Whats_your_reasoning
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- Comment on Why are people so rude on Reddit compared to the Fediverse? 3 days ago:
Other commenters have made really good points (like the one about us self-selecting to be here after leaving more toxic social media, or the one about engagement algorithms on Reddit encouraging hostility.)
As a smaller site, each of us holds more sway in building what this community is. There are definitely people here that see that and want to continue fostering a more positive experience. A lot of users here have interests in science, especially computer science, and a lot of users come from around the world. Both of these create a space that encourages rationality more than US-based popular social media (like Reddit.) Logical fallacies are called out for what they are, and plenty of people here are of the mindset that pointless drama isn’t worth engaging with. It’s not absolute, no, but compared to Reddit? It’s like another planet.
I definitely feel the vibe of old school computer forums. Small communities where people remember each other’s usernames and backstories encourage us to find common ground. Reddit’s near-anonymity has the downsides of any large-scale online anonymity - people can get mean because they don’t recognize the humanity of whoever’s on the other end of the argument. Here, we are still somewhat anonymous, but you run across some of the same names over and again. Like a small town where people all know each other, you end up more accountable for your shit-stirring because you’ll encounter the same people more frequently.
- Comment on I don't have money to pay premium to not see ads. What in the world makes you think that I have money to buy what you are advertising me? 1 week ago:
No person can think so much about all their decisions to spend money.
Aw, I wish I didn’t need to budget every cent, but with the small amount of pocket change I’ve got to buy things, being careful with it becomes normal. Most of the food I buy is straight up raw vegetables, or store brand frozen/canned items (which are bought because they’re cheapest. Or is “advertisement” so broad of a term that it applies to ordinary price tags?) Clothing is whatever’s affordable, fits, and looks and feels good enough.
Even if ads are still sneaking info into my brain, I’m hard-pressed to think of any purchases I’ve made where brand names factor in. I’m really trying to think of something here, but even the less common things I’ve spent money on were chosen through experience (like a game I played with a friend, then decided I wanted a copy of) or research (like when I bought a solar generator last year. I’d never even heard of the company before I sought it out for myself.)
I guess a local Chinese food flyer put on a doorknob counts as advertising that works, though even then if they don’t have decent veg options and prices, it’s going to be a no-go. So sure, that’s your “gotcha.” Chinese food flyers. All the money spent on ads around the world, and the only thing I can recall purchasing based on it took some person taking a walk and hanging menus on doors.
I get it, ads are designed to manipulate, to put ideas into people’s heads as a latent reminder, like a virus waiting for the right moment to strike. Maybe some day if I actually make enough money to not have to be extraordinarily careful with it, more of them might get a chance to work. Who knows. Right now, price is the biggest pain point, overriding brand recognition. With the way things are going, I don’t expect that to change any time soon.
Perhaps the best advertisement would be if a company decided to lobby for higher wages - that’d definitely make a company name stick in my head in a positive way, and would provide me the opportunity to spend money on them, to boot!
- Comment on I don't have money to pay premium to not see ads. What in the world makes you think that I have money to buy what you are advertising me? 1 week ago:
Oh, how about the ads for that insurance company that’s just for military families? Way to bark up the wrong tree. Even if the point is to subtly convince me to join the United States military, that’s still hilariously off-target. Never. gonna. happen.
- Comment on I don't have money to pay premium to not see ads. What in the world makes you think that I have money to buy what you are advertising me? 1 week ago:
And nowdays you just know their $300 “service” is going to be “run it through an LLM.”
- Comment on I don't have money to pay premium to not see ads. What in the world makes you think that I have money to buy what you are advertising me? 1 week ago:
You might think you cannot afford to buy most things advertised, but the numbers don’t lie. They’ll get you eventually. Even if it’s just $3.
Do you really believe that? $3 isn’t going to get me the things I see ads for that I’d actually be tempted by. As to things $3 or below, I’m never shopping at the craft store that hates gay people. I’m never buying from the top fast food places either. These are things I already made decisions on for moral reasons and I’ve never swayed on in all my years, so why on Earth would an ad make a difference?
I don’t think advertisers (or those that think any old ad is bound to be effective) consider that there are some of us who make decisions based on our own criteria. I recognize that I’m not like most people, but to say that such ads are still going to “get [me] eventually” is nonsense.
Not having money never really stopped people from spending it anyhow.
Maybe for some, but that’s again not something that applies to everyone. I don’t even have a credit card. I’ve had nearly 20 years of adulthood in which to get one, have bought/leased cars and rented apartments without a problem (despite no card, paying off student loans means my credit score is pretty good), and I prefer the security of only spending money I’ve already got. Advertisers can have fun trying to squeeze
bloodmoney from a stone. - Comment on I don't have money to pay premium to not see ads. What in the world makes you think that I have money to buy what you are advertising me? 1 week ago:
Especially when it’s for vacation spots, booking sites, or luxury cars. Keep spending that money for no return, guys, because absolutely none of that is happening. (I want to say “not happening anytime soon,” but who am I kidding? I’m already in my upper 30s and I can’t fathom making that kind of money.)
- Comment on Avocado. Is it really so untasty or I am doing something wrong? 1 week ago:
I’m convinced anyone who says that either has a dulled sense of taste, or is confusing the texture for flavor. I could see arguing that they feel similar, since they definitely both have a soft texture. But in my experience, they definitely do not taste the same. Avocado has a flavor, it’s delicate but it’s there. Clean penis just tastes like any other clean skin.
But not all clean skin is as smooth as a penis head. Matching texture for texture makes more sense.
… I’m gonna regret having this in my comment history, aren’t I?
- Comment on Avocado. Is it really so untasty or I am doing something wrong? 1 week ago:
I did the same with a mango. In public.
- Comment on Avocado. Is it really so untasty or I am doing something wrong? 1 week ago:
This is why I’m practically addicted to avocado sushi rolls.
- Comment on Avocado. Is it really so untasty or I am doing something wrong? 1 week ago:
I’ve come to enjoy it and use it regularly, but that’s because I’ve been working on increasing my spice tolerance through the past few years. Once upon a time, it definitely hit me too hard.
For me it’s: sensory differences + a European family background (I wasn’t exposed to much spice growing up) = incredibly low spice tolerance.
A note on the sensory differences, I ironically have a high pain tolerance, extremely low tolerance for being tickled, and I find scratching to be a pleasant sensation. Sensory processing differences are fascinating. Brains are so weird.
- Comment on Avocado. Is it really so untasty or I am doing something wrong? 1 week ago:
My girlfriend’s dog managed to break into a cooler bag I had. What was he after? The plant-based butter I had in there. Bro destroyed the bag so bad we had to toss it out, and all because he wanted butter.
Don’t let anyone tell you it can’t be enjoyed on its own.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 2 weeks ago:
You’re absolutely right on that. Some people really just want the freedom for themselves, but not for their partners. Which is ridiculous. After all, “What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.” If someone hasn’t got the maturity it takes for polyamory, then they’re not ready for it.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 2 weeks ago:
Wouldn’t that argument work the same way for men? To be clear, I’m not a fan of that argument for any gender. But fair is fair.
I’m polyam, so my experiences are quite different. I’m finding more married people looking for a third, which is awkward when I’m more of a “relationship anarchist” and don’t want to put my partners into tiers above/below each other (or be put into such tiers myself.)
- Comment on psssst 2 weeks ago:
Username checks out. The profile pictures, however, do not. Is that a quokka?
- Comment on Can a reasonable person genuinely believe in ghosts? 3 weeks ago:
Man, the downvote ratio really goes to show how many people vote without reading a post. I imagine a lot of them would agree with you, but they just saw the meme and thought, “That’s stupid.” Which is ironically a vote in your favor.
- Comment on The wildest part about this poll is that it was only shared to Star Wars sites 3 weeks ago:
With Imgur and Reddit having all the silly restrictions, I’m not sure why more people don’t upload their images directly to Lemmy?
- Comment on Heavy snow when you're a kid is a dream come true, heavy snow when you're an adult is a nightmare. 3 weeks ago:
Somehow, I never did that. Wish I had, that sounds a lot easier than what my family did. Though what we did was cool in a different way.
My older brothers built snow forts with stairs inside, leading to balconies and sled ramps on the top. They even put blocks of snow around the edges and put up a flag, resembling castles. My younger brother and I did grunt work - walking up and down the street, gathering and lugging snow to the build site. We all got to play in the end though, so we were happy to help. My older brothers always loved building things, and these forts were their collaborative masterpieces. Super snowy storms were the best.
- Comment on Fck it, we ball 3 weeks ago:
Girls will have armor plating and have 14 legs
New Halloween group costume idea
- Comment on Fck it, we ball 3 weeks ago:
(she has some kind of electric implant)
Yeeeaaaah, that’s where she got it from. Absolutely, definitely
[They’re onto us, girls. Meet me at the usual.]
- Comment on We're just scanning for the bear... 3 weeks ago:
I tend to turn it into a “casual sweep” of the scene. I’m looking at leaves, architecture, license plates! Well, and also getting a glimpse of whoever’s around me. From being bullied in grade school, to learning to fly in college, with growing up as a young women between the two eras, situational awareness has become baked into my existence. But it’s not a bad thing, it’s a skill.
Tangentially, I wonder how much of this increased situational awareness plays into our famous “women’s intuition”? If we’re taking in more of our surroundings, it makes sense our unconscious minds will notice more readily when something’s “off.”
As well, I’ve often considered my “luck” to come down to increased awareness. When retrospectively thinking about a sequence of events, I can sometimes put together how noticing A led to me doing B, even if I didn’t consciously think about it at the time. Like unconsciously noticing that a car in front of you is somewhat lopsided and getting the urge to switch lanes and pass them. You’re not thinking about it. But later on when that car spins out on a flat tire, you’re well past them - a safe distance away.
Or a situation that undoubtly makes people think I’m lucky - finding four-leaf clovers. A split-second scan of the ground and I can notice a four-leafer in a patch. Just a few months ago I was pumpkin-picking with my girlfriend and it happened again. We were standing outside and I was telling her about this exact phenomenon when I stopped, laughed, crouched down, plucked one particular clover, and handed it to her. “See?! It just happens!” I then proceeded to find two more, and at that point I knew I had to stop myself.
So yeah, it’s not all bad. :)
- Comment on Ad companies are the ones destroying civilization 3 weeks ago:
people have this on their liver somewhat
Interesting, I’ve never heard that phrase. Are you a native English speaker, or was that brought through another language? I’m reminded of how in Farsi, the liver is used in phrases that most other languages don’t use it for. Like, instead of calling someone you love your 'heart", you call them your “liver,” but it carries the same intent.
- Comment on Humans' behavior about LLMs is the same as animals with a mirror: they believe there is "another" in there. It's just their reflexion 4 weeks ago:
Your duck:
- Comment on Humans' behavior about LLMs is the same as animals with a mirror: they believe there is "another" in there. It's just their reflexion 4 weeks ago:
Laughs in vampire
- Comment on Texas Republican Primary having a normal one 4 weeks ago:
Interesting how they don’t mention it, right? Male circumcision is standard in Islam, it should be on the list. Anything to avoid addressing the genital mutilation elephant already in the room.
- Comment on Is it just me or is there a lot of Spam and abuse on Lemmy lately? 5 weeks ago:
Not spam per se, but there does seem to be a sharp uptick in brand new accounts making tons of posts and getting banned. It seems every day I see numerous posts made by users that are already banned by whatever community they posted in (by the time I see them.) Mods must be working overtime.
- Comment on YSK you can poison your personal data to fight against surveillance capitalism. 5 weeks ago:
So the fact that I occasionally get ads in Spanish, despite being a native-English speaker in a mainly English-speaking country, means I’m doing something right?
- Comment on An ice dance duo skated to AI music at the Olympics | TechCrunch 5 weeks ago:
The theme for the event was “90s music.” As a 90s kid, I just… shake my head. There’s so much good music to choose from that decade, and yet they chose to make AI slop instead.
I’m not angry, I’m just disappointed.
- Comment on Rechargeable electric arc lighters kinda suck for the average person, and will typically end up as e-waste. 5 weeks ago:
Ooh, have a link so I can see what it looks like?
I’ve been using the metal ones for years, but only recently found a way to clean them. I hold them with pliers and use a small blowtorch (the same one I use for heating resins.) It burns up the residue surprisingly quickly. It does make a bit of a smell, and since the metal gets super hot I’d recommend doing it over a sink for safety, but hey, it works.
- Comment on Rechargeable electric arc lighters kinda suck for the average person, and will typically end up as e-waste. 5 weeks ago:
I went on a date with a guy who used these. Problem is, I use a metal filter on my piece. When he went to light my pipe, the metal reacted to the electric charge and popped out, scattering burning weed around the floor.
Yeah, no, I’ll stick to regular lighters, thanks.
- Comment on Genes be crazy 5 weeks ago:
Fascinating! I’ve seen massive groups of ants before, and I’ve watched them because it’s just so cool to see. I never got down and tried to smell them, though.
Now your comment has me thinking of my dad. He has an uncanny sense of smell far beyond what I have. There are some flowers I can’t smell unless I bend close to them, but which he can smell from across a field. I’ll have to check with him and see if he can smell ants.
