Acamon

@Acamon@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is cops being evil/lazy/incompetent a USA specific thing, or is it the same everywhere in the world?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m defintely not a fan of cops, but in Scotland I never thought of them as evil/lazy/incompetent. They’re still the arm of state control, and have been used to break strikes and stuff, but there is at least a vibe of policing by consent. There are plenty of cases of individual cops who were psychos, and the institution defintely defaults to ‘protecting it’s own’ which is a fucking terrible attitude and in my mind makes all cops culpable for the crimes of the “bad apples”. So I’m still acab overall.

  But most of my interactions with the police have been pretty decent, and that includes being questioned as a suspect (for something that I may not have been innocent of…) They don’t ‘solve’ many petty crimes like burglary that actual effect normal people but they are generally university educated and properly trained.

  I now live in France, where the police are none of those things. I’ve only heard bad things about them ranging from patronising and incompetent to raping student protesters in the back of the police van. I would never ask a French cop for help, but unless I was high or carrying something illegal, i wouldn’t be worried about talking to a Scottish policeman.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨At what point in the friendship does dating become awkward?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I think any good relationship will make you friends, and it isn’t awkward, it’s great! But having been married a while, it is something you need to work at. With a long term partner they can end up in a bunch of different types of relationships with you - as well as friend, romantic parter and lover, they might be the equivalent of business parter, or boss/employee (for various household and family chores / projects) and learning how to do all those things well, and without ruining the other parts of the relationship can be challenge.

  But if the balance is just between ‘friend’ and ‘gf’, I’d say the trick is knowing when to prioritise one over the over. There are times I’m horny and want to take things in that direction, but I realise my partner would rather have a cup of tea and complain about work. Equally, we might be getting intimate, and I’m tempted to make some dumb joke, because it’s funny and that’s what I do with a friend, so I have to weigh up my priorities (mostly sex wins, but sometimes I say the dumb thing and we both have a big laugh and then make dinner.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What’s the difference between pansexuality and bisexuality?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Echoing other lemmings, there’s basically no difference. There js a certain niche who seem to think that pansexual is more trans inclusive, but that attitude doesn’t align with almost all bisexuals opinions on the matter, or with the history of how the bisexual community has been accepting and collaborating with the trans community since pretty much the birth of both communities.

  The delightful verilybitchie, who is both bisexual and trans, has a bunch of good video on the history of bisexuality, trans stuff, and biphobia*. They are defintely worth watching!

  • it’s pretty hard to hear ‘bisexuals exclude trans people’ and not feel like that’s an example of biphobia.
• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  That finding is pretty mind blowing!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Totally. And eventually people get to the age where “embarrassing” medical stuff is so common that it doesn’t even raise an eyebrow. Just be matter of fact about it, if you don’t act like it’s embarrassing then they won’t either.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How important is flirting within the dating scene?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s a difference between ‘faking’ / trying to become something you’re not and improving your communication style /skills. You’re meeting women, not flirting, and not progressing into the kinds of relationships you want. You don’t need to start ‘flirting’ (whatever that means to you), but maybe you can change what’s happening after meeting people. I assume your speaking with people you find attractive? How do you build a connection with them? How are you letting them know you’re interested in taking things further?

  There’s a big difference from A) meeting women, being pleasant, and hoping that one of them asks you out, and B) meeting women, having some friendly conversations, then asking if they want to start dating. Those are extremes, but the space in the middle can all be considered forms of flirting.

  Flirting doesnt need to be some special way of making eye contact, or lame pick up lines. Having fun, making jokes and being silly can be flirting. Asking someone politely if they’d like to get coffee some time can be flirting. Flirting is just the process of letting the other person know that you’re interested in them in a romantic / sexual way, and good flirting is letting them know that in a way that doesn’t make them uncomfortable and makes it easy for them to respond without making things awkward for either of you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you feel like you've reached the end of what the world has to offer?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  One one level, obviously you can never experience everything, the world is fricking massive and ever-changing. But you can feel like you’ve seen and done everything that interests you, and find it hard to remain curious and develop new interests. There have been times that I think the only interests and goals that will ever feel relevant to me are ones that I’ve had since I was a kid. But even “eating yummy food, playing games and reading fantasy books” is more than enough to fill my entire life.

  When I’ve been lucky enough to have the time, I’ve filled many hours, day after day, cooking delicious meals and trying new things in the kitchen, and the list of things I want to try expands just as fast as I tick them off. Similarly, although I’ve read countless fantasy novels over the decades I’ve only just got round to reading classics like Conan and Elric, and there’s so much more out there - and people write more books every year!

  But there are times when I can’t face new challenges, and I retreat to the easy comfort of things I know. This can be reassuring and restful, but if I get to the stage where I’m sick of watching the same show I’ve seen so many times, then I know it’s time for me to start pushing myself to try new things and develop new tastes (even if it’s just subvarieties of things I already like). And if I don’t feel up to that, it means I need to get some support and help to improve my mood and clear my thinking.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If I’m mostly attracted to men, is it «wrong» to consider myself pan?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I agree with most of the other comments that labels aren’t really important. But if you do want to think about and describe your sexuality for whatever purpose, go for it. And as a lifelong bisexual, self doubt is a common enough trope in bi/pansexual communities to get it’s own label, ‘bi imposter syndrome’. Some bi (or pan, I see the difference as mostly stylistic) people are equally attracted to all genders, some have a significant tendency one way or another, and some think they have a preference and then it switches, and sometimes switches back again and again. I’ve been in a relationship with the same guy for so long now, I sometimes wonder ‘am I really bi? Am I just pretending? Maybe I just didn’t know what I wanted when I was young, and now I can admit I’m just gay’. But then I speak to some girl, or see a hottie on TV, and realise I’m defitnely sexually attracted to them.

  If bi is so broad to include anyone who has ever had, or could have, sexual attraction to anyone who wasn’t their traditional hetero gender, is there any point in the label? Isn’t almost everyone bi? Sure! I kinda think everyone is kinda bi on some level. But it’s also about what purpose a label serves. If someone described themselves as ‘pan’, I would assume they woukd open-minded and nonjudgemental about people of different sexualites and genders. I wouldn’t assume they’d automatically be attracted to everyone they met, even straight men aren’t attracted to every woman. I use to avoid calling myself gay, because I’m bi, but I realised that insisting on that was sometimes kinda homophobic, and as someone married to another man, I have a lot in common with lots of gay folks. But I also sometimes refer to myself as a “straight white man” when talking about privilege, because most acquaintances don’t think of me as gay so I’ve never experienced much discrimination on that front, and don’t feel I can claim to speak as a ‘minority’.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Will online only "Device Activation" become the norm for every device in the future? / Will everything require an app in the future?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Anyone got good suggestions for affordable cameras that don’t require an app?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the deal with male loneliness?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I think the reason for down votes is that the comment suggests that issues with dating are the reason for male loneliness, when most people in the thread would argue that believing that ‘a romantic partner is the only acceptable source of meaningful emotional connection available to men’ is a big part of male loneliness.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We like music because our brains crave pattern recognition.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  For a long time lots of European music was mostly thorough-composed, where there was little to no repitition. Madrigals (the popular music of the renaissance) were mostly like this, the melody would follow it’s own journey with no chorus / verse or other repetitive structure. I might be remembering wrong, but I think it was early baroque and Monteverdi’s Orfeo that popularised repeating structures, and turns out people love them. If you back and listen to some madrigals, it’s a very different approach to music. (also, there was folks music and all sorts of other traditions, which used more repeating patterns, that seem more familiar to us.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If "more money=more problems," why doesn't "no money=no problems"?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Because that’s the logical fallacy of Denying the Antecedent . If “it’s raining” then “the sidewalk is wet”. Knowing that it’s raining tells us something about the sidewalk, it’s not dry, it’s wet. And knowing the sidewalk is dry tells us something, it can’t be raining (because if it was, the sidewalk would be wet).

  But knowing “it is not raining” doesn’t tell us about the sidewalk (it could be dry, it could be wet, maybe it rained earlier, maybe a dog peed on it). And similarly knowing the sidewalk is wet doesn’t tell us anything about the rain.

  So even if “mo money causes mo problems” all that tells us is that someone with mo money will not be problem free. People with no money might also have mo problems, the syllogism doesn’t tell us about that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨flouride⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Talking about the ocean is odd, but there are towns in the UK (and most countries I’d assume?) where the natural level of fluoride is higher than the concentration they aim for when adding fluoride. I think that’s a pretty good argument for it being safe - the people of Hartlepool have been drinking fluoride rich water for 13 centuries and don’t have any noticeable issues compared to the rest OF County Durham.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What has Critical Theory actually achieved?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m mot sure I understand what kind of answer you are looking for. What did the Whig historiography achieve? Or the Great Man theory? Isn’t Critical Theory an academic approach that allows people in the humanities a different theoretical framework to approach the problems of culture, history, literature, etc? It’s been pretty successful in that, and while I believe that academic scholarship has some influence on world affairs, it’s generally the political zetgeist exerts more pressure on academic thinking than the other way around…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do the ultra-rich consume popular media?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The Queen apparently watched the amazing 80s Flash Gordon movie every Christmas. And it’s about overthrowing a tyrannical monarch…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Phonebooks⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Original SEO

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Most file types are just a renamed .zip⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I think ‘most’ is hyperbole for dramatic effect / increased engagement. “more files than you might think are actually following the zip file structure” isn’t as punchy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i need it, soz⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  What I think you mean by “natural geography” is just one part of the field. Urban / economic geography (regional dynamics, housing policy, tourism geography, population analysis) and Historical / Social geography (historical urban geography, homelessness, migration, etc) Are big parts of the field of geography. Most of modern geography is interested in both the physical (more geology, climate, biomes, etc) and human aspects, and how they interact.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Sorry to be dumb, but which ones are the crt ones?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Because mosts music tastes stagnate after your teens, you are actually admitting your parents music is better - because they are the ones making it.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Almost every part of this is wrong. But I suspect op’s parents do have better music taste than them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The phrase "Pics or it didn't happen" is largely meaningless now that AI is a thing.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  People act like this hasn’t been a thing for over a century…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Reading through English speaking non American political discourse is just non Americans comparing their politics to American politics⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Except it mostly isn’t.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can non-airborne viruses become airborne through mutation?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That was really interesting. Thanks!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Are you talking about the ancient practice of dog sacrifice?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The US population only accounts for 4.2% of the world.⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m actually surprised it’s as high as that!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How can I create an alter ego for publishing stories?⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  No idea why someone down voted this comment. It’s pretty much all there is to it. Where ever you’re publishing / monetising can have your real name for financial and legal aspects. But the name you put as the author of the stories / books can be whatever you like (probably not the same as someone else who publishes in your field…)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Did the premise of an entity approaching you only when it's not being viewed originate with Doctor Who's Weeping Angels?⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Works fine for me on Boost

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Will I ever be seen as truly British?⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I thinknif you’ve lived in Britain that long most people would think of you as British, especially if you have a reasonably British accent. Where I live in Scotland, most people are happy to accept anyone who actually wants to live in Scotland as Scottish!

  Hut there’s always going to be racist idiots. I’ve been told I’m “not really British” just because I’m from Scotland (by someone who obviously doesn’t understand the difference between England and Britain. And I’ve seem the whitest, pure Anglo-Saxon English people being called “not really British” because they wanted to stay in the EU. So, try to ignore the idiots!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people still eat beef when we know it's terrible for Earth?⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Egg and dairy allergies are among the most common food allergies, so I’d guess that something like that might be the issue?

• Is Android increasingly inconsistent?
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