I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me
Break stuff and figure things out, take chances and have fun. You’ve got time. You’ll figure it out.
Any advice for me a guy turning 18 yo old??
Submitted 1 month ago by Naive@leminal.space to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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pharceface@retrolemmy.com 1 month ago
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
thank you for this. these days, I feel like I got no time. I can’t do fun but yeah I will try to improve
Psythik@lemmy.world 1 month ago
If you aren’t already, start going to the gym now, or you will regret not doing so by your late 30s. I stopped going at age 30; it’s only been seven years since but I can already feel my body falling apart. Everything hurts all the time and it doesn’t stop hurting.
chilicheeselies@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Its reversable. I started going back to the gym at 39 and am stronger now than i was when I was younger. I have knee pain, but thats a weight issue honestly.
mcv@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
Don’t worry too much about the rat race. Take time to enjoy life and experience things with people you care about. The best moments in life can be really small things.
At the same time, don’t waste too much time doing nothing either; use your time well, but use it to develop and improve yourself, learn something useful. Get a job you enjoy or consider important, at least. Doing work that you enjoy or consider important is far more valuable than the money you make. But don’t ignore the money either. Just don’t sacrifice your soul for it. Don’t work yourself to death for a boss who doesn’t appreciate you. Don’t burn your relationships for money.
bluemoon@piefed.social 1 month ago
pick up the “analogue bag” trend. none of us older than you approve of the internet today: we had a different place to grow up in online. you will be the happiest and most hopeful person around- others will remember your calm and seek you for comfort.
stop using AI. period. your brain is developing, let it suffer the growing pains of wondering what to draw; of which source of knowledge learn from; how to compose your thoughts. you will be the most intelligent person around- ever increasingly so as years go by.
age old traps checklist: status, whoevers the most popular that moment, flips on the head as you grow up… everyone will Hate how the most popular person behaves now in a few years. be humble if you’re the popular one. at the sane time enjoy yourself: if you wanna indulge, indulge. saying stupid things from your heart is indulging. listening more than you speak is humble. that’s the secret to popularity that lasts beyond school years.
hug all around you. say hi to everyone around you, even those you don’t feel are cool- that you’d get bullied for associating with. that’s all we adults are doing: catching up on hugs and greetings, because it helps our mood and makes us feel meaningful wherever we have to be.
learn an instrument, or an art, or a craft, or a sport.
say no to drugs. period. your brain and body are fully developed when you are 26. then you don’t get as addicted and have an easer time finding a balance between partying and cozying up intimately in a couch. statistically you’ll end up regretful if not abusing drugs or being abused while doing drugs below 26 years old. i can attest. drugs don’t fix problems. they hide and let problems infect other parts of your life.
say no to sex that makes you feel pressured. as a guy i got status from chasing sex at your age, but if fucked me up to only be liked for being attractive. friends who cuddle are more important than acquaintances who fuck. one validates you as a human being and makes you feel seen. the other hollows you out while forcing you to become a person for the sake of others to feel seen.
be outdoors. pet animals. eat vegetables. drink water, not soda. drop food additives like “flavour enhancers” (e621) and aromas (vanilla aroma is made of literal cowdung and fossil fuels.) companies are not your friends: you’re as cattle to the companies, so yeet their brands. wear natural fibres and what you like.
welp i have more but idk if you’d read all
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
i have read it all. it was nice. thank you
bluemoon@piefed.social 1 month ago
oh also shower every other day, use deoderant without shit additives every day, change socks & underwear every day, learn to use a washing machine, learn to floss your teeth, use conditioner after you’ve rinsed your schampoo, learn how to clean the toilet after you & how to wipe yourself in the front (shaking isn’t enough among adults), trim your nosehair… i could go on.
Willdrick@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Don’t send dickpics. You never know when they’ll show up on a leak.
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
true
GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 1 month ago
wisdom is often wasted on the elderly. youth is fleeting as are most the mistakes you will make in life at this point.
the following advice is fitting unless you’re doing either of these two things:
- making babies
- taking a life (especially your own)
Live the three truths
- you will always make mistakes
- you will always hurt those you love
- you will always have regrets.
the older you get the harder it is to recover from these truths. Live your life to your requirements. By the time you’re closing in on your 30s, you should start to settle down and find yourself a quiet place to build your life for when you’re in your 50s or 60s.
in your 30s seek out happiness and contentment. this will be your foundation to accept your regrets and mistakes. own the mistakes you made along the way, accept them like you would a bruise or blemish on your body. in time they will heal, if only you accept them and move on.
in your 40s harvest your happiness and contentment. accept there are things you cannot do not because you haven’t or couldn’t but because you shouldn’t.
in your 50s store your happiness and contentment with the knowledge that nobody can take it from you, it’s yours and yours alone.
60+ feed your soul from your stores, using the memories you made along the way. depending on the life you have led, share in new memories with those around you. celebrate their successes as your successes.
if you’re lucky you will build lasting relationships along the way and will have many fond memories. you will inevitability have bad memories as well, but such is life.
personally I lost every single friend I have ever had. I never really recovered from it and now I have no friends. It’s one of many regrets, but I never let it spoil my happiness and contentment. I find fulfillment by other means like hobbies, crafting, and family.
I never wanted to be married or have kids, but it feels as if what you think is important today changes by tomorrow. don’t fight it, because you’ll only be fighting yourself.
life is full of surprises, learn to roll with the punches and adapt to the world. if you don’t, life will fucking kill you.
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
me neither wanted to be married or have kids
Retro_unlimited@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Money is very easy to spend, but Money is so very hard to make. Be cautious with your money
the_grass_trainer@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Personally i would suggest not going to university for at least 2 years, work a small job if you have a good living arrangement with family, and save up as much as you can for those 2 years.
Additionally, put some savings into an account that earns interest over time as a way to save for the long-long-term.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Your social life as an adult is very much what you make it. Go do things that seem interesting even if you feel you’d rather stay home. Chat with people when you’re there. A huge component of modern loneliness is that we’re able to stay entertained and with a crude social life without seeing others irl, but it’s often not actually sufficient. So go get involved in something hobbies, activism, whatever events look interesting at the time. And remember that the things you do now are the memories and stories you’ll have when you’re old.
MoodyPotato@piefed.world 1 month ago
Be nice to others, be honest, keep out of trouble, don't hang out with people who create trouble, and work on yourself.
null@piefed.nullspace.lol 1 month ago
You spent 18 years learning to navigate a gated world. You will do just as much learning in the next 18 navigating a newly ungated one.
Think about the sort of kindness you would want to treat a younger version of yourself as he fumbled through that learning. Practice treating your new “young” self with that kindness today. It will pay dividends.
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
Thanks. even though I am feeling overwhelmed and sad these days, I will try to love myself.
null@piefed.nullspace.lol 1 month ago
You got this, man.
Amaterasu@lemmy.world 1 month ago
If you don’t know yet learn a second language. Chinese seems the most useful nowadays.
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
English is my second language
GrammarPolice@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Out of curiosity, why do you think Chinese is useful?
Amaterasu@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Seems to be where the world is marching. They are surpassing the US and competing in many areas. They have a large population that is starting to travel more often. They are producing large content online that is not translated. They have their own YouTube equivalent (Bilibili), etc…
discosnails@lemmy.wtf 1 month ago
The more discipline you can have without letting small lapses and setbacks get to you the better off you’ll be in the future. Don’t get set on something (job, relationship, philosophy) until you really know who you are and what you want, and explore WIDELY. Be honest and direct in your communication and you’ll have less drama, the trash will take itself out. Find mentors, don’t let them run your life. Use your body like a diesel truck.
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
what do you mean by diesel truck?? finding myself still, hope i will find out. thank you
discosnails@lemmy.wtf 1 month ago
Keep it running, use it for hard work, don’t worry too much about the exterior or upholstery but keep the drive train and the suspension maintained and in good shape. Work hard, play hard.
ThrowawayPermanente@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Put a lot of thought into your college major. Pick the hardest one you can actually do. Take it easy on the substances, especially stimulants and depressants (yes, this 100% includes alcohol). Exercise regularly, sports are ideal because they’re also social so you’re getting two birds stoned at once. If you don’t like flossing, buy a water flosser. Don’t have kids until you’re in a stable relationship and you both have good jobs. Get used to living on 90% of your salary, the difference in terms of stress between slightly under-spending and slightly over-spending is enormous.
skrlet13@feddit.cl 1 month ago
Being responsible is always beneficial. Sometimes you don’t get/feel those benefits, but everyone is grateful when their bus arrives on time :) Just don’t forget to being responsible with yourself too.
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
oh yeah!! this is hard for a lazy me, but I will try. I am trying to improve on my studies and yeah, thank you.
saimen@feddit.org 1 month ago
Know thyself.
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
a big piece of advice. i am still finding myself. thank you
Renat@szmer.info 1 month ago
If you male, you can get male pattern baldness in this age, but you can stop baldness by taking finasteride.
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
yeah my hairline is receding and I am a male.
MITM0@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Stick to your principles & rule of law like flies on shit
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
I didn’t get principles. I am searching right and wrong.
daggermoon@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Believe in yourself, especially if no one else does
GladiusB@lemmy.world 1 month ago
If it’s wet and ain’t yours, really think about it before you touch it.
Bring a towel.
Be a goldfish.
There’s probably only one play on this quarter. Don’t look back and think “what if…”
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
pretty well said. thank you
pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
When I was in high school, I wanted to go to a couple specific unis. Being rejected was one of the best paths ever. I went to community college, made lots of friends, had amazing professors, took part in lots of programs where I made long term friends who even stuck with me to transferring to my current uni. I took a bunch of fun classes there that allowed me to get the skills I need to land the internship I have.
So my advice is, as a you guy, you have lots of time so test the waters, experience stuff, have fun, and you’ll enjoy whatever it is you end up in.
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
i am becoming that guy sadly. I never took fun classes. I just create music sometime or read books by myself for enjoyment but deep down, I don’t have friends upon whom I can trust. I am friend of everyone but not of anyone
MITM0@lemmy.world 1 month ago
But what if you have controlling parents ?
pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
Some parents think you should just pick a path and run for it and never stop. But, they should realize that life is never a straight path. Some people run for that path and find out that’s not for them. Taking fun classes that isn’t part of your degree program can give you skills that make you more hireable because everybody else is that same cookie cutter person who took the exact same classes. You might meet a professor and have long lasting connections.
It doesn’t make sense if you started off going down the math teacher route, find out you hate math, find out you hate teaching, and end up struggling through a path you hate and have a stressful life.
I have friends who added like 5 years on their lives, because they immigrated here from their country, as a young person, you have so much time to figure out what you want to do. If your controlling parents want the best for you, they should understand this.
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
I have controlling parents too but I am very good at hiding things so I just hide many things from them, like my sexuality, my beliefs, my music and etc
twice_hatch@midwest.social 1 month ago
Get on finasteride or something to preserve your hair line
Wiz@midwest.social 1 month ago
Or even better, don’t worry about your hair line. It’s not worth it.
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Specific advice like “save your money” and “enjoy your money while youre young” and “focus on education” and “forget education get a job fast” are all too nuanced and will likely get ignored anyway.
This “song” pretty much covers the important stuff.
invertedspear@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
Some of the other comments touch on it, but usually mixed with other items, so let me reiterate. Your metabolism is going to slowly wane. Keep an eye on your weight and reduce your calorie intake now. It’s really easy to think “meh, so I’m 10 extra pounds, I can easily lose that later” but by later you will be 15 extra pounds. If you’re gaining muscle, that’s one thing, but keep yourself from gaining fat as much as you can.
Flax_vert@feddit.uk 1 month ago
Go to Church every Sunday
Aequitas@feddit.org 1 month ago
Religions are fairy tales for children who are afraid of death. They have nothing to do with reality. There is no god and no rational reason to believe in one. Part of growing up is accepting that.
Flax_vert@feddit.uk 1 month ago
There is no god and no rational reason to believe in one.
Except from that guy who did miracles and stuff and rose from the dead
Naive@leminal.space 1 month ago
I am from different religious background
dogs0n@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Im probably not wise enough to give advice, but in general I think it’s while you are young that taking big risks is more worth the trade offs.
Im talking risks like career wise or investment wise, business wise, etc.
the_q@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
You can see a trend in these replies and it’s not a good one.
electric_nan@lemmy.ml 1 month ago
It’s okay to be scared, but do it anyway!