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If sexuality is a spectrum, does that mean one person is the gayest?

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Submitted ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨irelephant@lemmy.world⁩ to ⁨showerthoughts@lemmy.world⁩

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  • captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Yeah, and it’s almost certainly some Baptist prosperity gospel preacher with nineteen children.

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  • Sanctus@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Yes, me

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    • toomanypancakes@piefed.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      I could beat you in a gay-off most any day of the week

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      • TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        Gay-off!

        Image

        …It’s a gay-off.

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      • crumbguzzler5000@feddit.org ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Could you beat me off in a gay off?

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    • the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Bullshit, it’s me.

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      • neidu3@sh.itjust.works ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Only one way to settle this: A GAY-OFF!

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    • obsidianfoxxy7870@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Nope, it’s me and I bet you can’t prove me wrong.

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      • MyRobotShitsBolts@lemmy.world ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        You’re all wrong. Everyone is straight on the Freddy Mercury gay scale.

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  • ipkpjersi@lemmy.ml ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    It does mean that, yeah.

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  • yermaw@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    If you have a problem, if no one else can help, and if you can find them…maybe you can hire The Gay-Team.

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    • ThePantser@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Does the big burly black man still need to be drugged to fly?

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      • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        No need. The GayTeam takes the train. Choo chooooo!

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      • tigeruppercut@lemmy.zip ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Phrasing

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  • Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Yes, probably my wife.

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  • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I’m the straightest person. I don’t have a gender, and I’m attracted to all genders. ‘all’ and ‘none’ are by far more opposite each other as any two specific sexes or genders could ever be.

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    • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Oh snap, you’re me.

      As an agendered pansexual, the wildest thing to me about the trans/cis divide is actually feeling that strongly about having a preferred gender. I simply can’t fathom caring hard enough to care. I default to “female” because I was AFAB, but if someone calls me by a different pronoun, it’s whatever to me.

      Now let me be clear - just because I don’t feel gender for myself, doesn’t mean I can’t respect and support those who do feel strongly about their genders.

      Bonus mini-rant

      I wish I didn’t have to make an announcement pointing that out. Something changed in the past decade or so, whereby if someone simply states a non-standard experience or quality about themselves, people now assume that they must be “against” the standard experience/quality. It’s frustrating and unconductive to conversation when people assume every comment must be a prelude to an argument. There used to be an assumption that people were conversing in good faith, but lately there’s been a shift. To agree with those different from you is no longer treated as the default, and I find that very troubling.

      And as a reference to this comment, this post was fueled by unmedicated ADHD and cannabis (and a bit of frustration, since I accidentally closed the window after the first time I wrote it, so I had to write it twice.)

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      • Soggy@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        I think “agendered” is the best description for me as well and I share your perspective. AMAB and kinda lazy so dude stuff is the default but I can’t internalize the idea of gender dys/euphoria. (Body dysphoria makes sense to me, it seems to me like an entirely different thing than gender presentation which has a huge spectrum and varies wildly across cultures)

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    • Bennyboybumberchums@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I feel like, if you can read this, you might be having a stroke… lol

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      • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Nah I’m just full of ADHD meds, nicotine and caffeine

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  • novibe@lemmy.ml ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Sigh… yes. We’ve already been over this guys.

    Frankie Grande is the gayest person. Freddie Mercury is the most bi person. Sabrina Carpenter is the most straight person.

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    • Bennyboybumberchums@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Yeah, but hes the gayest in the way that kids used to say it in the 00s…

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      • novibe@lemmy.ml ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        🤷‍♂️ gayest is gayest idk man

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  • iamdefinitelyoverthirteen@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Not necessarily, there could just be a hard limit that multiple people hit. They’re gayness is pegged, if you will. 😏

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  • andallthat@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    It’s more that each person will have a moment in their life when they are at their gayest

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    • bountygiver@lemmy.ml ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      But that doesn’t change the fact that every moment there’ll exist someone who is the gayest, it’s just the same person may not hold that status for a very long time.

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      • faythofdragons@slrpnk.net ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Oh dang, so you’re saying I was the gayest person on earth once, but because it happened in my sleep, I never noticed? That explains those dreams.

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  • atk007@lemmy.world ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    So entire human sexuality can be described as being between two people at each ends.

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    • Hadriscus@jlai.lu ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      a kind of worldwide spitroast

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  • Balinares@pawb.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Only if you think someone’s position on the spectrum never changes over time. Which, judging from the microsecond moment of pause induced in “straights” by the proximity of shirtless Jason Momoa, is not how this works.

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    • axexrx@lemmy.world ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Whoever is gayest could change from moment to moment as individual scores fluctuate. Or maybe you have to look at it as an average of all those cumulative scores. Rich had a fleeting moment of straightness, in an otherwise 100% gay life, that puts him a hair behind Stephan, whose gayness has been unwavering since birth.

      More likely though, I think whether you look at the cumulative, or second to second, its a many way tie.

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    • TimewornTraveler@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      that’s a beautiful thing. so, what moment were you all at your gayest? have you ever been THE gayest?

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      • Balinares@pawb.social ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        God I sure hope so. This is the only life I’ve got.

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  • Steve@startrek.website ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Once you get to the elite ranks there will always be disagreement on how to score the parameters of ultimate gayness

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    • entropicdrift@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Much like IQ, once you’re more than 2 standard deviations from the mean, there’s no statistically meaningful way to measure additional queerness.

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    • Lemminary@lemmy.world ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      And the competition is fierce!

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  • Perspectivist@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I think of it like beauty - there’s not much disagreement about whether someone is a 9, but a 10 is completely subjective. For someone to be breathtakingly stunning, there usually has to be something about them that most other people don’t see.

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    • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      So…like, born with TWO penis’s, and both of them are super gay?

      Most people never see your two penii, or your 37 nipples.

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      • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Most people never see your two penii, or your 37 nipples.

        Not with that attitude.

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      • Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        That reminds me of the guy with two dicks who did an ama on Reddit many years ago. IIRC his dicks were mostly straight but could go either way.

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  • beejboytyson@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Idk Harley owners seem to be right up there.

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    • iamdefinitelyoverthirteen@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I was bike curious, but later decided I’d rather have a Japanese bike.

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  • wolframhydroxide@sh.itjust.works ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Colours are a spectrum. That doesn’t stop two things from being the same hue/wavelength

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    • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I’ve seen sexualities you people wouldn’t believe. Drag Shows at the Fyre Festival off the shoulder of Orion’s Disco. I watched sequined gowns glitter in the dark near the Berghain Entrance. All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain. Time to die.

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  • CannedYeet@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Whenever someone breaks a barrier as “The first gay…” remember that they’re technically “the gayest…”.

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  • Dogiedog64@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Yes it does, and Grant O’Brien is a STRONG contender for that title.

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    • ilinamorato@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Brennan, Lily, and Tao each have a moment during that episode where they’re reading a thing and their brains turn back on in emergency mode and they realize to their astonishment what they’re reading. I usually don’t like cringe humor, but those looks are the reason I can still watch True Facts About Grant Anthony O’Brien.

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    • wolframhydroxide@sh.itjust.works ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Grant is bi…

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      • Dogiedog64@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        He once sucked 49 dicks in a night at a sex party.

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  • arsCynic@lemmy.ml ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Ask Image of South Park’s Lemmiwinks about Image of South Park’s Mr. Slave

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  • FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    It’s not a competition.

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    • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Casual Sex implies the existence of Ranked Sex.

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      • irelephant@lemmy.world ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Turn based sex

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      • wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        1v1 me

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      • freeusething@lemmynsfw.com ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        My ELO is 6969

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      • AnarchoEngineer@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        “Everybody loves Barbados Slim; he’s the only man to ever win Olympic gold medals in both limbo and sex”

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      • Munkisquisher@lemmy.nz ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        On ESPN69 The OCHO

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    • irelephant@lemmy.world ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Not with that attitude

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    • Varying9125@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      its about going out there and doing your best for the love of the game

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  • FenderStratocaster@lemmy.world ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Someone sucked the most dicks, so yeah.

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    • Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      If they sucked 2 cocks a day (conservative, I know) over a gay career of fifty years, that would be 36,500 cocks. Which is a very respectable number imo. But is that gayer than a guy in a committed relationship sucking the same cock 36,500 times?

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    • Generica@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      But(t) am I the gayest for sucking the most cocks or because I’m the best?

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      • FenderStratocaster@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Yes.

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  • bonus_crab@lemmy.world ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Not necessarily, there probably exists multiple orderings on gayness , the question is if you can create a total ordering and if its multiple people are maximally gay, or at least if the gayest people are equally gay.

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  • altkey@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    That’s what Big Gay wants you to believe.

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  • Battle_Masker@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    it’s Nathan Lane

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    • thisbenzingring@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Birdcage does set a high water mark, but he had a hard time being public about it so he’s going to need to try harder

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    • ivanafterall@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Probably Alan Cumming. I mean.

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    • InvisibleShoe@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I dunno. Rip Taylor set a pretty high bar

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  • webghost0101@sopuli.xyz ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Scientifically speaking no, just like 2 objects can have the exact same color multiple people can all be on the end of this spectrum.

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    • pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Yes. Once base stats are at maximum, it’s all about positions, gear, and situational awareness.

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    • CookieOfFortune@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Doesn’t this imply gayness is discrete and there is a quanta of gay?

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      • oddlyqueer@lemmy.ml ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Whoever proposes a coherent Quantum Theory of Homosexuality is gonna win a fields medal.

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  • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    We’ve answered this question in The Whitest Kids U’ Know - Time Travel

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  • Leather@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Yes. And just like watchtower folks, if your asking, it’s not you.

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  • pyre@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    no on multiple levels: a spectrum doesn’t mean a sliding scale, and a sliding scale doesn’t mean leaderboard.

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  • RickyRigatoni@retrolemmy.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Elton John.

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  • mavu@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    no.

    One person could be the gayest, if it was a scale, not a spectrum.

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    • Eyelessoozeguy@lemmy.world ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Does that mean light is a scale and not a spectrum?

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      • mavu@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Brightness is a scale. Light (color) is a spectrum.
        Gayness is a scale, and someone can be the gayest.
        Gayness is a spectrum, and everyone can be different kinds of gay.

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  • Mynameisallen@lemmy.zip ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Yes it’s Gianmarco Vincent Soresi

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    • SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      He’s literally straight tho

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      • Mynameisallen@lemmy.zip ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Image

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