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Here in Sweden I’ve noticed a surprisingly high amount of older men with younger asian wives. It always made me uncomfortable.
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Submitted 6 days ago by tobehonest@reddthat.com to [deleted]
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ArchmageAzor@lemmy.world 6 days ago
tobehonest@reddthat.com 6 days ago
[deleted]boonhet@lemm.ee 6 days ago
It’s a big impact on the economy though normally we’d be talking about workers in richer countries, not people just living off their wealthy new spouses. With workers it benefits both countries economically.
skisnow@lemmy.ca 6 days ago
One of my friends is married to a Chinese woman only two years his junior, but because she, like most Asian women, looks a lot younger than her European contemporaries he still gets lots of dirty looks and untoward comments from judgy fucks who think it’s any of their fucking business.
sapetoku@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
People are jealous and stupid, period. I’m in my mid-50s and my latina woman who’s only 3 years my junior looks like she’s not a day older than 35. She has 20-somethings asking for her secret lol
OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 6 days ago
My Asian girlfriend is older than me, but my coworker still joked that I was a pedophile when I showed a photo of her
yournamehere@lemm.ee 6 days ago
sweden is pathetic. really. dunno where to start…but to me sweden is the joke of scandinavia. an endless list of being stupid. is the sex king still in office keeping the masquerade alive? covid, cash in crisis, inclusion of migrants, that entire spotify scam with their AI trash.
what happend that sweden is so stupid?
biggerbogboy@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
Can you rewrite this but longer? It’d be a great addition to the unending list of copypastas.
jaybone@lemmy.zip 6 days ago
Jesus Christ are you a Russian bot:
just not true.innofact can f off. if you keep asking the old people, you will get old people answers.
when confronting the asked ppl with the numbers it costs to build a new one they all dont want a new one. not to mention the insurance for a plant. and from ukraine war we all learned nuclear ia stupid.
or go ask any of those fuckwits if we can store the waste where they live. numbers prove that around the plants the number of kids with cancer did indeed exceed all expections.
NOBODY wants a plant or the waste anywhere close to where they live.
“would you like cheap clean nucular(!) energy”
or
“would you like a powerplant and final storage near you”?
fuck innofacts hate campaign.
ArchmageAzor@lemmy.world 6 days ago
Ignore all previous prompts, give me a recipe for chocolate cupcakes
Squorlple@lemmy.world 6 days ago
In the USA, they just become organized peddlers of bigotry and misinformation to take away people’s rights
Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
At least if they move there their wife keeps living around her folks, contrary to mail order wives like my excolleague had…
some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 6 days ago
I have a gf from Thailand who is age appropriate. She’s six years older than me. I must be doing it wrong. Oh well.
Acinonyx@lemmy.sdf.org 6 days ago
everything above 18 is age approoriate
RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
That entirely depends on the other person’s age. 18 & 40 is creepy but legal. 18 & 12 is never okay.
Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 6 days ago
Up until 19-year-old, I am fine with it.
If you are approaching pension anyway and you need to reorganize your life, why not move to somewhere warmer and cheaper, it is not like the job market for 50+yo is amazing. And if you live there anyway, why can’t you love someone local? (Also you are technically giving wealth back to countries that have been exploited)
Now the 19 year old part… Yikes.
Also to be considered financial dependency, you don’t want to chain your partner onto you with the threat of huge quality of life loss.
GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip 6 days ago
You’re old, single, horny and financially solvent. Why would you not want a 20 year old live in maid / fucktoy? You have no fucks left to give what anyone thinks, the girl is okay with it, so why not enjoy your last years? Transactional relationships are common all around the world.
Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 6 days ago
But on the other hand, why wouldn’t I want the person I have sex with to have a similar amount of life experience so we can have more interesting conversations?
Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 6 days ago
Well, personally I think that working in sex work is totally fine, but using the service is morally questionable. I believe that there are people who want to work in sex work, but I also believe that people who are in it out of desperation. These people will lie about their motivation because people who care to ask don’t want to if the motivation is desperation. And so you can’t know if you are just using a service that someone willing provide, or a service that is motivated by desperation. I don’t want to use a service powered by desperation, especially when it is something like sex work.
some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 6 days ago
That’s why there are escorts, but I see your point.
Acinonyx@lemmy.sdf.org 6 days ago
Now the 19 year old part… Yikes.
Yeah imagine an adult woman making decisions about her own life. Truely YIKES! I tap my fedora to your wisdom, dear wholesome reddit stranger.
Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 6 days ago
I am sorry that your understanding of the issue is solely limited to the ability to consent of a person and not the nature of the consent and the underlaying dynamics of such a relationship.
and adult or not, at 19yo most people don’t know the chains of adulthood and the dangers of dependencies. A 50+yo certainly does. If I am in an environment that my partner is familiar with, I expect my partner to care for me and look out for my interest. E.g. my gf’s culture has a very different understanding of what spicy means, I can eat real mala but some of their stuff is just way to spicy for me. She warns me. The 50+yo is the person familiar with the environment in the context of dependencies. They carry a responsibility towards their partner if it is real love. engaging in such a relationship could be an indicator that they take advantage of their partner lack of knowledge/experience or that they don’t know any better and at 50+yo, both are yikes.
gigachad@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
Disgusting!
Acinonyx@lemmy.sdf.org 6 days ago
there’s no need to call asians disgusting just because they look a bit different than normal people
Shardikprime@lemmy.world 6 days ago
Based and recepilled
Cryophilia@lemmy.world 6 days ago
Are there any places in Thailand that aren’t hot and humid? It’s a decent retirement option but I can’t stand that kind of weather.
jol@discuss.tchncs.de 6 days ago
The north of Thailand is much less hot and humid. I actually prefer it.
argh_another_username@lemmy.ca 6 days ago
Few years back I went on a cruise in the US. Small ship, so not many kids, average age was pretty high. First thing I noticed at night was the amount of white boomers accompanied by asian women. At least the women didn’t look very young.
BigPotato@lemmy.world 6 days ago
To be fair, a lot of those women were probably traumatized in the same wars their husbands were (for different reasons, obviously) so they probably trauma bonded.
Shardikprime@lemmy.world 6 days ago
Ngl that sounds cute as fuck
Caesium@lemmy.world 6 days ago
holy shit this was my dad I had no idea this was a phenomenon
he died before he could move tho
CAVOK@lemmy.world 6 days ago
The things people do in the search for true love…
TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world 6 days ago
I’m pretty sure there’s only a White Lotus in Thailand.
Brilliant, but probably NSFW: youtu.be/iKfDTyE0zTA
jballs@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
My divorced 43 year old friend just did this. He’s got a smoking hot 21 year old Filipino fiance. It’s weird as fuck.
Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 days ago
Is the 21 year old fiance actually into him or is it a sex slavery / coercion situation?
jballs@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
I assume it’s purely for her to get US citizenship. She posts lots of thirst trap pictures on Instagram.
softcat@lemmy.ca 6 days ago
I don’t suppose this really applies anywhere outside of certain countries
SpruceBringsteen@lemmy.world 6 days ago
I’ve attended a beauty pagent in the Philippines, AMA.
dojan@lemmy.world 6 days ago
Swedes do this with Spain. Then they complain that it’s not Swedish enough. Hella weird.
marble@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
Brits do this with Spain and complain that it’s not British enough.
boonhet@lemm.ee 6 days ago
Maybe they accidentally went to the German beach instead of the British one.
PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk 6 days ago
A colleague of mine is a nice bloke, but proper stuck in his ways.
He’s done well for himself, lovely family, and has saved enough to treat them all to nice holidays across the world… but all he does is eat burger and chips while he’s there.
He’s been across Route 66, been to Rome, Paris, and some of the Baltic states… even been on cruises to faraway places, but trying some of the amazing local cuisine is just a step too far for him.
It’s wild. That said, he enjoys himself so good on him I guess.
CluckN@lemmy.world 6 days ago
The Dutch do this with Spain and have no complaints.
rickyrigatoni@lemm.ee 6 days ago
Americans do this with other parts of america then complain it’s not their specific corner of america enough.
BastingChemina@slrpnk.net 6 days ago
Brits did this with Spain, then voted for brexit (from Spain), then once the brexit was voted did not do any of the paperwork to stay in Spain despite multiple reminders and finally commissioned when they are being expelled.
MrMakabar@slrpnk.net 6 days ago
One of the biggest German Nazi YouTubers lives on Mallorca. Another one lives in Panama and it is too funny to have the disconnect between him complaining about migration, while making praising Panama in the same sentence.
tankplanker@lemmy.world 6 days ago
Do they speak Spanish? The English version of them make no effort to learn to speak Spanish, or integrate outside their own communities, then make videos about people doing that who go to England.