PhobosAnomaly
@PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk
- Comment on Being asked "Have you gotten the tour yet" upon entering a house for the first time is the adult equivelent of the kids asking: "Do you want to see my room?" 4 days ago:
Life’s too short to get hung up on it, friend.
I know it’s easy for me to say, but each success; mistakes; and blatantly oblivious sign that they’re DTF missed are all learning experiences.
It makes you who you are now, and that’s kinda awesome. You’re better than who you were before. Onwards and upwards!
- Comment on Being asked "Have you gotten the tour yet" upon entering a house for the first time is the adult equivelent of the kids asking: "Do you want to see my room?" 4 days ago:
I was just clueless as fuck. I’ve got the sun total of zero game when it comes to dating, not that it matters now I’ve settled down.
I did learn my lesson though. Met a girl who was absolutely stunning, like cover girl model looks, and she was lovely. Asked her out on a date expecting to be shot down, and she said yes. At that point I was like a dog that had chased a car and caught up with it, I didn’t know what the fuck to do.
Anyway, we went out a couple of times - nice restaurant, bowling, the cinema… had a great time with her but it wasn’t really moving forward and just kinda started to fizzle out, which was no big deal.
One evening she phones me, saying she was at a house party two or three towns over, and was getting bored - and asked me to take her home. No worries there, I wasn’t doing anything, so I drove over to get here and she hopped in, a bit worse for wear after a glass or twelve of wine but not absolutely munted.
Halfway down, she’s like “actually, can we go back to yours? I don’t really want to get in and my parents see me like this”. Not a problemo, took her back to mine, got her a coffee and sat and chatted. She came through to my room when I was getting changed and crashed out on the bed beside me, faced me, and said “maybe I’ll sleep here tonight?”
I’d learned my lesson, I could see that she wanted all two inches of this rage and disappointment. So I said “sure, no problem, I’ll sleep on the sofa”.
I drove her home the following morning and she never said a word. I desperately wished I could have taken that opportunity, but the whole consent thing after her sesh at the party made it a little bit dicey. I never did get another opportunity. She was absolutely lovely though and I hope she found a guy that made her happy. 😊
- Comment on Being asked "Have you gotten the tour yet" upon entering a house for the first time is the adult equivelent of the kids asking: "Do you want to see my room?" 4 days ago:
I dated a girl once who came round. She asked “are you going to give me the tour?”
I was like “uh, okay sure” so showed her around the living room, kitchen and back yard, before heading upstairs. I showed her the guest rooms and my room, and she sat on the bed and was like “it seems comfy in here”.
Right then I did what any guy would do, stopped for a moment, and said “it sure is. Now let’s head back downstairs and see what there is to watch”.
It was a good couple of years later when I thought back about it and it hit me like a train, “you fucking idiot”
- Comment on If websites are slow for you, this is why, AWS is breaking everything 1 week ago:
doesn’t matter bro, they’re your thoughts and that’s what makes them awesome 😊
- Comment on Remember using this little gadget as a kid to blow bubbles 1 week ago:
have you tried getting someone else to do it?
- Comment on If websites are slow for you, this is why, AWS is breaking everything 1 week ago:
Figma balls wheeeyyyy
- Comment on Sunlight special 2 weeks ago:
Chuck it in the oven for ten minutes, no drama at all.
Then pre-book the following day off work with a dodgy stomach.
- Comment on Get a load of this guy! 2 weeks ago:
- Comment on VTuber Graduation 3 weeks ago:
Thank you for your feedback!
- Comment on VTuber Graduation 3 weeks ago:
If it helps, here’s a story that’s the exception that proves the rule…
We adopted a dog. A beautiful Romanian Shepherd. Lovely dog, friendly as fuck, mega playful… but wasn’t a fan of kids. That was unfortunate, because our kids loved the dog but after a while the dog got a bit bitey. No warning, no growl, just fuck you and chomp. Thankfully, the only thing that stopped him from doing some serious damage was that he was a good boi and never proper sunk his teeth in.
Long story boring, we tried to rehome him, tried to calm him, tried to train him out of it, but the dog wouldn’t settle. Took him to the vets to give him a once over before the rescue charity took him back… and he bit the vet. That fucked a lot of things - the rescue was mega wary, the vet had recommended euthanasia, and keeping him wasn’t an option.
Long story short, we found a farm that specialised in dogs that had some “behavioural quirks”, and we took him halfway across the country to live there. It was a lovely place - loads of land, quiet, and dozens of corners where he could do his favourite thing - sit in a corner and chew on his toy.
I miss that dog, but I’m glad he’s happy.
- Comment on TIL science has its own swifties 3 weeks ago:
Ah yes, that tracks with the very surface level overview that I picked up from it. It was only when I saw the magic “optional” tag that I was like noooope!
Maybe I’ll have a look at it in more detail when I get a free summer 😊
- Comment on TIL science has its own swifties 3 weeks ago:
I studied entry level maths at uni level - a prerequisite course for most STEM degrees to cover the relatively small amount of maths common to nearly all science fields.
Chapter 11 of 12 were Taylor polynomials and series, and it was listed as “optional”.
I looked at it once, read it aloud for my young son to fall asleep to, and never looked at it again.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
There are no answers here, only more questions - and it is glorious.
- Comment on 4 weeks ago:
In the end, “this” doesn’t even matter
- Comment on Can someone find a redeeming factor about this game? Like anything good about it. 4 weeks ago:
I had the Atari 800 edition.
I didn’t know what the fuck the “enter your account number” was at the start. Young me didn’t realise it was a thinly veiled password system. Quite clever actually
Wasn’t it done in David Crane’s heyday too?
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
Obviously fuck all on television after Christmas.
- Comment on Has this happened to you? 5 weeks ago:
“hey look, the news has gotten around, the head of HR and my line manager want to see my elephant impression too!”
- Comment on Has this happened to you? 5 weeks ago:
- Comment on Decided to dig a big hole 5 weeks ago:
Postcrete is the best invention since the barbeque tongs.
Soft to rock solid in next to no time at all… giggity.
- Comment on How often do guys have a haircut? 1 month ago:
I’m a “two on top, one on the sides” dude. I’m the same, the second my hair starts coming over my ears then I’m away to the barber. Two months is decent, though if I’m not able to get there through work or being away from home, I’ll stretch it to three months but I feel a bit like Noel Gallagher when my hair starts coming down to my lugholes.
That said, I treat it as a bit of a relaxation sesh. I’ll ask the barber for a “full service” and close my eyes for half hour or 45 mins and let the barber do his thing with the clippers and the hot shave and the massage and all that jazz. A guilty pleasure every other month or so.
- Comment on snack 1 month ago:
Is this still a thing?
I remember when drinks were topped off with liquid nitrogen to give off the smoky look and people were getting hospitalised with burns, but that when I had the time/money/interest/available friends to go out… so a good twenty years ago.
- Comment on UK phone retailers lock shop doors while trading to tackle rising thefts 1 month ago:
I can’t quite see whether they’re addressing the outright theft of handsets; or the increasing amount of thefts of the infinitely more valuable staff handheld terminals.
It’s a shame either way. I suppose an answer would be to stun or disable all phones until they are activated at a point of sale, rather than the opposite way round.
It still doesn’t mitigate the attack vector of a corrupt employee though.
- Comment on XC Running: Does anyone else's parents do this? 1 month ago:
There’s two (or more) sides to every story and the truth is often in the middle. I’m only reading your view on a situation here and I’m wary that I don’t have the full picture while writing this comment.
Your parents remind me of the meme “you’re not wrong, you’re just an asshole”.
There’s ways to frame feedback - if you’re not achieving a standard set by a teammate who already isn’t qualifying for upper levels of competition, then it’s not a reason to knock the dream on the head, but a part of a training roadmap. If you’re banging in 29min 5ks or 5000m events (I’m making the assumption that’s the distance in mind here), then the plan would be to adjust training and diet to tag each of the minute barriers until you can clear 22min and top your team’s timesheets.
After that, you can look at what generally gets you a qualifying time for state or national competitions, and train for that. Once you’ve achieved that then you’re probably beyond what your parents or coach can help with and you’ll probably need elite or semi-pro level of coaching after that.
Negativity from your parents isn’t helpful though, and no not everyone does it. I don’t know whether it comes from a place of personal failure in your mother’s youth or whether she’s scared that you’re running into the unknown, but it isn’t helpful.
As for your dad though, I thought that it was kinda cool that he wanted to let your HS coach about how you’re getting on now. Everyone’s first crack at a distance event is awful, that’s how you develop - so it’s cool to be able to say to your old coach “hey that first 5k wasn’t spectacular, but check these times out now!”.
Either way, you’re running for yourself. If you train well, your times will come down, and you will start turning heads - whether your parents are supportive or not. One of the most important lessons I learned (and I’m nowhere near club level running let alone elite level) is to run your own race. It’s good for the mind, good for the soul, and helps you sleep at night.
Good luck, well done on what you’ve achieved so far, and hopefully the stopwatch will start giving you much better feedback than your parents.
- Comment on Yes, you can store data on a bird — enthusiast converts PNG to bird-shaped waveform, teaches young starling to recall file at up to 2MB/s 1 month ago:
yes
- Comment on Yes, you can store data on a bird — enthusiast converts PNG to bird-shaped waveform, teaches young starling to recall file at up to 2MB/s 1 month ago:
Don’t
- Comment on Yes, you can store data on a bird — enthusiast converts PNG to bird-shaped waveform, teaches young starling to recall file at up to 2MB/s 1 month ago:
You’d have to zip six birds together to get Plutonia on it.
- Comment on Yes, you can store data on a bird — enthusiast converts PNG to bird-shaped waveform, teaches young starling to recall file at up to 2MB/s 1 month ago:
Well, technically it has a built in backdoor…
- Comment on Make it make sense 1 month ago:
Johnny Jam to his mates, or J-Traffz to his record label.
- Comment on Make it make sense 1 month ago:
Yeah, it’s frustrating.
I’m not entirely sure what the rubberneckers want to see either. “Oh look, someone critically injured next to someone who is likely deceased”, because that isn’t a day ruiner at the best of times.
Odd.
- Comment on Make it make sense 1 month ago:
Good shout.
I live fairly rurally and the roads/drivers don’t really lend themselves to new riders.
I think if I lived in a big town or city though, I’d absolutely pick up a chicken chaser and rattle about short distances on one, they seem to be perfect for that sort of use case.
Plus, not that I’m a huge fan of tobacco advertising, bikes in the Rothmans livery look absolutely stunning to me.
