all of these cliché relationships where people don’t seem to understand basic forms of communication just confuse me. if you feel this way, tell them! If you don’t like something their doing, say something! this isnt highschool; it’s not a guessing game anymore, it’s people.
2 way communication is key
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XCraftMC@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
starman2112@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
It’s always high school. Always has been, always will be. After generations of learning how to interact with each other in romantic contexts from media, what do you expect? Especially when we spend our formative years watching media that’s written to appeal to people in their formative years, you end up with a lot of people acting like poorly written characters because that’s how they learned to interact with each other.
Maeve@kbin.social 1 year ago
Back then dudes didn’t know how to not hit their wives.
A good manny still don’t know, until the wife/gf teach them, usually via reciprocal means. :-/
idunnololz@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I’m really glad I was able to develop good communication skills in my life of work. When I just started out I made some pretty bad communication errors and I got to see the effects of the errors and learn from my mistakes. Pretty much learned from the on to just never assume anything. If it’s important, say it even if you think the other party knows it already. Because at “worst” you just said something obvious but at best you realize there is a communication gap ASAP.
poplargrove@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Ah yes, “wife bad”, a staple of boomer humor.
Isoprenoid@programming.dev 1 year ago
This was more “guys bad. Nuh, uh, girls bad.” Everyone getting dunked on in this one.
Maybe it was the communication issues we gained along the way.
sj_zero 1 year ago
Huh? But my wi-fi is fine?
echodot@feddit.uk 1 year ago
It’s a response in kind to a equally dumb comment.
The original comment is massively generalist so the response is equally generalist.
LavaPlanet@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I don’t know, I read the original meaning, believe they’re capable, in rebuke to the stereotype men just *can’t do anything, so don’t even try, like they’re incapable toddlers, or something. To me it was a cheeky way of taking a shot at that thinking, that men aren’t capable.
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 year ago
everyone going on about how gamers can’t communicate for shit, meanwhile deep rock galactic players INSTANTLY agree that the compressed gold must be pinged unceasingly until management shouts at you, with no verbal communication whatsoever.
TheBlue22@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 year ago
In houndreds or public matches I’ve played in CS over the years, maybe like 10 had teammates who all actually used callouts
Cethin@lemmy.zip 1 year ago
I used to solo-queue almost exclusively. Almost always every teammate communicated. This was like 5+ years ago though, so maybe things have changed. I also frequently initiated the communication and kept things going and didn’t get mad at people, so that all helps too. From my experience, be nice and communicate and general the same will be returned, but against this was a while ago.
(I’m assuming CS is Counter Strike, and not like competitive multiplayer Cities Skylines or something.)
Natanael@slrpnk.net 1 year ago
(I’m assuming CS is Counter Strike, and not like competitive multiplayer Cities Skylines or something.)
“Natural disaster, meteor from northwest, prepare fire fighters!”
A_Very_Big_Fan@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I’ve been exclusively queueing Office since CS2 dropped and most people know the call outs. Idk what it is about that particular map. (Dust2 is okay too)
fiddlesticks@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 year ago
Anyone you meet on office has likely never played a different map and therefore knows everything about it.
Source: am office player
Reddit_Is_Trash@reddthat.com 1 year ago
Office has an entire community that mains just that one map
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 1 year ago
I could never figure out the built in callouts… Anytime I played with the bots in CS:GO, they would always do callouts and I’m pretty sure they’re just baked in, but I have no idea where, or how to use them.
Cethin@lemmy.zip 1 year ago
Those are displayed on your minimap. Some of them are used by players, and players will know what you mean anyway, but most position calls by players are different from those. They’re also frequently regional, so there can be many calls for a single position. They’re pretty much always one or two syllables, and usually there’s a few similar ones that appear on many maps. Cat, for example, is any catwalk (the most important one on the map if there are multiple). Heaven/Hell is any raised or lowered area respectively, usually with Hell just below Heaven.
You just have to listen to people and ask if you don’t know them, maybe also watch some professional matches as the casters also usually use the most common calls for that language.
TSG_Asmodeus@lemmy.world 1 year ago
As someone who has played ranked FPS’ since… they existed (sigh), and the number of times I had a male teammate throw a tantrum and then refuse to make callouts is… Probably in the hundreds. From QTF to CS to TF2 to Apex…
During a CAL-im match, Dan? Really, Dan?
quinkin@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Oh yeah, even with friends. Everyone in my discord has had a good sook at the others. “I thought you were with me!” proceed to scatter like cats yet again with everyone ‘leading’
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 1 year ago
Everyone is the leader, and zero people are following. Gg everyone.
A_Very_Big_Fan@lemmy.world 1 year ago
QTF
we got a fossil over here
(I’m too young to have played Quake when multiplayer was a thing ;-; but I do speedrun it)
CurlyMoustache@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I have found memories of playing Doom via a null modem cable
ChronosWing@lemmy.zip 1 year ago
Quake Multi-player is still alive with the remasters that were released recently.
pyrflie@lemm.ee 1 year ago
[deleted]spacecadet@lemm.ee 1 year ago
30% positive communication, 70% ending life long relationships over a missed gank
Draegur@lemm.ee 1 year ago
easy summation of why i refuse to play League or any other game in its genre.
Fallenwout@lemmy.world 1 year ago
The built-in “storm the front” voice button is all we needed.
Draegur@lemm.ee 1 year ago
i’ve been in relationships where someone passive-aggressively refuses to communicate (or simply through incompetence doesn’t know how, and/or came to believe that I was supposed to already intuitively know their position and condition)
One such relationship recently ended on thankfully good terms.
One such relationship was years ago and never quite got off the ground because I was NOT going to play along with the stupid games.
These people are real. They’re really out there. And they’re either destined to be vaguely miserable forever, or someone is going to have to teach them and make them intensely miserable in the immediacy until they learn - and not many people have the patience or psychological energy to guide someone (who is kicking and screaming objections about how they shouldn’t have to change or grow or adapt because they’re special and perfect just as they are) through establishing a basic understanding of communication.
LavaPlanet@lemmy.world 1 year ago
When people are adults, it’s their job to learn the things and seek the knowledge and self improve. That thinking that you can save someone, that one will always get you in hot water. You just focus on improving you. And leaving the drift wood behind.
HappyMeatbag@beehaw.org 1 year ago
This is such a classic communication problem. I’d like to hear how to overcome it.
Rocketpoweredgorilla@lemmy.ca 1 year ago
Both sides have to talk and just as importantly, be willing to listen. Otherwise you’re just spinning your wheels
BurningRiver@beehaw.org 1 year ago
I’ve been with my wife for 18 years, and this is 100% correct. Disagreements are always going to happen, you just have to talk your way through them and be willing to admit when you’re wrong.
loobkoob@kbin.social 1 year ago
A phrase that's always stuck with me is "it's not me versus you; it's me and you versus the problem".
oldGregg@lemm.ee 1 year ago
[deleted]sj_zero 1 year ago
Really not helpful during a gaming sesh.
You are covering your buddy's back as he goes in to get the flag but then you realize how cool your mousepad feels and you close your eyes because your monitor is so bright.
andrew_bidlaw@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
Love is…
…to be communicated via MW2 lobby lingo.
Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
Bullshit.
All gamers ever say is shit like “it’s over here!!”, or “I’m here, dude!! Right over HERE.”
I’ll tell you, once we all find out where “here” is, the gamers will have nothing left to stop them from world domination.
Alas, the search continues…
Artyom@lemm.ee 1 year ago
There are two types of games. There are games where locations are unnamed, and there’s CSGO, where Hog Dog is an extremely specific place.
A_Very_Big_Fan@lemmy.world 1 year ago
You’re playing with silvers
CurlyMoustache@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I played PUBG with a mate of mine back in the day. He was awful at communication. “THERE! I SEE SOMEONE!!”, he would shout into my ear after talking about boring stuff like DnD, which he loves. Then he’d die seconds after, and get pissy because I didn’t help him kill the other player.
jaybone@lemmy.world 1 year ago
That sounds fun.
EvacuateSoul@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Classic Pubg: “By the tree!”
idunnololz@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Also people can definitely be passive aggressive playing competitive games.
AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 1 year ago
You’ve never heard Goonswarm Comms. Utter chaos until someone utters the word “Check.” Then we all turn into pilots with complete comms silence except the guy calling for help and the fleet commander that gets to jump in to save the dummy.
Aqarius@lemmy.world 1 year ago
My kingdom for a properly phrased contact report
winky9827b@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Meanwhile, in Dead By Daylight, people have divided all maps in to numbered zones for this shit. Lazy gonna be lazy. Smart gonna be…