Cracks_InTheWalls
@Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works
- Comment on what books about personal boundaries do you know that don't mention god? 12 hours ago:
It’s a question that isn’t relevant to OPs ask here. Do you have a useful book suggestion that presents the topic of boundaries and maintaining them in a secular way? Whether they believe in a deity or not?
- Comment on what books about personal boundaries do you know that don't mention god? 13 hours ago:
Nedra Glower Tawaab’s books come highly recommended: Set Boundaries, Find Peace + the accompanying workbook, and Drama Free (mentioned here already).
- Comment on what books about personal boundaries do you know that don't mention god? 13 hours ago:
C’mon Flax, we get it, you’re a Christian. OP’s just looking for a secular self-help/psychology book. Do you have a recommendation or not?
- Comment on nooo my genderinos 2 days ago:
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I am a horrible person, but the only thing I can think of reading this is a small-circuit wrestling event where all participants have this set of chromosomes, billed as ‘The Triple X Throwdown’, for the title of Supreme Female.
- Comment on It slaps tho 3 days ago:
Milk, butter, a lil’ cream cheese, extra shredded cheese, spices to taste. You’re welcome.
- Comment on It slaps tho 3 days ago:
Boil mac and cheese, drain the pasta, put in industrial cheese powder agent, moisten with water instead of milk, put in butter/margarine/tears and stir.
- Comment on They'd just appear out of nowhere 6 days ago:
I’d recommend seeking out a therapist if it causes you distress, specifically one with some clinical interest in psychedelics if possible (keywords include ‘integration therapy’). Know that while there’s still a lot to learn about HPPD, you are not alone, and in a lot of cases it can be managed. It’s mostly a question of recognizing your triggers and developing tools to work through them (so if stress is a trigger, stress reduction techniques; abstinence from cannabis or other drugs if that’s a trigger (pretty common), etc.)
Some folks just kinda roll with it, but there is stuff you can do help manage.
- Comment on They'd just appear out of nowhere 6 days ago:
Lol, HPPD go brrrrr.
I can’t tell you if this is what you’re experiencing, but worth a read if you haven’t come across the term before: …wikipedia.org/…/Hallucinogen_persisting_percepti…
- Comment on Anyone else from Europe feels the same while browsing the "All" feed? 1 week ago:
I think there’s a place for a community called ‘epiceriedumemes’, a play on words denoting both variety of content (like an epicerie) and spicyness (epicier).
Then again, it also really invites more bakery memes, so idk.
(Please forgive my lack of accented characters)
- Comment on I'm sure this would work out fine 3 weeks ago:
Things I didn’t know I wanted until now: a neo-spaghetti western set in Italy, Texas.
- Comment on Epstein puts my morality into perspective 3 weeks ago:
I’d say it’s a little thornier than that. By tipping, you support the person who has to take the job that doesn’t pay them a living wage. Absolutely, this can have the side effect of supporting the system creating this condition, but so too does patronizing businesses that employ this practice. The best move if you don’t want to support the system is to not patronize businesses that function this way at all. Increasing corporate revenue while not contributing to the welfare of the person who had to take that job is not a morally better position.
Feel somewhat similar about giving money to beggars, though with slightly more emphasis on the voluntary nature of the act (which itself could be fodder for moral discussion - what’s the difference between Jack the Hobo’s and Jack the Barista’s experience?). End of the day, while systematic rehaul so both of these conditions are irrelevant is warranted, for both groups it’s about survival until the next day (yes, for some beggars survival includes dope, withdrawl is hell). The revolution ain’t coming tomorrow, and even if it did there’s time required to get these folks what they need. It’s entirely possible they wouldn’t make it to that point without voluntary support from individuals or small groups.
- Comment on Lemmy is a tech literate echo chamber 3 weeks ago:
some people don’t know you can align the USB by checking if the holes on the outside are filled or not
This one statement has me questioning a large swath of my life to date. Booting from the (eventually) correctly aligned USB has always been the easy part.
- Comment on PSA on privuhcy 4 weeks ago:
Yep!
Only thing I want to see after a ? in a youtube url is t=4m20s
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
Real talk, this is the absolute first thing that popped into my mind reading this thread. Have some cards for therapists in the overnight bag for folks that make her go “This is beyond my expertise as an escort. You want the other profession that leases their time by the hour for human interaction.”
- Comment on Remembering Descent, the once-popular, fully 3D 6DOF shooter 4 weeks ago:
Nausea has never been as fun as it was back then.
- Comment on Everybody gets one [choose wisely] 4 weeks ago:
- Comment on Does anyone struggle with spending money foolishly on prostitutes? 4 weeks ago:
It is enforced, by varying degrees, by the censure or support of other humans, as well as one’s own conscience.
The moral code you follow may have been authored by a creator figure. It may not have. Frankly, it’s beside the point. In practice, Christian morality is enforced by support or censure of the church and its teachings. It takes as its bedrock a shared conception of humanity as the Created. An atheist’s or humanist’s morality is similarly enforced by support or censure of their human community, though with a different bedrock (a belief in the dignity and capacities of humanity, for instance, either absent of or separate from a deity).
One does not need to be a Christian to act morally. It does mean certain lines may be drawn in areas different than a Christian, but I would say that that simply makes the individual a non-Christian where those lines do not otherwise impede on, say, humanity’s inherent dignity.
I want to say I write this with full respect for your beliefs in your Creator. I believe tolerance for the beliefs of others, where they do not impede on those who do not share those beliefs to live their lives freely, is important. I will add that if OP was being truthful, and actually is a Christian struggling with soliciting sex workers, your suggestion to seek out the Church is a valid one. If nothing else, it places him among humans that share the values he seeks to embody, and may help him on the path he wishes to walk.
For my part, I see no issue so long as both parties enter these arrangements with no coercion or out of compulsion, with the issue here being the compulsion. If it feels bad, and it serves no greater aim, don’t do it, figure out why you’re doing it, and do things more aligned with your morals and ideals - that’s my take.
- Comment on Does anyone struggle with spending money foolishly on prostitutes? 4 weeks ago:
Because morality exists independently of any diety figure. It is ultimately a set of ideas about what constitutes good conduct between humans and the environment around them.
- Comment on Why do people hate coldplay? 5 weeks ago:
The amount of radio play they got, for me. I was a big fan of How You Remind Me when it came out, and they do have a handful of listenable songs, but the sheer amount of repetition changed things from “they’re ok” to “omg not again, fuck these guys”.
I feel similar, but to a lesser degree, about Coldplay.
- Comment on Are you using Lemmy / others to create noise in your life and to replace talking to people irl? 1 month ago:
The benefits of a healthy online space for discussion premised on shared interest and (ideally) quality are immense, no doubt. Good participation can bring people more of those benefits, and it would be foolish to dismiss them.
But at the same time, we folks in the West at least live increasingly atomized, lonely lives. While it’s certainly better than nothing, particularly if you experience barriers to IRL socialization (disabilities, mental health conditions, etc.), having your sense of community derived completely from the internet has drawbacks.
The medium is particularly vulnerable to manipulation, whether through artificial means or simply groupthink as a product of the specific actors involved (intentionally or not). It can create spaces with weird feedback loops that inform crazy outcomes (think of the incel movement, extremist movements of many colours, etc.). And it removes a bunch context from the interactions which, on one hand, is liberating (only your words matter, regardless of social position, physical appearance, place of origin, medical conditions, etc.), but on the other is limited (nuances of speech, facial expressions, physical proximity, physical context re: where the interaction takes place - this all adds to the meaning of a given interaction).
As with most things, balance is key. Participate online, sure - you can have great discussions, build friendships, etc. - but recognize meatspace community has value, and should be tended to equally. We should be talking to the people physically around us more, and I truly feel one factor of the shit we wade through these days is that many don’t.
- Comment on Are you ready skids? 1 month ago:
Go to bed early on April 19th. Wake up at 4:20 AM. Have a lil’ wake and bake. Get kitted up and go for a nice wander, listening to some sweet tunes, maybe hit a trail for a bit, etc. Meander your way to the brunch place, preferably an all-you-can-eat affair, around opening time. Have one more bowl/joint. If AYCE, make the owner regret their business model. Spend the rest of the day in a food coma watching stupid movies.
This is the way.
- Comment on They Live 2069 1 month ago:
“I’m here to kick ass and chew bubblegum. And I’m not sure they even still make bubblegum these days.”
- Comment on Hot enough for ya? 1 month ago:
Remember, if you’re hot, they’re hot. Let them cool off in your portable in-flesh pool.
- Comment on Oh to go back... 1 month ago:
Obviously still not realistic, but I feel like the super-imposed text thing some TV shows/movies have done more recently works, so long as you create a sense of tension/time crunch.
Toss in some red text and error messages once and a while in front of a dude sweating with dramatic music in the background, and it gets the point across.
- Comment on Oh to go back... 1 month ago:
I mean, call it whatever, it really doesn’t matter that much, but why not pop punk? Seems to be the more common label, and easily extended to non-US bands like Sum41, Gob, etc.
- Comment on Why is U2 considered "grunge?" 2 months ago:
I’m sorry, what??? I’m just as perplexed as you are, where are you seeing this and can you drop a link?
- Comment on Do you ever feel like your inside thoughts are leaking out? 2 months ago:
There’s been more than a few times my kid has called me out by saying “Use your inside thoughts”.
- Comment on What's an absolutely medium quality game? Not great, incredible or terrible or any single ended extreme. Dead medium quality 2 months ago:
If you’re an adult Pokemon fan, these days fan-mades or rom hacks are the way to go. Nintendo/The Pokemon Company/Game Freak are pretty damn risk averse with this property, so the really cool stuff comes from fans (at least until they get the cease and desist).
- Comment on If I could make hairstyles come back into fashion I would pick this. The 80s were magical with their hairspray creations. 2 months ago:
Frank Sherwood Roland and Mario Molina have entered the chat.
- Comment on Would alcohol be as popular if it weren't a beverage? 2 months ago:
Imagine if instead of going to the bar for a beer you went to the restaurant to eat some THC infused food
Brother I’ve been imagining this since legalization here. More than a few restaurateurs were as well, only to be dissappointed by the current legislation.
My kingdom for a legal, indoor cannabis consumption space that doesn’t have to get around things by being a funded experiment or ‘grey area, members only “private club”’. And tinctures, infused drinks and edibles are the clear best choices of RoA in those spaces given anti-smoking laws.
