Mid thirties—still want to go out sometimes, also enjoy the above other times.
Once you are over 30 we no longer want to go out - we want to be left alone, with a beer/wine, a blanket, tv, and tacos…
Submitted 2 weeks ago by Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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9point6@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
notnotmike@programming.dev 2 weeks ago
Yeah, I’ve realized that you can’t really put people as easily into the “introvert” and “extrovert” buckets, because it entirely depends on the day.
I can be a social butterfly one day, hyper productive the next, then want to watch reality TV and not leave the couch another. It just depends on the vibe of how I’m feeling
garbagebagel@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Same, and I actually always did in my 20s too but back then I was made to feel like I should be out partying and was lame or a loser if I wasn’t.
Now I’m in my 30s and I party when I want or I become a burrito when I want, I don’t really gaf if anyone wants to judge me for it.
Shimitar@downonthestreet.eu 2 weeks ago
Beg your pardon… After my 40 all I want is good weather and time to go running or cycling or maybe swimming in a lake.
No way would like to spend time drinking alcohol or watching shitty TV.
YMMV.
Fully agree on the I don’t want to go out, meaning social life, too much. Except going out cycling with my sport buddies, ofc
Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
I too, try not to watch shitty TV.
The good stuff however, I do watch that.
Tikiporch@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
There’s too much good TV to waste time watching shitty TV.
Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I don’t have enough space, good enough acoustics, enough money, distance from my neighbours or appropriate zoning to let bands play in my house on a regular basis. So alas, I must leave my house once and a while.
lordnikon@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
When you’re disabled and going out you get tired of watching people avoid you. They see you, you smile they look away quickly when they see your arm crutches.
Had a lady talk to me for a good hour while I was sitting in a booth. We were having a good conversation getting to know each other. Then I go to get up and grab my Crutches from under the table. She awkwardly tells me she needs to use the restroom and i never see her again.
In your 20s you try, in your 30s you get depressed, in your 40s you accept.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
I still want to share those with people, just without the randoms at bars, music clubs etc.
Kinda hard to meet people while avoiding public transport (it sucks, and especially on weekend evenings) if you don’t have a car and live too far apart for cycling, though. Driving a car and having a drink don’t mix well anyway …
jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 2 weeks ago
I’ve always been kind of a cheapskate. I’ve never wanted to go to a generic club.
But I will happily go to a party at someone’s house, or a hangout at the park, or even see a band I like playing live.
Jimmycakes@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
What if instead of a generic club it was hello kitty themed
agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I distinguish between “go out” and “go [some specific place]”. The first one implies just leaving home to be elsewhere, the second implies going someplace specific for a specific purpose.
I like going places, particular places with particular people for particular activities. I have many interests and enjoy exploring them (although all my cool stuff related to those interests is at my house anyway).
I don’t like “going out”, arbitrary places with arbitrary people for no particular reason. My time is limited and I have many interests, if I have free time I want to spend it intentionally.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I wanna meet up with people and have a deep and pleasant chat. The rest I can compromise on. I haven’t felt the allure of loud noises and bright lights in a decade…
LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 2 weeks ago
I vehemently disagree! I don’t drink and I hate tacos. I want to be at home with a cup of tea, a blanket, tv and chocolate
Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
Hate tacos? I didn’t think that existed!
LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 2 weeks ago
They take up valuable space sweet treats could be in.
miss_demeanour@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
Supposed to ‘go out’ last night.
Prepped and served ‘early-ish’ dinner for 5 pm Knackered at 6:15 pm. Seek 40 winks.Out of bed 4:30 am.
Repeat.
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Over 40, I can’t remember what going out is.
Sometimes we want to “go out” when we get the chance, but we have no idea where to go or what to do when we get there.
SolidShake@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Axe throwing
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I actually built my own in the garage a few years back! It was fun when it got used. Last year the kids were goofing around and knocked the target off the wall, I haven’t put it back up.
Yermaw@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
Let’s go to the nightclub like when we were younger.
End up everyone looking at you funny because you’re the only person over 22.
JoMiran@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
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If by “out” you mean socialize, then maybe. I socialized heavily in my thirties and stopped almost completely in my forties, so I get the sentiment.
If by out you mean “go outside”, then I disagree.
matengor@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
Same age. I actually enjoy going out with friends from time to time. But the gravity of my couch has grown by a lot with the years.
squaresinger@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Why go out when home’s better?
When I was living in a bedroom at my parents’ house, going out was hugely desirable.
When I lived in a single-bedroom flat during university, I could finally invite people without my parents’ supervision, and I used that a lot, but the tiny flat with no decent equipment wasn’t great for inviting people over. Now I got space and a projector and a play room for the kids, so of course it’s easier and more freedom to invite people over than to go out where I have to constantly watch out that the kids aren’t bothering anyone.
AmazingAwesomator@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
at 40, i do go out less than in my twenties but we still go out. a lot of our younger friends dont know how to party and always go home super early :/
FabledAepitaph@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
“Not wanting to go out” anymore is the most pessimistic way to view it. There’s just better, more fulfilling things to do other than the things other people have suggested that we should be doing with our time and money.
starlinguk@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I went to conventions all through my thirties! Start Trek, LOTR and Stargate, mostly.
Now I mostly travel, go to cute cafés, museums, etc. Pubs and clubs are too friggin’ noisy.
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
“Going out” means go somewhere very loud.
No.
Pulptastic@midwest.social 2 weeks ago
We don’t even beer any more. The downsides outweigh the upsides. Cuddle, watch movies, work on the house or garden, play Pokemon.
Diddlydee@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
Not ‘no longer’. Still once in a while.
waz@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
This is true. Although, every once in a while I’ll convince the wife unit to go out and we both usually end the night with a sense of regret and a feeling that we both would have preferred to have just stayed home.
Aarrodri@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Mid 40s… I’m in taipei exploring both culture and hikes… 2 months ago in Norway. Last time I watched tv was 1.5 months ago. But I did had tacos right before coming to taipei. I agree on the tacos.
PhireFloofski@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
it’s not that I don’t want to go out, there’s just nowhere to go for people in mid 30, at least around where I live. Also been suffering from social anxiety most of my life and only recently got it under control with meds which made me crave social interactions more than ever.
ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
Same but also would like to be able to meet people since half my friends died and the other half moved lol (also maybe a woman who wants to do all of the above with me would be cool, and add books). The bar was kinda the last place I could do that, nobody wants to strike up a convo at the grocers, and concerts are too loud to talk/meet or are no talking allowed (like theater/comedy).
APassenger@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I’m over 50 and 8 go places and do things. Now… A lot of that is to be in and around nature, but I not some idle couch potato.
That said, when the kids were still at home, some of the adventuring wasn’t as feasible.
ccunning@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
“Things introverts say after their 30th birthday”
Don’t get me wrong - I’m right there with you, but I see a lot of people in the age group that still want to go out.
Coelacanth@feddit.nu 2 weeks ago
Yeah. For me it was before my 30s even, but it’s less to do with a specific age and more to do with the fact that as an introvert you sooner or later realise pretending to be an extrovert isn’t worth the energy and effort.
ccunning@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Also, even as an introvert, I didn’t want to hang around the house while I was still living with my parents…
jaycifer@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
This comment reflects such a weird mentality that I see sometimes, conflating being social with being extroverted. The two go hand in hand, but they are not the same. I love having time with myself reading or playing games, but I am consistently at my overall happiest when that time is punctuated with going out and socializing with friends or occasionally meeting new people. Never going out doesn’t make a person introverted, it just means they are antisocial.