Is it normal for people to regret what they said on here? Because I tend not to change my mind from downvotes and dumb responses. I do block people though
Opening Lemmy in the morning and seeing dozens of unread comments in your inbox makes you think: what the heck did I say yesterday?
Submitted 2 months ago by sxan@midwest.social to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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hmonkey@lemy.lol 2 months ago
spankmonkey@lemmy.world 2 months ago
My only regrets are having to read stupid responses that completely missed the point of what I said because they want to argue with what they think I said.
Occasionally I learn something new from responses, which changes my perspective.
Primer81@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
I agree - A lot of people seem so prepared for someone to disagree with them that they seem to misfire on people they agree with. I try to avoid this by starting my comments with “I agree” 😊 … though even then some people still get confused 🫠
Devorlon@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
What a stupid comment, if you actually took the time to read and understood your replies then maybe you’d actually learn something from them, rather than just disregarding everyone who responds to you.
/s
grue@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Downvotes sometimes make me want to clarify what I wrote on the assumption that it got misinterpreted.
spankmonkey@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Has that ever worked for you?
I do it a lot and can’t think of a single time it worked.
sxan@midwest.social 2 months ago
My thought was more “which of the things I wrote triggered such a reaction?” I’m often surprised.
obinice@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I mean well, and I want to have hope for the future, but I’m depressed and have untreated ADHD and a desperate need for therapy, and I do worry that I’m letting all that influence how I talk to strangers online.
I’m probably too harsh sometimes, or not harsh enough, or dumb, or stupid, etc, more often than I’d like.
So yeah, I generally regret or worry over everything I say to everyone at some point or another. I suck xD But I’m too lonely to switch off and not talk to anyone entirely, so here we are.
FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
I don’t want to deal with arguing and people pleasing. I don’g have the energy for it. So I’m on an instance with downvotes disabled and rarely check my inbox.
finitebanjo@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I’ve admitted I was wrong a few times, but never from downvotes or dumb responses. You gotta cite good sources to get a reversal out of me.
khannie@lemmy.world 2 months ago
My own experience with this was posting a shower thoughts thread while quite inebriated, forgetting I’d done it then waking up with a fairly full inbox so nothing controversial or argumentative.
sxan@midwest.social 2 months ago
My experience is that I reply to a lot of things, and post very few, and in no case do I have even a vague notion about how many comments what I write will generate. I can guess the vector magnitude of up/down votes, but never the amount of interaction, where people take time to reply.
ragebutt@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
Absolutely, it is only human to make mistakes. Of course there are time where someone gives a stupid reply but there are also times where that is not the case. If it were the assumption would be that I am right about everything, which is asinine
daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
I I do actually second thought what I said. As I can be as wrong as any. And if I’m wrong I’m ought to change my mind.
But it’s true that I rarely change my mind unless there’s a truly convincing argument.
rosco385@lemm.ee 2 months ago
My first thought is always “Must be Nicole the Fediverse chick again” 😂
xor@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
Find hot Nicoles in your local Fediverse!
FIbynight@lemm.ee 2 months ago
I just got her message this morning! 😂
Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
She never talks to me anymore after that one night…
LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Man what am I doing wrong? Still nothing from her. Oh well. She’s probably too good for me anyways :,(
spittingimage@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I just assume I said something factually wrong and now dozens of helpful people are lining up to correct me.
TheTurner@lemm.ee 2 months ago
Uhm, acshually.
xye@lemm.ee 2 months ago
Ah, I see you’ve developed a humiliation fetish as well
Irelephant@lemm.ee 2 months ago
You forgot a comma.
miss_demeanour@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
Often followed by, “I said that?”
saltesc@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Then you read your original comment and, no, you didn’t say that; someone’s just trying to gaslight you or they’re straw manning.
spankmonkey@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Or they keep explaining what you already said because they don’t understand nuance or context.
AbsoluteChicagoDog@lemm.ee 2 months ago
[deleted]samus12345@lemm.ee 2 months ago
“Capitalism is a good system”
sxan@midwest.social 2 months ago
Man, that’s just playing Russian Roulette with a ban hammer.
Badland9085@lemm.ee [bot] 2 months ago
ipkpjersi@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
Now hold on, are you talking about Windows 7 and 10, or 11? These are very different things!
Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
XP
DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 2 months ago
I know what I said, y’all’s angst feeds me.
This would all be easier if you all just agreed with me, the always correct person.
raptore39@lemm.ee 2 months ago
I might not always be right, but I’m never wrong
LeninOnAPrayer@lemm.ee 2 months ago
If I’m ever wrong. I delete that comment and pretend it didn’t happen. Or if someone actually makes a good counter argument I just go “meh, don’t feel like replying” and leave them unread. I do the worst crime. I’ll be 10 replies in and I won’t even downvote their last comment to let them know I read it. I’m sure it’s infuriating.
explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
I got the last comment! I won!
sxan@midwest.social 2 months ago
I’d agree with you, but then we’d both be wrong.
socsa@piefed.social 2 months ago
Usually means you got featured on hexbear
Gonzako@lemmy.world 2 months ago
what’s hexbear
minkymunkey_7_7@lemmy.world 2 months ago
When you had hex with a bear last night but can’t remember.
Cryophilia@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Since there’s no serious answer: hexbear is a highly toxic instance that has been defederated by most other instances. However, their users will keep tabs on what’s said on other instances, and they’ll occasionally show up en masse with alt accounts to attack something that particularly enraged them.
Many of them are…not quite mentally stable.
They’re probably the single largest base of tankie support. For them, America = bad, and anyone opposed to America = good. They pretend to care about communism etc but they’re really just anti-American. Saying anything negative about China gets you instantly banned.
IndustryStandard@lemmy.world 2 months ago
A fictional enemy used by right wingers on Lemmy to victimize themselves.
01189998819991197253@infosec.pub 2 months ago
If you don’t know, count yourself hella lucky and move on with your day.
RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 2 months ago
A bunch are usually people disagreeing and making up situations to make themselves right… i.e., you posit that the sky appeared blue when you went outside today, the replies are: not if it’s night, not during cloudy days, etc. and at least one that sounds like they disagree but are reiterating what you just said.
sxan@midwest.social 2 months ago
I’ve made this observation before, but the funniest thing about Lemmy is that !ShowerThoughts posts elicit more controversy than !UnpopularOpinion. Like, someone posts “I love pineapple on pizza” in !ShowerThoughts, and it’s downvoted to hell with people writing long essays about how pineapple on pizza is justification for bringing back shock treatment. The same thing posted to !UnpopularOpinion brings out a mob of people saying how not unpopular an opinion that is, quoting statistics about how Hawaiian Pizza is the most popular pizza in America. It’s absolutely hilarious, and one of the few areas where the Lemmy community is truly contrarian just for contrarian’s sake.
With the exception of populations of some instances which I won’t hex by bearishly naming, and a few individually excessive dicks (or trolls, but I think most are really just assholes), the Lemmy community tends to argue in good faith, admit when they’re wrong or have had their minds changed, and are generally polite netizens in most exchanges. But !ShowerThoughts and !UnpopularOpinion just being out the contrarian in people, for some reason.
JustZ@lemmy.world 2 months ago
people writing long essays about how pineapple on pizza is justification for bringing back shock treatment.
I’m here for the essays. To read them…and to write them.
Have to get it out of my brain.
RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Unpopular opinion is just posting things that plenty of people actually agree with. Like pineapple pizza. An actual unpopular opinion would be something like agreeing with restricting abortion or something difficult that elicits very strong feelings.
Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Me is, how stoned was I.
InverseNurse@lemm.ee 2 months ago
How do I post a photo in comments? New here due to Reddit ban.
Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
Yerbouti@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
If your in for a wild ride, you can post something like “Steam sucks”, or ask anything about “Hexbear”. If you just want positive attention, go with “What’s the best distro for…?”
kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
Usually its when I either offend the libs on world or the fake leftists on ml/hexbear. Sometimes if I’m particularly skilled I piss off both of them at the exact same time (usually by advocating for true liberation for the working class not under a so called “vanguard” but by and for the workers themselves)
mavu@discuss.tchncs.de 2 months ago
This is my primary use of reddit.
Late night shitposting, i instantly forget, and seeing lots of interesting comments in the morning.
Cocodapuf@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Look at all these replies! I can’t wait to tell all these internet randos how wrong they are!
finitebanjo@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Half the time you just have to say “Fuck Tankies” or “Vote DNC” and you’ll get 4, 10, or even 20 of the most cookie cutter responses you’ve ever seen in your life.
AceFuzzLord@lemm.ee 2 months ago
Most of the time I know exactly what I’m getting if I see more than maybe 3+ comments. Usually it’s me saying something anti-communist, something on brand enough for me.
oce@jlai.lu 2 months ago
Did you criticize the left?
ObviouslyNotBanana@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Lmao yeah sometimes. Since I mostly shitpost I just assume that the posts have had the intended effect of either making people laugh or working them up a little about something they care about. Just enough to make them share some stuff they’re really passionate about. I like hearing people’s unfiltered opinions.
mechoman444@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Immediately go to my comments to see whats getting downvoted to hell.
stoly@lemmy.world 2 months ago
At least unlike reddit people aren’t directly insulting you.
cheese_greater@lemmy.world 2 months ago
O, i know the feeling
slazer2au@lemmy.world 2 months ago
True dat mate.
Cryophilia@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I assume the right-wing propaganda planners have decided they need to counter something I said
pineapplelover@lemm.ee 2 months ago
I’m too scared to check tbh. Somebody tell me if I am getting downvoted because I see 150 unreads
crabigno@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
Also, what was happening in that other site many of us used to be in so interactions between the same people talking the same points were so rare?
Allero@lemmy.today 2 months ago
I’m pretty excited to see and check what gained traction
Matriks404@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I sometimes write something that might be controversial, so unless I have a lot of free time I don’t open Lemmy at all, lol.
Paradachshund@lemmy.today 2 months ago
The biggest responses I’ve ever gotten by far have all been asking for alternatives to popular tech. 😏
InEnduringGrowStrong@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
And then all of them are “Nicole”.
miss_demeanour@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
Image
The Polish Partier.
expatriado@lemmy.world 2 months ago
i have a different pic in my inbox. do i suppose to collect them all? i want a rare Nicole now
Shortstack@reddthat.com 2 months ago
Oh she’s using a new picture now?
I’ll probably get it in my inbox sooner or later
50_centavos@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I got mine today after a year on Lemmy. I was starting to feel left out.
Gerudo@lemm.ee 2 months ago
I guess I’m not special enough, Nicole doesn’t want to talk to me.
benignintervention@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I just got mine today, like some tribal initiation
jballs@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Still haven’t gotten one. Guess the bots don’t like me.
mp3@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
Tungsten5@lemm.ee 2 months ago
I got a message from nicole with a pic. I thought it was a scammer or something. Just a one off thing. Is that not the case? Is Nicole a lemmy thing?
Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
Nope, your first instinct is right, it’s a spammer. But it’s one of the few spammers that almost everyone has run into, so it’s just a joke. Like saying you met a Nigerian prince who offered you a huge sum of money.
Ghyste@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Gods please don’t let this be a trend…