Cracks_InTheWalls

@Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Meh, I'm more of an Aragorn fan...⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  It seemed much cooler back when it was called cyber-anthropology. Second Life seemed like it was going to be much more important than it turned out to be, among other things.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Explaining your traumatic past IRL feels so underwhelming compared to when a character in a movie or tv scene revealing their traumatic childhood.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  In a world where we all have phones, I see no reason we all can’t have sad violin music at the ready for these occasions.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does being a ‘hero’ mean you are a perfect person?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Gonna echo the other folks here - heroism does not require perfection. Every one you can think of as a hero has a flaw (or several), big or small.

  The upside to this is that heroism is accessible to almost everyone. Any opportunity you have to do the right, but difficult (and tbh sometimes not all that difficult, perhaps just uncomfortable or risky), thing is the chance to be a hero to someone in some respect. The downside is that people you may admire as heroes, when you meet them as just a person, can sometimes be disappointing.

  The only flawless heroes are superheros (and even then, few are written about like that these days). Think about that prefix- how are the terms superhero and supernatural alike?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is anyone NOT steaming their Music?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Radio Garden is cool as fuck. Also gonna plug Campus FM.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How long can someone physically walk for?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Sort of, or the legs of others? Ran to raise money for cancer research and awareness, he’s basically the closest thing we have to a secular Saint in mainstream Canadian culture. The Terry Fox Run is a staple of grade school life.

  thecanadianencyclopedia.ca/en/article/terry-fox

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK that only by being yourself will you find people who like the real you. No one can beat you at being you, but you’ll only ever be second best at pretending to be someone else.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I see your point, but I still think a little thinking about what the ‘real you’ actually is is still warranted for the OP statement to work its fullest benefit. Sometimes it can be hard to suss out what’s actually ‘real’ or what was simply adaptation to specific circumstances to present a certain facade that was useful then, but harmful now. We humans are great at lying to ourselves so often it starts to feel like truth.

  But agreed - don’t intentionally be disingenuous when engaging with others, because you’ll likely need to keep that up to keep them in your circle, and at some point the dissonance will bite you in the ass.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK that only by being yourself will you find people who like the real you. No one can beat you at being you, but you’ll only ever be second best at pretending to be someone else.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s some merit to this idea in general, but it begs the question: who are you? It can be argued that the ‘real’ you is a set of behaviours developed through your upbringing, education and social history to date. That might carry with it some unpleasant or maladaptive behaviours that, on the one hand, you may want to reject as not being the ‘real’ you, or if taking a tack of self-acceptance without thorough self-reflection, part of the ‘real’ you that you can and should change but which now seem like immutable traits.

  Some time should be spent on figuring out what the ‘ideal’ you is - for no one other than yourself - to bring that closer into the field of being the ‘real’ you, then suss out which elements don’t fit from that ideal vision. It should also be noted that the ‘real’ you, despite maybe being based in some pillars that are resistant to this, can change over time - and that can be OK.

  Signed: Guy who twisted himself into pretzel over the last decade and a bit, and is tasked with figuring this whole ‘real you’ thing again. Only core pillar I’m not questioning is “Kindness is key”, though with new modifier “but you must protect yourself from those who have no appreciation of it”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Doot doot⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This comment with the username chef’s kiss

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How did easy access to Porn while growing up impacted Gen-Z ?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Kid steals magazine from dad/convenience store, shares the wealth with the homies, ditches the evidence.

  Though I do still enjoy the legend of Horny Appleseed, doing god’s (?) work.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨From burner phones to decks of cards: NYC teens are adjusting to the smartphone ban⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’d be an interesting turn of events - phone bans leading to a zine Renaissance among young people.

  Don’t see it happening, but it’d be kinda cool.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨From burner phones to decks of cards: NYC teens are adjusting to the smartphone ban⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  IIRC from the Pokemon days, there were a lot of concerns around the ‘prize’ scoring system, with the idea that you’d take the opponent’s prize cards when you knocked out a Pokemon. Misunderstanding/holdover from Pogs, I think (where getting the other player’s pogs was a thing).

  Couple that plus stories of kids getting knifed over holo Charizards, and I kinda get why schools were concerned (putting aside the ‘that’s not how the game works’ + ‘that was one psycho kid’ elements).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The Job Market Is HellYoung people are using ChatGPT to write their applications; HR is using AI to read them; no one is getting hired.⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Have a feeling it depends on where you are/what you’re doing, but yeah - a lot of hiring roles require an application on top of a resume.

  It’s one small part of why job hunting is a pain in the ass.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i 💚 animals.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The thing is, the specific meaning transmitted in a meme can shift slightly depend on how and where it is used. I’ve seen this format used in one of two contexts to date:

  1. Purity statement, whereby one side is clearly meant to be the ‘correct’ position. Usually assigned to the male figure, but with some variants where that is switched.

  2. Illustration of differences between two groups, where the idea of ‘correctness’ of one side over the other is either absent or secondary to just illustrating that difference.

  Then there’s the slippage between these two, which can be fun to tease out. IMO this meme is an example of the second usage, with some possible slippage. Both sides claim to love science, both sides have things that are sciences and things that are science related but adjacent. Each is assigned topics for which there’s a stereotype about men’s/women’s level of participation. I look at it and think “Here are two people who both truly do love science, but different domains, and each is still learning which is why some elements are imprecise/not specific sciences”). Basically, 1st year undergrad BSc man and woman meet at the record store.

  Now, depending on authorship and original context, a declaration of purity may be intended (I’ve seen stuff like this with that intent from insecure engineering students before, usually men), but I feel it loses some of that when deployed in a generic science memes community (as opposed to something like ‘Spicy Memes for Bridge Building Boys’ or whatever).

  I’d be curious if this was OC, or if not where it was taken from.

  #memesaresrsbusiness

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Kinda funny to see it in Canada as well, especially when you throw Quebec culture into the mix (things seem a little more sex positive over there compared to other parts of the country, which is neat to think about sometimes).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨mmmm yes undoubtedly⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Well yeah no, 'cause it’s cold here eh?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨mmmm yes undoubtedly⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  cold weather Aussies.

  looks at Canadians

  Huh.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A love story⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I appreciate you and wish you luck on your pitch to Corus.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what books about personal boundaries do you know that don't mention god?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s a question that isn’t relevant to OPs ask here. Do you have a useful book suggestion that presents the topic of boundaries and maintaining them in a secular way? Whether they believe in a deity or not?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what books about personal boundaries do you know that don't mention god?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Nedra Glower Tawaab’s books come highly recommended: Set Boundaries, Find Peace + the accompanying workbook, and Drama Free (mentioned here already).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what books about personal boundaries do you know that don't mention god?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  C’mon Flax, we get it, you’re a Christian. OP’s just looking for a secular self-help/psychology book. Do you have a recommendation or not?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨nooo my genderinos⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  …

  I am a horrible person, but the only thing I can think of reading this is a small-circuit wrestling event where all participants have this set of chromosomes, billed as ‘The Triple X Throwdown’, for the title of Supreme Female.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It slaps tho⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Milk, butter, a lil’ cream cheese, extra shredded cheese, spices to taste. You’re welcome.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It slaps tho⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Boil mac and cheese, drain the pasta, put in industrial cheese powder agent, moisten with water instead of milk, put in butter/margarine/tears and stir.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨They'd just appear out of nowhere⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’d recommend seeking out a therapist if it causes you distress, specifically one with some clinical interest in psychedelics if possible (keywords include ‘integration therapy’). Know that while there’s still a lot to learn about HPPD, you are not alone, and in a lot of cases it can be managed. It’s mostly a question of recognizing your triggers and developing tools to work through them (so if stress is a trigger, stress reduction techniques; abstinence from cannabis or other drugs if that’s a trigger (pretty common), etc.)

  Some folks just kinda roll with it, but there is stuff you can do help manage.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨They'd just appear out of nowhere⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Lol, HPPD go brrrrr.

  I can’t tell you if this is what you’re experiencing, but worth a read if you haven’t come across the term before: …wikipedia.org/…/Hallucinogen_persisting_percepti…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anyone else from Europe feels the same while browsing the "All" feed?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I think there’s a place for a community called ‘epiceriedumemes’, a play on words denoting both variety of content (like an epicerie) and spicyness (epicier).

  Then again, it also really invites more bakery memes, so idk.

  (Please forgive my lack of accented characters)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm sure this would work out fine⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Things I didn’t know I wanted until now: a neo-spaghetti western set in Italy, Texas.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Epstein puts my morality into perspective⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’d say it’s a little thornier than that. By tipping, you support the person who has to take the job that doesn’t pay them a living wage. Absolutely, this can have the side effect of supporting the system creating this condition, but so too does patronizing businesses that employ this practice. The best move if you don’t want to support the system is to not patronize businesses that function this way at all. Increasing corporate revenue while not contributing to the welfare of the person who had to take that job is not a morally better position.

  Feel somewhat similar about giving money to beggars, though with slightly more emphasis on the voluntary nature of the act (which itself could be fodder for moral discussion - what’s the difference between Jack the Hobo’s and Jack the Barista’s experience?). End of the day, while systematic rehaul so both of these conditions are irrelevant is warranted, for both groups it’s about survival until the next day (yes, for some beggars survival includes dope, withdrawl is hell). The revolution ain’t coming tomorrow, and even if it did there’s time required to get these folks what they need. It’s entirely possible they wouldn’t make it to that point without voluntary support from individuals or small groups.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Lemmy is a tech literate echo chamber⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  some people don’t know you can align the USB by checking if the holes on the outside are filled or not

  This one statement has me questioning a large swath of my life to date. Booting from the (eventually) correctly aligned USB has always been the easy part.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨PSA on privuhcy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yep!

  Only thing I want to see after a ? in a youtube url is t=4m20s