sj_zero
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- Comment on lol just be up front lol 2 weeks ago:
I think you're flattening a multidimensional analysis of a problem, and it's not helpful or interesting.
In response to a criticism of male aggression, I explained female aggression and how it is modified in a postmodern social media driven world, and potential impacts of that, which shows exactly the dangers of just going with the flow.
The correct answer isn't that women ruin everything or that men ruin everything. The correct answer is that both male aggression and female aggression have negative effects on dating and the human race as a whole, and a nuanced multifaceted approach is required. Men who are more agreeable need to step out of that comfort zone and figure out how to approach and engage and eventually escalate in a respectful manner because history is written by those who show up, but you can't automatically put women on a pedestal either because they're flawed and fallible human beings too.
Most of the chapter I wrote for the graysonian ethic on attraction is warnings about various ways things can go bad, but ultimately both men and women will need to take some risks because dating is dangerous all around but the outcome is the meaning of life -- lifelong partnerships, building families, raising kids, and giving the future a little piece of yourself and your partner.
- Comment on lol just be up front lol 2 weeks ago:
Realistically, with the way that GSR (gossiping shaming and rallying) which is the female form of aggression has become prevalent, it's having a big effect on dating in general, and it's going to have long term effects on the human race. 45% of men between 18-25 have never approached a woman in the real world. Now you might go "good, we don't want to be approached", and fair enough, but there's consequences. The remaining 55% are going to be less agreeable, less nice people than those 45% who listened. Now you might be wondering what GSR has to do with any of this, well in this postmodern world of ours, instead of just saying "sorry I'm not interested" some women will take it to social media, and suddenly millions of women could know that you just struck out. That's a pretty big risk if it does happen, and all it takes is a threat to have that chilling effect.
So by default, we're already selecting for men who are more aggressive, less agreeable, and considerably more risk tolerant. Most of those guys are going to be not very good guys to date. Of the remainder, we know from data like the okcupid study that the top 1% of men in terms of attractiveness are going to do just fine wherever they go, especially online dating. Assuming an even distribution, that means that about 0.45% of good guys will be doing fine based on attractiveness alone.
So you've got 55% of the more loutish men, and 0.45% of super attractive good guys (and yes I know I'm making some assumptions about that 45%, but pretty much all of this is predicated on some level of assumption), so it really is like looking like playing a lottery for young women.
Now in the past, we would have taught that other 45%, how to participate while still being prosocial, but in between constant societal messaging saying that women don't want to be approached ever and the threat of GSR, many of those men just end up outside of the dating pool. And we see this in terms of plummeting amounts of men who have had sex, plummeting amounts of men who have been on dates, plummeting amounts of men who are getting married.
I'm lucky, I've been married for 15 years, and while I had to deal with some local gsr, it wasn't the sort of all encompassing thing that it became in the last decade. But the one thing that I definitely believe is that the way things are right now is leading to the worst possible outcomes for everyone. A lot of those 45% of men are exactly the sort of men who some of those 77% of women who want to be approached more would like to be approached by, the sort of men who are going to care about with their partner thinks, and will respect boundaries. Not all, but a chunk of those 45% who end up never approaching a woman are downright marriage material, and if the women got a chance to meet them, they would want to date them and want to marry them. Back 15 years ago, that's exactly what I discovered -- that I was someone worth meeting -- but it was a painful thing to do back then, and I think it's even more painful now.
Now let's consider the consequences of this over a number of generations. Fewer people are having kids in general, I think up to half of women in their thirties who wanted to have kids never have kids, and once you did have kids maybe had them with the 55% who are more aggressive, less pro-social, less nice. What does that do to the human race?
Anyway, I write a lot more about this in my book The graysonian ethic in the chapter on attraction. Human beings have a long lineage going back to this first single celled organism, it's fascinating to look at the world from that perspective.
- Comment on lol just be up front lol 2 weeks ago:
Your landline is a dominos pizza?
Cool!
- Comment on Good time 2 weeks ago:
I don't think it was 1999, but St. Anger....
Bastards whined about Napster, then put out that piece of crap.
I made like 5 bucks an hour to earn that money, so that was hours of my life I was never going to get back.
- Comment on New Discord TOS binds you to forced arbitration - Opt-Out Now 3 weeks ago:
Imo the future is federated and self-hosted. Maybe not for everyone, but for me.
- Comment on Old OS Sources 3 weeks ago:
I've got a 2013 MotoX, and it's been many a moon, but I'm pretty sure I was able to get LineageOS onto it. It's a small, thin phone with voice recognition built in. Quite distinct looking from any Moto Gs we've bought. Took Motorola forever to port Android M to it, and then the port was actually really shitty, so it was nice to eventually find a port.
I think I found the good version on xda. OTOH, I don't think it was a cdma phone. I think the one I had supported LTE
- Comment on Toronto man loses life savings to Justin Trudeau deepfake cryptocurrency scam 3 weeks ago:
Imagine thinking der fuhrer Trudeau would possibly do anything to help you saveguard your future.
He's sold our future to whoever bought him. Doubled the national debt and we have no common goods to show for it after the same political party he's head of painstakingly balanced the budget and even paid off 1/5th of it during their previous tenure (a process which took decades). Devastated our financial system and destroyed global trust in it because people were saying his policies weren't good. Spent billions on organizations that didn't produce anything whatsoever of value but did hire his family members. There's tent cities in every major city in Canada, and he doesn't even care -- he just increased his pet project carbon taxes yet again because transportation and home heating are a luxury in his worldview.
If he thought he could get ahead hawking a crypto scam, he would. And he wouldn't apologize for it, he'd get mad at you for having a problem with it.
- Comment on why are you using your launcher? 3 weeks ago:
I'm running nova, and the thing that sets it apart from rootless (as I recall, it's been a while) is that you can set up whatever search engine for the search bar you want. I don't use google, I only use my own searx instance on brave, and nova let me set everything up exactly the way I wanted it. Most other launchers assume you want google, and I think they assume you want chrome too.
- Comment on Has anyone had success with debloating their Phones? 3 weeks ago:
I always debloat my phone, the difference is too massive to ignore.
My last 2 phones were a Galaxy S9 and a Galaxy S10, and I really found the samsungs to be insufferable at first, but with a strong debloat removing a bunch of 'features' nobody asked for and redundant apps, as well as changing the launcher (I use novalauncher, but rootless is also great and also FOSS) had a notable effect on the feel of the phone. I recall that some of the "features" specifically slow down responsiveness to button pushes because for example it ends up waiting on a home button press to see if you're going to do a double or triple press.
If you mess it up too much, a factory restore will undo everything you did anyway, so don't worry too much about it.
I've used the same technique on a number of different phones as well. My dad loves his LG phones, but it comes with a bunch of stuff he didn't want, so we were able to disable it. His latest phones are rugged china phones, and he swears by them, especially once we were able to get rid of a bunch of stuff they added that you really don't need.
- Comment on Federation Issues As Of Late March 2024 3 weeks ago:
Ironically, this post federated.
- Comment on Antarctic sea ice ‘behaving strangely’ as Arctic reaches ‘below-average’ winter peak 4 weeks ago:
ITSU GOJIRA!!!
- Comment on Hasbro exec says Baldur's Gate 3 "proved for us that people really wanted great D&D games," supports Larian's plan to "take the time we need" 4 weeks ago:
The particularly hilarious part of this is that moments later Hasbro ditched Larian.
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- Comment on Some of the Anime's releasing in the summer 4 weeks ago:
whooooooooooooooo
Slime is one of my favorite isekai. Even with all the genocide it's just too wholesome.
- Comment on hmmmm 4 weeks ago:
I don't even know what Epi is supposed to be...
- Comment on beep 4 weeks ago:
Beep boop.
- Comment on Never forget 4 weeks ago:
When they tell us 2% inflation, it's a lie. Everyone knows except people whose butlers pay the bills.
- Comment on Mark Cuban defends Trump after Dem lawmaker accused him of being too broke to pay $464M judgment 4 weeks ago:
Unlike lawmakers who can just corruptly demand it from people, people with wealth would need to liquidate their wealth.
But consider this: If they get his assets in New York, he's done with New York. And so will a lot of people with money.
- Comment on Planet Fitness loses $400 million in stock value after banning woman who complained about male in female locker room: Report | Blaze Media 4 weeks ago:
Their whole business model is getting people to take on memberships it's impossible to get out of. Now you just need to say the secret codeword "Men shouldn't be in the women's changing room" and they'll cancel your membership for you? Yeah! Big loss in market cap!
- Comment on Children love mining 5 weeks ago:
Gotta get dem zaps!
- Comment on double slit 5 weeks ago:
It's really frustrating that people who don't understand this experiment have insanely taken into assume that a magic particle spell understands if a human being is watching or not.
- Comment on Inside the minds of men 5 weeks ago:
"At the academy they called me mad! Well who's mad now! Me because I gotta fight a big choking bear!!!!"
- Comment on It was written with love 5 weeks ago:
Exquisite handwriting.
- Comment on Children love mining 5 weeks ago:
By 2030 every kid will be running a Bitcoin rig.
- Comment on Tech pros know 5 weeks ago:
People have excuses, but those excuses are wrong and stupid. They just want to sell bullshit.
- Comment on Disturbing footage of Nickelodeon 'abuser' Dan Schneider filming in a HOT TUB with a 16-YEAR-OLD bikini-clad Amanda Bynes resurfaces online 5 weeks ago:
Why do you think Hollywood is accusing us of being monsters all the time? It's because they assume we're like them.
- Comment on And this happened apparently 5 weeks ago:
They're married now presumably?
- Comment on I have returned 5 weeks ago:
Welcome back.
Place isn't the same without you
- Comment on drafting 5 weeks ago:
There's definitely something to be said for trying to get it mostly correct the first time.
- Comment on Steam breaking records again hitting over 36 million players online 5 weeks ago:
It's pretty funny that most of the top games are like 10 years old or more.