Acamon

@Acamon@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the best way to answer someone who accuses you of being a bot because they don't like what you have to say?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, given that that account got deleted not long after that (if it’s the one I’m thinking of) then it quite probably was a bot…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which countries combine high quality of life and strong equality?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Looking at this data Norway seems to have low levels of economic inequality, low rates of poverty, and a high median disposable income (behind Luxembourg but around that of France and Austria).

  Its far from perfect, but I imagine social inequality for stuff like gender and race is pretty low, officially speaking at least. I get the feeling that Scandinavians can be a big negative about foreigners, but I have zero firsthand knowledge on that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Finding people who vibe with you is so hard⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Meeting other people’s friends groups (as you described meeting your partner’s friends) is a great way to shortcut that awkwardness. Its not just that someone else has done the hard work of filtering folks out, but that people are just on better form when with friends. Part of the problem of making friends in random social events is most people are either a bit awkward or putting on a social ‘mask’, which makes it harder to actually identify the people you’d like once you got past that.

  My wife social circle has a bunch of people who entered as someone’s partner for a whole, but stayed friends with us after they broke up (even if there was a delicate period post-split where we hung out with them both, but never together).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Whats going on in YSK?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  lemmy.world/post/39499201 lemmy.world/post/39490841 lemmy.world/post/39379258 lemmy.world/post/39401080 lemmy.world/post/39443812 lemmy.world/post/39251915 lemmy.world/post/39294224 lemmy.world/post/38937776 lemmy.world/post/38770260

  Just looking at the last 20 posts (including this one), these 9 are all links to ragebait news stories from accounts that are now deleted and have similar random usernames. Of the remaining 11, one is a weird downvoted post from deleted accounts, 2 are politics posts but from active users. Just over a quarter of the posts are actually about interesting/useful information.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Whats going on in YSK?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, I know what you mean. Asking people to join and then not be able post seems a bit shit. Same with the light moderation in most communities, when there’s a comparatively low level of posts, do we really want to be removing posts for being “off topic”?

  But I also think that can backfire. I’m pretty close to leaving YSK and mildlyinfuriating because it feels that half the posts are just variations on politics. The tagine of “YSK” is a place for all the things to make your life easier. Looking back through the last 20 posts >75% are to do with politics, bad people and their misdeeds. I hate Boris Johnson, and people should be told he’s a corrupt ass hole, but we have communities for politics which is where that belongs.

  Ragebait is always going to do well, it’s how our brains are wired. So if we don’t want all communities to end up being mostly “this is bad, you should be angry and sad” then we need stricter moderation. It’s a mistake to think more posts = more content. If most of the main communities of lemmy are overrun by these kinds of posts, the only new users it’s going to attract are people who want that, and the problem snowballs.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's weird looking back at life, and seeing all the paths I didn't go down⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s not weird to think about the other paths you could have gone down. But I would avoiding feeling too much regret. If something genuinely seems interesting to you, make it part of your current life, even just as a hobby or side project. Remembering that we are more than just our current selves is important for not getting swallowed by the grind.

  If it’s feeling envy about the better life some alternate you has, try to keep in mind that nothing is simple. Although other choices might seem appealing in abstract, maybe they’d also lead to more problems. Sure, you could have been a doctor, but maybe the stress would have driven you to burnout and opiate addiction (69% of doctors misuse prescription substances).

  I’d also say, that as I get older, I feel like I hit different “Save Points” that prevent to much regret. I chose to study philosophy instead of law, which means I’m a lot less rich than I might have been, but I would trade my weird, chilled friends from uni for the bunch of competitive over achievers I would have been “friends” with if I’d gone down that route. I met my spouse during a stressful period in my life, completing a degree for a profession I no longer work in. I could see that whole period of study as a complete waste of time, but if I’d never met the person I married the my life would be incomparably poorer.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨DAE name their characters by their official name?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I like games where I name the main character, often the main character has a title or nickname that npcs use as well (the Dragonborn, the Avatar) but if I know they have a name in the story then it’s feels a bit weird to change it. So, Link is Link. But when I player Chrono Trigger for the first time recently I had (somehow) not heard much about it, so I renamed Crono (also it’s a horrible misspelling and kinda dull name, so happy to change it).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨why are they pushing kpop demon hunters so badly? Who makes money off this new group?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Wow, that site is unhinged. Also, that article feels like it’s been heavily rewritten by AI, if not pure ai slop. Normally I enjoy crazy paranoid rants about demonic symbolism on cereal boxes, or whatever, but that article was shallow and vacuous.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Whats going on in YSK?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Not sure, but I wonder if it’s seen as an “easy” community to post in? There’s not a strict sense of what’s appropriate, and a lot of posts are just a link to an article, with “YSK” + a rewording of the article headline as the title.

  It’s also one of the bigger communities, so posting a random article about a storm or laptops will get a decent amount of upvotes in a few hours.

  Given that it mostly seems to be new accounts, I wonder if it’d be worth requiring a minimum age of a week or two before users can create a post?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The disadvantaged are more sensitive to biased language for good reasons.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I probably agree, but I’m not quite sure what you mean. Do you mean that people who are in a disadvantaged group in a society are more sensitive to language that is biased against their group? So women notice (and can be offended) by phrases like “you throw like a girl” while men might not care, or even notice, that it’s sexist.

  Or do you mean people in disadvantaged groups are, in general better at detecting bias in language? So, poor people are better at spotting politic bias in reporting?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Emotional abuse of children by immigrant parents probably contributes a lot to to why the kids hate their ancestral language.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you think emotional abuse is more common from immigrant parents? I feel like I see a lot of comments about the stress and pressure that immigrant parents put on their kids, but it’s not something I know anything about.

  If so, why do you think it’s like that? Is it just that families that immigrant are often in difficult financial situations, without lots of social support so the parents are super stressed? Or that the kinds of people who are willing to immigrate are aspirational and so demand a lot of their children? Or is partly that their way if parenting would be normal back where they grew up, but for its difficult for their kids growing up in a society with different standards and expectations around childhood?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there an optimal home/apartment size that most people would be happy with?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s lots of architectural guidance, building codes, etc. normally linked to number of people in the household. But it’s all pretty damn relative, both culturally and individually.

  When I lived in the city, I was pretty comfortable with a small appartment, because I spent a lot of time out of my home in cultural spaces. Now I live in the country, and in city-terms our house is gigantic for just the two of us. Netherthless, we’re continuing to convert old out buildings into more space because the demands on our home are much higher and we have lots of unused space.

  Not only do we live there, but we’ve got jobs that involve a lot of remote working, and it’s also a building site/workshop as we renovate and make our own fixtures and furniture. Plus, because it’s more remote, we want guest bedrooms and extra space so that guests can come and stay for a while without feeling cramped. Then we’ve got animals, who bring their own clutter, and we also want to create a guesthouse that we can rent to tourists. Even without those extra requirements, we choose to sleep in adjacent, but seperate, bedrooms because we have sleep issues. And I know that is a crazy luxury that we wouldn’t have been able to afford in the city, but when space is cheap, there’s no real reason not to.

  I know that my example is pretty extreme, but everyone’s needs are different. I have friends who basically live in one room and love that, because everything is within easy reach and they don’t want to have guests. But I know it would be depressing and claustrophobic for others. Sharing an apartment with four adult strangers is a different experience from a family home with four children.

  I think there can be rules (you can’t claim something is a bedroom if it’s smaller than 6sqm) but there isn’t a one size fits all solution.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨With bathing, water recirculation is more easily accepted.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s the case for all dishwashers I know about. It’s not that weird if you think about it. When people wash dishes by hand, they often wash a bunch of dishes in the same basin, with the water becoming increasingly dirty. Depending on how dirty and how much they care, they’ll change the water occasionally. Then they’ll give everything a rinse in clean water to get rid of soap. (obvs people do dishes on a variety of ways, but this is pretty common in western cultures.)

  Dishwashers are the same, spray the same hot soapy water over the dishes for a while, until it’s dirty and most of the solids have been removed. Then drain and wash again with clean water. The soapy stage is about removing dirt, but the sanitising comes afterwards with the hot rinse and drying.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Someone At YouTube Needs Glasses: The Prophecy Has Been Fulfilled⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  And the single video that isn’t a “Sponsored” ad is still from Red Bull, and basically an ad.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨One of Silicon Valley's most prominent techbros is giving lectures on the Antichrist -- and he thinks it's the Pope⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Intresting! If anyone has unpaywalled version I’d like to read more.

  I do think it’s odd that a billionaire has basically payed to have his own vice-president (I don’t think many people would argue that Vance was an obvious choice apart from as a puppet of Thiel) and that billionaire is overtly apocalyptically bonkers, but the press barely cover it.

  I’ve seen mention that Thiel had been discussing the antichrist in lectures. Butt with all this talk of AI bubbles and the insane amounts of money being funneled into the industry, here’s a extremely rich and powerful man, who has basically groomed the VP (alongside all the other influence his wealth gives him) who is making wild messianic claims about AI and accusing any opposition to it as the work of Satan! That’s insane!

  Imagine that when Bush was trying to get support for the invasion of Iraq, Rumsfeld was going around giving lectures on the Crusades and the role of Isreal in the Apocalypse. Sure, there was and is support for stuff like that in fundamentalist evangelical churches, but it wasn’t the avowed belief of the inner circle of the US government. And if it was, I don’t think Britain would have gone along with a literal holy war. Is that really the stage we’re at? I use to read about the 3rd Reich and finding it implausible that they were actually making policy decisions based on a invented hodgepodge of occult nonsense, but now it’s starting to be believable.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You might have an intresting point here, but o don’t really understand what you’re saying. Can you explain a bit more?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Americans are holding onto devices longer than ever and it’s costing the economy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The idea, that keeping a device for more than two years is “short term” thinking that could doom the economy, is a pretty damning indictment on the state of your economy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If one were given the option to order a Stupid Cat or a Smart Cat, the vast majority would pick the Stupid Cat despite Stupid being bad.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Can you share a link?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If one were given the option to order a Stupid Cat or a Smart Cat, the vast majority would pick the Stupid Cat despite Stupid being bad.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yup, just read the other post. No one picked stupid cat. Really weird behavior OP.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you objectively tell if a parents "I love you" is actually sincere, if they actually care about you? Or if the words are lies and they don't actually care?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is a really good answer. Even terrible parents generally ‘love’ their children. Some believe that means giving everything they want and never saying “no”, others believe that by bullying their kids they’re “making them strong”. And some genuinely love their kids, but less than they love their career or football.

  Fortunately most parents really do want to do right by the kids, and have a more sane idea of what love means. But they might not always express that love in the way the child needs or understands, for a variety of reasons.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why does a community called no stupid questions allow comments that say the question is stupid?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think your absolutely right that people shouldn’t call a question stupid in c/nostupidquestions. But they can and should criticise a question for being a rant disguised as a question (eg. “Why are X people so stupid?”). More borderline is a questions that maybe meant in good faith but seems to have so many problematic assumptions built-in, that it’s difficult to even engage with fairly. It might not be a stupid question, but it’s been phrased in a way that makes so many wrong assumptions, that answering it becomes an unnecessarily difficult chore.

  I saw your question about veganism, and I can imagine some people took it as way of poking vegans. Vegans get a lot of hassle online, and are often asked to justify this or that, so asking “why don’t they eat roadkill” (in so many words) could be seen as not coming from a genuine place of curiosity. I’m not saying your question wasn’t genuine, but I can imagine that other people thought so.

  I do think your question falls into the “too many dumb assumptions”. There were responses along the lines of “vegans don’t eat meat, so of course they don’t eat meat that has died naturally”. And you responded with “I meant the philosophy not the diet”. If that’s true, then it was a “badly phrased” question, not a “stupid” one.

  Nostupidquestions is meant to be a place to ask questions that you feel like you should know, or everyone else seems to know. If you ask confusing or misleading questions, it’s reasonable for people to respond with “that’s not what veganism means” or whatever. But I do 100% think people should say it’s a stupid question (although, having read through the thread I don’t see anyone saying that to you…)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Wearing a helmet and a hat while biking⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If I saw someone wearing a helmet, with cap strapped on somewhere, I’d understand. It’s practical, and it’s pretty clear that your planning to wear it when you remove the helmet, you’re not trying to make some sort of statement. Go for it! (as long as your cap strap is reliable…)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When you wake up, how long does it take for your brain's "OS" to "resume from hibernation"?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Unless im sleep deprived or intoxicated, pretty instantly. But although I sleep pretty well, I generally wake up regularly through the night to turn over, flip my pillow etc. So, waking isn’t usually a shock. Maybe if I got woken by an alarm I’d be confused, but generally I wake up a few minutes before my alarm.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Widespread Cloudflare outage blamed on mysterious traffic spike⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Was there a specific event that coincided with the blackout? I don’t know the details of current US events, just that they’re crazy and depressing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you feel like your profile is an identity of you?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t think I’d feel like I lost a part of me if I my account got banned. But I could imagine feeling pretty angry if it was unfair, and frustration at losing access to save post or conversations with that I still reference.

  But I do think an account is a ‘face’, just like in real life. I talk differently at work than with my friend, I speak differently to my boss and my students, and even different friend groups have different ways of talking or humour they enjoy. In that sense my lemmy account talks about some stuff I wouldn’t bring up with certain people, and there’s some stuff I wouldnt post on here.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does Porn Logic sometimes happen in real life we just don't notice it?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Really depends on the porn. I feel like a lot of porn (if it has any logic or plot to speak of) is simply about sex occurring quickly in situations that it doesn’t usually. That can be beause it breaks a taboo (step-incest porn) or just an ordinary non sexual interaction getting horny (workplace, public, dinner, pizza delivery, etc.)

  It isn’t generally “two people meet on a date and end up going back home and hooking up” because it’s just not the novel. I imagine there’s some of real life equivalents of both categories, but they’re almost be definition exceptional.

  Closest I can think of from my own life, is drunkly having sex in a deserted area, not thinking about security cameras. But if it’d been real “porn logic” I would have had sex with the police officers who later took me in for questioning. But no.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Counter-intuitive population crisis⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Does population increase when famine hits? As I understand it the main brakes on population in human history have been famine and disease. The level of population that a society can support is usually based on its agriculture resources and technology. However, historically, the population would tend towards the highest level supportable, and then years with poor food producing conditions would cause famine and the population would contract.

  Over the last century or so, the cycle has changed. Now societies with a food surplus don’t generally see constant population growth because of two things - food production is no longer dependant on how many humans can you put to work in the fields, so there’s less need for more kids to make a family’s work easier (in fact, each modern child costs more effort and expense than they produce); and we have birth control and education, which allow people to make more intentional decisions about when and if they have children.

  Combining a lack of incentive with the capacity to choose means that many societies have broken the population growth and contraction (ie baby boom followed by famine) cycle. This leads to different problems such as aging populations, but that’s another discussion.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is capitalism or consumerism at fault?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If you’re trying to blame “stupid consumers” or “evil companies” you’re not thinking about things systemically. Of course, under our current economic system, companies are going to end up exploiting, because there’s lots of pressure to maximise profits, and minimal pressure to avoid decisions that make money but harm society. And consumers are going to make bad decisions, because they live in a society where they are constantly bombarded by advertising and social values that encourage spending and don’t punish buying unnecessary shit.

  The naïve (or self-serving) status quo view is “but consumers should know what they can afford, and not waste money. And customers should take their business elsewhere if a company does bad things”. If that’s really what you want to happen, then create a system that incentivizes that - have strict rules on credit and loans, so that people can’t buy takeaway food on credit, enforce strict anti-monopoly measures so that there lots of genuine alternatives for consumers to turn to, have requirements for news media to inform the public about all the actions that companies take that are harmful to the entire, of their workers, or the general population (and make clear who are their competitors, and only those alternatives that aren’t owned by the same conglomerate), and so on…

  If someone promotes a system that relies on “personal responsibility” but doesn’t promote tools that facilitiate that responsibility, then they are being disingenuous.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If you enjoy napping, you're basically time traveling to a future where you're less tired.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What’s with these new accounts suddenly posting dozens of generic, overwritten and preppy posts in a few hours. It seems like an almost inhuman pattern…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK: Your local library card often gives you free access to streaming services, digital magazines, audiobooks, and even online courses.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Depressing. ai bots flooding my feed today, check the post history