we are a social species I don’t know what the difference is
Aight. Let's be honest. How many of you dress for yourselves, and how many dress for others?
Submitted 5 months ago by JeeBaiChow@lemmy.world to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
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nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 months ago
Empricorn@feddit.nl 5 months ago
You don’t know the difference between dressing for yourself vs dressing for others? Try showing up to court in an inflatable costume! Or just go a single average day out in public without pants or a shirt (even with underclothes on)…
nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 months ago
yea
exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 months ago
I dress for myself. And my own comfort does depend on things like social interactions and conversation dynamics and office relationships and others’ perception of me and my reputation. So dressing for myself includes dressing within social conventions.
swelter_spark@reddthat.com 5 months ago
I dress for the weather and what I’m going to be doing.
BurntWits@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
I dress for my wife.
Strangers aren’t gonna fuck me for looking nice.
Etterra@discuss.online 5 months ago
Myself, always. I’m one of those people who wears normal clothes just numbing around the house, rather than just underwear or pajamas or something. My fiance is practically a nudist and I’ll be sitting there in the couch with her on jeans and a tee shirt lol
Treczoks@lemmy.world 5 months ago
I dress for the weather.
Lemminary@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Tlaloc approves and smiles down at you from the pouring heavens.
palordrolap@fedia.io 5 months ago
If I'm going out, I change from cosy indoor clothing to tidier clothing so that I don't look like I'm wandering around in public in my pyjamas, so I guess I'm fitting to a societal expectation, and thus dressing for other people in that regard.
That said, I wouldn't want to sully my indoor clothing with the outdoors anyway, and I don't like going out as a rule, so I think I prefer to be dressed for myself.
xpey@piefed.social 5 months ago
50/50, maybe?
I like my ideal world where no one expects anything from anyone when it comes to clothes and appearance, but I also like to figure out my (very extra) outfit of the day from time to time
bulletproof_kell@piefed.social 1 month ago
that’s for you not others, if it makes you feel good. specially with how alt and commonly disliked your style is
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
I mean, doesn’t every sort-of dress for others?
I mean, that’s why its illegal to go outside unclothed.
For me, its mostly just to fit in, meet the legal and social requirements of being in public, and, well… for winter… since humans have no fur. So a bit of both, but as long as I meet minimum requirements its fine.
Comfort > Looks
I mean, I’m not a high ranking politician, who care how good I look.
vonbaronhans@midwest.social 5 months ago
Feel like I’m in between.
I usually wear simple, single color Tshirts, a light jacket, and one of a small stock of pants.
In a sense I dress just for me - easy and simple means I don’t have to spend time choosing, which I do like. A light jacket let’s me easily get warmer or cooler without having to completely change.
In another, I dress for others - I don’t wear graphic tees very much since high school because I don’t want anyone judging me for what I like, or misunderstanding and prejudging me. With plain tees, I just don’t have to deal with that particular social anxiety.
Lexam@lemmy.world 5 months ago
I’m autistic, I dress for myself and my comfort. I actually dress nice however. My wardrobe mostly consists of button ups and pollos. I have t shirts but only wear those when I’m doing something physical like working on the house. If I’m at home I’m probably in a pair of my colorful sweats and a hoodie.
neidu3@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
Function over form every day all day. Duck others.
I’ve been a jeans and T-shirt guy for well over 30 years at this point.Anti_Iridium@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Function over form every day all day.
This might as well be my motto. Appearance may reflect inside state, but I really don’t care as long as it works.
bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de 5 months ago
I wanted to say that I don’t dress for anyone because I mostly lie naked in bed because pulling trousers up is too hard for me.
But then I realised when I have to get up I put on a bathrobe so that my kids don’t have to see me naked.
So, I do dress for others.
WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 months ago
I dress for myself. I like being memorable and looking good. I like taking style risks sometimes, but it seems to work for me.
I get complimented on my style often, and that makes me feel more confident in general.
zxqwas@lemmy.world 5 months ago
The only reason I put pants on is because it’s be arrested otherwise.
That being said, comfortable has priority over good looking and I don’t think I’ve ever had a compliment on how I dress since grandma saw me in a suit when I graduated 20 something years ago.
Ryanmiller70@lemmy.zip 5 months ago
I never go anywhere special, so I guess I dress for myself. I’m most comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt so even on days where I’m not going anywhere and will most likely stay home all day, I still shower and put those on. My shirts are all nerdy stuff with characters and logos all over them that I like. Never was a fan of plain, single color shirts. I just got a Mothra shirt and love it so much.
Caffeinated_Sloth@lemmy.world 5 months ago
For both. I wear cheap business casual to work to present a particular image: appear like I have my shit together (I don’t) but I’m also budget conscious. I wear the same outfit every day (for me) because I hate making fashion decisions and crave simplicity. I have five of the same shirt and five of the same pant. Weekends I have a different uniform that says “fit, economical, comfortable, safe.” Two of the same pant and shirt.
lemmy_outta_here@lemmy.world 5 months ago
You just saved me a bunch of typing.
Ditto, and thanks.
Sparkles@fedia.io 5 months ago
I have probably spent more this year because I want a certain person to look at me.
Perspectivist@feddit.uk 5 months ago
Anyone who claims they don’t have other people in mind when choosing their outfit is lying - either to you or to themselves.
That said, I don’t think I’d dress any differently even if I were the only person left on the planet. I’ve got this outdoorsy, mildly militaristic “gray man” style that I like but I’m doing it for myself - not for others. Still, there’s an image of how I hope others perceive me, because that’s also how I like to think of myself. So it wouldn’t be honest to say I never think about other people’s perception.
Probably the only piece of clothing I avoid wearing in public because of how it might be perceived is my hiking/combat boots - they admittedly give off a bit of a nationalistic vibe, especially paired with the rest of my outfit. I still wear them for outdoor activities, of course, just not to the grocery store.
Now that I think about it, I do sometimes also not put on a beanie because I think my hair looks better but a beanie is arguably more comfy.
Buffalox@lemmy.world 5 months ago
I 100% dress for others, I don’t really care about clothing, and I hate to buy new clothes. I only do it because I think I may be nearing some limit of what is considered decent to wear in the presence of other people, who 100% always are better dressed than me.
The other day I was at the supermarket, and had seen they had a special offer on “plaice” I think it’s called.
Well the special offer was sold out, and I asked an employee if they had anymore.
The employee was extremely nice, and asked how many I had planned to buy? And I said 2, then he took 2 bags that had 50% more content, and wrote the price of the special offer on them, and said I should just mention his name at the register.
I though Wow that stellar service, and it was only when I came home I realized I had some of my worst pants on that are so warn they had holes in them.
I have newer pants, but I don’t like them, because they have no sway and they are some sort of stretch material to be tight, and I absolutely hate that. And I also hate shopping for clothes.Anyways because my clothes are (to put it mildly) sub par for normal people, I figured he probably thought I was some sort of destitute.
I am married, and our economy is absolutely fine, we own an almost paid out house, and we have a car that was bought cash without borrowing, and we have a good amount of money in the bank.
Anyways I don’t care, maybe because I don’t have to. I just want clothes that are comfortable.
TheButtonJustSpins@infosec.pub 5 months ago
Both; depends on the situation.
etchinghillside@reddthat.com 5 months ago
Myself – I opt for the low decision fatigue – same thing everyday wardrobe.
If I wasn’t a bachelor remote employee I might consider mixing it up on the behalf of others. Right now when I do quarterly on-sites I stick with my usual wardrobe.
klemptor@startrek.website 5 months ago
I dress for myself.
poke@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
Others.
Kolanaki@pawb.social 5 months ago
I wear what I want to wear. I don’t care if anyone else likes it.
memfree@piefed.social 5 months ago
For others. If I’m staying home, I dress like I’m homeless in whatever grungy dirty things that already need washing. If I’m going out, my hair combed, my threads are fresh and I’m not getting denied entrance to the restaurant. The movie Blast from the Past was pretty stupid, but it did teach me (remind me?) that you dress nice as a courtesy to your friends.
HubertManne@piefed.social 5 months ago
both my wife and I dress for ourselves. She used to do more for others but my lazyness has worn off on her. She effected me a bit to as she used a lot of cheap fashion and now I wear the pants equivalent of tshirts if im not wearing shorts and tshirt.