If sexuality is a spectrum, does that mean one person is the gayest?
Submitted 2 months ago by irelephant@lemmy.world to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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DistrictSIX@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
OhStopYellingAtMe@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Yeah, and according to those mean kids on Xbox Live, it’s me.
ook@discuss.tchncs.de 2 months ago
But aaalso somehow… your mama.
StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Yes
Horsey@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Probably not when you consider that there is probably a break point in there. Being super gay just means you’d under no circumstances have sex with the opposite sex, no?
Asidonhopo@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Maybe its gayer to bottom for both men and cis women though, maybe “gold-star” gays are leaving some arguably gay acts still on the table
Horsey@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I think sex acts are within your sexuality, not the other way around.
Jankatarch@lemmy.world 2 months ago
More importantly does that mean people can be ordered by their gay and can we construct a binary search tree to find anyone with a specific value of gay within O(logn) time?
BlackRoseAmongThorns@slrpnk.net 2 months ago
If and only if you can define “gay” on a one dimensional axis, otherwise it would be like plotting points on an N-dimensional graph, I’m pretty sure “gay” is a multiple dimensions thing.
So sadly we wont be getting a
tree: BinaryTree<Person> = BinaryTree::new_sorted_by(order_gayest);anytime soon 😒
mathemachristian@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
There is at least a time component to consider, as you might feel gayer some days than others. It likely also depends on you company, that is, if you are around a lot of hot men who are open to the idea of gay relations but not many hot women interested in you, you might feel gayer than if it were the other way around. So by sorting the population you would skew the amount of gay in a population by grouping gay people around gayer people and not as gay people with their kind.
TomasEkeli@programming.dev 2 months ago
Surely your need a non-binary tree?
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Yeah, and it’s almost certainly some Baptist prosperity gospel preacher with nineteen children.
Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
Yes, probably my wife.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 2 months ago
We’ve answered this question in The Whitest Kids U’ Know - Time Travel
ipkpjersi@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
It does mean that, yeah.
RickyRigatoni@retrolemmy.com 2 months ago
Elton John.
arsCynic@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I’m the straightest person. I don’t have a gender, and I’m attracted to all genders. ‘all’ and ‘none’ are by far more opposite each other as any two specific sexes or genders could ever be.
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Oh snap, you’re me.
As an agendered pansexual, the wildest thing to me about the trans/cis divide is actually feeling that strongly about having a preferred gender. I simply can’t fathom caring hard enough to care. I default to “female” because I was AFAB, but if someone calls me by a different pronoun, it’s whatever to me.
Now let me be clear - just because I don’t feel gender for myself, doesn’t mean I can’t respect and support those who do feel strongly about their genders.
Bonus mini-rant
I wish I didn’t have to make an announcement pointing that out. Something changed in the past decade or so, whereby if someone simply states a non-standard experience or quality about themselves, people now assume that they must be “against” the standard experience/quality. It’s frustrating and unconductive to conversation when people assume every comment must be a prelude to an argument. There used to be an assumption that people were conversing in good faith, but lately there’s been a shift. To agree with those different from you is no longer treated as the default, and I find that very troubling.
And as a reference to this comment, this post was fueled by unmedicated ADHD and cannabis (and a bit of frustration, since I accidentally closed the window after the first time I wrote it, so I had to write it twice.)
Soggy@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I think “agendered” is the best description for me as well and I share your perspective. AMAB and kinda lazy so dude stuff is the default but I can’t internalize the idea of gender dys/euphoria. (Body dysphoria makes sense to me, it seems to me like an entirely different thing than gender presentation which has a huge spectrum and varies wildly across cultures)
Bennyboybumberchums@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I feel like, if you can read this, you might be having a stroke… lol
Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Nah I’m just full of ADHD meds, nicotine and caffeine
wolframhydroxide@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Colours are a spectrum. That doesn’t stop two things from being the same hue/wavelength
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I’ve seen sexualities you people wouldn’t believe. Drag Shows at the Fyre Festival off the shoulder of Orion’s Disco. I watched sequined gowns glitter in the dark near the Berghain Entrance. All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain. Time to die.
novibe@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
Sigh… yes. We’ve already been over this guys.
Frankie Grande is the gayest person. Freddie Mercury is the most bi person. Sabrina Carpenter is the most straight person.
Bennyboybumberchums@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Yeah, but hes the gayest in the way that kids used to say it in the 00s…
novibe@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
🤷♂️ gayest is gayest idk man
Leather@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Yes. And just like watchtower folks, if your asking, it’s not you.
andallthat@lemmy.world 2 months ago
It’s more that each person will have a moment in their life when they are at their gayest
bountygiver@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
But that doesn’t change the fact that every moment there’ll exist someone who is the gayest, it’s just the same person may not hold that status for a very long time.
faythofdragons@slrpnk.net 2 months ago
Oh dang, so you’re saying I was the gayest person on earth once, but because it happened in my sleep, I never noticed? That explains those dreams.
iamdefinitelyoverthirteen@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Not necessarily, there could just be a hard limit that multiple people hit. They’re gayness is pegged, if you will. 😏
beejboytyson@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Idk Harley owners seem to be right up there.
iamdefinitelyoverthirteen@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I was bike curious, but later decided I’d rather have a Japanese bike.
Dogiedog64@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Yes it does, and Grant O’Brien is a STRONG contender for that title.
ilinamorato@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Brennan, Lily, and Tao each have a moment during that episode where they’re reading a thing and their brains turn back on in emergency mode and they realize to their astonishment what they’re reading. I usually don’t like cringe humor, but those looks are the reason I can still watch True Facts About Grant Anthony O’Brien.
wolframhydroxide@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Grant is bi…
Dogiedog64@lemmy.world 2 months ago
He once sucked 49 dicks in a night at a sex party.
CannedYeet@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Whenever someone breaks a barrier as “The first gay…” remember that they’re technically “the gayest…”.
pyre@lemmy.world 2 months ago
no on multiple levels: a spectrum doesn’t mean a sliding scale, and a sliding scale doesn’t mean leaderboard.
FenderStratocaster@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Someone sucked the most dicks, so yeah.
Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 months ago
If they sucked 2 cocks a day (conservative, I know) over a gay career of fifty years, that would be 36,500 cocks. Which is a very respectable number imo. But is that gayer than a guy in a committed relationship sucking the same cock 36,500 times?
Generica@lemmy.world 2 months ago
But(t) am I the gayest for sucking the most cocks or because I’m the best?
FenderStratocaster@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Yes.
EightBitBlood@lemmy.world 2 months ago
The fact that Frank Frazetta is basically the most hetero man you could imagine IS proof that a maximum on the spectrum is nearly attainable.
bonus_crab@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Not necessarily, there probably exists multiple orderings on gayness , the question is if you can create a total ordering and if its multiple people are maximally gay, or at least if the gayest people are equally gay.
altkey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
That’s what Big Gay wants you to believe.
cupcakezealot@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
hayley kiyoko is called lesbian jesus for a reason
HubertManne@piefed.social 2 months ago
I don’t know anything about that but im the straightest!
AmidFuror@fedia.io 2 months ago
Boo! Everyone is free to be themselves without judgement, but if you're super straight there's something wrong with you.
/s
Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
Yes. And it sadly isnt me