Submitted 9 hours ago by DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
Seriously you read about people who die young, and people always pretend to care after they are already dead like “omg, this is so sad, they could’ve acomplished so much, he had a bright future ahead of him! wHaT a tRaGeDy, iF oNlY wE cOuLd’vE FoRSeEn tHiS”…
why didn’t y’all do anything while they were still alive? hypocrites…
Think you just pinpointed a major kink of your depression. Consumed by what others are thinking, even though that’s their problem and not your’s. I’m sure there’s more, but I wouldn’t be consumed about how you appear to others unless you want to live for everyone else’s ideals and the xp citations rather than what you want.
For me its not so much that, its moreso just that I am disgusted by those that claim to be virtuous and pretend to care. Most people only care about others socially, when those people are struggling they rarely help unless theres social consequences for not helping.
I just hate hypocrites
I think that’s one of the key things that makes folk generally feel happier when they’re older. I’m 48 and have never been so comfortable in my own skin, despite naturally being less physically healthy and attractive than in my teens.
I used to care so much about what peers thought, but now I’ve lived long enough to realise how few of the people I was worried about pleasing are still in my life and how unimportant they are as the journey of life plays out.
If I’d have known this in my teens I’d have been way happier. You just have to treat people well and, where it’s not reciprocated, forget about them and move on.
At first I didn’t like your post because I think strangers on the internet should not be getting into others’ heads, naming stuff. OP’s title might have been hypothetical
But the second paragraph is on-point. I stopped having my issues once I let me to take part in my life
Aye. Internet comments are usually opinion vs opinion; worrying about the thoughts of others first, knowing there’s a conflict to “win” rather than ponder.
Online commentary is usually people never making it past the preface before slamming the book. That’s why wenews article titles being how they are; few people actually ually open and read the article.
My kudos to you for keeping it real and listening to the whole song 🙂
While people are alive, their accomplishments are always being compared to expectations; but if they die before accomplishing anything, the expectations are all that’s left.
Wow, showerthought #2
It’s nice to say nice things about people who’ve passed away.
Like if someone in their 20s passes away, and you’re at their wake after the funeral, you’re not going to say “well I kind of always just tolerated him but he was never going to amount to much and I didn’t really like him”.
Idk when my brother shot himself I would gladly have told the whole church about the time he was swerving while drunk driving and laughing at me for being scared at like 13 years old or the time he held me over the edge of a cliff. The pastor took me for a walk and let me rant at him instead (great dude actually he was a dead ringer for Fred Rogers in appearance, personality, and profession).
Sure but both you and that pastor clearly understand why saying that to the whole church would not have served any purpose and made you look like an asshole, right?
Correct. Like what the fuck are people supposed to say? Talk about his search history?
Look. This is politeness. This is slightly different, but kinda related… I’m a teacher. If a kid got bad grades, obviously he did, the parents will see that. In my written comment, should I say he was a slacker? No. Why bother. Better to express hope for what he can do well in the future.
The same information is conveyed, but the respect shown to the person is different.
As a former public schools facilitator & FB coach, & posted a very unpopular thread that asked a feed asking them to use Challenges, instead Disabilities, I understand where you are coming from, but I agree with both points. I am student(s) died, than you are right, but I think the thread starting member is talking media that truly will never know young person (people) who has died. & only doing it for profits, thus will never care to.
Schrodinger’s potential
Often they’re sad he didn’t realize he had a bright future ahead. Fortunately, you do. Or if you didn’t, you do now. You can’t judge your life by how it is now. Especially with the world in shitty shape generally. But mostly because you’re young. Regrets for your wasted promise are a privilege reserved for old farts like myself. You still have choices to make, and time for them to play out Choose as well as you can. And don’t be afraid to change directions as necessary.
If people are ostracizing you for struggling with depression, you're hanging out with the wrong people.
And if you only think that's what's happening, you probably need to stop listening to your liar depression brain
If you are, hang in there. The emotional weather can change!
You don’t have to care about someone to acknowledge that they could have done much more if they didn’t pass away at a young age. Even you still have that opportunity.
BINGO, AWESOME THINKING, THANK YOU!!!!! Of course, I only heard this true The Capitalist Lamestream media- news-movies, & you know they truly do not know the young people who die or cared about them, real or characters, beyond profits.
5in1k@lemmy.zip 9 minutes ago
Stop giving a shit what others think about you and just live how you want. You’ll be surprised how much happier you are and how little opinions of people matter.