how small, will payoff if you start early.

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    yeah lower back pain really sucks and i used to have it a lot some weeks ago

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• moshankey@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Just be nice. And listen. Always listen and pause before you speak. It will solve sooooo many problems.

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• thirstybear@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Internalize your rewards for doing something good - don’t look for external validation from others that you are doing a good job. This is especially important in relationships. It’s great to be appreciated when you do the dishes, but you should be able to motivate yourself to do it and feel pride that you are carrying your own weight.

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• MedicPigBabySaver@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Vote!

  Local, state, Fed.

  If you don’t vote, you have no rights to complain about how government is functioning.

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• d00phy@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Treat others the way you want to be treated.

  Read.

  If you don’t know, ask or find out. Knowledge is rarely a Bad Thing.

  Read.

  Take care of your health. It gets a lot harder as you get older.

  Read.

  Seriously, go to a library. Pick something. If you don’t like it, return it for something else. If you do, get some more like that one. But don’t be afraid to branch out.

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  • Notyou@sopuli.xyz ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    To add to this. You don’t need to go to the library. Depending on where you live, you can go online to your local library website. Register with them. They will give you a username and password. Then you can download apps like Libby or Hoopla to check out books/comics/audiobooks from your mobile device.

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• NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Upload posts to appropriate communities.

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    well I legit thought about this while in a shower so I think showerthoughts is an appropriate community for it

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• TranquilTurbulence@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Get to know yourself. What kind of person you are, what do you like, need and so on. Accept yourself as you are.

  Sure, you can change your weight, learn new skills, become better at stuff and get stronger. I’m not talking about those things. Some traits just are the way they are, and fighting against them will only result in frustration, stress and sadness. Try to figure out which parts of you can be changed and which ones can’t. Treat them accordingly.

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    yeah when I tried to suppress my bisexuality, it was just worse for me. Luckily this year I accepted who I am and it lifted the weight upon my chest

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    • TranquilTurbulence@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      For many people, acceptance is super hard, and they end up struggling for years. Once you’ve gone through that stage, life suddenly starts to feel much less stressful.

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  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    You are the only person who is fully stuck with you and vice versa. You have to live with your choices and behaviors, and I’ve never met someone who genuinely both should and does have no regrets.

    You will fail to be a good person, you will disappoint people you respect, you will fuck up on the job and in your relationships, and you will be the asshole sometimes. Treat each of these instances as a chance for growth and humility. A sincere apology and putting effort towards being better in the future will go very far. And when others do the same show them the grace and kindness you wanted when you fucked up.

    That said, some people are in destructive places and will keep fucking up and hurting people, understand when you can’t help and when it will hurt you to stay in their life.

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  • d00phy@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    If you can’t be alone with, and genuinely love, yourself; you’ll never be able to do that with someone else. Living alone for a little while really helped me either this.

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• mistermodal@lemmy.ml ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Don’t take advice from lonely Redditors on the internet, like you are doing.

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    well i got religious tradcons ahead of me who are homophobic and racists in real life so redditors are better for me

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  • MedicPigBabySaver@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Fuck Reddit and Fuck Spez.

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• the_q@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  You can see a trend in these replies and it’s not a good one.

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• TehBamski@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  The lattory is a ‘Stupid Person Tax.’ Meaning that stupid people throw their money at it because they buy into the feeling versus the logic behind it. “The overall odds of winning a prize are 1 in 24.9. The odds of winning the jackpot are 1 in 292.2 million.” source

  You had better odds of you, a sperm cell, fertilizing your mother’s egg, than you do currently of winning the Powerball jackpot.

  How much sperm is in semen? A typical sperm count may range from 15 million to more than 200 million per milliliter of semen

  Let that info sink in for a moment.

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  • MumboJumbo@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I’ve also heard the “stupid tax” or “dumb tax” as what you pay when learning or doing something new. There will be times that you look or feel like an idiot, but we’ve all been there, don’t let it stop you. Learn from your mistakes and persevere. You’re never too old to keep learning - knowledge, skills, compassion, empathy, shame, regret, success, failure. Life’s a trip, appreciate it for all its aspects and keep at it.

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  • bravesilvernest@lemmy.ml ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Tbf, they won out that lottery 🙃🎉🎆

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• Engywuck@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Don’t stop training, don’t eat shitty food (at least, not daily), don’t believe anything you hear or read and always double check it.

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• Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Use sunscreen.

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    i do. and it is best thing i could do. People call me girly for doing it but skincare is for everyone

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    • Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      The people who call you girly are idiots. Having said that, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being girly. I much prefer that to toxic masculinity.

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  • Notyou@sopuli.xyz ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Just post the song for him.

    youtu.be/bwVVpwBKUp0

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  • ramble81@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Stop reading beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

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  • Valmond@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Brush your teeth and see the dentist at least yearly.

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• truthfultemporarily@feddit.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Live below your means.

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    explain

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    • truthfultemporarily@feddit.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Let’s say you’re a student and poor. You live cheaply, eat ramen every day, etc.

      Now you get your first real job. The amount of money at first will seem crazy. There will be the temptation to just splurge, buy watches, fancy apartment, fancy car on loan, etc. This happens every time your income increases significantly.

      Now let’s say you get fired. Suddenly you have the loans, the bigger apartment, etc but no way to pay for it. This will be very stressful and you may have to do things you don’t want to.

      Imagine instead you didn’t have the car. You got a modest apartment, and saved some money. You have no debts, and can easily take half a year to get a new job no stress.

      So when I say live below your means, I mean do not give in to the temptation to splurge. Spend less money than you make.

      Try to put at least 30% or so of your income to the side (aim for 50%). Make an emergency fund of at least 3 months worth of expenses. Then start putting money into tax-deductible retirement funds and ETFs.

      Most importantly, never take loans and keep monthly expenses like subscriptions to a minimum.

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• Ftumch@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Baz Luhrmann - Everybody’s Free To Wear Sunscreen

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• CEbbinghaus@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Learn how to clean properly, stains especially.

  Practice a few basic but yummy recipes (trial and error for which work for you) and get good at cooking them.

  Remember everybody is living their own life at their own pace. Don’t feel like you aren’t doing it right.

  Ask for help when you need it. Nobody can do it all alone.

  Stay in contact with friends and cut ties with people that make your life worse.

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• FRYD@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Let go of any fear of others expectations for you as soon as you can. Explore what interests you and don’t let others stop you. People come and go, but they’ll come to you faster than they leave if you’re a confident and passionate person. You can only be that if you work on figuring out how you want to live and chase that life.

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• manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Practice your hobbies, I didnt start taking photos or playing guitar until I was 21, I’m pretty good now, good enough to find enjoyment in them

  learn a language?

  oh and also, therapy

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    therapy is expensive

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  • Acamon@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Yeah, never feel like it’s too late to start something. There’s stuff (learning an instrument, language, craft stuff) I considered getting into in my 30s but felt like it was too late. Now I’m 40 and I’ve started and I wish I’d done it ten years ago, because I’d be so much further ahead.

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  • TehBamski@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    oh and also, therapy

    Yeah, I need to comment that no one should be using BetterHelp or the like, if you care about your personal and/or sensitive data being stolen in a breach. BetterHelp already had privacy issues that came to light. 1 2 3

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• sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Wear condoms every time

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• claimsou@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  The right age for playing video games is after 30. before that, there s better to do

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I have no interests in games when I am playing life as a game

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  • MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Thefuck?

    Games are a hobby. If they give you pleasure and joy, then there is no “better” thing to be doing.

    How much of your time at 18 should be spent on hobbies is a different matter, but to dismiss games as unsitable at that age is insane.

    The games people play growing up and as young adults can be formative and massively influential.

    They tell stories, frustrate, entertain, let you form social bonds, and even enlighten you in ways no other form of media can by allowing you interactively explore the thoughts of other people.

    Plus, I’m not even 30, I am already noticing a decline in my performance in terms of precision and reaction time when it comes to the competitive genre.

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    • claimsou@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I was asked for an old man advice and gave it. Video games is not any hobby. It requires no physical effort and little social interaction. It is suited for older married people.

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  • manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I’m 30 and I get really bad rsi now, but maybe I shouldnt play video games for 6 hrs straight

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• Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Go to therapy if you struggle with mental health - the sooner, the better. Change gets harder the older you get.

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    i can’t afford therapy. is using Ai for therapy good??

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    • Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I would say no, since it’s too sycophantic which can lead down some dangerous paths.

      In many countries there are NGOs or social services that can offer therapy cheaper, but it’s hard to say exactly without knowing where you are. I read your other replies and based on what you wrote, you have had a pretty rough youth; you don’t learn to hide stuff on the regular if your environment is accepting. If you ever get the chance for psychotherapy, take it.

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• remon@ani.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Don’t take advise from people on the internet.

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    well you guys gave best advice and I got shitty advices offline not gonna reveal what i got

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  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Didn’t listen to this person, they are on the Internet.

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    • Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      And they can’t even spell.

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• kambusha@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Always double-check. For example, the community you are posting in.

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  • d00phy@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Measure twice, post once!

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• sourhill@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Travel if you can afford to, it’s an incredible way to learn about the world and meet different kinds of people. Look after your teeth.

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• Ekybio@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Buy a plunger BEFORE you need one

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  • snooggums@piefed.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    On a related note, own a fire extinguisher before you need one.

    Also learn how to use both before you need to.

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    • Contramuffin@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      In a similar vein:

      Get a fire ladder if you’re not living on the first floor

      But seriously, learning to use a fire extinguisher needs to be emphasized more. I stopped a fire from becoming serious because I was trained to use a fire extinguisher and I put out the fire quickly. My partner didn’t know what to do and she just handed the fire extinguisher to me. If she were there alone, the building could have burnt down. Or at minimum, all of our possessions could have been damaged.

      It’s easy to learn, but YOU NEED TO LEARN

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• Strider@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Everybody else is just faking it, too.

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  • Jesus_666@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    And everyone is trying to muddle through, including your heroes. I think it’s good to keep this in mind; both to avoid feeling inferior for not having your shit figured out (because nobody has) and to be tolerant of people making mistakes – nobody’s perfect and everyone has issues besides getting your order exactly right.

    Be chill with yourself and with other people.

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    • Strider@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Non withstanding there can be fundamental differences which no one tells you about (like neurodivergency) so if something feels very off, it might be.

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• slazer2au@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Head to the Winchester and wait for adult life to blow over.

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  • Naive@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    i don’t even know where is winchester. I am from another country

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    • slazer2au@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      You should go watch Shaun of the Dead.

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