Whats_your_reasoning
@Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
- Comment on anyone have personal experience with industrial tourism? 6 days ago:
Just looking at the wall behind the counter in 7-11 boggles my mind. Dozens of cigarette and dip brands (and now vape and nicotine pouches too), with most smokers having a preferred brand and style - they don’t buy anything except the one type they like. Which means the demand must be high enough for each of those products to justify keeping them fully stocked all the time. Then consider that every corner gas station and convenience store has the same set up, even if they’re all within walking distance from each other.
That’s a lot of tobacco/nicotine users.
- Comment on The 2025 version of "Please consider this environment before printing this email" should be "Please consider this environment before using A.I. to respond to this email" 1 week ago:
That’s true. I don’t disagree with you, I just think we’re reading this post differently.
Companies lie about their reasons all the time, especially when they claim they’re doing something for the environment. I interpreted this post as another example pointing out their hypocrisy, not as “this is the one and only thing companies lie about.”
- Comment on Feeling insecure about going to a 'girlie pop' concert as a 30 year old man, am i overthinking it? 1 week ago:
Upvoted for the Vexillology reference.
But yeah, OP, just enjoy the show. Most of the attendants are going to be way too focused on the show, their friends, and themselves to care that some rando isn’t bopping along with them.
- Comment on The 2025 version of "Please consider this environment before printing this email" should be "Please consider this environment before using A.I. to respond to this email" 1 week ago:
I think they’re pointing out the 180-turn in so-called “priorities.” Companies once claimed to want something done for the “sake of the environment,” but now they have no problem using resource-intensive AI without any acknowledgement of how bad it is for the environment.
- Comment on Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me? 1 week ago:
Lemmy is overwhelmingly populated by men, and sometimes it really shows. They’re not wrong in saying you have to communicate, but I don’t think most of the people here fully understand what it’s like being on the other side.
I’m a woman around the same age as the guy in your story. I can see a bit of what it’s like from his point of view, but I also know what it’s like to be a young, anxious, sexually-inexperienced woman trying to navigate men’s intentions. Sometimes every step seems wrong, and overthinking tends to cloud sound judgement. It’s a shame that some people are jumping on you for trying to figure things out here, rather than dumping a purse full of anxiety onto the guy in question. I’ve been there, and I’ve been ghosted after attempting such serious conversations.
Yes, if he runs, you’ll be better off without him. But knowing that doesn’t make it easier to deal with the relevant anxiety. There’s already a lot of good advice on this thread that’s worth combing through and considering. But when it comes down to it, transparency in communication is absolutely the key. If you’re not sure what to say, or don’t feel ready for the conversation, I’d advise writing things down (privately, like on a paper you can throw out afterwards, or in an email without an address.) I don’t know you, but I know that for me, writing things out has a way of providing clarity to my thoughts and feelings. Perhaps doing so could help you find the words you mean to say, so that you’re not left floundering for the best way to explain yourself in the moment.
Feel free to message me if you feel you need someone to bounce thoughts off of. I’ve been around the track a few times and learned a lot that I wish I had known at your age.
Aside from that, I wish you luck, dear sister. Dating can be tricky, but you’re not alone.
- Comment on Magic Rocks 1 week ago:
I’m always noticing things. Interesting things, weird things, funny things. My mom has asked me multiple times, “How do you find so much interesting stuff?”
All I’ve ever be able to respond with is, “I look around.” She misses a lot around her, my brothers and I even mess with her sometimes by “hiding” things in plain sight around my parents’ house and waiting until she says something.
- Comment on If everyone spontaneously became the same race the world would realize that the rich are the real problem 2 weeks ago:
Absolutely. Religion, language, country of origin, gender, age, there’s no shortage of useless ways to divide people. Our differences aren’t the issue, the issue is the rich and powerful exploiting our differences to pit us against each other.
- Comment on Lemmy is a tech literate echo chamber 2 weeks ago:
There’s absolutely a knee-jerk negativity to veganism here.
The wildest thing is how I’ve come to expect it from people over the years, yet general society seems have been opening their minds more to the idea. I’ve been vegan for over 20 years, but I don’t usually tell people until they get to know me for a while, because I’d rather people get to know me than assume who I am based on stereotypes. I’m neither looking to create drama nor field an impromptu interview (people tend to ask the same questions whenever they learn someone’s vegan. Sometimes I don’t want to talk, I just want to eat my lunch in peace.)
This past monday, my workplace ordered breakfast for everyone. They included options for a range of dietary restrictions, including vegan, gluten-free, and options free of tree nuts. It was the first time I opened up to these coworkers (I’ve been working with them for a few months), and surprisingly, most people were like, “Oh cool, that’s good to know.” A number of people mentioned being vegetarian or using more plant-based meals lately. One person described herself as an “omnivorous foodie” who is happy to eat anything good, and she even printed out a favorite recipe to give me.
Maybe it’s just the crowd I work with, but the acceptance was very welcoming. I usually don’t enjoy “potlucks” because it’s a crappy deal for me to cook enough for everyone, but have nobody else cook something I could have. But I think I will cook for the next one, if for nothing else, then to support the people who support me back.
- Comment on YSK De-banking is often how the US first declares you "homeless" 3 weeks ago:
If you have to travel for extended periods of time, it’s not a bad idea. It does take a little extra time for your mail to get to you (since it’s being shipped twice), so if that isn’t a problem, there’s no reason it shouldn’t work for you.
- Comment on YSK De-banking is often how the US first declares you "homeless" 3 weeks ago:
Sigh, I was worried they’d be getting targeted.
I wish I had more to add. But I’m just tired.
- Comment on YSK De-banking is often how the US first declares you "homeless" 3 weeks ago:
I’m curious if credit unions participate in this. I can’t find any information about it.
- Comment on YSK De-banking is often how the US first declares you "homeless" 3 weeks ago:
Back when I vandwelled, I was able to set up a “declaration of domicile” so my legal address was at a mail forwarding center.
It’s a double-win if you’re living in a vehicle or temporary quarters, since if you move you don’t have to change your address - just change where your mail gets forwarded to.
It does require paying for a PO Box, but IMO it’s worth it.
Though I do recommend actually knowing something about the town or city of the forwarding center you use. I once had an interviewer be from the same town as the one on my license, and had to bullshit as if I actually knew the place (and didn’t merely drive through it on a freeway a couple times.)
- Comment on oof 3 weeks ago:
I had a manager who wouldn’t respect anyone who didn’t yell at him. Seriously. He had serious anger issues and would fly off the handle over nothing. He directed a lot of shit at me in particular, probably because I’ve been traumatized by crap like this before and that sociopath probably sensed it. I wasn’t yet aware of a lot of resources I know about today, didn’t have the self-esteem I’ve since found, and I was homeless at the time (thank goodness, I had friends who let me stay temporarily), so I absolutely depended on this job.
One day, a coworker told me that he only stops picking on someone when they yell at him. Sadly, I can’t give you the satisfying response you’re probably expecting: I refused to yell at him. I thought the entire idea was absurd, extremely unprofessional, and had the potential to backfire terribly.
I wish I could say that was the last manager to pick on me, but thankfully the last one was a mental health professional and had the listening skills to take my feedback … albeit only after she made me cry.
Man, I didn’t mean to trauma-dump. But after the shit I’ve been through, I can’t imagine attempting to pass such suffering onto others. I’m extremely grateful for the supportive environment that (usually) surrounds the therapy field. It feels good to be honest with managers and supervisors and know they respect constructive criticism. I can almost feel my heart healing.
- Comment on well? 3 weeks ago:
For sure, Lisa doesn’t tend to make up such ideas whole-cloth. It was just the first place I heard the myth and I remember kids at school spreading it after that episode. So it definitely spread the idea.
- Comment on well? 3 weeks ago:
That fact wasn’t as cromulent as they made it out to be.
- Comment on sharks are older than polaris 3 weeks ago:
Well obviously. Horses clearly evolved the shape of their feet by repeatedly attempting to use horseshoe crabs as shoes.
- Comment on Hotels have developed a new revenue stream: "algorithmic" smoke detectors 4 weeks ago:
I don’t visit any of those sites either, in part because the formatting makes telling a story so challenging.
Looking onto a page like this, it’s like one story was needlessly chopped up into little bits. Instead of several paragraphs formatted with the purpose of telling a smooth, coherent story, it’s cut into chunks whose only parameter is character length. Outside of modern microblog-style social media, that format doesn’t happen much. The result is scrolling and scrolling to read something that could’ve been put into a few paragraphs in a single blog post.
Put altogether, it comes off as chunky and without any clear flow. Microblog formatting is not conductive to story-telling. It’s not a criticism of the writer (I assume they were doing their best within the limits imposed), but of the formatting that breaks the flow that story-telling relies on.
- Comment on Hotels have developed a new revenue stream: "algorithmic" smoke detectors 4 weeks ago:
Do archive pages work for you? Give this a try: archive.ph/2uKUX
- Comment on Dik Piks 4 weeks ago:
We know why they do it. That doesn’t make it any less appropriate. These guys don’t care who they make uncomfortable in their quest for validation. It’s like a kid that throws a fit to gain attention, uncaring about who they might hurt in the process. Except unlike a developing child, these men should be mature enough to know better.
- Comment on NEW TREND JUST DROPPED 5 weeks ago:
And yet people deny that we’re decended from the same lineage. If humans didn’t wear clothes, I guarantee some kid would start a grass-in-the-butt trend too.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
Damn, Uncle for the win!
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
Hey man, I appreciate your post for setting an amazing example of what being a father is. Some young men are reading this and seeing all these supportive comments, and that’s going to inform how they behave if they become fathers someday. So, thank you for posting your question. It’ll probably end up helping a lot more people than just your son.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
I remember showering with my little brother. We would pretend we were puppies, taking turns “playing in the rain.”
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
Contrast this to my mom, who taught me how to shave my legs but who forbid me from “shaving above the knee.”
That ended when I went to school in shorts and the bullies saw my thigh hair glistening in the sun.
It ended two years later, when I met a cool girl who didn’t shave if she didn’t feel like it, rocking her hairy legs without a care.
I’m still not that bold, but I found a balance that works for me. Nobody else’s opinion matters.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
My god, that sounds freeing.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
Seriously. “Excuse me, Mom. You put what into where?!”
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
If your son came to you asking for help, don’t overthink. Do the right thing and help him out, regardless of what he wants to shave.
This should be stitched into a throw pillow. The first sentence on one side, the second sentence on the other side.
- Comment on “Donated” plasma today 5 weeks ago:
I got deferred years ago because a batch test including my sample came up positive for hepatitis (I forget which type.) I immediately went to my doctor and got tested. I had no risk factors, so the doctor was confused, but they ran the test anyway. It came back negative.
But the center said I was deferred for life, without a chance that I could ever donate anything again. All the plasma they had taken from me had to be destroyed. It was heartbreaking, and I’m still confused how they could defer someone permanently for something that wasn’t even in their own sample.
- Comment on Plant Slurs 5 weeks ago:
Invasive species are something else. They can cause active harm to an ecosystem and are crucial to look out for, especially in sensitive areas. Just because “life finds a way” doesn’t mean destroying a niche habitat is okay.
- Comment on Most people's earliest memories are at around 3 or 4 years of age, which correlates with the age kids start asking "why" for everything. Kids start asking why when they become self-aware. 5 weeks ago:
Some kids ask “why” because they understand the question and want to know more, but that isn’t the only reason.
Asking “why” tends to result in people talking to you. Ever hear a kid ask “why” over and over again without caring about the answer? They may have been asking the question because it provides them with attention. It’s a single word that nearly guarantees an adult will talk to you, and sometimes that’s all a kid really wants.