Is it normal for people to regret what they said on here? Because I tend not to change my mind from downvotes and dumb responses. I do block people though
Opening Lemmy in the morning and seeing dozens of unread comments in your inbox makes you think: what the heck did I say yesterday?
Submitted 4 weeks ago by sxan@midwest.social to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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hmonkey@lemy.lol 4 weeks ago
spankmonkey@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
My only regrets are having to read stupid responses that completely missed the point of what I said because they want to argue with what they think I said.
Occasionally I learn something new from responses, which changes my perspective.
Primer81@lemmy.zip 4 weeks ago
I agree - A lot of people seem so prepared for someone to disagree with them that they seem to misfire on people they agree with. I try to avoid this by starting my comments with “I agree” 😊 … though even then some people still get confused 🫠
Devorlon@lemmy.zip 4 weeks ago
What a stupid comment, if you actually took the time to read and understood your replies then maybe you’d actually learn something from them, rather than just disregarding everyone who responds to you.
/s
grue@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Downvotes sometimes make me want to clarify what I wrote on the assumption that it got misinterpreted.
spankmonkey@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Has that ever worked for you?
I do it a lot and can’t think of a single time it worked.
sxan@midwest.social 4 weeks ago
My thought was more “which of the things I wrote triggered such a reaction?” I’m often surprised.
obinice@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I mean well, and I want to have hope for the future, but I’m depressed and have untreated ADHD and a desperate need for therapy, and I do worry that I’m letting all that influence how I talk to strangers online.
I’m probably too harsh sometimes, or not harsh enough, or dumb, or stupid, etc, more often than I’d like.
So yeah, I generally regret or worry over everything I say to everyone at some point or another. I suck xD But I’m too lonely to switch off and not talk to anyone entirely, so here we are.
FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 weeks ago
I don’t want to deal with arguing and people pleasing. I don’g have the energy for it. So I’m on an instance with downvotes disabled and rarely check my inbox.
finitebanjo@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I’ve admitted I was wrong a few times, but never from downvotes or dumb responses. You gotta cite good sources to get a reversal out of me.
khannie@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
My own experience with this was posting a shower thoughts thread while quite inebriated, forgetting I’d done it then waking up with a fairly full inbox so nothing controversial or argumentative.
sxan@midwest.social 4 weeks ago
My experience is that I reply to a lot of things, and post very few, and in no case do I have even a vague notion about how many comments what I write will generate. I can guess the vector magnitude of up/down votes, but never the amount of interaction, where people take time to reply.
ragebutt@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks ago
Absolutely, it is only human to make mistakes. Of course there are time where someone gives a stupid reply but there are also times where that is not the case. If it were the assumption would be that I am right about everything, which is asinine
daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks ago
I I do actually second thought what I said. As I can be as wrong as any. And if I’m wrong I’m ought to change my mind.
But it’s true that I rarely change my mind unless there’s a truly convincing argument.
rosco385@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
My first thought is always “Must be Nicole the Fediverse chick again” 😂
xor@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 weeks ago
Find hot Nicoles in your local Fediverse!
FIbynight@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
I just got her message this morning! 😂
Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks ago
She never talks to me anymore after that one night…
LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Man what am I doing wrong? Still nothing from her. Oh well. She’s probably too good for me anyways :,(
spittingimage@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I just assume I said something factually wrong and now dozens of helpful people are lining up to correct me.
TheTurner@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
Uhm, acshually.
xye@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
Ah, I see you’ve developed a humiliation fetish as well
Irelephant@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
You forgot a comma.
miss_demeanour@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks ago
Often followed by, “I said that?”
saltesc@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Then you read your original comment and, no, you didn’t say that; someone’s just trying to gaslight you or they’re straw manning.
spankmonkey@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Or they keep explaining what you already said because they don’t understand nuance or context.
AbsoluteChicagoDog@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
“Windows is a good OS”
samus12345@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
“Capitalism is a good system”
AbsoluteChicagoDog@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
The goal is contraversial not idiotic lol
sxan@midwest.social 4 weeks ago
Man, that’s just playing Russian Roulette with a ban hammer.
Badland9085@lemm.ee [bot] 4 weeks ago
ipkpjersi@lemmy.ml 4 weeks ago
Now hold on, are you talking about Windows 7 and 10, or 11? These are very different things!
Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks ago
XP
DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 4 weeks ago
I know what I said, y’all’s angst feeds me.
This would all be easier if you all just agreed with me, the always correct person.
raptore39@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
I might not always be right, but I’m never wrong
LeninOnAPrayer@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
If I’m ever wrong. I delete that comment and pretend it didn’t happen. Or if someone actually makes a good counter argument I just go “meh, don’t feel like replying” and leave them unread. I do the worst crime. I’ll be 10 replies in and I won’t even downvote their last comment to let them know I read it. I’m sure it’s infuriating.
explodicle@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
I got the last comment! I won!
sxan@midwest.social 4 weeks ago
I’d agree with you, but then we’d both be wrong.
socsa@piefed.social 4 weeks ago
Usually means you got featured on hexbear
Gonzako@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
what’s hexbear
minkymunkey_7_7@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
When you had hex with a bear last night but can’t remember.
Cryophilia@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Since there’s no serious answer: hexbear is a highly toxic instance that has been defederated by most other instances. However, their users will keep tabs on what’s said on other instances, and they’ll occasionally show up en masse with alt accounts to attack something that particularly enraged them.
Many of them are…not quite mentally stable.
They’re probably the single largest base of tankie support. For them, America = bad, and anyone opposed to America = good. They pretend to care about communism etc but they’re really just anti-American. Saying anything negative about China gets you instantly banned.
IndustryStandard@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
A fictional enemy used by right wingers on Lemmy to victimize themselves.
01189998819991197253@infosec.pub 4 weeks ago
If you don’t know, count yourself hella lucky and move on with your day.
RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
A bunch are usually people disagreeing and making up situations to make themselves right… i.e., you posit that the sky appeared blue when you went outside today, the replies are: not if it’s night, not during cloudy days, etc. and at least one that sounds like they disagree but are reiterating what you just said.
sxan@midwest.social 4 weeks ago
I’ve made this observation before, but the funniest thing about Lemmy is that !ShowerThoughts posts elicit more controversy than !UnpopularOpinion. Like, someone posts “I love pineapple on pizza” in !ShowerThoughts, and it’s downvoted to hell with people writing long essays about how pineapple on pizza is justification for bringing back shock treatment. The same thing posted to !UnpopularOpinion brings out a mob of people saying how not unpopular an opinion that is, quoting statistics about how Hawaiian Pizza is the most popular pizza in America. It’s absolutely hilarious, and one of the few areas where the Lemmy community is truly contrarian just for contrarian’s sake.
With the exception of populations of some instances which I won’t hex by bearishly naming, and a few individually excessive dicks (or trolls, but I think most are really just assholes), the Lemmy community tends to argue in good faith, admit when they’re wrong or have had their minds changed, and are generally polite netizens in most exchanges. But !ShowerThoughts and !UnpopularOpinion just being out the contrarian in people, for some reason.
JustZ@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
people writing long essays about how pineapple on pizza is justification for bringing back shock treatment.
I’m here for the essays. To read them…and to write them.
Have to get it out of my brain.
RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Unpopular opinion is just posting things that plenty of people actually agree with. Like pineapple pizza. An actual unpopular opinion would be something like agreeing with restricting abortion or something difficult that elicits very strong feelings.
Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Me is, how stoned was I.
InverseNurse@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
How do I post a photo in comments? New here due to Reddit ban.
Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks ago
Yerbouti@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
If your in for a wild ride, you can post something like “Steam sucks”, or ask anything about “Hexbear”. If you just want positive attention, go with “What’s the best distro for…?”
kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 weeks ago
Usually its when I either offend the libs on world or the fake leftists on ml/hexbear. Sometimes if I’m particularly skilled I piss off both of them at the exact same time (usually by advocating for true liberation for the working class not under a so called “vanguard” but by and for the workers themselves)
mavu@discuss.tchncs.de 4 weeks ago
This is my primary use of reddit.
Late night shitposting, i instantly forget, and seeing lots of interesting comments in the morning.
Cocodapuf@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Look at all these replies! I can’t wait to tell all these internet randos how wrong they are!
finitebanjo@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Half the time you just have to say “Fuck Tankies” or “Vote DNC” and you’ll get 4, 10, or even 20 of the most cookie cutter responses you’ve ever seen in your life.
AceFuzzLord@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
Most of the time I know exactly what I’m getting if I see more than maybe 3+ comments. Usually it’s me saying something anti-communist, something on brand enough for me.
oce@jlai.lu 4 weeks ago
Did you criticize the left?
ObviouslyNotBanana@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Lmao yeah sometimes. Since I mostly shitpost I just assume that the posts have had the intended effect of either making people laugh or working them up a little about something they care about. Just enough to make them share some stuff they’re really passionate about. I like hearing people’s unfiltered opinions.
mechoman444@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Immediately go to my comments to see whats getting downvoted to hell.
stoly@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
At least unlike reddit people aren’t directly insulting you.
cheese_greater@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
O, i know the feeling
slazer2au@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
True dat mate.
Cryophilia@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I assume the right-wing propaganda planners have decided they need to counter something I said
pineapplelover@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
I’m too scared to check tbh. Somebody tell me if I am getting downvoted because I see 150 unreads
crabigno@lemmy.zip 4 weeks ago
Also, what was happening in that other site many of us used to be in so interactions between the same people talking the same points were so rare?
Allero@lemmy.today 4 weeks ago
I’m pretty excited to see and check what gained traction
Matriks404@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I sometimes write something that might be controversial, so unless I have a lot of free time I don’t open Lemmy at all, lol.
Paradachshund@lemmy.today 4 weeks ago
The biggest responses I’ve ever gotten by far have all been asking for alternatives to popular tech. 😏
InEnduringGrowStrong@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
And then all of them are “Nicole”.
miss_demeanour@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks ago
Image
The Polish Partier.
expatriado@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
i have a different pic in my inbox. do i suppose to collect them all? i want a rare Nicole now
Shortstack@reddthat.com 4 weeks ago
Oh she’s using a new picture now?
I’ll probably get it in my inbox sooner or later
50_centavos@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I got mine today after a year on Lemmy. I was starting to feel left out.
umbrella@lemmy.ml 4 weeks ago
The Fediverse Chick.
Gerudo@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
I guess I’m not special enough, Nicole doesn’t want to talk to me.
benignintervention@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I just got mine today, like some tribal initiation
jballs@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Still haven’t gotten one. Guess the bots don’t like me.
mp3@lemmy.ca 4 weeks ago
Tungsten5@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
I got a message from nicole with a pic. I thought it was a scammer or something. Just a one off thing. Is that not the case? Is Nicole a lemmy thing?
Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 weeks ago
Nope, your first instinct is right, it’s a spammer. But it’s one of the few spammers that almost everyone has run into, so it’s just a joke. Like saying you met a Nigerian prince who offered you a huge sum of money.
Ghyste@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Gods please don’t let this be a trend…