Whats_your_reasoning
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- Comment on YSK De-banking is often how the US first declares you "homeless" 2 days ago:
If you have to travel for extended periods of time, it’s not a bad idea. It does take a little extra time for your mail to get to you (since it’s being shipped twice), so if that isn’t a problem, there’s no reason it shouldn’t work for you.
- Comment on YSK De-banking is often how the US first declares you "homeless" 2 days ago:
Sigh, I was worried they’d be getting targeted.
I wish I had more to add. But I’m just tired.
- Comment on YSK De-banking is often how the US first declares you "homeless" 2 days ago:
I’m curious if credit unions participate in this. I can’t find any information about it.
- Comment on YSK De-banking is often how the US first declares you "homeless" 2 days ago:
Back when I vandwelled, I was able to set up a “declaration of domicile” so my legal address was at a mail forwarding center.
It’s a double-win if you’re living in a vehicle or temporary quarters, since if you move you don’t have to change your address - just change where your mail gets forwarded to.
It does require paying for a PO Box, but IMO it’s worth it.
Though I do recommend actually knowing something about the town or city of the forwarding center you use. I once had an interviewer be from the same town as the one on my license, and had to bullshit as if I actually knew the place (and didn’t merely drive through it on a freeway a couple times.)
- Comment on oof 5 days ago:
I had a manager who wouldn’t respect anyone who didn’t yell at him. Seriously. He had serious anger issues and would fly off the handle over nothing. He directed a lot of shit at me in particular, probably because I’ve been traumatized by crap like this before and that sociopath probably sensed it. I wasn’t yet aware of a lot of resources I know about today, didn’t have the self-esteem I’ve since found, and I was homeless at the time (thank goodness, I had friends who let me stay temporarily), so I absolutely depended on this job.
One day, a coworker told me that he only stops picking on someone when they yell at him. Sadly, I can’t give you the satisfying response you’re probably expecting: I refused to yell at him. I thought the entire idea was absurd, extremely unprofessional, and had the potential to backfire terribly.
I wish I could say that was the last manager to pick on me, but thankfully the last one was a mental health professional and had the listening skills to take my feedback … albeit only after she made me cry.
Man, I didn’t mean to trauma-dump. But after the shit I’ve been through, I can’t imagine attempting to pass such suffering onto others. I’m extremely grateful for the supportive environment that (usually) surrounds the therapy field. It feels good to be honest with managers and supervisors and know they respect constructive criticism. I can almost feel my heart healing.
- Comment on well? 6 days ago:
For sure, Lisa doesn’t tend to make up such ideas whole-cloth. It was just the first place I heard the myth and I remember kids at school spreading it after that episode. So it definitely spread the idea.
- Comment on well? 6 days ago:
That fact wasn’t as cromulent as they made it out to be.
- Comment on sharks are older than polaris 6 days ago:
Well obviously. Horses clearly evolved the shape of their feet by repeatedly attempting to use horseshoe crabs as shoes.
- Comment on Hotels have developed a new revenue stream: "algorithmic" smoke detectors 1 week ago:
I don’t visit any of those sites either, in part because the formatting makes telling a story so challenging.
Looking onto a page like this, it’s like one story was needlessly chopped up into little bits. Instead of several paragraphs formatted with the purpose of telling a smooth, coherent story, it’s cut into chunks whose only parameter is character length. Outside of modern microblog-style social media, that format doesn’t happen much. The result is scrolling and scrolling to read something that could’ve been put into a few paragraphs in a single blog post.
Put altogether, it comes off as chunky and without any clear flow. Microblog formatting is not conductive to story-telling. It’s not a criticism of the writer (I assume they were doing their best within the limits imposed), but of the formatting that breaks the flow that story-telling relies on.
- Comment on Hotels have developed a new revenue stream: "algorithmic" smoke detectors 1 week ago:
Do archive pages work for you? Give this a try: archive.ph/2uKUX
- Comment on Dik Piks 1 week ago:
We know why they do it. That doesn’t make it any less appropriate. These guys don’t care who they make uncomfortable in their quest for validation. It’s like a kid that throws a fit to gain attention, uncaring about who they might hurt in the process. Except unlike a developing child, these men should be mature enough to know better.
- Comment on NEW TREND JUST DROPPED 2 weeks ago:
And yet people deny that we’re decended from the same lineage. If humans didn’t wear clothes, I guarantee some kid would start a grass-in-the-butt trend too.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Damn, Uncle for the win!
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Hey man, I appreciate your post for setting an amazing example of what being a father is. Some young men are reading this and seeing all these supportive comments, and that’s going to inform how they behave if they become fathers someday. So, thank you for posting your question. It’ll probably end up helping a lot more people than just your son.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
I remember showering with my little brother. We would pretend we were puppies, taking turns “playing in the rain.”
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Contrast this to my mom, who taught me how to shave my legs but who forbid me from “shaving above the knee.”
That ended when I went to school in shorts and the bullies saw my thigh hair glistening in the sun.
It ended two years later, when I met a cool girl who didn’t shave if she didn’t feel like it, rocking her hairy legs without a care.
I’m still not that bold, but I found a balance that works for me. Nobody else’s opinion matters.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
My god, that sounds freeing.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Seriously. “Excuse me, Mom. You put what into where?!”
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
If your son came to you asking for help, don’t overthink. Do the right thing and help him out, regardless of what he wants to shave.
This should be stitched into a throw pillow. The first sentence on one side, the second sentence on the other side.
- Comment on “Donated” plasma today 2 weeks ago:
I got deferred years ago because a batch test including my sample came up positive for hepatitis (I forget which type.) I immediately went to my doctor and got tested. I had no risk factors, so the doctor was confused, but they ran the test anyway. It came back negative.
But the center said I was deferred for life, without a chance that I could ever donate anything again. All the plasma they had taken from me had to be destroyed. It was heartbreaking, and I’m still confused how they could defer someone permanently for something that wasn’t even in their own sample.
- Comment on Plant Slurs 2 weeks ago:
Invasive species are something else. They can cause active harm to an ecosystem and are crucial to look out for, especially in sensitive areas. Just because “life finds a way” doesn’t mean destroying a niche habitat is okay.
- Comment on Most people's earliest memories are at around 3 or 4 years of age, which correlates with the age kids start asking "why" for everything. Kids start asking why when they become self-aware. 2 weeks ago:
Some kids ask “why” because they understand the question and want to know more, but that isn’t the only reason.
Asking “why” tends to result in people talking to you. Ever hear a kid ask “why” over and over again without caring about the answer? They may have been asking the question because it provides them with attention. It’s a single word that nearly guarantees an adult will talk to you, and sometimes that’s all a kid really wants.
- Comment on Why do so many homes in rural areas have a front yard full of junk? 3 weeks ago:
Cost to dispose of it is greater than zero.
I was looking for a comment mentioning this. If it’s a rural area, the local waste management facility might take a trek to get to. If you have to make multiple trips, or rent/hire a vehicle to get rid of something (like having to tow an old car), the time and cost can add up.
So if it’s not accepted with a typical trash pick-up, it’s still gotta be somewhere, even if you don’t want it anymore. Keeping it on your own property is at least more ethical than dumping it in the woods somewhere (though you’ll find plenty of that in some areas, too.)
- Comment on Having the ability to lie and manipulate with no remorse will get you much further in this world than having morals and being correct 3 weeks ago:
I’m starting to think of writing down the specific things job recruiters tell me, and bringing it to the interview. The last recruiter that reached out (and succeeded in hiring me) told me things that didn’t end up being true. When I got hired and was told contradictory information, the company said, “Oh, that is still true, but this particular case is an exception. We can get you a different case where that is true,” and then they didn’t get back to me for weeks. In that time, I’d applied, interviewed, and accepted a job elsewhere. Fuck lying employers.
- Comment on 32, f. Are there any dating sites that are actually free and don't suddenly force me to pay to actually use the site? 3 weeks ago:
Ugh, the “swipe” is the worst feature for every company to jump on. I get paralyzed between, “What if they just took a bad picture? I don’t know enough about them and dismissing them for a bad photo could mean missing out,” and “What if I’m swiping right on a creep and don’t realize it? Now they’ll know my picture, my name, where I live, and they’ll think I’m definitely interested.”
I haven’t used it in a couple years, but I did meet my current boyfriend on OK Cupid. I’m poly, and I met my girlfriend last year on an LGBTQ+ dating/social app called Lex. The cool thing with Lex is that it’s text-based, originally modeled off of old newspaper classified ads. You get to know people through them voicing their thoughts and asking original questions. No pressure to “swipe or get off the pot,” you can get to know someone through comments on posts before sending a message. It’s not for everyone, but if you’re in the LGBTQ+ community and sick of being forced to make snap-judgements about strangers who might end up being a massive part of your life, it’s a relief.
- Comment on Is anyone else not feeling that patriotic for July 4? 3 weeks ago:
Rent costs half a month’s pay, so that checks out.
- Comment on It used to be just weird Christians, but now everyone's pretty much on board with burning Harry Potter books. 3 weeks ago:
I didn’t read it as an insult. If it was, then “lesbians” was an insult, too. It sounds like OP’s just using the hate-mongers’ own words.
- Comment on It used to be just weird Christians, but now everyone's pretty much on board with burning Harry Potter books. 3 weeks ago:
I’ve already bought a 2nd Order of the Phoenix to burn
Weird, you should be able to burn the same copy over and over again. Just wait for the first one to reform from the ashes.
- Comment on I worked at an escort agency. This is how it changed my attitude to sex 4 weeks ago:
When I worked in a nursing home, there absolutely were residents who tried to sneak off together. I don’t know if any sex actually happened (I doubt it, since these people needed assistance getting out of their wheelchairs), but people definitely got touchy-feely when they could.
There was a triad in one of the units. A quiet man, who rarely spoke and mostly chilled out by himself, managed to get two girlfriends. Sometimes they’d sit together and he’d hold each of their hands at the same time. The women would sometimes sneak a quick reach for other parts of his body, as he sat there with this big smile on his face.
I figured it was none of my business, and I guess the rest of the staff felt the same way. They were all consenting and they kept their clothes on, so if granny can cop quick feel, who am I to judge? I was just glad they had found a way to be happy while living in such a depressing place.
- Comment on Survey: More Than 1 In 4 Americans Feel They Need To Make $150,000 Or More To Live Comfortably 4 weeks ago:
Trying to find a place to live where the rent won’t take over 50% of my income. I work full time and I make over $10 more per hour than my state’s minimum wage.
Yet for some reason, everyone takes issue when I say I’m ready to just move into my car. I’ve lived in a vehicle before, it’s not fun or easy, but it’s a roof I already own, and that’s the best chance I’ve got to be guaranteed shelter.